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NSFWPolitely · 2022-02-06T21:44:50+00:00

You know some people fuck on the first date.

Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-02-06T22:32:54+00:00

Holding hands is tame, physically.

Holding hands is meaningful, emotionally.

The appropriateness of it depends entirely on the context and your goals.

appmanga · 2022-02-07T01:20:57+00:00

If a girl will consent to any physical contact, do it. Holding hands is a very intimate and meaningful gesture. It's powerful because it's intimate and "innocent".

"Creepy" my ass. I say "Well done. Carry on".

garlopf · 2022-02-06T21:24:58+00:00

This is one of those things that if she is sufficiently into you is just cute/romantic but if she is not, a huge red flag/creepy af.

MStafford2056 · 2022-02-06T21:53:12+00:00

Depends on what you’re trying to accomplish. I would say this is appropriate on a first date if you’re seeking to develop a relationship. If you’re just casually dating/fucking I’d say no, don’t try and hold hands.

Zenterus · 2022-02-06T23:10:53+00:00

Bro, this one is hard to answer and you'll get a lot of diverse responses, as you must have already realized.

The reason being that it really depends on your personality type and your chemistry with any given girl.

I personally do hold hands with girls on the first date if the vibe allows for it. But I do it in a very natural way. Like, if we're going to cross the street I'll extend my arm to the girl and say "Hand." very authoritatively. They usually comply and we cross the street while holding hands and I'll keep holding hands with her as long as its not weird and I can tell that the girl vibes with it.

But again, it depends a lot on your personality type as well.

The fuckboy vibes are strong in me, thus I can get away with doing these kinds of romantic gestures because it adds some diversity and surprise to my character.

However if you're someone that comes across as very nice and sweet, holding hands could be wayyy too much and could communicate neediness.

Hope this helps you make a judgement call for yourself.

weirdgroovynerd · 2022-02-06T22:27:43+00:00

If the situation fits, (like sitting at a movie or going on a walk), I always try to hold hands on the first date.

It's a very low-risk act, but signals to my date that I'm looking for a girlfriend/lover - not a buddy.

If she holds my hand back or leans into me, I know my interest is requited.

If she pulls away or seems uncomfortable, I know that she is not interested.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-02-07T01:39:28+00:00

“Hold hands? For I don’t feel like your third brother”

Is this supposed to be delivered in broken English?

I don’t hold hands on the first date personally it feels too intimate

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-02-06T22:15:46+00:00

I used to do it, it's kind of needy to be honest.

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-02-06T23:46:17+00:00

I only do this if she initiates it. It's one of the few things girls will initiate.

Better if she does that whole hug your arm/ dog bowl look thing. Which you can usually bring on by just playfully bumping into them a couple times as you're walking.

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-02-07T02:00:59+00:00

No, but definitely depends on the girl and the context. Some just aren’t comfortable with it. But I’ve also held hands (and had sex) on the first date several times so everyone’s different.

willgo-waggins · 2022-02-07T06:16:51+00:00

Simply holding hands for no reason on first date seems little weird indeed, but you can just take her hand for a moment to lead her in certain direction. If you constantly hold hands, it already means you are engaged in some way to public environment.

willgo-waggins · 2022-02-07T06:27:45+00:00

I will do this sort of thing on a first date if I feel that I need to subtly escalate and create a physical contact to do so.

I would never do whatever the hell that goofy thing you described is. That shit sounds like you’re fifteen and going to homecoming dance with her.

Like was stated above. I am generally fucking a woman from pickup or first date. Second at the latest or I don’t waste any more time or money. I will not allow a woman to control the narrative by playing “three date rule” on me of no sex until the third date. It’s ridiculous and made up “rules”. If we are jiving it’s already happening right away and we better find out if we like fucking each other or not so we both don’t waste effort for something that isn’t worth it.

bonkwodny · 2022-02-07T07:58:07+00:00

May be it could work if you playfully slap her ass instead of hand?

1hatethis · 2022-02-06T23:05:34+00:00

Super weird. You’re straight up telling her you’re insecure about her considering you sexually or not

yennybear888 · 2022-02-07T01:10:08+00:00

Sounds kind of weird…I would kino and touch her leg while seated at the bar etc.

Curious_Caterpillar- · 2022-02-07T08:19:12+00:00

It depends on the vibe. If you feel like the conversation is flowing well, then nothing wrong with asking for permission. Worse thing that can happen is she says no and that’s it. Just don’t take it personal as it can ultimately be a preference- nothing more, nothing less.

ActualFlamingo5 · 2022-02-07T09:16:20+00:00

not really, even with girls who don't want to move forward after with me, they were still cool with holding hands, just be cool about it. It might even be too little physical interactions imo

Shadow__Account · 2022-02-07T12:29:46+00:00

I think it’s fine, just know that you are giving off boyfriend vibes with it, so imo don’t do it if you just want to get laid.

byteseed · 2022-02-07T15:34:33+00:00

I absolutely love the intimacy of holding hands and physical contact in general, in and out if relationship. It may be more enjoyable even compared to kisses.

Now, it really depends on the environment and how do you feel about it. If it is in the club, dancing, hugging, holding hands can happen automatically. But yeah, on the first date, it may send relationships vibe and can be wired if you do not have strong attraction.

I love to initiate physical contact with a dance, and lead by holding hands.

Some girls love physical contact, to be touched and caressed, if you find such a girl, go for it! I find it very feminine and pleasurable, when girl is enjoying touch and close presence.

unaskedforbutgiven · 2022-02-07T16:38:26+00:00

Don’t say “hold hands” just do it if you feel it. Let her withdraw her hand if she’s unhappy with it. (In which case do not pursue any further)

MrNobody___ · 2022-02-07T20:16:10+00:00

Wew, holding hands at the first date? That's how you make a baby.

Seriously, do whatever you wanna do. It's not bad, nor good.

Some girls will like it, other girls will not like it.

Some girls will even do the routine of "Look how small my hands is compared to yours" or any other excuse to hold your hand.

At the end of the day the best thing is being authentic to yourself and do whatever you like. Instead of living your life with other person rules.

2022-02-07T21:59:13+00:00

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