Should you let a girl know about the other girls you're dating?

Extension_Ad2683 · 2022-01-30T07:50:29+00:00

I wouldn't lie. Just be genuine tell her how it Is and this is what you want ATM. Stop chasing reactions and just do what YOU feel like.

Other guy said be toxic but I don't know when the fuck that would be applicable in life.

kenanleman · 2022-01-30T08:47:49+00:00

Dude you realise this is reddit right? Almost everyone on here doesn’t even have one date let alone multiple

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-01-30T08:10:07+00:00

Just be honest with her.

aviator122 · 2022-01-30T08:32:12+00:00

Attraction is created through honesty and clear intentions. If you just lie to her you're just being a douchebag.

The premise of having a "rotation" of girls only works if each girl knows and is okay with being in an open relationship or fuck buddies. Stay away from the word "casual" either define your terms or end them. You'll be alot happier with yourself when you do

RomanH101 · 2022-01-30T14:42:44+00:00

Just tell her “I’m just dating & having fun right now” and leave it at that.

spicylittlelady · 2022-01-30T15:33:56+00:00

I wouldn’t give her details about the other women you’re seeing. Just tell her you’re keeping your options open and dating around. Tell her you’d like for her to explore her options as well. Be honest and direct. But no need to divulge unnecessary details.

bbglow12 · 2022-01-30T10:47:31+00:00

Being honest is hot

Chance_Zone_8150 · 2022-01-30T16:14:16+00:00

Be honest. Its that simple. You've been honest so far. She knows the deal or just shut it down with one last honest statement

willgo-waggins · 2022-01-30T20:52:14+00:00

Ok you need an answer from someone in the same situation.

First off while I do not “hide” the fact that I am seeing and fucking multiple women, I also don’t advertise or put it out there. I only have seriously shared that fact with my friend/FWB because we don’t have any jealousy about our individual stuff.

I would have a conversation and revisit things. Find out if she is not comfortable with things and reiterate that you are not having any plans to head into an actual relationship that is exclusive so that way she has a clear opt out if she’s either not ok with it now or wants more.

theskptc · 2022-01-30T09:08:26+00:00

She knows you are not looking for a relationship, I would tell her that I don’t share about my other relationships. (After all, a gentleman don’t kiss and tell)

ant2k15 · 2022-01-30T13:08:27+00:00

She doing this to make herself feel better. Girls say they omit or keep this info private all the time, and they often look at guys who pry as insecure. She should be held to the same standards. However you guys have been dating a while maybe she wants to DTR. In the early stages keep it to yourself. They can’t handle the truth.

Taiyella · 2022-01-30T18:59:24+00:00

Don’t lie,

But I would make it clear that you are probably just dating and not sleeping with women. I think that’s the turn off.

When’s i you plan on making a decision

T4mvv1lc0xx · 2022-01-30T19:43:54+00:00

But showing her you have options make you more attractive right?

Czekraft · 2022-01-30T23:29:19+00:00

It's really none of her business. You can be honest, but it wouldn't do anything except fuel jealousy or if she is needy then make her become exclusive with you.

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-01-30T21:01:34+00:00

What about the guys she is dating?

Ineedanswers6789 · 2022-01-30T16:34:15+00:00

Yes it makes her see that you have options, it’s easier to get girls when you already have girls for some weird reason.

yennybear888 · 2022-01-30T18:00:36+00:00

As someone who once dated up to 7 women at the same time, I can say that being straightforward honest is NOT the right move. Women just get too sensitive and you start having these serious convos about where this is going etc. You should just dance around it and joke about it. If your value is high enough, women don’t mind being part of a rotation and they will also learn to joke about it...i.e. “I hope I’m more fun than your Friday date.”

Sup3rHD · 2022-01-30T11:48:39+00:00

( "But she keeps asking me about the other women I'm hanging out with. I
usually deflect and change the subject, or make an obviously corny joke,
"I'm only dating the <her name>s of the world"."):

Girls do this all the time.

A girl understands when if u are dating other girls or not. Dont tell her, let your actions speak for You.
A girl is attracted by a guy that other girls want.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-01-30T10:29:50+00:00

No. Do they?

Vril_SA_PL · 2022-01-30T13:28:58+00:00

Yes!
Honesty is always the best policy!
By not telling her the Truth
By lying to her
You are denying her the chance
To choose for herself
Whether she accepts it or not
Cuz you never know
Maybe she is the one you really want
And that you just don't know it yet
And started off lying
Is a predicator for how that relationship is going to end!

Cuz if you aren't willing to tell her the Truth
Why should she!

alexsander36 · 2022-01-30T10:42:02+00:00

Just be honest, don't be a douchebag and lie to her. She's got feelings, maybe she liked you enough she thought she could change you

youareameathead · 2022-01-30T13:42:25+00:00

I don't usually go out of my way to talk about it but oddly enough some of the dates i've been on so far it's usually the girl that brings up dating life sometimes lol

The-Bull89 · 2022-01-30T16:59:24+00:00

Your pretty much doing the right thing. You've already let her know your casually dating and she's not the only girl in your life. Specific details arnt important. Just be playful and about it in your answers. Say things like don't worry you're in my top 10 and then change conversation.

By her knowing she's not the only girl for you she's gonna be putting extra effort as she knows there's competition.

Decumulate · 2022-01-30T18:33:03+00:00

I’m not sure it’s her business if you’re not exclusive. She’s fishing and it’ll only lead to drama.

WanyCaleb · 2022-01-30T12:13:06+00:00

You're doing great, I'd advise against the honesty route.

AngeloMacon · 2022-01-30T07:51:57+00:00

Keep deflecting. Don't lie. And if you're a moral guy, know when to cut your losses when a plate is starting to fall for you that you have no interest in

skinticket02 · 2022-01-30T14:30:11+00:00

Say yes , or tell her it's none of her business.

Think about how she'd react if you asked her that . You'd be seen as needy and pushy.

Vril_SA_PL · 2022-01-30T13:40:05+00:00

My Second comment
After actually reading your entire post ^_^

You comment
"Is this the right thing to do?"
For me Yes!
But your own moral code that you choose to live with
Is yours to decide
But be wary of Karma
Cuz the universe has a way of repaying "Falsehood"

Your comment
"How do you manage a situation where you may be casually dating multiple women at the same time?"
I can honestly say I have never done this before
So take my words with a grain of salt
But in perspective for me it's not something I would personally do
But even as Sadhguru says, well I will paraphrase what he says

"To each his own"
If that's what you want to experience
Life with multiple women, the great juggling act
Go right ahead
Hopefully someone else will you the advice you seek
Like I believe also
Life expresses itself from like the letter A all the way to Z
Any everything in-between is acceptable
But be warned
Cuz there are always consequences for your choice of actions
Whether good or bad
I don't know
And I know I never will
Well maybe someday
Cuz predicting the future
Has only been reserved for a very few enlightened individuals
And even than, we still have to take caution in listening to their words

I hope that helped more than my 1st one ;)

Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2022-01-30T16:38:39+00:00

Just say yup I have been seeing a few you are number four right now better step it up

abrahamlincorn · 2022-01-30T17:52:27+00:00

Yeah, you’re gonna absolutely shatter her heart if you’re not honest, if you haven’t already done so

summerpockets1992 · 2022-01-30T18:08:34+00:00

Just be honest. You deflecting or making a joke is manipulation.

Diligent-County-721 · 2022-01-30T18:11:22+00:00

Joke around and say something like there’s a few… but you’re the most special. You’ll still be playful and mysterious

joelvaldezg · 2022-01-30T19:33:13+00:00

Hmmmm. The thing is people here are seeing women as just objects for sexual pleasure and not as individuals with their own emotions. When you are meeting a woman, you should listen carefully to everything that she shares with you and what she doesn’t share with you, since this will reveal what type of person she is. If you let a girl know that you just want her for casual sex or that you are dating other girls she will not feel unique in your eyes. Even though some women don’t care, there are women out there who genuinely want to feel special. Sometimes you will need to hide that. If you don’t actually care about her, tell her. If you still want her body, lie.

ExchangePowerful3225 · 2022-01-30T23:17:06+00:00

Uh, yeah you should be telling her how many other people you’re dating, especially if you’re having sex with them. And you should probably know how many other people those girls are sleeping with too.

Why lie??

2022-01-30T23:31:18+00:00

Be honest with her so she can process it and move on… you can’t be that interested in her if you’ve been dating for a few months and are still seeing other woman…stop wasting her time…

She obviously likes you and is worried about it or she wouldn’t be asking… at least she has the courage to ask. I tend to not ask if I like someone because I find it terrifying and avoid reality… 🤢 😜

Doing this stuff only makes things more complicated… honesty is the best policy 👍🏼

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-01-30T13:18:20+00:00

Just say “yeah I got a few women I keep in touch with” that way, she’ll put more effort into to trying to win you over since she knows she has competition

Felixisnext · 2022-01-30T07:37:51+00:00

Be toxic

Domnation101 · 2022-01-30T17:25:19+00:00

This worked for me in my past life. I would say that I want to be honest with her so that she can trust you if y’all become exclusive. Tell her that there are others because that is the situation now. Tell her it makes you uncomfortable to discuss details because you care about her feelings. Which was true. If things evolve, you want it based on honesty.

pacg · 2022-01-30T19:01:19+00:00

Im going against the grain on this one. If you’re casually dating and these relationships don’t matter what’s the harm in telling her about one of the other women? You can impose the condition that she tell you about one of the men she’s dating.

Besides isn’t the motto of this subreddit that there’s plenty of fish in the sea? That we adopt an abundance mindset yada yada yada. If you lose this one there’s others in the rotation right?

angelsfan-34 · 2022-01-30T19:30:09+00:00

Honestly is the best policy

RedBeard6 · 2022-01-30T21:05:41+00:00

Tell the truth, but be prepared that she might walk away. Happened to be me recently and I she was the best person I've dated in ages. I am a fool basically.

13Xxx21 · 2022-01-30T21:43:39+00:00

Yes...if it's not a committed relationship.

EscapeVelocity83 · 2022-01-30T21:47:47+00:00

Yes, they should live togather and have daily brawls to compete for who gives you the next bj

Havregrot2000 · 2022-01-31T00:07:09+00:00

Always be honest. Integrity and confidence is what is most important at all times when it comes to relationships of any kind.

aquasun21 · 2022-01-31T01:16:08+00:00

There's no reason to lie since you've made it clear you don't want a relationship. The most important thing here would be regularly get tested for STIs if you're consistently banging multiple people.

FrostedFluke · 2022-01-31T03:03:35+00:00

You have the right instinct. They don't need to know specifics but it's good for them to know you're dating around.

Keep doing what you're doing and don't tell them about any specifics.

krzjasn87 · 2022-01-31T05:08:15+00:00

Tell her you don’t kiss and tell, you don’t have to tell her details of the other women you are seeing but don’t lie to her either. Be playful and charming and if she is really serious about wanting some information let her know that you are seeing other people. Rephrase that you are not looking for a relationship.

TheTruth221 · 2022-02-01T11:58:42+00:00

nah they can find out when they do find out

Title	Should you let a girl know about the other girls you're dating?
Author	Beastron
Upvotes	83
Comments	97
Date	January 30, 2022 7:23 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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