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TheGravotz · 2021-08-10T05:36:21+00:00

I used to have more "nice guy" tendencies. One problem I had was not being upfront about my romantic interest. I think some nice guys view that as being somewhat beneath them and that guys that are direct are players. It's a bit dishonest. It's human nature to want to be with someone, that's nothing to be ashamed about. No need to hide it.

Part of it may have been my wanting to be under the radar to show how great of a guy I was over time. Once she saw that she would show her romantic interest in me, or so the plan was. That never panned out.

MathematicianSuper58 · 2021-08-10T02:06:53+00:00

Let them know from the jump your intentions

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wallynext · 2021-08-10T09:03:46+00:00

and what do you do? or it's just a oneway game?

this is all good advice, but... what most guys forget: Its a fucking 2 way street, BOTH people must put in the effort, I loose interest in any women who doesn't pull her weight, who doesn't know how to flirt and who thinks it's the man's job to do everything right

MeTarzanAaaaahhh · 2021-08-10T01:52:26+00:00

Be yourself. If it doesn’t work out, it wasn’t meant to be

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Antiquorum · 2021-08-10T03:01:22+00:00

Here's my perspective on these points as a dude:

Fake confidence works when you're going out and need to work up the courage to talk to somebody, but confidence can't be faked convincingly forever. It's best to work on yourself until you're actually confident and feel like you have interesting things happening in your life that you can share with someone else.

"Proving your worth" by immediately overdoing it with compliments makes it obvious to anyone that you don't feel adequate.

Lowkey flirting is nice because it creates a natural progression of the relationship. Both parties have input and it's a nice way to gauge mutual interest without putting your neck on the chopping block.

Only tease women you're friends with, otherwise it's cringe as fuck. Trying to start a relationship with someone you don't know reeks of desperation and doesn't give you time to see whether she's a crazy bitch or not.

A gentleman is assertive, assumes positivity by default and thinks about her well-being from a place of care. He doesn't let himself get walked on or abused because he has other options to share the fun times with. He is consistent and knows what he wants.

Hope this helps.

Humblepie125 · 2021-08-11T07:46:18+00:00

"don't shower her with compliments...just shower" - was what I took from this lol

INeededAThrowawayCuz · 2021-08-10T03:54:41+00:00

1 and #2 are contradictory.

Fellas, at some point you’re realize your worth and stop giving af about what people (including women) think of you. Focus on yourself and the push will come.

(I didn’t read the advice here after #2 but I’m sure it was good)

((Idk why it bolded and enlarged my text. I’m on mobile and don’t know how to fix that))

quietsam · 2021-08-09T22:35:38+00:00

When you want it learn how to catch a fish, ask a fisherman, not a fish.

Butt-tongue · 2021-08-10T00:49:47+00:00

Or you can just be confident, self assured and a Rock N Roll artist, just like a Tommy Lee persona... if you know what I mean. 😅

meAADIL · 2021-08-10T06:32:42+00:00

Women in early 20s...😂

I-DrinkYourM1lkshake · 2021-08-10T01:31:05+00:00

I'm gonna print this and glue it on my bedroom's door. This is shaping up to be a pretty damn good year.

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ShiroSagisu · 2021-08-10T09:23:04+00:00

``Women are biologically attracted to masculine energy emitting men. Be confident, and if you’re not, fake it.
I’m talking about these things: posture, the way you talk, open body language, standing still, taking up space (conveys subconsciously that you’re important) etc.``

We think of attractive people automatically as conifdent.

``Plan the date, be chill, try to get to know her, ask her questions - she’s just one girl of the many ones you can approach! 😉``

me doing all of this and still not getting any (:

BlueCollarSinner · 2021-08-09T23:49:17+00:00

I aint gonna be her Neanderthal

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Dakessian · 2021-08-10T04:18:59+00:00

Good, I’m doing it right.

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jayp2000 · 2021-08-10T04:17:49+00:00

Remind me! 2 days

eszibit · 2021-08-10T08:25:59+00:00

1# Improve yourself till u make it. Don't fake it, just work on yourself

2# Don't try to prove yourself to anyone, but don't be useless

3# Flirt however u want, some girls like it lowkey, some are straight to the point, some can't flirt for shit. Flirt how you like to and best suits your style

4# It's good to tease but some girls don't enjoy it at all, know your audience

5# Be a gentleman as long as she deserves it, if not, move on

Puzzleheaded_List01 · 2021-08-10T10:53:33+00:00

I guess I've done all opposite of what you've mentioned here so what you think is there any comeback from after sinking so low... I've appreciate her beyond measure and things are like on formal basis now.. so is there a way out now??

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Itype2readU · 2021-08-17T03:27:42+00:00

Ok so I do all of this wrong. Why am I a nice guy? It comes naturally to me.

I also wonder the beautiful line. I do that a lot. I find her beautiful so I tell her. I don't understand why it conveys that I try to prove my worth, can someone explain?

I also generally do not understand what I say sound like and what kind of person would say what I say. I don't get it.

Isn't the game all about value? That's what it seems when I look around for who please me.

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1 and #2 are contradictory.

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