Invited over to a girls house as a first date - do’s and don’ts?

TheDayBreaker100 · 2021-03-07T08:35:53+00:00

Keep in mind, I dont have much experience nor am I some pickup artist or something

Ill try and be pragmatic:

Always come prepared, but dont expect anything! She does t owe you sex or a hookup or anything. So basically bring a condom, trim your pubes and take a shower before hand(make sure to wash the pubes thoroughly so you dont have any body odor down there)

2.bottle of wine is a great idea, however I think that you could ask her what type of wine she likes(hence hinting that your bringing wine and if she doesnt thunk you should shell respond telling you not to bring), maybe bring popcorn cause its a movie? Its all about the vibe youre trying to set. Are you looking for a hookup or a relationship? But honestly jjst do what you feel comfortable doing, if you think itll be awkward to bring it then dint bring it (whatever it may be)

Dress attractively but not too fancy

4.if you guys bith smoke you could bring some weed

DONT COME EXPECTING ANYTHING. If you do youll think about that the whole time instead of focusing on having fun
Have fun my friend :)

intricatebrilliance · 2021-03-07T08:23:26+00:00

Always be prepared

elly_kirsty · 2021-03-07T09:10:03+00:00

You could take popcorn, it goes with the movie, always nice if someone shows up with a snack. Just follow her lead. Usually when you invite someone over for a movie it includes handholding or cuddles or whatever. Some form of physical contact. But make sure she seems comfortable before you do something to hectic. You can always just ask her if you may put your arm around her or whatever else... then you don't have to be uncertain. She will probably give hints as to what she wants. How close she wants to be to you and such.

thewokelama · 2021-03-07T09:59:02+00:00

Rule of thumb is to always have a condom on you in your twenties. Also the whole trimming bit is right. Apart from that, get munchies and milkshake for after you smoke up. Get a good set of tracks to play on your spotify to set the mood. Go with the flow and be confident.

Ur_X · 2021-03-07T09:53:57+00:00

Don’t arrive with expectations Do take it slow, you may want to duck her in the first thirty minutes but it takes time for them to warm up Good luck, the game is yours to win

bobicus1200 · 2021-03-07T10:57:20+00:00

I want an update on this as im about to go to sleep, i have no idea what advice to give you but i will give you my support from across the world my dude! Good luck and relax, have fun!

iron_ee · 2021-03-07T09:27:58+00:00

bring the wine

Ierax29 · 2021-03-07T11:21:44+00:00

Go there with the only goal of having fun,vibe with her, if she seems responsive (She already invited someone she met on TINDER to her HOME,she should be) make a move.

From the sound of it she sounds pretty DTF, chill man ;)

kellykebab · 2021-03-07T09:15:08+00:00

Definitely bring a milkshake. You're not an animal, are you?

Drewsef916 · 2021-03-07T09:26:58+00:00

It depends. Has there been any sexual conversation / explicit intentions taken place at all? Or has it be COMPLETELY platonic

peachslipps · 2021-03-07T09:53:43+00:00

If it was me and there was indirect sexual flirtation (as you put it) she’s def attracted to you. And she invited you over for a private semi-intimate little ordeal. And if it were me and I were doing this, if I wasn’t planning on making a move I would hope that the guy would at least do something physical. Sometimes chicks aren’t into banging the first night. A lot of girls end up not feeling great about themselves or just feel like you got what you came for etc etc. So maybe try just like watching a movie and at some point like asking for a blanket so y’all can get cuddly and things should easily go from there :).

rockyp32 · 2021-03-07T10:06:14+00:00

Follow ur gut be ur authentic self. Go over there watch a movie and make a move

kylomorales · 2021-03-07T10:51:28+00:00

Prepare for sec but don't expect or push for it. Go with the flow and see what her vibe is. She might be looking for a fuck in which case you'll be able to tell

FalconVita · 2021-03-07T11:41:49+00:00

Keep your expectations low and may the gods be in your favor.

bananenjeremy · 2021-03-07T13:28:38+00:00

Trim ur fingernails

Doctor0z · 2021-03-07T14:11:07+00:00

I can tell by the sheer amount of words in your post that you are overthinking it. I am/was the same way. See this post as an ex:

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/kyrcbw/7_hour_date_gone_wrong/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

The dude did overthink and did not go for it when there was a clear signal of attraction.

My advice: Go in confidence in yourself, knowing, knowing or faking it until you reach the state of being perfectly happy with your life without the need of a companion. Have your own hobbies and desires that you can share with her. And listen more than you talk. Pay attention to her body language, the content of the conversation, and go from there. And most importantly have fun! You have to go with the mindset of being confident and independent. Women love that.

And obviously be ready for every scenario - Hookup: personal hygiene and condoms, etc.

WalidfromMorocco · 2021-03-07T10:54:03+00:00

Have a paper and digital trail.
Ask her what sort of wine does she like via messenger or text. Keep the receipts of whatever you buy.
Look for security cameras at the front door, especially. Be sure to make your appearance on camera calm, cool, and friendly.
When lying in bed, if you can swing it, she asks to take one, or the opportunity is there, take a selfie together.
Again, when leaving at the front door make a big show of leaving on good terms in front of the security cam.
When you get home, text her saying you had fun and you'll message her again. Just craft a message with the aim of getting a reciprocating message where she says something similar.

If it ever comes back to bite you in the ass that the whole encounter was non-consensual (AND IT HAPPENS), you have covered your ass because you did everything to accommodate her and make her comfortable.

ado011235 · 2021-03-07T10:09:11+00:00

Make sure to at least make out. If you wait too long, you'll fuck up. Don't wait too long either. During the movie touch and stroke her shoulder or hand. If she's cool with that, go for a kiss. It can totally be out of the blue too. Just don't wait for the "perfect moment".

MrColfax · 2021-03-07T10:44:11+00:00

Definitely bring a milkshake. This is one of the fundamentals of proper social etiquette.

r_m_castro · 2021-03-07T10:47:47+00:00

She invited you to her home... If she's alone when you get there I'd say she wants to have sex. Or she's a murderer.

Anyway, you should tell a friend that you're going there, give him her adress and social media profile. Just in case.

You'd better ask if she wants you take anything. She might no like wine for example. You should ask. But take condomms.

lousopher · 2021-03-07T18:48:31+00:00

Treat her like a queen. Fuck her like a whore.... She’ll never forget that and will always remember you with a preferential fondness even after she becomes your ex-wife...

kaazer · 2021-03-07T10:23:59+00:00

Take the wine, some milkshakes, some bondage and a little baby condom for your baby rocket ship

Johnny_Kilroy · 2021-03-07T12:14:53+00:00

Is this the seduction forum or r/datingadvice? A tinder girl is inviting you for a movie in her home, alone. You must make a move, and do it early. It doesn't get much more clear cut than this. There are older guys who wish to the gods they were young again and having opportunities like this.

If she rebuffs you, that's fine, accept it, maybe your breath was bad or you look better in photos than IRL.

Gimble340 · 2021-03-07T09:41:40+00:00

Always be prepared “trim your bits etc you know the deal and not to look thirsty just say “thank god i always have a condom on me you never know what can happen” jokingly... and don’t give it much thought that way you can still enjoy the person/date no matter the outcome.

julius-peppercorn · 2021-03-07T11:16:04+00:00

Bring balloons and a strawberry milkshake

bandsupjay · 2021-03-07T11:25:52+00:00

Ya this is good always gotta have the bottle no matter what lol

the_manofsteel · 2021-03-07T12:24:49+00:00

I don’t tinder but since when does women invite you to their home on the first date? Are you sure it’s really the person in the photos writing?

2021-03-07T12:37:47+00:00

Hide your wallet.

itsbeck23 · 2021-03-07T12:43:46+00:00

Buy condoms please :) be safe

OkKaleidoscope8048 · 2021-03-07T12:50:21+00:00

This is too adorable. Can’t wait for the update. I know this is usually the advice to women but don’t forget to let someone know where you’re going just to be safe. Yes I’m a mom. Bring more than one condom 😉

mindsanitizer · 2021-03-07T13:56:11+00:00

I can't stop thinking about the milkshake. This is so heckin wholesome and adorable!

Railionn · 2021-03-07T14:02:13+00:00

Always prepare for sex when you go to someone's house.

MistahUndaCova001 · 2021-03-07T14:04:13+00:00

Milkshakes? Is that a thing nowadays? Lol.

Title	Invited over to a girls house as a first date - do’s and don’ts?
Author	QueryThrowawayJD
Upvotes	211
Comments	70
Date	March 7, 2021 7:52 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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