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DrixlRey · 2020-02-07T05:36:16+00:00

Face matters lightyears more than muscles. Trust me

Shadow__Account · 2020-02-07T08:43:27+00:00

Do you watch porn? For me the thing that finally made me conquer my anxiety was to quit porn, if you watch it i would really advice you to try it out. The build up hornyness can absolutely overwrite anxiety and shame.

alastor64 · 2020-02-07T06:42:26+00:00

Don’t chase girls at work. Eye contact -> smile -> move on.

Work is probably one of worse place to seduce anyone unless you are reeeeeaaaallly into someone special.

lunaoreomiel · 2020-02-07T03:03:12+00:00

Dont be too hard on yourself. If they are looking, its because they like what they see, even if you dont.

Also do exercise, changing your mass is something in our control. Be grateful its not something you have no control over. You are ok. Go for it!

lookback48 · 2020-02-07T00:30:27+00:00

Go the gym and start working out and in the mean time focus on developing your inner-game. If you continually use affirmations and hype yourself up all the time, Women will be able to feel your confidence. Athletes always focus on winning, never loosing. Visualise yourself successful around Women.

Sammyjskj · 2020-02-07T08:33:16+00:00

What really gives me confidence, since I can't train atm due to football injury, is seeing ugly guys getting girls. This makes me think: If they can get girls, then I can too.

Use your environment at your advantage to boost your confidence

KindLunch · 2020-02-07T02:42:48+00:00

I would start with asking yourself better questions. Instead of, "Why being skinny gives me a disadvantage towards women?". You can try something a little more productive like, "What gives me an advantage over other guys?".

DaysThatEndInDie · 2020-02-07T09:04:23+00:00

Smile at them. They’re only people. If one of them gives you a bitch face, no more smiles for her then

ArcangeloPT · 2020-02-07T15:02:42+00:00

Don’t shit where you eat. Workplace women will only give you headaches

Approach outside work, get used to the feeling, rinse and repeat.

Desensitization by exposure.

gim_san · 2020-02-07T11:18:06+00:00

I really encourage you to go to the gym! If you have friends that train you can start by just going with them to a test session. Then if you like it you can go regularly with them. Til you get the habit and will start going alone

Kubiak-- · 2020-02-07T04:20:14+00:00

Just say hi hows it goin?

2020-02-07T11:15:25+00:00

From a girls point of view, most women aren't that bothered by bodytypes especially if you have a cute face and a nice personality. And you know, like some other people say you can start working out, and cus you are skinny you can eat a shit-ton of food, which is always fun!

Ok, so even if you got to the point of going on a date, you couldn't go cus of your anxiety? I used to and sometimes still do get nauseous when I am anxious about going out with someone I really like, it's horrible I agree. But usually once you are on the date it's ok, it goes away once you get talking, and have a few drinks. Just gotta get past that part! I try to negotiate a type of date where I feel comfortable, like maybe its not even a date, it's just going out with friends and I invite that person to hang out with us, less pressure. Or we do a phsyical activity together, which takes the pressure off too. Or something I really love, or where I feel confident in. You just gotta find ways to work with your anxiety, fighting against it won't work.

And as for eye contact, do you smile when you look at them, do you look back at them as they walk away? Do you do the look at them, then look away, then look at them again and smile? These work nicely, and are fun to try out cus there are no verbal things involved. And you don't have to make a move, just have fun for now! If you show interest in someone and you see them again and again and keep showing interest, naturally things will happen, and it's fun watching it unfold.

Also you know a lot of girls like shy guys! Well you didnt say you were shy....anxious, but I assume also shy as a result of the anxiety.

brackattack27 · 2020-02-07T10:44:46+00:00

Trust me as a skinny guy myself who has put on lots of muscle. Push ups. 30 before bed, 30 when you wake up. Watching your favorite show? 10 on commercials. You will notice a difference within a week.

Maggost · 2020-02-07T10:29:12+00:00

Working out will give you a confident boost, yes. But that will not guarantee you an automatic reaction, you just have to do the approach, not matter what.

Et-got-boned · 2020-02-07T14:55:20+00:00

Kinda wholesome that so many people hopped on to help a guy. Good job, I'm proud of y'all

MrMemper · 2020-02-07T16:27:27+00:00

I want you to make a list here telling us what you think will happen if you approach a woman to say hi. “Excuse me, good morning, I was on my way to work and your eyes really caught my attention. My name is Benjamin and you are?” She says good morning, probably thank you and her name. (Say her name) “Id like to talk longer but now I’m going to be late for work bc I had to stop. Here, take my card and get in touch if you’d like to get a coffee sometime. Ok, have a fantastic day (her name again)”. What’s the worst that could actually happen?? Tell us please.

AwesomeGothem · 2020-02-07T07:04:25+00:00

I read you had anxiety and I had to share this https://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/f038c0/all_along/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share Nah but in all serious. The guys who said gym

ImJustSo · 2020-02-07T11:49:54+00:00

Just say hi or good morning! It's that simple. You walk around with "I'm ready to smile" in your mind, rest your mouth, rest your eyes, think of something amusing. The moment you lock eyes, start to smile, then when you're about 5-8 feet away, just blurt out, "Morning!"

You don't even have to stop. Just attach eye contact to verbal contact. You already look at people, that's already an expression of you! Just gotta start realizing your smile and a hello is the exact same thing. You're allowed! Permit yourself.

dHardalternative · 2020-02-07T11:54:12+00:00

If you can give me any idea on why do you think your skinniness is affecting your confidence levels (what do you think is the reason for that) I might be able to help you. I am skinny as well, but I am confident, so aim curious. Also describe the way you walk, talk, the way you carry yourself.

2020-02-07T12:20:13+00:00

Maybe they've never seen such a weird looking guy.

Just kidding man. If you are self conscious, hit a gym. Try practicing in front of mirror.

TheEudaimonicSelf · 2020-02-07T14:33:47+00:00

Doing all this other stuff (e.g., gym, self affirmations, etc.) is great, but if your goal is to approach these women and go on dates, there is only ONE way to achieve that goal: approach.

Everyone has approach anxiety at some point. Dont conflate approach anxiety with a lack of core confidence. They can certainly feel similar but they arent the same thing at all.

Heres the thing: the only way to get over approach anxiety is to approach. So, next time you see a woman looking at you and giving you eye contact, walk up to her, smile, and say: "hey, what's up"

Good luck mate.

2020-02-07T16:46:08+00:00

Also be careful flirting with women in your workplace in 2020

arkadyi · 2020-02-07T16:53:27+00:00

First, what you feel is normal and quite typical. If you get this much eye contact from women, this mean that they find your attractive or at least entry enough to look. One solution is to be in a place where they're not moving, but actually seating down, i.e. cafes, public transportation, etc... The key is to make a mom chalant low pressure move just as soon as they look at you for the first time. "How is it going?" can go a long way in these types of situations. Then, you can follow up with something as simple as "Long day today?" Again, the key is not playing the old game of looking back several times and hoping that she's going to look at you again and again. It's not going to happen. You must make a move right away as you would usually only have one chance.

redditgetsme- · 2020-02-07T18:06:12+00:00

Give them eye contact and a small smile. I bet u get a smile back.

And are u skinny fit? Cuz skinny w a 6 pack and nice biceps is HOT.

pogoli · 2020-02-08T01:10:15+00:00

Do you also smile when you make eye contact? Can you nod and smile? Can you say "hi" or "good morning" while you nod and smile? Its absolutely terrifying for most people to do this, however... if you can force yourself to do it... it can be rewarding. Even if none of these girls turn into anything more than a friendly hello, a returned smile and hello from a stranger can make both your days, especially for the shy one(s). Additionally it can make the contact with the next person (for both of you) easier and more confident, and it increases the likelihood that someone may someday say more than hello, but most of the people on the street are on their way somewhere. I agree with the other suggestions of affirmations and exercise and any other things that help give you confidence (except alcohol).

2020-02-08T03:47:37+00:00

Why don’t you just ask them something pertaining to work and give a compliment ? Start small.

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whirleymon · 2020-02-07T03:03:16+00:00

You can go on dates when you feel anxious. <------- FACT

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OldSoulBiz · 2020-02-07T17:30:14+00:00

The people who are mentioning "working out" are omitting the fact that it's MUCH easier said than done.

Working out entails you keep a strict workout and diet regimen, along with getting the right amount of sleep. If you fuck up any one of those 3, you won't see progress.

I am by no means scaring you away from it. I'm just laying out facts you need to know if you want results. Because at some point you might either get bored or lose motivation.

You need to set goals, and it ain't easy.

mydeardroogs · 2020-02-07T00:19:45+00:00

Drink.

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