TLDR: Develop a real self that doesn’t need to hide behind manipulation. Be attracted. Be insecure. Be a nice guy. Put women on a pedestal if you like. Just chill. Accept who you are and move from there.

Retired ‘PUA’ here. Take my advice with a pinch of salt. I sure enjoyed my gaming days and they taught me valuable social skills. But they did come at a cost.

Where ‘naturals’ often employ similar socials skills unconsciously. I used to be very mindful of them. IOI here, DHV there, couple of negs if need be. Bit of KEENO and boom close. Close. Close.

Little did I know that all these tactics were blocking my development as a naturally attractive person. This problem showed up once I entered relationships. I wasn’t prepared to consciously put up an act every single day. Do you know how tiring that is?

Only when I started to explain my manipulative behavior to a later target as a warning, I was able to just chill and be myself around this woman that would turn out to be a great romantic partner in my life.

Warning women for your PUA skills is a great bit by itself as you demonstrate your value as a social wizard while simultaneously proving yourself to be a trustworthy character without desperate needs. The warning element has a major push/pull effect. But the important thing is that I didn’t use it as a bit. I was just vibing, couldn’t care less about the outcome either.

That’s where the magic is guys, honesty. Brutal attractive honesty.

We men are often taught to repress our weaknesses. Shy? Scared? Be a man dammit!

We don’t accept our flaws, inexperience and insecurity. We even kill our own emotions to avoid ‘oneitis’. This behavior comes with short term rewards, but eventually it is hurtful to ourselves. It can lead to severe inner conflicts. Because nothing can be repressed forever.

So I would like to advice all young men here to embrace their inexperienced, insecure masculinity and just be brutally honest with it towards woman.

Here are a couple of bits demonstrating the value of this kind of honesty. Imagine saying these things PLAYFULLY to a woman in a social setting.

“Quick question. Do you know how to deal with approach anxiety. I really struggle with finding the courage to approach women like you.” (Don’t wait for an answer, continue to make conversation)

(Accidentally bump against woman) “Be careful! I’m a virgin!”

“Excuse me… you look like… way out my league. Too bad” (Move on)

Don’t use these as bits. That won’t work. Just be honest and have fun with featuring your flaws. Embrace your inexperience, insecurity or even virginity and frame them as major value. Because they are. You are.

Now get out there and have fun! Enjoy your wicked young days while they last.