Ghosting is a bitch move

IAmCalhoun · 2022-02-09T08:07:05+00:00

You may feel that you don't want to get into some hurtful conversation, but ghosting is really rude and disrespectful move and may confuse and make harm far greater than straightly saying "no".

You do not provide the feedback for the person why you don't want to make contact with him anymore. You show no respect to the fellow human being or even person that you've once been close with. You try to go an easy way and don't improve your communication and confidence skills.

First step is just to make it obvious, don't leave people on "Read" or make up some crazy story.

Snakehead004 · 2022-02-09T14:12:12+00:00

I agree but why call it "girly" and make so many gender generalizations? It's a bitch move for a man or woman. It's not respectful or mature but why drag women down in the process? It's this mentality that brings about the shitty side of feminism...

808Dave_ · 2022-02-09T05:31:43+00:00

In my case, girls move on quickly to the next guy so i personally don't need explanations. We both have our own assumption of things. And i just find it easier to move on with out having to explain my self or require an explanation either. Ghosting is def a bad habit but it does save you emotional energy.

rayvin4000 · 2022-02-09T19:18:46+00:00

Just been Ghosted after 9 months. I'd rather him have told me rather than me trying to figure out what's going on. Much harder for me to move on. Thanks dick.

SithLordJediMaster · 2022-02-09T05:19:46+00:00

Ghost is a great movie.

The ending with Patrick Swayze and Demi Morre gets me every time.

theseoulplayer · 2022-02-09T09:36:02+00:00

Ghosting is the preferable move when safety or security become a concern. I've had more than a couple of girls make threats that they seemed quite able and willing to follow through with. At that point, the best thing you can do is block them and never respond. Anything you do or say after a threat is made will only work against you. You might call me a bitch, but when it comes to girls threatening to show up with a knife, file frivolous lawsuits, make false police claims, and the like, I personally think it's best to just cut your losses and peace out.

lemmycaution415 · 2022-02-09T18:48:45+00:00

Peoples feelings are complex and ambiguous. If there was an easy way to not ghost matches, be honest, and not hurt peoples feelings then maybe. But there really isn't. Plus, until I meet you in real life there really should be no reason to not just trail off a conversation that is going nowhere..

br0wnhippy · 2022-02-09T21:00:29+00:00

As someone who ghosts men & women, I finally realize it IS feminine behavior.

GordonGecko69 · 2022-02-09T21:42:21+00:00

Cmon man. There’s no honor amongst thieves. If you about that life and are using game to get in a girl’s pants, becoming self righteous at the end does not change anything. You don’t get points because you dropped her the “right” way. If you don’t have the stones to do it right. Do it how you do it. Better to rip the band-aid off than let that ish linger because you can’t sew things up.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-02-09T10:03:58+00:00

Or you can do what you want and not listen to guys giving out "Real Man" medals. You're your own judge.

FormingStar · 2022-02-09T07:08:19+00:00

In a world where people behave like adults and have mature conversations, confront and solve their problems whenever they arise, yes ghosting would seem like such a silly thing to do and would be a big red flag, since that reveals the level of investment your SO has put into the relationship which is very low. But in today's world, where women's ego are ballooning, why would I waste my time on someone who is not willing to reciprocate the level of energy I'm putting into them?

2022-02-09T14:27:18+00:00

The misogyny in OP’s rhetoric is laughable. No wonder this guy gets ghosted so often.

welpnah1999 · 2022-02-09T05:33:48+00:00

No one owes you their time. No one owes anyone a text or anything else.

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-02-09T05:43:52+00:00

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AssistanceMedical951 · 2022-02-09T07:06:43+00:00

Interesting topic. OP does have point. Although, did see another comment where someone's saying that since girls would do the same, why bother treating them anything different? Can see the point there, treat people the exact same way they treat you.

big_clout · 2022-02-09T07:25:17+00:00

Personally Im fine with it. I do it too.

If nothing's going to happen and one or more parties seem to lose interest, skip the pleasantries, stop wasting time and move on.

If you get ghosted, then you shouldnt take it personally. It wasn't meant to be and it just saves you time to pursue someone else or something else.

uglyandIknowit1234 · 2022-02-09T10:24:36+00:00

Are you a woman posting this as a man so you hope men will change their behaviour? Because I don’t think its related to gender. People ghost because they have too much options and are being rude. When people get too much attention they will automatically see others especially ugly people as below them and not worth reacting to. Sometimes its impossible because of the sheer volume and will not be worthwhile, most of the time its just a combination of arrogance, maybe disgust and laziness imo. They have nothing to lose by doing it, but they lose time if they need to take the effort to reply.

2022-02-09T12:39:48+00:00

Ghosting is millenial essential skillset. Ghost or get ghosted.

RentFreeInYourHeads · 2022-02-09T12:43:51+00:00

To mitigate ghosting just message them 1 hour before the meet up saying you are going to be 15 mins late, if they don't message don't go lol

SpookyKG · 2022-02-09T15:30:53+00:00

'Ghosting is wimpy'

'You should be butthurt instead, and continue to be butthurt, and tell women you're butthurt, because you're STRONG.'

Uh, yeah. It is probably better to just move on.

Kind-Standard-536 · 2022-02-09T04:54:13+00:00

This is gaslighting 101

letsgetrandy · 2022-02-09T04:23:17+00:00

Blah! A bunch of bullshit. You’re posturing.

A high value member of the dating scene (regardless of gender) who is in demand will have tons of people wanting their attention from all directions. If you take the time to write out thoughtful and polite responses to everyone you don’t want to see again, you will have no time left for the things YOU want in life because you’re giving all your time to what other people want.

JC332578 · 2022-02-09T12:37:38+00:00

I think if it was a serious relationship and the other party you know to be stable mentally then you should be honest with them.

IAmCalhoun · 2022-02-09T13:47:51+00:00

Lol. I get your point OP, but really more often than not it was because I had completely lost interest, already moved on, and didn’t think it was worth the time or conversation.

I don’t owe anyone anything, and they don’t owe me. I’m looking for the one woman I want to keep. Unless there is a professional reason to stay in touch, why do I need to talk to someone who is a non factor just so they can feel better?

I guess it makes me whatever.

triqerinoir · 2022-02-09T17:18:29+00:00

Ghosting in what situation? Im not gonna explain why I ghosted a girl when I have to do that to 200+ girls. Too much effort for what

badman20129928 · 2022-02-09T18:07:50+00:00

No it’s not stop being a idiot

lilabelle12 · 2022-02-09T22:21:46+00:00

I hate to do this but I’m going to see if I can pull off ghosting this 41M pastor. He would text me every single day. But, after date #2, he texted me to let him know if I made it home ok and I told him I got home and he hasn’t texted me for the past 2 days now at all. I’m crushed but hoping to slowly fade out of his life at this point. I know this is bad but I don’t want to confront him right now. My heart is so broken and I will probably break down over this. 💔❤️‍🩹

Title	Ghosting is a bitch move
Author	Minute-Lie-2287
Upvotes	94
Comments	104
Date	February 9, 2022 4:06 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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