Herpes

Giterdun1288 · 2017-01-11T13:58:12+00:00

The worst part of the disease is the stigma, not the actual symptoms.

That being said, be prepared for your reputation to disintegrate pretty fast if you're having sex and not telling partners your status. The disease can be transmitted even with condom use.

t1mman · 2017-01-11T16:54:46+00:00

Things to know, putting your face and licking da pussy can also give you cold sore, ie: "herpes labialis".

ninja_possum · 2017-01-12T02:52:05+00:00

Herpes only isn't a big deal to those who already have it and are trying to justify to themselves and others about having unprotected sex or not being honest with their partner and letting them decide.

Herpes is a very, very big deal to those who don't have it. Ignorance might be bliss to you, but not your partners. Don't be a fuckhead, do the right thing with STD's

letsgetrandy · 2017-01-11T18:50:56+00:00

I don't have it, but an ex-girlfriend of mine did. It wasn't a big deal, and we didn't even bother with condoms. I trusted her to tell me when she had an outbreak, and we just didn't have sex when that happened. (News flash, folks: you can catch herpes even with a condom.)

I've worked in the STD testing industry, so I feel like I know enough about it... and she was an MD, so I trusted her opinions as well.

In your case, I think your doctor was just trying to make you be cautious.

I definitely wouldn't bother telling anyone unless and until you are getting somewhat serious with them. It's definitely not something I'd bring up on the first night!

blim_blams · 2017-01-12T00:32:23+00:00

I have genital HSV2

Why the fuck would you get tested for herpes?

This is a disease that is far more common than the average person thinks: https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes-detailed.htm https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Epidemiology_of_herpes_simplex

Doctors typically don't include an HSV antibody test in an STD screening because HSV is harmless outside of the rare case of getting HSV1 in your eye or having an HSV2 outbreak while giving birth vaginally (they give antivirals or perform a C-section to prevent this).

1 in 6 Americans have HSV2 and 87% of them don't know they have it. Everyone who has this disease is at least a little bit contagious. If you pass this on to someone, you may know. Most people who pass this on will deny it because they are ignorant of their status and the risks. Your doctor robbed you of this ignorance.

EDIT: Changed "..., you will know" to "..., you may know". It's actually more likely you wouldn't know you passed it on seeing as how most people are asymptomatic or don't recognize their outbreaks as herpes.

Also, OP, be cautious of who you tell. HSV2 doesn't spread that fast, but gossip does.

Felonessthrowaway2 · 2017-01-11T23:01:57+00:00

Last time I got tested for STDs the doc said I "had been exposed to herpes type 2"

I hate when doctors use the word "exposed" to describe HSV carriers that are asymptomatic. HSV specialist Terri Warren explains

There is no such thing as a blood test being positive because of “exposure”. It is a little like being pregnant - you are or you are not, there is nothing in between. Pregnancy tests are not positive only because someone has been exposed to semen! Likewise, herpes antibody tests are not positive only because someone has been exposed to the herpes virus.

https://www.westoverheights.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Updated-Herpes-Book.pdf

but I "wasn't showing signs" and that I should "use a condom" but I "didn't have to tell people I had herpes"

Literally all major health organization will state that regardless of visible outbreak and condom use, people infected with genital herpes or HSV2 should disclose to potential partners. Also depending where you live, you may be legally required to disclose your HSV status.

Using condoms and abstaining from sex during visible outbreaks is not enough to stop the transmission of HSV. Up to 70% of herpes transmission occurs when there is no visible outbreak or symptoms to the host due to asymptomatic viral shedding, when the virus sheds from seemingly healthy looking skin.

Sandvicheater · 2017-01-12T03:10:34+00:00

HSV-1 aka cold sores is insanely common and most likely you along with the majority of the population is infected. Now HSV-2 is the dick and vaj's version of that and just because there isn't symptoms doesn't mean no possible infection (see asymptomatic herpes). Only real way to prevent HSV-2 is to have yourself and your partner tested and only bang each other if both of you are clean. Condoms protect somewhat against herpes like a umbrella full of holes protect against rain.

DeviousPaco · 2017-01-11T23:17:44+00:00

https://medicalreportdaily.com/herpes/relationship-killer/article.php?g=1443&ts=&sxid=690izm7723kk

Here's a site that might help out. Its not sure fire way to know for sure that this treatment will work but if a doctor herself says she got it and has been working on a way to eliminate it, it's kinda hard not to believe her.

Aarondhp24 · 2017-01-12T04:10:48+00:00

Just watched the video from Adam ruins everything. Not even worried about it now.

tony18215 · 2017-01-12T06:23:37+00:00

Now u ruined my night haha.Awe shit I need to be tested.I had the symptoms but used a condom but our inner legs touched and exchanged sweat...Next day kept scratching and had a nasty rash...little lumps on my thigh and a fever.It was in september.It went away a while ago but idk.I thought eh it went away and she was only 18..so she couldnt have been around much

donaldtrumpsmistress · 2017-01-12T08:19:46+00:00

Check out the adam ruins everything episode on sex, he has a whole segment on herpes and how its really nothing at all

J9989 · 2017-01-12T10:34:43+00:00

I caught herpes when I lost my virginity. The ignorance and misunderstandings around it are the worst.

I'll try to brief on all the stuff I know regards handling it.

There is a cure but you can't buy it as nobody has funded the fda approval process. There are other cures too in more developmental stage. They are looking for funding and you can donate to the university doing the research. (forget the name of it)

1) if you're uninfected and you have contact you can prevent infection by taking an anti viral within something like 24 hours. Because of this it can be useful to carry antivirals for the sake of girls you meet as getting a prescription is too slow. Unfortunately doctors don't have this scenario in their system so it's best to lie and say you're having major symptoms. Then, don't actually use the drugs yourself since that just builds resistance.

2) handling how to tell people is a nightmare in seduction settings. You don't want to risk telling but at the same time you know you have to. To be brutally honest in usually tell after she's so into me she'd do anything anyway. As a result I have to delay sex.

3) it is transmitted in cunnilingous...but only if the involved sites are infected. My own herpes jumped from my genitals to my mouth this route. Same thing for the penis but less likely since its a smaller transmission area. You need a mild outbreak for it to happen but it's very subtle to tell sometimes

4) there are different variations of the virus. I met one guy whos cock was riddled but nowhere else. Really, spotted right up. Likewise many girls have no symptoms at all. Everybody responds differently.

5) the virus kinda teaches you about your own nervous and immune system. The really interesting thing is how it flares up as a interaction of horniness and tiredness. I can see how religious people developed their view of sex with stuff like this going on.

6) you can get it through kissing actually . Yes... Now... There are variants and you probably just going to get a cold sore only variant but this can move to another area though infecting someone else.

7) for most people the symptoms are usually very minor and the only problem is the social stigma. But actually there is other impacts. It puts a load on your immune system so if your body has some other problem this extra load now becomes a problem in of itself. So if you get cancer you now have a slightly higher chance of dying. That's pretty significant to me! Doctors won't tell you this. This is why we need a cure - sure it won't kill you in of itself but it's not good.

8) you're gonna get it. The majority of people have it... Something like more than 70% if we count all variations of it. It's something you're gonna have to deal with in seduction at some point.

Its really taught me a lot about how I'm feeling, got me into healthy eating, got me into deeper relationships quicker. It's kinda affected me a lot more than it at first appears - not all bad.

somabeach · 2017-01-12T12:16:35+00:00

On the plus side, you've only narrowed your target range to 25% of women 😃

kill_dano · 2017-01-11T18:09:38+00:00

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Throwawayherpes69 · 2017-01-11T17:34:12+00:00

I'm no expert, but I don't think your doctor is either. (Throwaway bc I don't want people to assume I have herpes on my real account)

1: I'm pretty sure you can't test for herpes - you have to physically identify it to know you have it.

2: You CAN get herpes with a condom.

3: No real doctor would say to sleep with whoever and don't tell them.

Honestly - it sounds like you live in a third world country and go to an ill informed doctor. Whether you do or don't, I'd recommend getting a second opinion because your doctor sounds like a dumb ass. For some reason STI doctors like to scare people when they find out they've slept with "lots of people" (I have friends who at age 21 told the doctor 7 people and the doctor told him he was going to die of AIDS). They try to scare you by telling you shocking things like this. I feel like the doctor was judging you for whatever reason and was trying to scare you/make you feel shame.

TL;DR: get a second opinion.

letsgetrandy · 2017-01-11T17:10:03+00:00

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Title	Herpes
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