Honesty when looking for ONS?

Greek-God-Brody · 2020-08-09T13:20:42+00:00

It will rarely work when overtly said like that, unless you are an extremely attractive man. It's all about the vibe that you give off. Certain guys give off a fuck boy vibe, light & fun, being sexual through their behavior. Those are the guys who score ONS. The girls can easily know if you're the guy who gets laid easily or not. You're not going to have success if you give off a serios, boyfriend vibe, and if you play it safe.

Witteness82 · 2020-08-09T10:23:07+00:00

The odds of you having that go in your favor are pretty small. If you meet a girl and in the 1st 10 minutes you’ve already said you just want to hook up, most will turn you down outright. If anything dance around the subject, flirt and start to escalate fairly quickly. A lot of girls will sleep with you on the first night, but they don’t want to feel like a slut for doing it. If you want to be blunt and only spend time on girls who want sex, dating apps will be much better suited to that.

Camdome · 2020-08-09T10:08:51+00:00

Honestly, I've had it go one of two ways, but you'll never know unless you try...right?

aREALengineer4 · 2020-08-09T14:49:54+00:00

As a high libido woman who’s had her share of ONS, starting the conversation with your line isn’t going to work. It comes off like a douch bag who won’t care if I come and won’t even offer to drive me home after. If that’s who you are, then go for it.

Otherwise, at least ask the girl her name first. Give the conversation about 5-10 min and then tell her you aren’t looking for anything serious or just straight up ask her to come back to your place. Girls aren’t dumb, most of us know if we leave with a guy from the bar, there’s a 90% chance we’ll never speak to him again.

MoundOlympus · 2020-08-09T11:47:27+00:00

Hey, neato fact, but like the fellows, we are all a little different :)

But I will address your question directly: I see what you want, it is what I am looking for as well but your approach would not work on me. Hit it and quit it sex just doesn't appeal to me as a high-libido woman. It just sounds like you want to get your own rocks off and i may have to wiggle myself into my own orgasm and ya, no.

I love good sex, but as a woman, when someone tells me ONS only, I bail because that dude is looking for a free prostitute. If you are only looking for ONS and not FWB then i read that as you don't have much experience in a sexual relationship with a real woman. We take time...

productivitygod · 2020-08-09T09:53:10+00:00

I don't think that would work . I think you should always keep your intentions mysterious .

no1dookie · 2020-08-09T11:54:10+00:00

You give off the I'm bored vibe. Girl pick up on vibes like dogs do. They feel what your thinking. You better put some pep in your step mr. "I'm bored".

AmberWaves80 · 2020-08-09T13:40:02+00:00

I would much rather know how front that you’re looking to hit it and quit it. Don’t be a dick, just be honest.

Kimdabrim · 2020-08-09T17:48:14+00:00

I have never understood why people get upset or annoyed or uncomfortable or whatever when people (particularly a guy) is upfront about what they want especially when that thing is sex. I mean so what? So what if a guy is out at a bar because he’s hoping to hook up? That doesn’t automatically make him creepy or mysoginistic or objectifying women. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to hook up with someone and not wanna get to know them further. Doesn’t mean you are objectifying them.

I’ve (25F) done this plenty of times with men when I go out or on dating apps and it’s always successful lol. I just say upfront hey I’m looking for sex because I am horny. Always works. Idk why it’s so hard the other way around. My problem is with the women who would shut him down because they think he’s objectifying them. If a guy tells you he just wants to hook up and you don’t, that’s fine nobody should have an issue with that, but don’t assume this guy “only cares about one thing” and is objectifying you and is a sexist pig or anything just because he wants sex. Fucking stupid.

As long as you don’t say it in a creepy way, hopefully it would work out for you and you’d meet at least one person that’s down for a hook up too.

Unfortunately like some other comments said, most women would assume you were a sexist pig just wanting to get off and leave even though that’s what a one night stand is. Idk why some women feel that way. Just because somebody wants sex doesn’t automatically mean he will be a selfish pig. People just like to jump to conclusions so you have to deal with a lot of that being a man.

Teamtoast · 2020-08-09T10:52:35+00:00

You need to escalate. You need to warm girls up... they are not like guys. We guys can get turned on and are ready to go in seconds. If you are talking for almost an hour and there’s no mention of the fact that this is a guy-girl conversation then it’s not going to lead to sex.

2020-08-09T14:24:40+00:00

ONS are highly overrated. Go for at least a fwb or casually date.

cemeterykitten · 2020-08-09T10:36:20+00:00

Please be upfront about your intentions. I’d be irked if I spent an hour talking to someone just to find out the only thing they wanted was to get their dick wet.

BeerShitter · 2020-08-09T11:25:36+00:00

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2udaylatif · 2020-08-09T15:29:04+00:00

Here is one thing you can try. When you get bored say "I'm bored. Do you want to get out of here?"

It is worth a shot. You either get out of the set, get her more invested, or she might get out of there with you.

You can bounce a set to another set if she doesn't go with you.

Allison4476 · 2020-08-10T01:24:11+00:00

Why not just pay a prostitute? On the real, you’re going to pay for it one way or the other LOL if it’s got tits or wheels it’s going to cause you trouble

Banana_Panda25 · 2020-08-10T01:36:22+00:00

Why not just get a prostitute/escort if you want sex so badly?

adraya · 2020-08-09T13:50:41+00:00

Girl here. I would totally be done to just hook up if someone put it this way.

neubiiAUT · 2020-08-09T10:20:09+00:00

have you ever tried being honest and straight-up said kinda jokingly: "I'm out here to get laid" with a smile on your face but looking straight into her eyes? xD

skullirang · 2020-08-10T01:19:26+00:00

If you find your interactions boring then that means you need to go for hotter girls.

selfishnun · 2020-08-09T15:56:50+00:00

You would have to get very lucky for this to work. I’ve only tried this strat when the night is ending and it has only worked a hand full of times. If you’re feeling lucky, then go for it. The luckiest I’ve ever gotten was a friend and I went out to a bar. We entered, each got one drink and just drank them to catch a buzz. About half way through the drinks we were approached by two girls and they invited us to bottle service. Apparently their friend had won it in a competition so basically we drank for free all night and each got laid. Will never happen again but that was one of the times that I used that strategy.

_Zouth · 2020-08-09T16:25:47+00:00

How do you go out alone? What do you say when people ask who you’re there with?

2020-08-09T23:51:46+00:00

I've been around the block a few times, and I can still say that "just here to have fun" is the epitome of creepy! I'd literally rather have someone tear off my underwear with their teeth in silence, and they'd probably have a better chance of getting laid as well!

cemeterykitten · 2020-08-10T13:16:53+00:00

I want friends not fuck buddies.

Title	Honesty when looking for ONS?
Author	Kimdabrim
Upvotes	240
Comments	68
Date	August 9, 2020 8:41 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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