How can i get a flirtatious mind?

Luftwaffe88 · 2015-04-22T19:13:40+00:00

well you have to start by embracing your sexual desire in pure way. witb no guilt or anxiety with it. just let the girls turn you on.

rid of incorrect assumptions that girls don't like when they can sense this desire. its actually a compliment, and turns them on.

as you shift your mind to this more primal way of perciving sexual desire toward girls, you ahould feel more dominant and confident as you get more turned on.

and3r · 2015-04-23T01:12:01+00:00

first off, stop jacking off.

doing that made me constantly horny and ended making my sexual desire more obvious to the girls i was talking to

jer99 · 2015-04-22T21:20:33+00:00

Watch a lot of stand up comedy.

bluePMAknight · 2015-04-22T22:34:54+00:00

I just try to make the girls laugh. Usually this takes the form of negging but it's just kind of my natural humor. It's a risky kind though because I've gone too far before.

Find your humor and make the girls laugh. Women love a man who can make them laugh more than they love 6-packs and broad shoulders. If you hit the gym and get both you'll be irresistible to a lot of women. Not all, but a lot.

ImJustSo · 2015-04-23T06:09:41+00:00

Honestly...for me it's about finding amusement in everything around me. I take interest in the smell of flowers, the laughter of others, the affect I have on people, the affect people have on each other, the smell of the things I wear or wash myself with, my clothes, a soft comforter, a warm touch on a cold night and a cool touch on a warm night. Anything that's pleasant to me is amusing and so I take pleasure in it.

Since I take pleasure in everything I see around me, when a beautiful woman sees me and I smile at her, then she's seeing my genuine happiness. The flirting starts there and I become amused by her attraction to me. I become pleased by her interest in me. I begin to enjoy her being around me and then I become playful and charming and flirty, because I see her enjoyment too. We are sharing our enjoyment of life at that moment and it's beautiful.

SinSlayer · 2015-04-22T18:16:31+00:00

Make almost everything a sexual innuendo.

sgd124 · 2015-04-22T18:36:59+00:00

Focus on having fun and being humourous. Flirting will naturally follow if you are in the right mindset.

Banana_Slut · 2015-04-23T03:39:45+00:00

How do you express your sexuality without being deemed "Creepy" or "perverted"?

0010000100111111 · 2015-04-22T20:48:20+00:00

Don't be afraid of making your intentions obvious. I'm not saying to be bold and do stupid things. But mask everything in innuendo and fun. Flirting doesn't necessarily have to make sense. If you can it will show wittiness. What it has to be is fun, though.

TBomberman · 2015-04-23T00:48:15+00:00

You first got to start off normal. Then throw some innuendos in once in a while. If they think it's weird go back to normal. Then when they are off guard throw a few in again. You'll get them thinking.

Hardparty · 2015-04-23T06:54:10+00:00

HALF AND A YEAR

whyalwaysm3 · 2015-04-22T23:26:15+00:00

How did you just all of a sudden get out of depression?

Meatmissle · 2015-04-23T00:09:28+00:00

Here's what guys like. Well, maybe not ALL guys, but me personally. Just be yourself and open up. Nothing is worse than meeting a chick and courting her or whatever then come to find out a month later, she's a completely different person than who she initially lead you on to be.

Other people said 'focus on being funny', be 'fun', shit like that. I've dealt with deep depression before. If you don't feel funny, or fun, you're not gonna be fun. That's fine.

You wanna be flirty? Nothing turns ME on more than when a woman actually takes interest in something, ESPECIALLY if I know it's probably not interesting at all. Ask questions, 'accidentally' touch my hand. Stuff like that and you can work on it from there. Sorry for rambling. If you need more help you can DM me BRAH!

Big_TX · 2015-04-22T20:46:04+00:00

Here is my advice:

When you in a mode where you will laughf at funny stuff.

Watch this video: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=pR8LTd-SfBs

It's helarious. And will demonstrate grade A real fleeting.

You can watch Craig ferguson interview women. They often get flirty. As well as Archer. (Obvsuously don't act like him, but it demonstrates not taking things Sersiously.)

Watch the RSD video I linked. Enjoy it. Get the vibe in your head. Then go out and pratice!

crackpolystyreneman · 2015-04-23T04:02:06+00:00

Inability to being in a state of flirtatiousness, in my experience, stems from a lack of confidence. You still afraid to speak up your mind. in the beginning, you still have to force to speak up your mind, it might come out as awkward at first, but persist, and the confidence will come naturally over time, not just when facing girls but virtually anyone.

enriquex · 2015-04-23T04:13:14+00:00

Be attractive. If a girl you're not attracted to flirts with you, it's seen as a compliment at best. Same applies in the inverse.

Don't give a fuck. Say what's on your mind, talk about whatever and smile. Being confident is key. Having said that, know limits. Then again, if a girl is gonna get offended/upset at something you say and mean, is she worth the time?

mcloving_81 · 2015-04-23T07:19:20+00:00

Just going to hijack this but if its possible to be flirtatious, is it possible to become 'witty/funny'?

recyclablebantha · 2015-04-23T10:53:02+00:00

But I find me to have a serious mind after all that time, and just cant get a flirtatious mind when a girls come. Any tips?

Flirtatious literally means PLAYFUL. Not inherently sexual. Though that can be a part of it. And sexual energy can be present even without you having to be overtly sexual. Hell, the sexual energy can run even higher when you're being less obvious about it.

But as for how to be playful..... you have to look for the entertaining and ridiculous in life. You have to be present in the moment: your focus must be on the world and people around you. It has to be so that you will notice funny and interesting things. From there, simply observing or sharing silly or interesting things AS they are occurring, is playful. Most people walk through most of life without being present.

To be surrounded with those people and then have someone suddenly show that they are present..... it's playful and powerful.

Messisfoot · 2015-04-23T14:32:26+00:00

The way I see it, without resorting to technical terms... 1. Flirting is the same as it was in 3rd grade. Girls who like you will tease you and vice versa. 2. Be friendly, flirting will never work if your not friendly. 3. Always assume every girl (or guy if your into that) wants to fuck you. 4. In regards to #1, your not in 3rd grade (at least if your on here) so you have to flirt like an adult. After introducing yourself like an adult, start joking then light fully teasing, always trying to make it fun and have her laugh. You can't go up to her and pull her hair...

viralwitness · 2015-04-23T20:09:41+00:00

being flirtatious is very difficult for a guy and we always follow the womans lead, if you try doing it by your self it will likely look unatural just not to sound rube by saying rediculus, the way to learn flirting is by finding a girl who is into you, or who you can provoke into flirting with you then your flirtation will start to feel natural and as it goes on you will start learning how to recreate it when ever you want, but if you want some quick tips on how to provoke or lead a girl into flirting with you where are a few. 1. while she is somewhere with her friends look at her for a few seconds and continue with what you are doing don't stare or over stare, do this afew times untill she gets you looking at her and don't shy away atleast not for until a few seconds pass, then continue with what you where doing, then the next time it will be you catching her looking at you and so it becomes a loop until she starts flirting with you on her own and your response will come natural, then observe your natural response and repeat it with other girls.

bmw_love · 2015-04-23T02:36:14+00:00

Watch a lot of pick up videos on youtube and listen to what they say. Then your mind eventually starts to think that way and you will come up with ur own new material

Title	How can i get a flirtatious mind?
Author	Lutnaes
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Date	April 22, 2015 6:05 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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