How do you sleep with multiple women without feeling guilty?

seduction-ModTeam · 2026-07-23T20:45:35+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

Charge36 · 2026-07-23T18:57:07+00:00

If you don't like doing it you don't have to

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-07-23T19:06:16+00:00

You do it by talking about it with these women. You tell them you see other girls because it's fun. You tell them you prefer open relationships. And then you reassure them that it doesn't mean they're not enough. If anything, you love their company because there are a lot of things that make them unique. And then you list those things. Reassurance is 80% of the conversation, the rest of the 20% is explaining why you do it.

The fear only exists because you do not accept yourself as you are. It's hard, obviously. Took me about 1 year of work to become this honest with women.

The biggest thing that normalizes it for me is that most girls simply do not fucking care. I mean, they do it. They date multiple guys. And if they don't want to be in an open relationship, then onto the next one. Game is a lot about finding the right partners for yourself instead of clinging to one girl and being needy and closeted. Be true, be honest, be attractive, be fun. It will work out in the end.

Bessini · 2026-07-23T19:19:13+00:00

You don't need to lie or be dishonest to sleep with multiple women, mate

Front_Painter_1450 · 2026-07-23T19:42:27+00:00

You people are sleeping with women!?

norwegiandoggo · 2026-07-23T19:10:58+00:00

Why do you feel guilty? Are you lying to them? Or not being honest with them / being misleading with your intentions? Or do you just have a shame around casual sex?

SoAnxious · 2026-07-23T19:14:58+00:00

With a smile

laced1 · 2026-07-23T19:29:58+00:00

OP separates his recycling from his trash and feels guilty when he accidentally recycles water bottle caps instead of tossing them

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-07-23T19:07:09+00:00

perfectly normal.

I was like this for a long time, and still kind of am. If i have a girl that i enjoy talking to and sleeping with than i usually dont try with other women even if we arent "official". I basically had to force myself to do it more because i started realziing that women i was with werent closing themselves off as much as i thought they were early on. So i decided that unless there was certainty that we were going to be together for a while, i would still talk to women, and get dates, etc.

Flaming_S_Word · 2026-07-23T19:29:46+00:00

If you are casually fucking multiple women A. Without explicitly discussing your intentions to do so BEFORE she gets in your bed, and B. while having a sense that she really is looking for commitment,

Then I'd say you SHOULD feel guilty, that's healthy. It's be sociopathic not to. Lots of women are traumatized by fuckboys who feign sincere interest. Their insistence to do so is at once, understandable (as men most of us are invisible until we earn sexual respect, and it's intoxicating) and yet it poisons the well.

Fortunately these women get wise to it eventually.

There are PLENTY of women who are happy to be slutty and they won't mind one bit if you're sleeping around. I'd recommend getting it out with these women until you're feeling ready to commit.

How? Have your RBDSM talk early. Get clear.

GL

Thizzenie · 2026-07-23T20:02:46+00:00

Don't lie to them

Realwoujo · 2026-07-23T20:15:21+00:00

Just don't lie about what you are doing.

aeturnus95 · 2026-07-23T20:15:53+00:00

I mean unless you are committed to one single girl there is np betrayal and no guilt. So if you can't take the guilt don't committ

Affectionate-Bet-649 · 2026-07-23T20:22:32+00:00

this isn't everyones strategy but im straightforward honest (but not fully transparent) in the beginning.

imagine sleeping with multiple the same day. record was 3 in 24 hours completely unintentional.

justanothernormie_69 · 2026-07-23T19:00:08+00:00

Everyone is made differently. Some of the folks are very chill doing it, while others are in guilt. So chill man, just live your life happily.

Normal-Help-1337 · 2026-07-23T19:16:17+00:00

Practise

Discopotatoz · 2026-07-23T19:27:52+00:00

This is partly understanding how women operate and partly communication. If there is an agreement that you are exclusive, then your guilt is technically warranted. If you're sleeping with a girl routinely and she hasn't brought up exclusivity, either she believes you're exclusive without confirmation (most women know to confirm it and have the natural urge to confirm it) or she considers it casual and may be actively involved with other guys herself. You should know which it is, if you don't find out. If it's the latter, you should feel no guilt whatsoever. If this feeling is just a part of your being, then live with it and don't do it. Nothing wrong with being a one woman man, even in a casual sense.

Competitive_Dare4939 · 2026-07-23T19:53:34+00:00

because i know the woman do the exact same thing but will never tell us

Man_searching_a_life · 2026-07-23T19:58:00+00:00

There's nothing wrong. You are a man, and your mission in life is to spread your seed.

Miss_Galoldriel · 2026-07-23T20:06:47+00:00

I'm going to reply to this as a woman who's seeing more than one man because I feel like it's the same situation regardless of gender.

I simply tell the man I want to date that I'm already seeing other people, so he can choose whether he wants to continue or not. It's only casual, and so far I haven't met anyone who has had a problem with it. None of them want an exclusive relationship anyway.

There's really not much more to it than that: be honest about it, and let people decide for themselves.

purplethizzle · 2026-07-23T20:09:17+00:00

never put all of your eggs in one basket

TelephoneMediocre721 · 2026-07-23T20:13:27+00:00

Maybe thinking that they probably do the same with other guys, would help you not feeling guilty

Quiet_Rock_5696 · 2026-07-23T20:19:03+00:00

I'm the same way

Krazyflipz · 2026-07-23T20:28:00+00:00

If you have to ask you're not of the nature to do it without issue. Someone who sleeps with multiple women without issue doesn't stop and contemplate guilt.

YoungCaesar · 2026-07-23T20:42:08+00:00

if you found out, she was seeing/sleeping other guys how would you feel

ive seen a lot of guys do one way monagamy only to find out the girl he was seeing was seeing multiple men

Think_Reporter_8179 · 2026-07-23T20:43:52+00:00

They're best friends and sometimes join in, that's how.

Big_d0rk · 2026-07-23T19:05:20+00:00

you tell them before you sleep with them that you are seeing other people, its simple

adlersmut089 · 2026-07-23T19:32:09+00:00

Sex is healthy 🤷‍♂️

MalditosRelatos · 2026-07-23T19:47:55+00:00

Amigo en este mundo existe dos clases de hombres desde los tiempos antiguos los alpha y los beta y cada uno es mejor que otro dependiendo la etapa de la vida. Las mujeres buscan un Alpha ( un empotrador nato ) para follar. Las mujeres buscan un beta para cuando tienen instinto materno porque son mas fieles y protectores,en esa etapa ellas buscan protección y con un alpha no lo tienen.

Por lo que tienes instinto beta 😉.

Not_RZA_ · 2026-07-23T19:14:20+00:00

You weak minded 😂 get yo dik wet and move on

Title	How do you sleep with multiple women without feeling guilty?
Author	EquinosX
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Date	July 23, 2026 6:54 PM UTC (1 week ago)
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