How long were you able to keep a FWB?

Loco4Tacos143 · 2025-02-03T02:40:07+00:00

6 Months

She got a boyfriend. They eventually find a guy to replace you with if you dont ask her to be your gf.

InternationalSwan162 · 2025-02-03T02:30:38+00:00

They’ve typically gone like:

Hot early period ~1-3mo
then either: fizzles out (interest in others, busy life, moving away, etc) or someone catches feelings. Both of these have resulted in a reconnection around 1-2y out at least once (but not every time - feels rarer for this to happen)

Also I shouldn’t discount I’ve created actual friendships this way. Like pen pals that have a random/somewhat-steady stream of texts over the years.

Edit: I don’t count the one person I hook up with every Xmas bc that’s the only time we see each other as a FWB. That is just a different type of fling to me.

Fidel__CashFl0w · 2025-02-03T04:35:26+00:00

If you play it right, forever tbh. I’ve had some FWB that have turned into great friends afterwards and every now and then we hook up again. However, most of them do tend to stop talking to you as soon as they find someone else or get a BF. Which is completely fine and you should respect their boundaries and that’s the key to keeping them forever.

cruz_93-j · 2025-02-03T02:33:19+00:00

I’ve had one since last march. I actually see this person as an awesome friend who I can tell anything and everything to. Even about other girls.

Playful_Dot_537 · 2025-02-03T03:05:53+00:00

It runs the gamut. I dated a woman for a year, we decided the sex was amazing but the relationship wasn’t. So she was my FWB for another year and a half until I met my (now) wife and ended it.

rich_god · 2025-02-03T02:56:16+00:00

Really depends on how often you see each other. I have had one for like 3 years : we are part of this friends group that I see once or twice a year for like a week each time, we have sex, have threesomes, just have a good time and barely text each other for the next 6 months to one year.

Also some FWBs will go for a few months, then relationships happen and you stop for some time, then connect again when you’re available and so on.

And some of my best friends were former FWBs that consumed the sexual tension to become regular friendships.

There are so many different types of FWBs, don’t put it in a box.

Berg426 · 2025-02-03T07:30:15+00:00

I had a FWB for four years. It was very uncomplicated. She'd have me come over, meet me at the door in lingerie, oral, bedroom and then she'd give me a massage and we'd have lunch. It was lovely but unfortunately I had to move away. I gave her a Lily and a nice bottle of champagne on our last tryst before my flight out. Good times.

iluvreddit · 2025-02-03T02:55:47+00:00

It is close to impossible to keep a long term female friends with benefits. They always develop feelings or want to move on to a guy who is more "serious". I'm pretty certain gay dudes have tons of long term friends with benefits though.

akticker · 2025-02-03T05:15:48+00:00

Probably for over 20 years marriage, girlfriends, and everything we’re still together

Heavy-Repair-6306 · 2025-02-03T02:53:11+00:00

Don’t understand any of this. FWB 1-3 months but not dating ? Or dating 1-3 months then tried being FWB but kinda keep in touch ? Might I inquire as to what your / their attachment styles are/ were ?

BarbarousJudge · 2025-02-03T08:53:48+00:00

0 seconds. Never had one lol

SpinPlates · 2025-02-03T05:16:10+00:00

Years. Multiple years.

slutonvacation · 2025-02-03T05:19:40+00:00

Kinda off an on for a few months at a time, but they can go on like that for years.

tantackles · 2025-02-03T07:26:16+00:00

1 and half years, still going strong.

The USP is, she doesn't want a proper relationship, enjoys sex more than other aspects. 'Man coded', some may say.

Acrobatic-Till6382 · 2025-02-03T14:52:23+00:00

4 years , sometimes we don’t see each other for some months , we give us a time , but always come back to give a good F

Present_Button8829 · 2025-02-03T19:38:45+00:00

Until they find the guy they’re gonna replace you with

cashincheeeqs · 2025-02-03T04:03:44+00:00

Forever. I have her soul

timemachine099 · 2025-02-03T02:30:48+00:00

it never lasts long, the women always finds a new guy and then says her new boyfriend doesn't allow her to see you anymore. this is why I hate the idea of fwb's, they never last. Better to see long term relationships.

LikeyeaScoob · 2025-02-03T06:39:56+00:00

Like a month, month and a half maybe

Genesys86 · 2025-02-03T07:07:23+00:00

So far 11 months

Chase_bank · 2025-02-03T09:18:39+00:00

3 months, picked one to be my gf.

Direct-Signal-449 · 2025-02-03T16:41:43+00:00

4 years still going..

HardPork67 · 2025-02-03T22:54:40+00:00

Where do you guys even find Fwb as a guy? All the girls I knew were close-minded on it and only wanted a relationship.

Wing_Inevitable · 2025-02-03T09:23:43+00:00

A we were 18 when we met - we still fuck on occasion - so almost 10 years now.

She is married now. Though It is still ongoing

Trip_seize · 2025-02-03T10:05:42+00:00

We celebrated our 10 year anniversary in 2023.

Sadly she passed away last month.

Fine_Leather · 2025-02-04T12:29:45+00:00

Years with breaks. Eventually she wanted kids

poly_nerdy_panda · 2025-02-05T15:02:51+00:00

I have an fwb for about 5 years now shes a lawyer and doesn't want anything serious also she so busy and claims not to want to date other lawyers so I'm there to fill her needs..

The only thing that sucks about her is that sometimes I'm really busy or tired and she wants me randomly because she is super busy with her stuff.. a few times i went to the gym and just way to tired to get it up.. yes I go that hard at the gym but went to see her anyways and she got mad at me i couldn't stay hard but just ate her out till she cummed so she still keeps me around.. it just sucks she never plans ahead and I'm at the age now where if i know I'm getting laid i don't want to go to the gym and use all my energy

Severe_Customer_6870 · 2025-02-08T07:49:49+00:00

10 months of deep emotional and physical connection. 1 month of sex after that. Now she reconnected with her ex and I’m left hurt. She’s also my roommate

NBMV0420 · 2025-02-11T23:34:21+00:00

How many people have you been involved with as FWB? Where did you meet them?

VKend · 2025-02-03T10:32:23+00:00

Are fwbs okay to have morally?

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-02-03T10:37:13+00:00

I mean you are dealing with people here, not car transmissions.

Katut · 2025-02-03T11:04:35+00:00

3 years. Hasn't ended

Title	How long were you able to keep a FWB?
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Date	February 3, 2025 2:25 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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