It seems like the vast majority of men don’t have any control on their dating life, I can tell about myself and my friends that success is mostly based on how lucky you are, if the right person is in your social circle or if you approached tons of women (or less and got lucky ) but the point is that it’s mostly statistics and up to luck. The thing is, i know (very few) men that don’t rely on luck alone because they tend to always succeed with women, far more than their peers. Most of them are naturals. The thing is, is it possible to become like this yourself after certain age? And I’m not talking about edge cases of someone that had social anxiety and became extremely confident and charismatic or was obese and became fit and now looks like a model because he has good genetics or someone that became extremely rich. I’m talking about the around average hard working men with ambition and desire to improve. And if so how? Right now I’m trying to get out of my comfort zone more often and to improve my style etc, but have to admit that it’s very hard to improve, basically feels like I’m only trying more (and maybe still not enough) and not really having real improvement.