How psychopaths deal with rejection

alphabachelor · 2017-02-06T17:23:49+00:00

Interesting.

I have similar thought processes when it comes being rejected or anything negative.

Feeling sorry for myself has never got me a raise, a better job, learned a valuable skill, a hotter girl, increased my net worth or any sort of concrete, tangible growth.

If you stop moving forward, you die.

Choopytrags · 2017-02-06T23:47:47+00:00

Psilocybin for EVERYBODY!

gotitall · 2017-02-06T17:54:21+00:00

My interpretation of psychopathy is that it's basically when a person is able to optimize their own words and actions for their own self-interest with little to no concern for others. The definition generally centers around a lack of empathy. It doesn't always make them mean, bullies, but that they're only nice when they think it's in their self-interest. So being rejected would be frustrating, but the logic of playing the numbers would be enough to motivate them to keep trying and not to get hung up. In a way, they're superhuman: psychopaths will take chances and make sacrifices when normal people wouldn't. This is probably why so many CEOs of major corporations are psychopaths, because they can focus on making the company successful without concern for doing the right thing or who gets hurt along the way.

TooHoly999 · 2017-02-06T21:55:48+00:00

I once read about a famous case study in which the subject had a disorder that ceased all function in her amygdala. For those of you who don't know, the amygdala is the major part of our brain that is involved in rejection and risk taking. We can obviously see how this would benefit a PUA.

Our subject, "Patient X," was completely comfortable with situations that most of us would be fearful of. A side effect of this was getting mugged in dark alleys several times in her life, but we don't want to learn how to be okay with getting mugged. We want to be able to put on our lifejackets to prevent us from drowning in pussy.

One thing neurologists learned with previous studies of the amygdala was that it operates based on previous experiences. I'd venture to say many of you had a poor first time when it came to women, or else you wouldn't be here. Your amygdala has likely stored that response in the back of your mind, so it triggers the body to feel fearful at other times.

Therefore, one has to train their amygdala to not be afraid in social situations by allowing their more complex organ, the neocortex, to override the amygdala, causing it to not trigger. The only way to achieve this is with evidence. A rational mind needs evidence to change its behavior.

This might be an elaborate way of saying "just fucking do it you pussy," but I hope learning this information will help me in my path to be less socially anxious. I need to come to my own conclusions before I act, and in theory I'll be able to act on this tomorrow.

I hope I helped other people out there.

anothermonth · 2017-02-06T19:11:33+00:00

if I think something's against me at about 20:1, I'll put in 20 different proposals or versions to make sure I get what I want

FFS, that gets you only like 64% there, professor. Where did you get your PhD?

EDIT: I realize this is irrelevant to the topic, but still it irked me enough to comment. Other than that, good article.

Hoo-Doggies · 2017-02-07T02:46:16+00:00

We don't

ThorLives · 2017-02-07T03:39:55+00:00

Interesting. It made me think about my relationship to rejection. (It's always been difficult.) At the same time, I remember being the kid who felt bad for other kids in school. I remember being in first grade and there was one girl who was a little odd so the other kids would make fun of her. I felt bad for her, and refused to participate in the bullying. I never really thought about how empathy for other people and feeling bad about rejection might being connected.

xrispy7 · 2017-02-07T04:06:47+00:00

I know that if you are not a psycho-path you can handle rejection by NOT GIVING A FUCK about the result (Unless it of course is harmful in any way).

When it comes to getting rejected by girls, I used to care alot then over time I grew thick skin and laugh in the face of rejection. Sometimes girl's shit test me now and I think "That was your shit test?...". Eventually you realize a girl never really rejects you at first, it's all a big test to see how you respond. GL Go out there and Get rejected! then Laugh and move on you will realize that rejection does not matter one bit, and it's actually helpful. Why? Because you are not meant to fuck every single person you hit on anyways. Rejection is more of a natural genetic filtering process, so if you get rejected early on it actually is saving you the time. ~Xrispy

Read_everything_ · 2017-02-07T16:14:33+00:00

TL;DR eat shrooms before approaching

jediog420 · 2017-02-07T19:22:45+00:00

Here is my 2 step program to help you out step 1 don't give a fuck step 2 go back to step 1 and penetrate the world

Cantloginhere · 2017-02-06T18:35:03+00:00

That was an interesting article. When I was younger late teens early 20s I was especially logical, carefree, I felt totally in control of my emotions. Now I am older I often feel overwhelmed and stress can cause anxiety.

I believed this was likely testosterone related, but looking back it was a period that I took magic Ms, when they were in season.

I was aware of the referenced cancer patient study and I ordered some truffles a few weeks ago. First batch was stolen by the courier grr. Second arrived last week.

So far seem to have cured the fear of not smoking. Be interesting to see what else changes with very small doses.

publicmemenynum1ne · 2017-02-07T07:01:33+00:00

Pretty much this dude is my spirit animal. I used to feel super rejected a lot and get all depressed and then I though "why do I let others govern my life like this?" And I just turned that part of my brain off basically, now I'm like him I could give a shit less, unless I deliberately hurt someone's feelings of course. Other than that nobody has the power to govern my emotions.

blondedre3000 · 2017-02-07T08:25:06+00:00

Fitting that it was posted on r/okcupid

shitsfuckedupalot · 2017-02-07T15:36:07+00:00

I got dumped last night and i feel like i had the same thought process. "What did i do wrong?" and "what else could i do". Still kinda hurts tho.

Richard_Darx · 2017-02-13T15:13:37+00:00

You wanna know how psychopaths deal with rejection? Try visiting r/niceguys

Big_TX · 2017-02-06T22:42:24+00:00

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Title	How psychopaths deal with rejection
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