How to take the conversation in a flirting direction

ilikepizza2004 · 2022-09-20T22:39:24+00:00

Be friendly first and subtly flirt as a joke if they do it back very slowly increase, if they don’t or seem to pull away take it back a no h and go back to friendly, focus on them not you

Jdollarthegreat · 2022-09-20T22:56:48+00:00

Game is just holding the conversation. Then when opportunity presents itself you throw in your witty jabs like a boxing match.

petkoTHEVIKING · 2022-09-20T23:05:37+00:00

Break the touch barrier and just make your conversations playful. The easiest way for me is to lightly tease the other person.

Risk__Creepy · 2022-09-21T08:21:22+00:00

All flirting should be non-verbal. It's what works best, by far. Things such as seductive eye contact, listening and not talking, blinking slowly, etc. It is the alpha and omega of seduction theory.

The-Dude0411 · 2022-09-20T22:41:38+00:00

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incognito3107 · 2022-09-21T07:14:19+00:00

Sexual tension is always in the air to some extent, you should just escalate it, but not release it. Mention some slightly sexual topic in casual context, tell a story that would present your high value in non-artificial manner, make some very subtle compliment about her sexual feature, use your voice and intonation like you would be in intimate situation etc. Just go straight to the point, but make very little steps. And give her space to maker her moves on you.

hotrodcool · 2022-09-21T05:14:55+00:00

Don't be boring! A woman that's 36 going on a date(s) with a 21yo guy is doing so because she wants to feel the thrill of youth. So be yourself, but your FUN self.

Don't straight up lie! But it really helps when you can be playful and embellish for the sake of obvious entertainment. Women LOOOOVE to be entertained, at any age. Story telling is becoming a lost art as the younger generation comes to adulthood, but is definitely a skill to keep a woman engaged. When you tell her a story, say it with interest and passion. If you are just saying the logical facts she will get bored of you quick and probably just go and find another 21yo guy.

You can say something like, "...oh yes, I'm a millionaire in disguise. Made my big break selling feet pics on OF. Maybe one day I'll take you on my yacht." She'll obviously know you're lying, but if she is playful with you, that's your opportunity to just play with her back and it light and fun. Chances are, that's what she wants. Make her feel fun and happy with you and you're in.

Easier said than done, but good luck!

TruSiris · 2022-09-21T02:31:57+00:00

this is interesting timing. i'm 35m and just matched with a 44yo woman on okc who I felt a lot of attraction towards, just off her profile and the way she responded to my initial message. I know I'm talking about OLD but same or at least similar rules apply... My initial message I just jumped off of something that I resonated with in her profile and took what she had already said a step further and also made a subtle joke about how it relates to me personally.

In her reply she laughed at my joke and took the joke a step further. and also mentioned some circumstantial details about herself.

In my response, which I literally just sent, I addressed most of what she said but not everything and told her that I felt like we should just meet for tea to continue the conversation bc I appreciate her easy going energy and included a "(but ur probably batshit bonkers)" at the end of that. so basically included the flirt off of my own statement/request. easy.

When we meet up(I feel confident based on her tone and interest that she will be a yes) I will >>slowly<< escalate the flirtatiousness til it becomes sexual and we are engaging in a physically intimate way.

Unless it's a situation where you and her are at a bar or club and obviously trying to hook up, you shouldn't take it in a sexual direction too early. That's like shoving your dick in before she's actually aroused, you will experience friction.

In person it can def be more challenging/ intimidating to initiate that energy with women, but if I feel a mutual attraction and comfortability it just rolls right out without thinking about it. It's literally an instinctual part of the human psyche. You just gotta access that instinct.

MK2718 · 2022-09-21T08:05:22+00:00

Fundamentals of Flirting (How to Flirt in a Fun and Comfortable Way)

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-09-21T13:15:02+00:00

35+ chick going out with a 20 year old means she wanted to get pounded by a young stud 😆. She definitely wasn't looking for a relationship there bud.

watchyourheadtop · 2022-09-21T17:52:47+00:00

Flirtatiousness comes from the tone of your voices, the way you make eye contact when giving compliments, the subtle touches on the side of the arm, a light pat on the back (not in a Pervy way lol). This lets her know your not afraid, your confident, and she’ll pick up that your flirting with her. Women ain’t dumb. If she rolls with it, keep going, but don’t come off desperate. If she isn’t rolling with it, lay off, you don’t want to make her uncomfortable. When giving compliments, give subtle compliments about there body, face and eyes. Don’t over sexualize it, cause she gonna think your a creep, and this is where a lot of guys mess up nowadays, not saying you. There’s more to it, if you have more questions, hit my dms, and I’ll help you with as much as I can

-TheDownsideUp- · 2022-09-21T01:12:09+00:00

I’m 23M going on a date with a 34F next week and not entirely sure what to expect. Did you go into the date with a different game plan than what u would with someone your age?

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-09-21T04:03:29+00:00

Compliment isn’t flirting. Unless its playful

For ex, basic compliment: ur gorgeous tonite

Playful flirt: u look sexy in that dress. How did u know thats my type/fav color?

Ps: lotta techniques on flirting. One of them is twisting. For ex: she says she’s a manager. And u go “..so u like to be on top..”.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-09-21T08:16:15+00:00

For me, the easiest getaway is always teasing, tease them about what they wear and what assumptions you have about it, the way they talk or look at you and it doesn't really matter when you start to imply it, another that I usually use is just playfully shittest her it makes them wanna prove that they good enough for you so it's always useful as well. you don't have to be that clever with your words but it helps ofc if you can use them well but it's better if you have a few things that you can try out and if something doesn't work out or she just resist it or ignore it just try out something else

boxinsideme · 2022-09-22T13:19:55+00:00

You've gotten a lot of great advice here already, so I'll add this one since I didn't see it - and this advice goes for both when you're on the date building attraction and later when you're in the bedroom: to create attraction you should build tension. Increase the tension between you and her incrementally up up up getting intense getting closer and so very close and then release it. Break the tension, bring things back to baseline. Let her regain her composure for a moment and then start going up up up again and get even closer so very fucking close it just wants to fucking be there already and stop. Break the tension. Bring it back down. Build it back up.

404_No_User_Found · 2022-09-21T01:35:56+00:00

This is probably going to sound weird, but as a guy, my head game is to basically convince myself I am talking to a friend UNTIL she says something that can even be moderately construed as overtly sexual. Get your mindset back to building rapport before all else; give respect instead of telegraphing intent, genuinely, and you’re in with even the smallest spark being present.

TwoGeese · 2022-09-21T03:47:01+00:00

As a middle aged F I would also offer another approach to just be honest. Clearly she is interested in you. If a guy I was interested in just said “Look I’m really not good at flirting but I find you very attractive” I would be HIS. Your approach of being honest and being yourself is spot on.

Successful-Brain8872 · 2022-09-21T13:16:38+00:00

Nice

tinyservant · 2022-09-21T13:59:33+00:00

Just imagine all the time she did some freaky stuff with someone. She already knows what's on your mind, so why beat around the bush? ;)

Gaffa_futi · 2022-09-21T15:13:00+00:00

You want to start off with normal conversation depending how you met. Sexual innuendos work, start off with a hint and double meaning to guage a response. If it's positive you escalate it bit by bit. Read her body language too, if she is showing signs of ease with you, you're doing fine.

Break the touch barrier by offerring to hold her hand or crack a joke with nothing between you two - if she touches first, that's the sign.

Martymcflyjr88 · 2022-09-21T16:04:52+00:00

Tease her

Shoddy-Youth-7550 · 2022-09-21T20:10:41+00:00

Lol I just think about sex from the beginning and the rest takes care of itself Don’t be nervous. Remember you’re in control

zapadz · 2022-09-21T00:36:31+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1uucwvSpw0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x1AfaKShTe4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqYJ_6lLI6o

yeahthatslifedarling · 2022-09-21T03:35:34+00:00

Thing is, people usually put you in boxes.

The same girl will tell you you're a disgraceful pervert because you didn't say please, and will tell another guy to call her a slutty bitch for the whole night.

It's all about who you are, and if you come off as congruent

As to how to flirt, that's easy when you know the perfect definition of flirt : talk about sex without mentioning sex

The-Dude0411 · 2022-09-20T22:50:55+00:00

You buried the lead. Does does someone with no game go on a date with a 36 year old? Show us your process.

humbledrumble · 2022-09-21T01:33:14+00:00

Change the subject and ask her: "when was the last time you were tied up?"

The-Dude0411 · 2022-09-21T13:56:51+00:00

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norkata · 2022-09-21T19:46:29+00:00

"You look so established and successful! Wanna be my suga mama?"

WanyCaleb · 2022-09-21T05:35:41+00:00

Well well well 36 vs 21.

JSHowtodraw · 2022-09-21T01:49:37+00:00

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I think that's how you do it.

Reasonable-Cold-69 · 2022-09-21T01:07:31+00:00

...How to flirt? C'mon man that gets asked like every week here. We can give SOME advice, but you know there's no quick 5 minute guide to having good conversations for hours.

Idealbug67 · 2022-09-21T15:10:21+00:00

Like shell say im hiring for a job or something and you say something like job? You dont need a job you can work for me

cryptosis420 · 2022-09-21T15:47:52+00:00

More touching. Give hugs hold hands kiss

2022-09-21T17:31:29+00:00

Sounds cute. Talk about painting her toes and being a domestic sub.

ModernBeach · 2022-09-21T19:45:26+00:00

Why don’t you just tell her how you feel? Wouldn’t that be refreshing.

Title	How to take the conversation in a flirting direction
Author	The-Dude0411
Upvotes	217
Comments	84
Date	September 20, 2022 10:33 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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