I did it!

_louisquezada · 2019-12-12T15:42:05+00:00

That’s a start bro! Keep at it, you only go up from here on out ✊🏽

caesarfecit · 2019-12-12T17:17:14+00:00

Taking action is better than not. That must be said.

Learning to approach women is a little bit like exposure therapy or weight training. The secret is to start with what you can do, and then slowly but steadily push your envelope.

If the most you can get yourself to do competently is walk up to someone and ask them the time, or some similarly banal question, that's a start. Then you build from that by maybe using some normal-ish opinion opener. Or maybe work on approaching people in your social circle first, striking up conversations with co-workers and classmates. Not for pickup (you're probably not there yet), but for getting used to approaching people you might not know that well and starting conversations.

Then you can move on to cold approaching women and starting conversations. Work on things like making good eye contact, and breaking the touch barrier at the right time. Then from there all that's really left is to escalate by asking for her number or saying the two of you should grab coffee/a drink.

The secret to making it up this learning curve is to not plateau, but always seek to do just a little bit more. Remember that a steady series of incremental gains is more certain and does more good than impulsive big pushes.

Reverenter · 2019-12-12T18:35:35+00:00

Mentally frame the experience as a mission accomplished. If she contacts you, that is just a bonus victory. If you or any of us judged ourselves solely on desired outcome, we would all consider ourselves failures.

koolafaye · 2019-12-12T19:48:03+00:00

One day I'll be able to walk and talk to ladies, one day.

WereWolfBoy · 2019-12-12T17:15:04+00:00

Hope she messages you. But if she doesn't. Plenty of fish in the sea!

G3RDAS · 2019-12-12T19:25:54+00:00

The way you have described your approach is a very good technique one can use if afraid/scared.

Nicely done! Good luck!

Kiwitor · 2019-12-12T21:22:51+00:00

Keep us updated man, good luck

thegtd22 · 2019-12-12T17:50:08+00:00

Congrats! I’d love it if a guy approached me in real life, kudos to you for having the courage to put yourself out there :)

aYoFoRyAyO99 · 2019-12-12T17:35:01+00:00

Atta boy, you & i have similar taste in women

ZlatanAgrees · 2019-12-12T19:24:54+00:00

Well you did more than me in 3 years at the uni. So congratz

CrypticSocket · 2019-12-12T18:32:55+00:00

Wow. I'm waiting for such a day!!

addy16a2 · 2019-12-12T17:20:58+00:00

That's great man. Just one little advice: ask her number instead of giving yours, and say you'll call sometime.

puncakes · 2019-12-12T23:46:42+00:00

feminine body

lol. Forreal though, good job.

Acai31 · 2019-12-13T01:04:09+00:00

Girl: why's this guy keep looking at me? puts away lunch tray and the dude gives him a paper with his name on it Girl: why's this guy so creepy? puts on fake smile haha and quickly leaves

mahatma-yandhi · 2019-12-12T18:42:13+00:00

My man! Great work, you can be proud of yourself.

McBlakey · 2019-12-12T21:07:40+00:00

Well done Bro. It's scary but you did well.

Kenic_In_MD · 2019-12-12T21:26:29+00:00

Nice!!! Everyone has to start somewhere! good work OP

RangerMain · 2019-12-12T21:26:47+00:00

Damn bro you have balls of steel. I still can’t do that but one day ☝️

Goldenpanda18 · 2019-12-12T22:27:29+00:00

Action always beats no action! Big ups brotha

garciaman · 2019-12-12T23:05:38+00:00

Gotta start working on that game , good job dude.

unscenteddisaster · 2019-12-13T00:31:19+00:00

Please leave a follow up. It’d be awesome to find out.

duraJESSic · 2019-12-13T09:42:12+00:00

I'm invested on this one. Keep us posted pleaase 😭

legolos87 · 2019-12-12T17:16:14+00:00

Congrats dude! you can do it.

heavyshtetl · 2019-12-12T18:58:50+00:00

It takes balls to do that, but randomly dropping them your number is not a recipe for success. Chances are she won’t text you back. She might have been open to something, but you likely disqualified yourself by taking the easy road. I’ve been there man. It’s a lesson you learn quickly. Just don’t think anything of it if she doesn’t contact you.

2019-12-12T19:29:21+00:00

Some guy will tell you that’s creepy and you’re wrong for doing that. While it is imo, it’s also a good start and you’re on the right track. Next time, get the words out during the situation. You make eye contact and she does and smiles back, approach her. At this point, tell yourself there’s no excuse. If you get rejected in public, I notice a lot of people laugh/smile but they don’t laugh at you they laugh out of respect because you shot your shot. Reframe your thoughts and take action. Peace, love and prosperity 💜

Luffywara · 2019-12-13T00:04:08+00:00

I did a similar thing the other day, i was at a cafe studying and this girl was sitting across from me, and everytime i look up our eyes met, and i left her a note with my number via the waiter lol

judahman8 · 2019-12-13T00:52:00+00:00

Well done. Do it 100 more times and it will get a lot easier. Do it 1000 times and you won't even think about it.

Cartoonsocks · 2019-12-13T00:55:12+00:00

This is perfect. Just forward enough

mistanuggets · 2019-12-13T02:56:22+00:00

Great job 👍

yurp62 · 2019-12-13T03:47:41+00:00

You're on your way kid...

nikko_novilla · 2019-12-13T03:47:42+00:00

Proud of u bro 🙏

Latinguy4321 · 2019-12-13T07:36:20+00:00

Takes guts man.. hopefully she hyu!👍🏻

clitorally-minded · 2019-12-13T09:20:41+00:00

I know I can still do a lot better, but that was my first try and I almost shit my pants.

Each time, it gets easier.

MisterB0wTie · 2019-12-13T13:00:29+00:00

Creating opportunities is just fine. Well done!

PapalStates26 · 2019-12-13T13:38:00+00:00

Just don't tell her that you almost shat your pants. But still keep up the good work! Good luck with the relationship.

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-14T01:48:58+00:00

OP, good for you! That was the right move no matter the outcome!

Xazax310 · 2019-12-15T12:21:57+00:00

Good on you, takes some balls to do that. Keep going!

rikivip · 2019-12-12T21:46:36+00:00

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dragonrose88 · 2019-12-12T22:58:07+00:00

dude i WISH men approached me like this. it’s extremely flattering. kudos to you my dude

farckashkun · 2019-12-12T20:30:47+00:00

Congratulations bro! Maybe next time get her to give you the number so there's less chances she'll ghost you

darkbluegetsbetter · 2019-12-13T05:21:17+00:00

It really is that simple to take the first step! Happy for you! Now you owe us an update!

SpanishIntuition · 2019-12-12T21:22:44+00:00

I HAVE to reiterate this. Please test it so you Know I'm telling the truth. Your brain has MILLIONS of years of seduction experience and when you go against it your brain screams "NOOOOOOOO!!!" that's what nervousness and approach anxiety is.

Your brain wants YOU to be the guy. In other words it wants YOU to Only qualify the women so that THEY end up picking YOU up.

Now I will give you a step by step example to use.

Imagine a scale from 1 to 10. 1 being Zero anxiety. 10 being High anxiety.

I want you to imagine yourself walking up to the hottest women on the street or on campus and NOT picking them up.
What's your anxiety level at?

Your objective is to walk up to a woman and NOT get her number and not give her yours. For these four weeks you ONLY open her up with Exactly what your brain Wants you to open her up with. Raw honesty.

Two scenarios: Scenario 1: walk up to her like a twitching bitch with a mustard stain on your shirt and go.. "Jee um hi.. we're in the same class together and uh.. did u get that homework info?" What's your anxiety level here?

Scenario 2: No mustard stains, well dressed in appearance. Clean. ALWAYS be clean. Walk up to her slowly with intent. Touch her gently GENTLY on the arm and say "I couldn't help but notice.. and I had to come and say... your eyes.. look amazing." Or any other hyper honest response your brain wants you to give about her facial features, shoes, dress, confidence in walk etc... What is your anxiety level here? Use your mind like one of those star trek holodecks. Test scenarios, pause, rewind. You HAVE to pick the scenario where anxiety is the lowest. THAT is the correct scenario.

So, now you open her with the most honest evolutionary Male centered response.

NEXT, qualify her. "Listen.. I know every person's different. But on a scale of 1 to 10.. 1 being super introverted and shy and 10 being hyper confident, where would you rate yourself?" "hmmm.. really? Honestly I'd say I'm maybe around a 6. I'm outgoing but at times I can be a bit introverted and shy." "Well let me ask you this. Let's say there was a guy who was direct and honest about how he feels. And another guy who was.. kinda sneaky and indirect.." *make a snake motion with your hand. "Would you prefer the guy who was sneaky? Or a guy who was honest straightforward and more direct?" Why's that? Cool.. Many discussion paths will open up here. Let it flow.

Now.. "hey here's a weird one for you. You're in a forest and you're approached by a protective spirit animal. Is it a Lion.. stallion.. eagle.. or wolf?" "Hmmm.. and if you had a second choice, which animal would it be?"

Then describe the qualities of men she's drawn to based on those two animals that apply to you. "You're drawn to guys who are straight forward but also easy going and in control. They're ambitious but also look out for their friends. I like that."

"If you had a million dollars how would you use it to help people? "

Create as many qualifying questions as you can that generate zero anxiety.

NOW the break away. "Hey listen I need to head out, it was really nice talking to you. We should do this again sometime."

At this point if she's not a reddit user she WILL give you her number. Give her a light kiss on the cheek and say goodbye.

Continue to modify your approach scenarios in your mind until anxiety comes down as low as possible. The Zero anxiety approaches are the right approaches.

2019-12-12T19:43:03+00:00

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Title	I did it!
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Date	December 12, 2019 3:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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