I turned religious then stopped Cold Approaching altogether

ExcellentPlace4608 · 2025-06-05T13:54:58+00:00

How will you find a wife if you don't engage with women?

musicbyMOE · 2025-06-05T13:41:56+00:00

Bro can you not think for yourself?

Iceheads · 2025-06-05T14:04:12+00:00

Jesus christ. You can still talk to women.

ProfitisAlethia · 2025-06-05T13:55:49+00:00

Why does approaching have to lead to sex?

thai-rhone · 2025-06-05T13:48:23+00:00

Cold approaching is not a sin. You can find good women who would be grateful that you are not trying to have sex with them before marriage

fakis1 · 2025-06-05T14:11:20+00:00

Your options sound like throw your life away or enjoy life in the present….

Easy choice from where I’m standing

You will 100% regret the decision if you choose not to approach

Also how can you meet a wife and know you like this person to spend the rest of your life with ? If you have no comparisons and you aren’t approaching anyone

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-06-05T14:13:34+00:00

You're clearly still torn if you're still posting this on the seduction sub lol

PUA19124 · 2025-06-05T14:50:13+00:00

Don't drink the Kool aid

norwegiandoggo · 2025-06-05T13:41:24+00:00

Yes, I think you'll have regrets.

Religion is absolutely terrible and you should reverse course immediately. Look at how they are already trying to control your sex life by shaming you!

Religion is just a tool to control and fool people. It's always about power and mind control. Gaslighting people into believing nonsense, to benefit the religious leaders and their goals.

And they especially want to control their member's sex lives. Telling you exactly when you can have sex, with whom, and under what conditions. It's about control.

Religion is like a more complicated Diddy party. But instead of Diddy telling people who they can and cannot fuck - It's the priest or church leader who gets to decide.

Ok_Potential359 · 2025-06-05T14:20:32+00:00

I don’t get why you’re resisting your natural urges.

Saving yourself until marriage, why? What purpose does it serve? You’ve already banged dude. There’s no celibacy now.

Sexual compatibility is a thing. Imagine waiting until you’re married to find out your libidos are completely out of sync or there’s something off with the chemistry.

I’ve had sex with women where their natural musk completely turned me off or they completely gushed while we were banging and my bed would be completely soaked.

I’ve banged women where their vagina was too lippy and had sex where everything fit perfectly.

What exactly is the game plan if you walk into a dead bedroom situation? I guess deny yourself pleasure and resent the woman you’re supposed to love for the rest of your life?

And what if she isn’t celibate, what then? You’re completely manufacturing restriction on your life. For what end? To have less partners to choose from? What if she’s a slutty slut, your values gonna stop you there too?

Do you really think marriage is really this holy thing anymore when marriage is defined by a certificate? You can get married in Vegas, in a barn, it’s irrelevant.

Divorce is at its highest point nowadays. What happens if you get married and your wife divorces you over losing your job? What if she gets sick? What if.

I’ve slept with married women before, twice in fact. It’s not so pure. It shatters your perception of sanctity when that happens. Loyalty is only prevalent when you’re both emotionally invested, which doesn’t happen without sex.

Your path of martyrdom is one of denial and trying to romanticize and idolize a construct that hasn’t been respected for generations. Society enables choice. Marriage and divorce come and go as seasonal snacks.

Logically and statistically you are playing yourself.

amlextex · 2025-06-05T14:09:31+00:00

As a future zen priest, while I cannot lust, I can still have sex with women I truly love. This is grounded on no harm, no attachment principle.

Where does a zen priest find love? I suppose out in the world. Either she finds me or I find her.

AlphaBetaSigmaNerd · 2025-06-05T14:18:52+00:00

Not the right sub for that question my man

Hillman314 · 2025-06-05T14:37:56+00:00

You are asking if you should stay out of the dating game until you find a wife? ….and then go back in? Go for it. Religion lets you absolve your sins.

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-06-05T14:48:39+00:00

So what you are saying is every time you talk to any woman, they instantly jump you and you have sex?

How about, that confidence you created from cold approach, you use for talking to religious women, and you just cut out the sexual escalation.

I am assuming as you can talk to any woman and it leads to sex so well, to the point, that you need to stop talking to women, that your social skills are pretty good.

Socialising is not just about sex.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-06-05T15:01:50+00:00

Sex before marriage might be a sin. But religion also says we are all born with sin by default and gives us a way to redeem ourselves (because god is all-forgiving) by confessing in church to the priest. So just have sex, then confess your sin to the priest. Problem solved. That's how they do it in south american and african countries.

GOVERNORSUIT · 2025-06-05T16:19:24+00:00

lf ur religious, u dont need to cold aproach. theres plenty of people to meet at your mosque or church in a more socially acceptable way. you also get way more introductions when youre in a religion

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-06-05T17:35:44+00:00

This is why I don’t find any religion compatible with modern life. Even mormon is viral with their soaking method lol. Always try to find a loophole, their subconscious probably tells them their god can be tricked.

TruthTaco · 2025-06-05T13:56:53+00:00

most religions are toxic, I'm sorry to hear you've been sucked into one.
I doubt doing cold approaches is against your religion. You can still do cold approaches as a way to meet women. What happens after you meet them is up to both of you, you don't have to have sex before marriage just because you cold approached.

Unique-Trade356 · 2025-06-05T13:51:47+00:00

I mean depending on the religion I mean you can just meet the women at church and bang them/marry.

DreamShort3109 · 2025-06-05T14:30:24+00:00

Don’t ignore your subconscious self. The most regret that Christians that left had was that they put off their lives for the religion.

In other words, don’t let the religion dictate your life, you just enjoy it as you wish. And if someone tells you to surrender your whole life to the religion, that’s toxic. I know from experience and don’t want others to go down that same path.

sophist16 · 2025-06-05T14:33:01+00:00

…wait, this is a serious question?

So a wife just pops up out of nowhere?

nathynwithay · 2025-06-05T14:29:07+00:00

Being religious (evangelical) up to my mid-20s ruined my life.

TeachMePersuasion · 2025-06-05T14:09:02+00:00

I hate how everyone is ragging on your new religious status, instead of approaching the actual issue at hand.

If you don't mind being celibate, that's great. Fewer sexual partners means a higher probability of marital success.

However... as you date these women, ask yourself: Does she WANT to fuck you? If there's clear, unresolved sexual tension, but no aex, that's a good thing. If there's no sex or no sexual tension, gigantic red flag. Better you marry a slut than a woman that will never, ever fuck you.

EquinosX · 2025-06-05T14:19:52+00:00

I have found church girls by cold approaching. You find many different people by cold approaching

Title	I turned religious then stopped Cold Approaching altogether
Author	Electro525
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Date	June 5, 2025 1:38 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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