If you are feeling down for some weeks should your gf leave you or should she support you?

ChicoBrillo · 2022-04-06T20:00:31+00:00

Context is key here. Ideally your partner is supportive, but it’s also on you to not put undue stress on your partner. They have to do this life thing too and it’s not easy for them either. You should work on it yourself and be specific with your partner on how they can help you (ie, “can I have a hug?” Or “I just need to be alone right now”)

Y615 · 2022-04-06T20:40:36+00:00

This could be one of those testing times.

If she supports you uninitiated,wife her up after dealing with your shit!

imahoaxandacoach · 2022-04-06T19:58:39+00:00

When Im down I tend to isolate, I dont like people around. With that said, everyone is different, I had girlfriends who liked to be supportive and other not so nice. Whatever you do, dont expect someone to be supportive forever (can feel like babysitting unfortunately). But I never hid it, just told them I was not ok and that was that.

Upset-Temperature · 2022-04-06T20:01:43+00:00

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MrMacDoctor · 2022-04-06T22:44:47+00:00

Don't overthink it

MissionAd399 · 2022-04-07T00:31:24+00:00

In a good world she absolutely should support you, in this evil world it’s likely she’ll find it weak and be turned off by it even if it’s subconsciously. Personally I wouldn’t be with a woman who couldn’t support me when I’m feeling down

SnooPandas3915 · 2022-04-06T19:56:58+00:00

You shouldn’t let your feelings be your girlfriends problem

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-06T19:58:06+00:00

Anything, but exhaust your girlfriend. Your depressed feelings are your responsibility, and your shit to deal with.

False_Bear_8645 · 2022-04-06T21:32:53+00:00

If she can't support you in your hard time, she is not even your friend. She's just a person you happen to fuck

zackit · 2022-04-06T22:12:43+00:00

What SHOULD she do, according to my personal moral values? Support you, as long as you're not whining every waking minute and actively trying to better your position. That's why it's called support. She's supporting you in your battle.

What WOULD she do? I mean, women are not a hivemind with the same exact factory settings, but... female nature can be a bitch. If you are perceived as weak, and losing your value to her, she's probably moving on.

cronasminate · 2022-04-07T05:32:40+00:00

I personally don't know. I think a girl should be able to support you if you are the type to be depressed all the time. I'm just never depressed which works out for me. I can't stand being helpless nor can I stand being around people who are always depressed. If you have a problem, implement a solution. There is no point in moping around and over-thinking. Be your own hero. You need that fire that burns within to fuck over anyone or anything that gets in your happiness. So be highly methodical and relentless towards your goals. Don't let life push you around. Your will is the one thing you have control over.

It's like deadpool who doesn't let go of his humor even as he is about to die. Or samurai warrios who keep their pride til death. I'd rather die and keep my will to fight than psychological give up and live.

romantasaurushex · 2022-04-06T20:23:53+00:00

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No-Historian-6391 · 2022-04-06T22:23:01+00:00

Depends on how long you’ve been together, what the problem is, and how it’s affecting her

TwoTomatoMe · 2022-04-06T23:01:42+00:00

We all need a little support sometimes. But making a post without context asking if your gf has an obligation to make your problem hers most likely means you might be the problem. But if your concern is legit, then break up and move on. Don’t be a little bitch.

Mriconicdev · 2022-04-06T23:14:55+00:00

Explain more. Are you doing anything about it or just feeling sorry for yourself?

marblemaniac0113 · 2022-04-07T01:24:57+00:00

You should 100% be able to talk to your partner. They may not agree or even validate your feelings but they should understand that those ARE your feelings. We are all human. It's ok too be bummed once I'm a while but that should motivate you to improve what's bothering you or practice self care. Do something you truly enjoy! Walk in nature, go to a museum or the beach somewhere where you can be peaceful. Meditation is great! You should never have to hide your feelings, if you do you are with the wrong person. Support just means listening to you and being an anchor to hold onto. They probably will not understand what you are going through but they should at least recognize that it is impt to you and not shut you down. Good luck man, depression sucks. If this is a long term thing maybe try research on what foods to eat and exercise or visit a physician.

AmethystQueen736 · 2022-04-07T01:43:13+00:00

More info needed. What exactly do you mean by “feeling down”? What led to the feeling? How have you been expressing the feeling?

PuroPincheGains · 2022-04-07T02:15:47+00:00

Depends what you mean. If you've been laying around refusing to work, cook, clean, or bathe yourself and are spiraling into something then sure she should probably leave. Life is hard enough, she can't be responsible for your self worth and happiness too. You usually have to figure that stuff out before you can have a healthy relationship. If you've felt sad because your old doggy died, and just don't really want to go out or whatever, she should stay. Depends what you mean, and I have a feeling you didn't represent your actions in their entirety hear.

betterme2610 · 2022-04-07T04:45:49+00:00

It’s ultimately not her problem. I recently broke up with a gal who just laid in bed all day for months. Wouldn’t work, wouldn’t leave the house. The energy got unbearable. I know she has some things to work on and I’m sad and empathetic, but being in that relationship really sucked me down. The right balance is having a supportive partner as YOU work on YOUR issues in a productive and active way.

marianoktm · 2022-04-07T10:12:20+00:00

Context is important, but in general she should help you but not in an invasive manner, and she MUST take care of herself too.

You should never hide discomfort, pain, feeing down or anything else. If it's your girlfriend, you should be yourself and don't fear anything around her.

Just do not stress her too much and do something yourself to feel better too, and be grateful if she helps you.

Robofrogg1 · 2022-04-07T11:56:22+00:00

A little support is one thing, but never EVER make your gf your therapist.

WilhelmTrooper · 2022-04-07T14:09:09+00:00

Coooooontext

grdngrl68 · 2022-04-07T19:54:45+00:00

Woman here. I feel she should be supportive, because a good relationship is about give and take and being there for each other in good times and bad. A relationship is a 2 way street, so support should be given mutually, not just one sided (with the intent that you are supporting her on her bad days too.)

A key factor in this however, is communication. You can't expect your girlfriend to be supportive if you just put a wall up and not let her in and expect her to be there for you regardless. That goes both ways as well. That being said, if you are effectively communicating and she's still not willing to be there, then you're probably better off finding someone more understanding and willing to give 50-50 in your relationship.

_526 · 2022-04-06T23:54:40+00:00

As a man it's not her responsibility to make you happy. Whatever you got going on is your problem to fix, but she should support you in doing that.

miguetran · 2022-04-07T09:35:52+00:00

Your girlfriend definitely should be supportive if you are down once in a while. If she doesn't then she is not a quality girlfriend.

Title	If you are feeling down for some weeks should your gf leave you or should she support you?
Author	SSCharles
Upvotes	17
Comments	44
Date	April 6, 2022 7:54 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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