Is getting my ex back "masculine"

Warm_Pineapple9440 · 2026-02-22T02:25:23+00:00

To be quite honest, from the way you describe her, she does not sound emotionally healthy either. Being "obsessed" with someone is not a good sign for a relationship.

Critical-Common9209 · 2026-02-22T02:53:00+00:00

Just move on.

TheCaribbeanRedditor · 2026-02-22T16:29:12+00:00

Send her an apology, move on, and continue to work on yourself.

If she decides to come back to you that's up to her.

vertascend · 2026-02-22T02:08:03+00:00

Yes, it’s not masculine, you will lose all credibility and respect for not sticking to your words.

A man sees his word through to the end, you call the other guy simp but you’d be no different if you try and get her back saying “I’m sorry, I’ve changed”

Suck it up, move on and live with the decisions you’ve made, never apologize, unless it was an accident… in this case you knew exactly what you were doing

The rest is history, that’s my advice, do what you want with it

letoiv · 2026-02-22T03:38:48+00:00

It's both easier and more productive to focus on improving yourself and finding other women. What you have is called one-itis. It's always a recipe for failure. She's doing what she's doing right now as a reaction to you and the moment you try to get her back it'll vindicate her strategy of manipulation and she'll lose whatever remaining respect she has for you. It is a non-starter. It never works.

You guys don't have a kid together, you were never married, you owe her nothing. Go sleep with five other women and you won't even remember this one's name.

By the way this is like a preview of how a woman like this will respond to a divorce. If she ends up married and then goes through an ugly divorce, she'll literally spend the next 20 years of her life trying to destroy the man she broke up with, spewing endless hate to anyone who will listen, trying to deny him access to his kids etc. Seen it multiple times with family members and friends.

Just move on.

KongWick · 2026-02-22T04:16:43+00:00

Sure, can be. But if you’re internally thinking or caring about it this much… then it’s from a place of scarcity so therefore not masculine

Foreverseeking47 · 2026-02-22T11:49:01+00:00

You said it yourself, she was obsessed and drama ensued, why would you want that as if you are the only one who did wrong?

Also, she is publicly saying she feels nothing for her boyfriend. Why would you want that? Even if she felt something for you, she would do something fucked up like this, it would just look different.

Plenty of other women, just learn from what happened and make better decisions next time!

Mcfusion31 · 2026-02-22T03:52:04+00:00

No offence, you sound jealous. Leave her alone, move on if people don't change, and she got dicked down by this new guy, why would you want that?

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2026-02-22T07:59:01+00:00

Well when things get difficult and you cut people out, thats your personal faliure. Just let her go and be with someone else, maybe work on your relaitonship and communication skills, which is essnetially about acceptance in diversity.

Alternative-Thing-58 · 2026-02-22T18:24:16+00:00

Bro to bro. If you change, you need to change gf. Period. Leave her with her new guy, travel and find a new gal. There are plenty around that would provide you masculinity and what you deserve. Don't settle for less.

Lola_a_l-eau · 2026-02-22T21:53:58+00:00

Tell her to go to her guys

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-02-23T17:59:13+00:00

If you're the one who cut her off, it's risky to get back together. Coming back from a break can only really work if she's the one who cut it off initially.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2026-02-24T10:43:55+00:00

Asking strangers on the internet if you're masculine enough is a sign that you're not.

When you're secure with yourself, you don't worry about appearing masculine. Don't waste time worrying about what we'd approve of.

TheBroken0ne · 2026-02-26T02:02:47+00:00

Anyways I want her back. I have changed my lifestyle and accepted my mistakes. But I'm at a dilemma.

You think life is a Hollywood movie? And on top of that you think that she doesn't love her man that she is dating and fucking with every day?

If she takes you back, judging on your post you will be an even bigger simp than her BF.

Vyvansss · 2026-02-26T04:45:45+00:00

It's masculine if you can change.

Sometimes it's not about being masculine but being a better man / human, if it was you making the mistakes.

Chasing her back because you are lonely, just want the validation etc... is not honorable.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-02-26T07:57:51+00:00

It’ll be showing weakness and she acted the way she did because you held your frame and never gave in. (What her dna responds to). If you say you’ve changed etc she won’t like it

Klutzy-Painting885 · 2026-02-22T02:40:38+00:00

Getting what you want is masculine

WhusssuName4547 · 2026-02-22T19:11:27+00:00

Leave her alone lol…

ProfessionalGoat551 · 2026-02-22T02:12:31+00:00

Every situation is different. Normally I would say hell no. But it sounds like based on your description, you were the issue.

The only issue I have is that she has a “boyfriend,” and there’s something about stealing another man’s girlfriend that doesn’t sit right with me. Those things are prone to backfire.

If you do go this route be careful. She has all the leverage if you go back.

Also another thing. This guy will be lurking around. So have your head on a swivel, you mess up or start to emotionally neglect. He’s definitely going to get that call like ghost busters.

Title	Is getting my ex back "masculine"
Author	G9Comet
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Comments	26
Date	February 22, 2026 2:03 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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