Despite the decades of effort to tear down masculinity, nothing can change what women are and always will be attracted to. Strong, capable, doers.
These women are out there hoping that the men in their lives step up and become the men they have envisioned. They want you do find your balls somewhere, go up to her, say hello, lead the interaction smoothly and make a move. Trust me when I say that they are probably rooting for you more than you are rooting for yourself because if you actually do go up to her, make a great first impression, lead things properly and make a move successfully all whilst projecting yourself as a high quality man, she gets the most out of it. She gets a guy who is a diamond in the rough, literally a rarity nowadays.
For guys it's hard to understand the dating experience for women, I've been a fly on the wall for lots of conversations with my female friends and it's always the same. They are frustrated with the endless supply of absolute trash they have access to but are even more frustrated at the lack of high quality men going around.
Men nowadays will do anything to avoid the simply going up to women and starting something. We are so weak and pusified that we fear the intimidation of other men, we fear the opinions of others, we even fear failure in the form of rejection.
You get one run at life to carve out your little corner and plant your flag, to go out and get what you want, at any point you can have the chances of that happening snuffed out. How the fuck are you going to do that avoiding fear, rejection, pain and discomfort?
I implore all of you to look to history and at the countless men who had their lives cut short because of war, misery and other catatraphe's. Men who never got the chance to live life on their terms. The men who would laugh at you from beyond the grave for squandering and wasting your life being a coward.
When are you going to wake up and get after it? when you are at deaths door? when it's too late?
You keep gambling on tomorrow coming but one day it won't, one day you won't be able to put off asking her out, one day you won't be able to put off telling her how you feel, one day you won't be able to put off saying hello. You will be dead and tomorrow will never come.
If she is interesting enough to make you want to say hi, for the love of god just go do it. Fuck techniques, fuck overthinking, fuck planning it out. Be bold enough to do it as yourself, to go in and face the discomfort, the nerves, the anxiety and still proceed.
Rejection and failure will be far more easily swallowed when you connect it to your finiteness. Knowing that you at least tried.
P.S: This is a bit of a ramble but I felt all of this come from somewhere deep and felt the need to put it out there.
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