Left on read

vibinthrulife · 2020-04-03T14:35:02+00:00

as a girl, if i’m texting someone i’m interested in or who i care about, i’ll probably be disappointed if i’m left on read. it’s all in the situation though, someone could be a dry texter, the conversation is dead, etc. my reaction differs based on the person as well. just my two cents

RAAE13 · 2020-04-03T13:45:24+00:00

Lmao they don’t care because the next guy won’t. It might make them mad if they care about you.

All I get is left on delivered or read by these girls bro I’m done with my town.

caesarfecit · 2020-04-03T14:48:30+00:00

The meaning of being left on read changes with the context.

Were things getting hot and heavy and someone dips without warning?

Is there a big investment gap between the two people? Like she's way too into him or the other way around?

Was it a natural ending point of a conversation?

Do they reinitiate? If so, how long does it take and what do they say?

Ideally you just shouldn't care. When texting matters too much to you, you're not spending enough time with real women (easier said than done in current times). And if you find yourself caring about being left on read, either someone is playing games and you should back off, you're getting one-itis and you should back off, or you're lonely and depressed and you should work on you first.

Generally speaking, girls won't care about being left on read unless they're way into you and they're getting insecure, either because they already are, or because you're making them jump through hoops, and overgaming them like a girl who plays way too hard to get.

jackzander · 2020-04-03T16:54:31+00:00

Every girl has a secret notebook in which she keeps the names and tallies of any boy who left her on read.

Once a month, the coven gathers under the full moon and join their powers to cast hexes upon their violators.

These are the facts about women they don't want you to know.

Dankie001 · 2020-04-03T15:52:06+00:00

Depends on the emotional investment she has into you. If she's not invested at all it won't effect her at all.

2020-04-03T17:26:10+00:00

Ok, I'll repeat it again just because I'm locked down at home: Text girls for logistics only, it's an uphill battle and you will lose all the good raport you get from your initial live interaction. Don't waste time and energy being another distraction on her phone.

mneptuno · 2020-04-03T18:00:57+00:00

If a girl leaves you on read, then stop texting her. Move on to the next girl. Unless you know she has feelings for you don't bother with a follow-up text. I write this but some of you will continue doing this as if you two are in love or something.

If she loved you or cared she would text back. Let go of your ego and move on.

MrKebabHands · 2020-04-03T16:00:20+00:00

Honestly, I don't think that being left on read is as big of a deal as people make it out to be. Personally, I feel you should be able to read a message and reply at a time when it's convenient for you, and not feel pressured to immediately reply just because your messaging platform has communicated that you've seen the message. The less people care about this, the more fluid your online conversations can be. My personal opinion anyway.

EcstaticOpening · 2020-04-03T14:39:31+00:00

It depends, obviously. If I’m emotionally invested in him, then being left on read can sting a bit and can hurt if I over analyze. I personally don’t mind sending another text depending on the circumstances (the “double-text”). I understand that people get busy and forget about messages, because I do too if a text comes in while I’m in the middle of something and can’t text back right away. To me, being ghosting becomes exhausting when it’s obvious I’m the one doing all the chasing - always starting the conversations, initiating plans, etc. I prefer a balance of desire from both him and me.

hunterpua · 2020-04-03T14:26:42+00:00

If they like you they get worried you're losing interest or that you might not be as interested as they thought.

Onefamiliar · 2020-04-03T14:57:02+00:00

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Dankie001 · 2020-04-03T15:54:28+00:00

Btw, they do have that feeling of "I wonder if he's gonna text back". Just not for some random guy she exchanged numbers with. You'll have to position yourself as the right guy for giving her that feeling.

BBochy447 · 2020-04-03T19:29:59+00:00

Anxiety +100

s4peace · 2020-04-03T19:37:41+00:00

It sucks tbh. I think it's just more courteous to end conversations rather than leave someone on read. Any guy I talk to I try to be conscious of ending conversations rather than leaving someone hanging. And hope I am extended the same courtesy

A lot of comments here say that women have a lot of men on the hook. I don't think it has anything to do with gender. There are assholes on both sides.

I have two reactions if a guy does this- if he was making an effort to have a conversation, I assume it's a communication problem and I tell him that he can tell me he is busy and won't be able to text because I am expecting a response. If there is absolutely no effort to communicate then I just forget about it. And don't make an effort with him again.

Most of the times I assume good intent and think that the person might not know that leaving me on read is making me feel bad, so being honest helps. But if someone is specifically uninterested or even behaving badly, I let it pass.

I have been guilty of it too but in my case it wasn't with the intent to play games or talk the 500 other guys the comment section assumes I have but legitimately being distracted by something or just not sure of what to say next. I am now just honest and hope that the guy would respect that.

Honestly, it's a choice- you can be mean and play games or you can try to be nicer and just be honest. And that works both ways. You ditch the player and forgive the person trying to make an effort.

whtvrboy · 2020-04-03T21:56:31+00:00

As a girl, I can attempt to answer but I certainly can’t speak for all of us.

If in a relationship, I don’t really care if you leave me on read unless I asked a question/there was an argument/something that prompted a response.

If I’m interested in you, I’ll likely be a little upset. However most of the time I understand some people aren’t interested or the conversation was dying.

If we are friends, probably don’t care.

Devilovie · 2020-04-04T08:40:11+00:00

As a girl being left on seen/read can be really frustrating because it’s a clear sign that the person isn’t excited enough to reply or continue the conversation, sure we give benefit of the doubt that they maybe busy or tired or thought they replied but didn’t or any other genuine reason but it keeps playing in your head until they reply. It’s like we all have these personal devices that we carry everywhere and scroll through all the time so how did someone still not reply despite reading your text?

MuskIsAlien · 2020-04-03T14:16:28+00:00

They don’t give a fuck. Move on to the next. Actually one of the bad aspect of being a women is if you are remotely attractive you’ll be distracted constantly and unable to focus on things that actually matter in the long run.

le_GoogleFit · 2020-04-03T13:51:46+00:00

Hopefully they don't feel too bad because I've started doing that too :/

Er, fuck that! If they can live us on read and we're expected to just deal with it then so can they

luvdeux42 · 2020-04-03T16:03:30+00:00

I have a close friend who got left on read by this dude she sort-of liked. She did feel a little upset/humiliated but she took it well and sort of figured what we feel on a much more frequent basis.

FJackxd · 2020-04-03T16:14:49+00:00

Depends on how much she's into you. Usually girls have multiple guys that are dying to get their attention so if she's not that into you she'll just text someone else.

Hell even girls that you would give a 4 or 5 out of 10 have multiple guys they're texting (or who are texting them) depending on their personality.

2020-04-03T18:42:55+00:00

Personally, i wont stop talking to you or communicate any differently but you definitely have lesser points in my book after leaving me on read

ResultsoverExcuses · 2020-04-03T18:49:17+00:00

It is what it is man

ljm0104 · 2020-04-03T19:27:54+00:00

If its for a couple hours its all cool. Sometimes you accidentally open a message when you first get it and are in the middle of something, don't have time to reply, etc..... If its a chronic thing or its happening every time I send a message then I just assume they aren't interested. If you were thinking about me then you would reply is how I take it.

2020-04-03T17:03:26+00:00

They don't care at all.

Chicks have guys hitting them up constantly just begging for a date or sex.

There's 20 other guys she's got to talk to.

It's sad because girls always have options but us guys never do. Girls aren't hitting up our DMs, but girls have guys doing it constantly. Even if they're ugly, they have dudes lined-up at their doors begging for them.

2020-04-03T15:06:07+00:00

It’s rude and childish. If you don’t want to talk to someone just tell them. Grow up.

mikeitclassy · 2020-04-03T15:43:48+00:00

wow dude that's amazing.

PL_music · 2020-04-03T17:15:13+00:00

At this point, I have no time to care that much. Either they loss interest or got distracted. I move on.

2020-04-03T19:04:56+00:00

I personally feel like they’re being an asshole, if they have nothing to say, sure. But don’t ignore someone cause it ain’t cute

imoknoimnot · 2020-04-03T19:18:52+00:00

Steve is that you?

StarrySweetie · 2020-04-03T19:30:59+00:00

It honestly pisses me off in some cases, but others it doesn't really phase me. The difference is what I said.

If it's something I would normally expect someone to respond to like a question, or saying hi or good morning, then I get pissed when they leave me on read.

However, when I only say something like "that's cool" or "haha, yeah", something short like that, I don't care because I know that was on my end.

Im_Neotec · 2020-04-03T20:09:24+00:00

Weird flex

Fr4nko_ · 2020-04-03T22:21:54+00:00

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LakersAreTerrible25 · 2020-04-03T22:32:09+00:00

A true dime that's a 9.5-10/10 has other dudes texting her. Doesnt necessarily mean they're fucking her, but they're at least orbiters. You have to leave texting for logisctal purposes, unless the girl initiates contact with you everyday

SteveSan82 · 2020-04-04T00:27:36+00:00

I only do that if I suggest meeting up and they say no or say yes but then dodge the topic and start talking about something else.

There are other women who want to meet up. Why am I going to talk about pointless things? She's doing that to other guys too for sure. A lot of women don't want to meet. They just want attention.

undeniably_confused · 2020-04-04T01:02:13+00:00

I do that all the time, because I'm insecure

1-BeautifulDisaster · 2020-04-04T01:10:34+00:00

You write that MF and you tell him you're not a book so he can't just leave you on Read. Make sure to add a bunch of head bobbing and threaten the hidden with your shoe

MuzikVillain · 2020-04-04T01:34:57+00:00

About a month ago I left this one girl on read.

We work together and against my better judgement I went for it. As soon as I started being proactive her incessant lewd flirting came to a stop. Our texting went from flirtatious to boring and I left her on read. I didn't do this out of malice, I just though this was her nice way of showing she wasn't interested. She was not happy though.

She texted me a couple days later "Why the fuck did you leave me on read? I'm mad at you" and proceeded to give me the silent treatment at work. It was interesting to see her behavior change so much just because I left her on read.

H8nMe4LuvnU · 2020-04-04T02:22:20+00:00

I am the worst at responding to messages, I’m not much for texting I would rather talk on the phone or FaceTime , if in person, face time face isn’t an option or available. So for me personally it doesn’t bother time unless I text “I love you” and get ignored that’s when we got a problem lol

JayPlenty24 · 2020-04-04T02:32:26+00:00

I don’t care at all. If a person doesn’t reply to me when it would be the appropriate thing to do it lets me know I’m not high on their priorities and I adjust my expectations and effort. If it’s something someone does every now and then and it’s with things that don’t require a quick response then that’s fine. I would rather have people in my life that have actual shit to do and aren’t just glued to their phones. If I’m really tired I often wait until morning to respond to messages because I would rather give a thoughtful response than just brush something off until I go to bed. I’m also extremely busy in general so I’m not always able to reply to people right away. I’ve dated people who couldn’t handle that and I broke up with them. If I really need a response then I’ll call anyway.

Lorgin · 2020-04-04T02:47:26+00:00

The girl I've been dating for 2 months has left me on read for 2 days now. We had a tiny fight and now I'm getting completely ignored. Never saw any indication of this kind of behaviour before. What's frustrating is the fight is minimal compared to the damage she's done by ignoring me. I'm all torn up over it. I'm so alone in isolation and she was what kept me going.

Oh well ill move on but normally that's much easier to do. Dating right now seems impossible.

Smelborpisking · 2020-04-04T02:58:22+00:00

I'm in the exact situation too. While it sucks and it hurts, esp when conversation was flowing so well. Thing is, don't let this get to you. We all need to realize that girls inherently do not care about us as individuals, unless we provide something to them. By virtue of being left on read, it's over.

Don't hide your feelings either. Let yourself sink into how you're feeling, digest it, write about it, whatever. Be honest to yourself.

Then move on. Forget her. Even if she texts you back. Reply her like you would anyone else. No flirty texts. Don't initiate anything.

If she wasted your time, she's not for you.

Xia0mia0 · 2020-04-04T03:03:36+00:00

Some of these comments are absurd. If you're left on read it's because the person is not intrigued any longer or they are busy, nothing more nothing less.

alisawonderland · 2020-04-04T12:06:11+00:00

Well... The thing is that I archive ppl i've answered... So I will either forget about you or.. Yes, forget about you, until I'd get reminded.

cici_sweetheart · 2020-04-04T14:59:57+00:00

I leave men on read for multiple reasons: 1. I’m busy and I forgot to text back right then 2. The convo was going no where 3. I just wasn’t that into him 4. He kept begging for nudes 5. Sent a unwanted dick pic 6. Bragged to much 7. Told me some info about himself that was a red flag

highchong91 · 2020-04-05T22:10:54+00:00

They get in their feelings and complain that men are dicks.

karedia13 · 2020-04-03T14:59:07+00:00

Did you leave her on read because you're not interested in her romantically? Or are you trying to run some kind of mind game?

If you are interested in her and she is highly attractive, I find it best to not respond until you have FULLY THOUGHT OUT YOUR RESPONSE....even if it takes an entire day. You want to condition her to know that when she gets a message from you, it holds high value. So that means, instead of telling her your day was "fine", respond with a picture that shows you doing something exciting or have something extraordinary to share or you asking her to join you somewhere or for a date. Do not compliment her.

KellyCarver1015 · 2020-04-03T16:33:11+00:00

All you guys saying girls got tons of guys are dumb!

You leave a girl on read you need to understand how heartbreakingly terrible that is for us girls!! What a dick move that is and how it's hard to move past that!

rodriguezmonik · 2020-04-03T18:50:07+00:00

I am a girl with high value.. I find it disrespectful to leave me on read.. if you do it, I’ll do the same and see it as you are not interested.. if you ignore me I’ll ignore you as well.. if you really like a girl show interest without been intense.. check on her daily ( that’s how I feel a guy is really interested)

I need to clarify that for me leaving me on read is when you don’t reply within a couple hours

Teamtoast · 2020-04-03T16:15:43+00:00

What kind of question is this? It’s like saying if I open my front door today- what’s going to happen?

Title	Left on read
Author	RAAE13
Upvotes	331
Comments	160
Date	April 3, 2020 1:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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