Okay I get it now

optimal981 · 2019-12-28T19:18:09+00:00

And if you make the effort, with the right mindset, you’ll improve

devbev · 2019-12-28T22:17:29+00:00

There you go, that’s called a mindset shift right there!

It gets better — it actually doesn’t even end there.

Something intriguing happens as you find your satisfaction through your own action rather than through the (uncontrollable) outcome

Your confidence in yourself grows You start liking yourself more You start developing a new internal voice that you can start choosing over the disparaging internal voices.

It’s a lot of choices, though — your choice of what to focus on, your choice of what to apply yourself to, your choice of how to interpret your current situation.

Whoever you are, reading this, this is your movie.

Right now, as you are, you are at the beginning of the movie.

Your life isn’t exactly what you want it to be — at least in one way, right? After all, you’re here for a reason.

If you think of it this way, it’s now your job to write this movie script, so that you can start living the life you you would rather live, as soon as possible (for your sake, obviously, but “for the audience/world” too, if that helps).

You’ve got to pick up the pencil — or take the wheel, get in the driver’s seat, or any number of other metaphors we can use.

Not only are you in charge, but this is your production, man.

So pay attention to the negative self talk, and change it — ‘cause who’s that even there for...? It’s just hurting you, and you’re the one who gets to decide what goes on, and what stops going on, in your head.

:) didn’t mean to ramble, but I’m really excited for you, OP.

What I really wanted to get across to you is that once you put your focus on all the right things, you will basically be guaranteed to get results.

Keep your gears moving in this new direction. One step, one step, one step at a time, and you’ll make yourself into a totally different man, eventually.

scarrax · 2019-12-28T20:18:43+00:00

That’s half the battle, the next half is having the right mindset and focusing your efforts in the right places

Robertmonte · 2019-12-28T21:39:47+00:00

In the beginning trying is more important then getting results. Remember: even if you try, you are in the 1% club of men who have the guts to do it. Don't go to the Super Bowl, be the Super Bowl.

e-xor · 2019-12-28T21:52:59+00:00

Not necessarily single. How some of the guys with average looks, no confidence and no social skills are not single? Life is random, sometimes you get lucky. If you do make the effort though, you increase you chances of how fast you might stop being single as well as how good looking and nice personality girl you'll end up with. Yeah, you'll face lots of rejections, flakes, etc. along the way :) Totally worth it anyway.

buzz83tav · 2019-12-28T23:06:41+00:00

Some guys view being single as a bad thing, but I promise you its not. A lot of attractive guys are single by choice because it can be a lot of fun. Especially when your seeing a bunch of different girls at once. I've turned down some women who wanted relationships just because I wasnt interested in them enough for it to be long term.

Deeppua · 2019-12-29T13:11:33+00:00

I don't get it!

What improves? What improves by learning game->approaching->learning game->seducing->learning game->getting laid once in 6 months after putting in so much effort?

While I see guys going to nightclubs, drinking a few beers->kissing->getting laid!

Being an AFC in your social group and just "appear" nice-> get laid

Confidence that you gain in cold-approach is not permanent. Stop doing it for 1 week and tell me.

I'm not sure if it's worth the effort!

Vildabeck · 2019-12-29T18:34:06+00:00

I used to work with a guy who was, shall we say, "less than attractive". He would hit on anything that moved. Surprisingly, he always seemed to have female companionship. The lesson learned from him is that if you swing enough times at bat, sooner or later you'll hit the ball.

manda-was-here · 2019-12-28T23:14:17+00:00

Each time you try, you learn what does and does not work.

GenderEnlightenment · 2019-12-29T06:54:58+00:00

Keep trying UNTIL you succeed.

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-29T06:36:44+00:00

I think you have captured the elusive mindset that means you will actually have someone. Everyone on here focuses on the grab, but your mindset isthat of the keep. Be yourself, be 💯 and you may have a keep.

grubsztyl · 2019-12-29T09:17:49+00:00

Right on, brother! Don’t be outcome-dependent! Do what you gotta do, you’ve got only one life!

No-MEME · 2019-12-29T11:15:56+00:00

I am the same situation as your.i’ve always been a gamer almost my entire young life.when i realized i was already f** up.now here i am struggle as crap to learn how to text girl withou make it like an interview and sometime i met girls irl i acted like an idiot but i wont give up,no one will help me but myself.i just need to gitgud until i learn how to do it properly!

shearobertson11 · 2019-12-28T19:59:57+00:00

i agree although if you just live your life you’re bound to meet someone you enjoy spending time with. take small steps if u have trouble approaching

Creevy · 2019-12-29T04:48:18+00:00

What this means, when extrapolated, is that making an effort is virtually without risk. You can quite literally only go up. You fear a consequence that does not exist.

Basic85 · 2019-12-29T02:03:43+00:00

Right on, I need to adopt this mindset.

jackkou623 · 2019-12-29T03:49:27+00:00

It is very interesting that it needs to make effort, to get a girl does not need much effort I think, just be cool and ask

Bcurious2020 · 2019-12-29T04:44:37+00:00

Also if you font love and redpect yourself first people will see through it and not want to live and respect you.

lilyros2 · 2019-12-29T12:33:21+00:00

Cute, but why is that image labeled as above 18 only?

23bmw23 · 2019-12-29T13:12:05+00:00

Most recent woman I am currently with I have been trying to get out for about 2 years.... We went on a tinder date long ago she left the country travel the world and came back... I saw her driving down the street and remembered I still had her phone number so I decided to send her a message.... After about another six months she finally let me get a taste.. and how super sweet the reward is.. I generally don't chase women or pursue them for that length of time but I can tell you it was 100% worth it

Ulanyouknow · 2019-12-29T13:27:05+00:00

There is something that is a fact and cannot be denied. I will not be saying any opinion or how this fact makes me personally feel:

if the best, successful man will stay single if he doesnt put himself out there.

Its tough but its the truth.

kalifo_yt · 2019-12-29T16:07:40+00:00

i wanna make effort so bad but i have suck deep approach anxiety but my personality can win i swear i am like a bullet with a gun

GeeseCTM · 2019-12-29T16:11:17+00:00

That's at least a start.

smokeytheghost · 2019-12-29T16:11:47+00:00

And most of the time, they never say no. Its about how you say what you want to say.

eht_amgine_enihcam · 2019-12-29T17:08:53+00:00

Also, asking women out isn't even that big a deal.

I don't understand how so many people can be so chickenshit about it. Is it because they're really sheltered?

Max7404 · 2019-12-29T18:06:57+00:00

Hey man,

Can you explain what you think is holding you back from succeeding? Maybe we can give you some advice or share experiences.

Lines01 · 2019-12-30T08:09:10+00:00

You got it, good job!

ZlatanAgrees · 2019-12-29T01:22:59+00:00

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Type4Diabeetus · 2019-12-28T23:47:19+00:00

All you can do is give your best, then you can't really blame yourself for the negative outcomes

2019-12-29T05:29:38+00:00

Extreme ownership of your life is the only way. Your life is truly what YOU make it

pOorImitation · 2019-12-29T23:08:45+00:00

Such a stupid post. This sub is a dud. Why do people eat this shit up, these philosophical epiphanies. They're here, on Instagram. It's hollow advice. This is supposed to be a forum for seduction not basic social skills.

jiciki · 2019-12-29T00:37:03+00:00

Sounds awful honestly

Title	Okay I get it now
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	761
Comments	79
Date	December 28, 2019 7:13 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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