There's never any point in responding to a rejection text from early stage dating (in my experience)

Western_Secretary284 · 2025-03-29T16:06:32+00:00

You're absolutely right. Some people will say you'd come off as butthurt, but why are they still caring what this girl thinks of them? Going no contact at this early stage can only benefit you. You have to treat the attention you give like a precious resource. No debating. No explanations. No soothing her fears by telling her how ok you are with the rejection nor giving her well wishes. If she isn't following your lead and progressing on your timeline, she gets no interaction beyond a kind smile and headnod if you happen to run into her.

- She's making excuses to not go out? No contact

- She's taking 4+ hours or even days to text back? No contact

- Her texts are dry? No contact

- She is awkward about being physical on the date? No contact

- She's going out with you in sweatpants? No contact

It's toxic, but toxicity works, so we're toxic here

MrDownhillRacer · 2025-03-29T21:13:29+00:00

I like responding, because some people just ghost, and I like showing appreciation for not being ghosted.

I figure, "women probably ghost because they expect an uncomfortable experience if they decide to be straight up. So, by responding in a respectful manner, perhaps I'm reducing the likelihood of people getting ghosted in the future."

In my responses, I don't ask the person to reconsider. I don't even ask "what didn't work for you?", because I know that's an uncomfortable question to answer, and they likely won't feel free to answer it honestly. I also don't want them to worry that I'll try to litigate their response or "bargain" with them.

I just tell them "thanks for letting me know, have a good one" and leave it at that. Short and clean. No passive-aggressive attempts to try to "win" the interaction, but also no exaggerated expressions of sadness to try to guilt trip anyone.

I think ignoring the text wholesale would either (1) make me look salty, or (2) make the other person feel stupid and silly for doing the right thing and sending a message instead of just ghosting. Which will make them more likely to ghost the next person next time.

Formal-Collection239 · 2025-03-29T16:11:29+00:00

i second this. There’s this girl i matched with on hinge a couple days ago and she’s been giving slow and plain replies therefore i now have her left on delivered and it’s staying that way.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-03-29T16:24:45+00:00

Look, having options and abundance mindset will solve a lot of problems that typically appear in this sub: She rejects you? She’s not responding/ghosting you? She responds slowly? She wants to take it slow? Should I respond to her text? What do I do to boost my confidence? What do I do so I don’t come across as needy or clingy?

It’s almost like a silver bullet: HAVE OPTIONS!

Meerkateagle · 2025-03-29T18:44:32+00:00

I disagree. If she took time to inform me about rejection instead of ghosting I can put 1-2 sentence farewell text together.

Captain_w00t · 2025-03-30T00:01:13+00:00

I totally disagree. A kind reply is a gentleman sign.

A simple “Ok, thank you for letting me know. All the best.”, is more than enough.

You don’t have to burn bridges that way, even if you aren’t going to hear from her forever.

TransitionNormal1387 · 2025-03-29T17:56:13+00:00

I agree.

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-03-29T16:00:10+00:00

My brain says that I should not reply, but my ego got hurt.

I can’t let it slide.

Plastic_Friendship55 · 2025-03-30T10:21:51+00:00

I disagree in every single point. The list looks like a lousy list of excuses to not communicate.

Seduction is about communication. Every time you shut down communication, no matter if it’s related to dating or anything else, you are damaging you social skills and self sabotaging. Very weak and incredibly stupid.

You respect her decision and reply that in a respectful and well balanced reply. You are not prolonging anything by replying that you respect her decisions. Not replying makes you look like a weak idiot and you lose a great opportunity to work on your social skills by replying in a good way.
Working on your social skills is never a waste of time. Avoiding working on your social skills will only make dating much harder for you. Your view is the typical incel and black pill mentality. “If you avoid you won’t be wasting time”. Very effective way to self sabotaging
That avoidant behaviour. You handle your emotions not matter what. Replying won’t change that. Communicating right prolongs nothing. What you are suggesting is that people run away like cowards. How will that help anyone with dating?
The risk of looking like an idiot is way higher if you run away like a coward. Respond right and there is no risk at all you’ll look worse.
There is. You worsen your social skills, you are weak, you look like an idiot and you take a huge step towards ending up being an avoidant incel.
Yes. And her thought will be that you are a weak coward and she can’t believe she spent time with you. And that is what she will tell all her friends. If you reply the right way, she’ll think that even though it didn’t work you were a decent person that she respects.
What a loser mentality. It’s not about getting her back. It’s about being a man with decency, social skills and accountability. Being a man you and others respect. Not responding does the opposite
Replying right doesn’t change how fast you move on. Handling emotions does. Ignoring, blocking, deleting is avoidant behaviour and gives you a false feeling of having done something to solve your problem. In reality you just changes some settings in an app. You run away like a little pathetic coward.

All your advice are about how to be a coward and run away. Having social skills and being able to seduce a women is the exact opposite.

Your list is actually a great list of how to effectively self sabotage dating and seduction.

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2025-04-01T19:46:40+00:00

I understand your point, and based on my experience, I can agree with some aspects. In my case, dating is a great tool to filter the people I meet and gauge their level of interest.

Now, you also have to consider how many men are talking to multiple women versus a man who is only talking to one. Having options helps a lot in this case. If you're a guy talking to just one woman and she rejects your date, it feels like the world is falling apart. But if you've been talking to several, you won’t care much if one says no. At most, you'll just say, "Okay, take care."

iLikeAza · 2025-03-29T19:16:49+00:00

I usually say something like,

Sounds good, stay #BLESSED

becomesharp · 2025-03-29T19:04:31+00:00

This is the correct answer. Had to scroll all the way to the bottom to find the only non bitter reply

datair_tar · 2025-04-01T18:39:01+00:00

I don't understand the point of this. Why not just respond something like: "okay, no problem, good luck :) "? Like it's not that complicated

Title	There's never any point in responding to a rejection text from early stage dating (in my experience)
Author	Lit-Up
Upvotes	60
Comments	39
Date	March 29, 2025 3:49 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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