To mark my one year anniversary of my change, I present Seddit, where it all started, three new insights which hopefully may guide you in becoming a better person.

Girls do not get asked out that often

Really, they don't get asked out that often. Most of them just get asked out once or twice a year. Sure, the most beautiful girls do get asked out more, but on how many do you think they are going? I don't think they will go out with all of the guys. Now you are probably thinking 'God, I need to get more alpha to date these girls!!!'. I will cover this later.

Girls love sex too, maybe even more than men do

Common sense eh? Sure, I would have said the same a year ago. But if you are looking to get laid, and try to have the perfect line to get her home with and eventually have sex, you have already failed. If she feels safe with you, and willing to enjoy having sex with the man she feels comfortable with, she will go home with you. If she doesn't quite yet, you will need to take her out on a date. My honest opinion on this is that this is a 2-way street: she must be comfortable with you, but you should be with her too. This is more than just physicial attraction. This is also about emotional bondage, sharing values and enjoying each others company.

You must first love yourself in order to make someone else love you

If you can't love yourself, i.e. doing new things, spending time like you want to and being the unbounded free spirit that you are, you will find yourself battling obstacles all over again.

Recently a girl I was seeing cutted it off. It's a pity, because I liked her alot. But instead of whining about it, or calling her a slut/bitch/whore or whatsoever because she cutted ME, the almighty Willem20, off, I read a book I enjoyed, went to the gym to work on my body and made a nice sandwich, because god, I do love doing all those three thing.

Once you've mastered this, you will barely have to do hard work on 'gaming' her. Instead you just talk to her about the things you like, about the emotions you feel and the ideas you have. And if it doesn't work out? Than that's too bad, but there will be someone with whom you'll have a better interaction with.

All of these things might sound normal, but for alot of people there are uncommon.

Thanks for reading!