I have been lurking /r/seduction for the last decade and what I will list here has been proven and tested through years of dating women (of all ages and backgrounds) and having all kinds of relationships with them.

If you are a young fella, I suggest you save this post somewhere and read it every two to six months.

  1. Your first dates should be cheap
    Meet her outdoors, visit a coffee place, eat something light. If she hasn't invested in you, don't even buy her a drink. You don't know her. The only reason to break this rule is if everything is going amazingly well, you have already fucked her and its something you REALLY want to do. Most times you wll not fuck a quality girl on the first date, so you will never have to invest too much on first dates.
  2. Give value as long as value is given to you
    You will know if a girl likes you if they invest on you. It could be time, food, money, her secrets, her netflix account, whatever. Be careful if you are always the one initiating the interaction, taking them to dates, paying for everything, waiting too long to hear from them. Women will take whatever is offered, to them your money is theirs if you're giving it away. Women don't like people who only take value and give none, be more like them.
  3. Set your own goals for any relationship
    Of course that my primary goal has been having a healthy long term relationship but most times that is impossible, no matter how much attraction you create, sometimes people are not prepared for a relationship. I cannot count the times that I wanted a relationship with a girl but all I got was a fuck buddy for a couple months. Change your expectations in the relationship depending on how well it goes. No one can have it all. The same applies for people who you just want to befriend, sometimes their interests will not align with yours, no matter how much good will or chemistry there is. C'est la vie.
  4. Get some experience under your belt
    Women are not too different from each other, once you get to know one you will start to see patterns, lots of them. Even if you think women are a mystery no man can understand now, you will find that over time you will develop a sixth sense for them. If you like a girl and you have a good time with her, I suggest you escalate things and get into a relationship with her. You will find that whatever you experience along side her will be quite useful on future relationships.
  5. As long as it is possible, accept all invitations
    This is a global thing, people just don't like when you reject their invitations. If a girl you are dating invites you to a pool party, accept as long as it doesn't go against your studies/work/goals. I have lost many opportunities with hot girls over this. Accepting invitations to parties, drinks and so on could be HUGE.
  6. Never ever invite girls to sausage parties
    UFC nights are for the boys. Don't invite girls who you haven't banged to events where most people are men. If she's your girlfriend/wife and its a once or twice a year kind of thing... ok, but 99.9% of the time just don't.
  7. Avoid inviting women to your favourite online communities
    If you are a traditional man who fights for the old values on online groups or social media, don't bring her with you. Your personal accounts should be for friends, following your interests and having fun. Do your political activism on a fake or alt account. Social media could be fun, but also a very toxic place where randoms think they know everything about you. You don't know how many weirdos will add her and start talking shit about you. Trust me, I have been there. Once I invited my gf to a political FB group, most dudes added her on the first week. I am talking about a group of 1k members. HAH.
  8. Be careful of your so-called "friends"
    Thirsty dudes will do anything to get some action, including backstabbing you, acting as a friend just to get with the girls in your social circle, etc. Don't let judas do his thing, your relationship is for you and her, not for your social circle. I have seen it countless times, please, 90% of the time you spend with any girl should be private. Don't let big groups ruin your relationship. Even if you are just getting to know her, avoid having your friends around.
  9. Spot social black holes and get rid of them
    Some people are just born to leech value and manipulate others to get value for free. Don't go out with people like this, don't talk to them, don't let them know you have friends, don't add them on social media. Fuck them. I once knew a cat who was fun to be around but also kinda bipolar, he got easily frustrated and toxic, I ignored his negativity because I thought I could handle it. Big mistake. Little by little my social circle got infected. When I understood that his influence changed my friends I no longer had any connection with them. Sure, they are responsible their own actions but you will be happier around people who are possitive for you and give value back.
  10. Try to physically escalate but only when possible
    Don't be the weirdo who tries to kiss every girl on the first date. Try it but only if she lets you hug her, back off if the girl is not comfortable. Some girls just won't do it on the first date but will open up later on, your job is to always escalate but you have to be patient. Shy girls have a timing of their own. If at the third or fourth date she doesn't let you hug her, maybe she doesn't like you but until then don't force it.
  11. Be yourself
    Selectively. Don't open up to people who you don't even know if you like. Show her the best version of yourself without being fake. Highly important: Have fun.
  12. BONUS: Your social circle is sacred
    Please, take good care of your true friends and family. Talk to them regularly and spend as much quality time with them as possible. This is a tip that everybody should religiously follow regarless of your seduction goals.