It’s natural to want a future with someone you find attractive, or think you have a connection with.
However, projecting romantic feelings onto someone you barely know—or a “friend” that you’ve never been romantic with—often leads to neediness and insecure attachment.
The fantasy perception of the person overtakes who they actually are. They are often placed on pedestal unnecessarily. In an attempt to keep this idealized person in your life, the interactions become less natural, more focused on pleasing them, rather than being yourself and allowing things to develop naturally.
When you meet someone you like, it’s fine to appreciate them, but be wary of forming an emotional attachment to them. There has to be a phase that is a trial period. Not only do they need to learn about you, but you also need to determine if they fit what YOU want.
Have fun, let things unfold naturally. A relationship will develop without planning or thought if you both have chemistry. Trying to force things to fit a romantic fantasy never works.
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By “romantic Aura” you mean desperation
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You have to do it slowly at tiny bite sized chunks, so that when you get burned it's just a small tingle, enough to course correct. Otherwise, if you open up too much, too soon, you may get hurt very very badly.
Learning how to properly break your vulnerability into tiny bite sized chunks comes with practice. Ultimately you have to be creative with it.
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Or in short:
Never validate her more than she validates you. Keep the interaction at 60% / 40%. She validates you 40%.
What is validation?
Everything: Favor, romantic gestures, compliments, if you have sex the way she wants or you want, everything where she gains something from you.
If this tilts to 60% 40% in her favor - within 3 months she is gone.
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