Why does it seem like some people just 'get it' when it comes to girls?

Nqobyle · 2018-02-27T02:46:01+00:00

I think it all comes to how you interact with them and know the right things to say. Girls want to laugh and if you can do that then they can pretty much do anything for you even if you're the average Joe.

And sometimes those guys lie because they got nothing to lose and girls fall for anything they hear as long as it is fascinating and the dots connects.

Just keep doing what you are doing. You just need one girl per day if you're looking to get laid everyday.

iXbrian · 2018-02-27T06:01:47+00:00

What I've realized is that people are simply attracted to different things. I'm sure you've heard the term, "one mans trash is another mans treasure". I think the same applies to how women view us. I've come to realize that I cannot get every women that I want (even though I hold the view and mindset that I can, deep down I know that i cannot).

I'm mentoring a little 18 year old kid whos a nice dude but beta af and kinda fat. but hes a good kid and I've been bringing him out to nightclubs with my crew and just kinda working with him and helping his game out. Some of the women that he's managed to pull have me jealous at times (and proud!). I still hold the belief that its 90% appearance 10% personality, but this kid is slowly changing my views..........

tastelikesunshine · 2018-02-27T03:22:58+00:00

Cause some do ... Some get algebra... Some get art ... Some get building... Some get driving... Some get cooking ... Sometimes the thing we wish was our best attributes and our attempt to obtain mastery of that ... Blinds us from our true best and our true talent ... Don't ever hate the player ... Just learn to play the game better

ALargePianist · 2018-02-27T08:50:39+00:00

My brother, 5 years my junior, is very unambitious. No job, lives off our parents, watches streams all day, hygiene embarrassingly off point, two kids and a failed marriage...yet he getting laid on the regular. And the girls are cute a f too. Blows my mind man

CharacterNote · 2018-02-27T10:45:36+00:00

I've said it before - I think the self improvement stuff/get a good job / get lots of hobbies etc is all good, but I don't think it changes anything when it comes to getting girls. Do it for you, but don't expect girls to show interest in you just because you make good money and have lots of hobbies and ambition etc.

2 of my wings both fit the category of having extremely well paid, impressive jobs and big plans, lots of hobbies etc and are doing things most nights after work, and who are both more or less virgins (maybe 1-2 girls each in their 30 years)

And I have other friends who have never had a job who spend all their time having sex with various girls and getting high and playing hte playstation in their parents house lol

I feel that looks are a huge role. Not that you have to be a male model, but I feel like the girl needs to think you are somewhat good looking / her 'type'.

And then it comes down to confidence and how you interact with them basically. And a lot of this is determined by your upbringing and your reference experiences, I suppose. Some guys might have been born a little above average in terms of looks, have grown up with lots of friends and a very active social life, and everything just fell into place from a very young age. Others won't be so lucky

TrappyMcFly69 · 2018-02-27T07:32:54+00:00

Because they are confident

3oR · 2018-02-27T10:15:25+00:00

Girls like weed. What's wrong with that? I know of plenty cool, fit, successful people who have girlfriends and they both smoke weed.

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-02-27T02:53:32+00:00

Upbringing. I was a shy kid, and it was made worse by a distant father and overprotective mother. It left me less than well-rounded and frankly I'm surprised I didn't end up gay.

Some guys have more wholesome family structures to rely on, and what you learn early in life prepares you for the future.

I knew guys who got laid at 10/11 years old. They simply were exposed to the mystery of women sooner and thus became more comfortable around them.

Their financial success in life or lack of it is more influenced by their genetic intelligence and expectations of their peer group than their parents. Thus, you can have a stoner that knows chicks, or a graduate student that doesn't even know where the clitoris is.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-02-27T06:59:35+00:00

Why does it seem like some people just 'get it' when it comes to girls?

Everyone is at a different point in life. They're just at the point where they've got that thing figured out to a certain level.

I've done so much game and personal improvement yet still don't have the results that these guys do.

You've said absolutely zero about what's going well or not well, or how far you're getting, in general.

But in general, you're probably lacking social awareness/attentiveness while around girls or lacking confidence. Two biggest downfalls right there.

You don't need to make people laugh. But you do need:

Access to information. You need to be paying attention to your surroundings, people, etc. What they say and do..... etc.
The balls to stick your neck out of your comfort zone.

plowzedong · 2018-02-27T15:14:27+00:00

"Naturals" were just a little better looking or better socialized at a young age.

Because of this, they had a series of early positive reference experiences with women and with social situations, which in turn created a positive feedback loop: people treated them well, so they felt good and acted confident, so people treated them even better, so they felt even better and acted even more confident, and on and on until this was written into their personality.

People who otherwise get good often have another set of characteristics: they quit worrying about what they "should" do, instead they experiment, try different things and check the result. That means they're also proactive. They view game as a wide ranging yet specialized skillset which can be developed over time.

Ideally you should focus on both game and pd. Personal development, especially when you do it to get girls, alone won't get girls. But it will help you get much hotter and higher quality girls if you know game.

Honestly. A lot of the advice on here is garbage. You'd be better off spending 1-3 months focused on gaming, with an eye towards experimentation and improvement, and never reading or posting on this sub during that period, except for occasional emotional support (you'de potentially be getting rejected 100s or thousands of times). The same things goes for the self dev books. 3 montgs without them wouldn't hurt.

It might be useful to start keeping a personal journal, documenting your progress, problems, and realizations. Also, don't just do game, try to have an area for improvement that you're working on each week or time you go out.

Likewise, unless your pot-smoking pussy-slaying fat friends are helping you advance in life, you might want to reduce their influence.

One thing I notice about beginners is that they don't have a style. They lack style. Their game, even if it's high energy, lacks spark. They seem to lack a strong personality and not be grounded in their own reality.

But here is the one secret.

It's so ridiculously simple that I'm surprised so many guys dedicate time to asking online strangers about women.

In order to get good at dating and attracting women to have to focus on one simple thing...

Dating and attracting women.

Do it to learn it. If possible, find guys who are better than you to show you their pointers and offer individualized advice. But try to base your game on your own experience.

So much of this sub is focused on "this one girl." Fuck that noise.

You shoot a lot of hoops if you want to get get good at basketball. Dating is the same.

So my advice is to practice dating women. That is, approach it with a growth mindset and practice through trial and error. The way to avoid onetitis is to always be gaming and plating other women. The way to cultivate abundance is to.... actually cultivate abundance. Make it you goal to date as much as possible simply to try new things and learn.

After that, double double on what works, and settle into a style and demographic which plays in your favor.

ethical_pa · 2018-02-27T18:54:07+00:00

Simply because these guys don't give a fuck. Which is usually attractive to women.

I'm not saying you should not give a fuck about your life, but you should not give a fuck about women. Women want to be able to chase a bit. They want to feel like they earned a guy. Mostly though, they don't want to be judged. Guys that don't give a fuck generally don't judge and are care free.

NoloRadio · 2018-02-27T22:36:16+00:00

They don't give a shit. This is another way of saying that they're bad at knowing the exact location of social boundaries, which means they break them, which means they seem fresh and interesting.

Most guys who have trouble with this were raised to be careful with the world, and it seeped into their behavior. There are legit reasons to be careful, but this is one of the downsides.

JerryMullin1978 · 2018-02-27T02:34:22+00:00

Confidence

Gagassiz · 2018-02-27T10:04:24+00:00

I've never heard this from any one, but I personally think personality type has a huge role.

It controls your behavior so when you're growing up, you might have a personality that doesn't give you any natural help whereas other types might get a nudge in the right direction with their personality.

Introvert thinkers like me definitely have a bit of a blind spot in relationships and emotion so you've got an even greater barrier to work over. But there is more to it than that ofc

authenticsociallife · 2018-02-27T04:24:19+00:00

It always seems that way when you're not with anyone and then when you are you suddenly don't worry about if anyone else is.

Dating973 · 2018-02-27T11:14:00+00:00

Keep doing what you’re doing and don’t be discouraged by small sample sizes (ie those dudes are just dudes you know, and you also don’t know how many girls they’re actually getting or the reasons why, if they really are). Especially as you get older girls will find those guys less attractive. The important thing is that you keep trying with your approach and not be afraid of failure- it all counts towards self improvement and will pay off in the the end

51f8mous · 2018-02-27T16:00:31+00:00

A couple of things. 1. Charisma/ social intelligence. 2. Persistence. 3. Numbers.

There is a difference between talent and skill. Talent is a natural aptitude for something, and skill comes from practice..

So yes some people have a natural advantage in certain areas, but it’s nothing you can’t close the gap on with practice.

Now the difference between persistence and numbers.... persistence is how many times/how long you try with the same girl... numbers is how many different girls you ‘approach’

Guys that seem like losers but have really hot girls, are extra persistent, and they are that way with almost every girl they meet.

ImJustSo · 2018-02-27T16:29:22+00:00

When you're a child, a girl's gender means nothing special. They're just another little human and you're a little human, and you both wanna play.

As we get older, there's all these other things we have to think about. Social status, love lives, future and children, etc. We no longer just see a human we wanna play with, we see everything else, too.

Guys that just "get it" aren't putting all kinds of unnecessary bullshit on women.

When I'm getting to know a woman, I'm not hiding anything from her and I'm trying to discover everything about her, just for the sake of who she is, not just what's between her legs. I wanna play and I want her to play with me. I'm just a bigger, grown up child, and I'd like things to be as simple as they were back when I wasn't. Girls like that.

SyrusDrake · 2018-02-28T12:19:52+00:00

I know that frustration. I don't expect to be drowning in pussy just because I have decent hygiene, plans for my future, work out etc. But surely those factors shouldn't worsen my chances...

Title	Why does it seem like some people just 'get it' when it comes to girls?
Author	Throwitallawaypua
Upvotes	34
Comments	24
Date	February 27, 2018 2:10 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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