[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 11/30/2012

ideapathic · 2012-11-30T22:42:26+00:00

I've never had any girl show even a bit of interest my entire life. I'll admit, I don't go out and talk to women as much as I should, but I still have been practicing day game, chatting up a few girls in class, etc.

It's just hard to fully commit to practicing game when I keep having this nagging feeling that there's something fundamentally wrong with me that just repels chicks. I know I'm not the best looking guy, but I am 6'1", I have been working out the past year, and I do try to dress pretty well. In terms of looks, I think I'm doing all I can with the limited resources I have.

I'm a senior in college now. It's hard not to think that if I wasn't able to attract anyone these past 3.5 years, especially since people get laid left and right in college, perhaps I'm just inherently an unattractive guy. What can I do to get over this, and how should I start when any attempt to get better at game just seems doomed to fail?

Sometimes_Steve · 2012-11-30T21:57:07+00:00

I've gone on 2 dates with a girl. We don't click. But I still want sex. Should I keep seeing her, or just drop her and wait for the next girl to come along?

She is an ex-partyslut 8/10 kind of girl. I feel like I'm not man enough compared to other guys she's had. And she holds the cards in our relationship. How do I come off as more manly, in control, so that I control her and not her controlling me?

skgoa · 2012-11-30T23:51:33+00:00

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iReptarr · 2012-12-01T00:14:19+00:00

What'd I do concerning this girl I like that I've been talking too that is impossible to tell if she likes me? Do I tell her or just ask?

newyork20lives · 2012-12-01T02:11:30+00:00

Hey, any tips for isolation when out at a nightclub solo? Most people seem to just "go outside for a smoke," which is pretty much as easy as it gets. I don't smoke, though.

I'm thinking of doing it anyway, then pulling a jokingly honest "just kidding! I don't actually smoke, I just wanted to get some alone time with you." From what I gather, most girls my age don't smoke, so I don't think I'd actually be letting anybody down.

I might add that my favorite venue is an sizeable and incredibly loud nightclub, so conversation is nigh impossible on the floor. Cheers, brothas!

hirstyboy · 2012-12-01T00:33:51+00:00

I currently live at home. What are some simple tips/suggestions to going back to her place after meeting a girl at the bar?

What are some ways that you initiate sexual context immediately without sounding creepy and in a humourous way?

Really appreciate all the help. Thanks.

wehooper4 · 2012-12-01T01:05:04+00:00

It's come to the point that I've realized professional help is needed for killing my AA. Two years in: It's still crippling, and still cant force my self out of it.

Outside of the PUA community and it's $3k boot camps, where would look for something the equivalent of a personal trainer for social skills?

Nexdominus · 2012-12-01T05:27:15+00:00

A girl messaged me over facebook who I have interacted with once and thought was really attractive. We were talking about not being able to sleep and I mentioned i can never sleep after sex. She then goes on to say that shes thought ive been really hot since the day she met me. I want to fuck her over spring break and im sure she would be down if she doesnt have a boyfriend at the time. How can I pick up where we left off and introduce the idea without saying, I want to fuck you.

Nexdominus · 2012-12-01T13:21:03+00:00

Is it bad that I religiously read this stuff even though I have no intention of becoming one of those guys that just go out and approach every girl? Honestly, that stuff doesn't interest me. I just want more confidence and higher self esteem, and the threads here that are mostly revolved around "inner game" seem way more helpful to me than any other thread about "approaching"

gadelat · 2012-12-01T00:25:22+00:00

How should i approach group of girls (without guys) dancing alone in circle at dance floor? Last time i approached with friends and i shouted "Don't be feminist! Dance with us!". Bad call.

2012-11-30T23:20:41+00:00

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zilch1127 · 2012-12-01T01:17:57+00:00

When looking to initiate with a girl in a class/lecture hall type setting, is it better to open and sit right next to her or to sit one seat away?

Nexdominus · 2012-12-01T03:51:04+00:00

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ihavenoconfidence10 · 2012-12-01T04:50:31+00:00

I want to date this girl I am friends with. Known her for two years, she broke up with her bf half way through this year. She still talks about him in conversation here and there but I know it is over between them. She mentioned how he has been getting fit recently in a conversation we were having about random shit just the other day. It kind of bothers me, I know we were getting pretty comfortable with each other at one point but then I started to back off because I was falling too hard for her. Also a mutual friend started asking her if she was dating me which made things awkward for a bit. She used to constantly say to me she wished she was not single. Once she mentioned she had a dream we were dating, and her friend once had a dream with me in it (a friend I have never met). But I dont get clear messages like that from her anymore. I thought I would wait for her to get over her boyfriend before asking her out. Now I think she may have gotten over me? How do I bring myself back into the game? I am dying to ask her out, but horrified of being rejected.

This small obstacle is upsetting the balance I had in the rest of my life. I need some coaching and to get my shit together.

Svorax · 2012-12-01T06:53:23+00:00

There's this girl at my job who is, from what I can tell, incredibly attracted to me. Either that or she's just the flirtatious type, but she doesn't seem that way and she's only flirtsy with me. Anyway, she initiates kino with me, but it's odd because I don't really know what to do back. I've asked her out a couple times (just a nonchalant "hey, let's go hang out some time), but she doesn't seem to be giving me any direct responses. I've only talked to her a couple times so I don't have her number yet. Give me some advice for next steps, please?

Edit: wording

HelpMeLove · 2012-12-01T13:15:40+00:00

New here a week and the life advice has been great. I think just the overall confidence boost will do wonders. But I already have a girlfriend. I am here to be sure I keep her. Again, I think the confidence in general will help.
Any specific advice on showing a current girlfriend my value?

tankdestroyer · 2012-12-01T21:15:15+00:00

So there's this girl I met at a party about a month ago. I talked to her and got her number she seemed a bit interested in me. I text her 3 days later asking if she wants to go grab some coffee. We text back and forth but when i say "how does 8 sound?" she does t respond back. So now it's Saturday and I'm thinking of hitting her up again. Should I text her or call her? And I have no idea where to go, I've. Ever been on a date before. Will this come off as too needy?

Idontlikekarmawhores · 2012-11-30T23:26:19+00:00

Oneitis problem here. Basically i fell for the chick at work, shes an alpha female but very unstable too, she has a bf, said she left him cus of me, believed her but that never happened. For other mutual problems i stopped the relationship. She wants to talk to me outside work but i didnt do it. Everytime i see her at work i feel beta as fuck :/ how do i show stop thinking about her? And act more alpha around her?

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-12-01T01:22:38+00:00

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Saandman · 2012-12-01T01:39:01+00:00

I know everyone says no to work relationships, but ive been flirting with a girl via email at work, and i feel we have a strong mutual attraction. I never have the guts to go up to her in person and buold attraction because shes in a bull pen area with a lot of people. What steps should i take?

Also, how long do you think a girls attraction usually lasts before she gives up and moves on?

Drumheros · 2012-12-01T05:24:55+00:00

Problem with first dates here, I want to really be out there with first dates, what would be a good selection of places to make an impression on the HB?

brodie90 · 2012-12-01T08:06:42+00:00

What would be the best way to introduce myself to the shy girl who i don't have any classes with nor do we share any social circles.

-marbles- · 2012-12-01T10:02:44+00:00

Hey, might be a little late. But can anyone help me out with my OKC profile? www.okcupid/profile/lasiyo

Nexdominus · 2012-12-01T11:39:52+00:00

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General_Awesome · 2012-12-02T01:52:47+00:00

Met a girl last week, date closed and she flaked, saying that she wasn't willing meeting with people she didn't know (via text), although I spoke with her for 2 hours or so. What should I have done in this case?

Toxic_Squid · 2012-12-03T12:51:38+00:00

Initiating Text/Facebook Openers

Zeroliche · 2012-12-04T14:44:53+00:00

I'm not old enough to drink, is the mall a good place to know girls around my age?

2012-12-01T07:54:00+00:00

What is the best technique to escalate things with a girl in my class (be 16) and suggest hanging out at her place?

Rydrttyrdrd · 2012-11-30T21:35:11+00:00

How do I convince a girl to keep our relationship secret? Meaning no telling people that we are dating and no obvious displays of affection around people.

Reason: I hate other people knowing about my personal life and it makes me feel vulnerable and ashamed.

Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 11/30/2012
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Date	November 30, 2012 8:58 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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