[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/3/14

IcyHotStuntaz · 2014-03-04T00:17:42+00:00

Eye Contact

I'm just starting on this as a personal improvement project. So I am attempting to do this with both guys and girls.

How much is too much? Since it is all awkward/new to me, it ALL feels awkward so I don't know where the line is...make sense?

Are there simple rules or guidelines for this new adventure?

Hry1337 · 2014-03-03T20:48:08+00:00

Im 3 months after LTR break up

In first 2,3 weeks i was a number closing machine - on bus , gym ,sidewalk . Then i found seddit and started reading all the articles ,posts and FAQ over there ->

I found it really inspiring it changed my game and for some crazy reason only extended my AA . I read The Game by Nill Strauss , now im trying his 30 day challange but i cannot even start finish day one challange.

Also thinking about ex sometimes is killing me and sometimes giving me all HYPED for better future.

Any tips ?

Sorry for my english i'm not a native speaker .

ScotchbriteBlue · 2014-03-06T09:32:55+00:00

I made out with a girl I knew at a bar last week when we were both hammered. I discount this as we were both drunk. Now she's a bit touchier with me and has no issues with me kissing her on the top of her head/cheek when I see her. Do I need more to go on or do I just go for the kiss on the lips and go from there?

A_Suffering_Panda · 2014-03-03T21:03:24+00:00

This is a one girl example on the surface, but this type of thing happens fairly often to me, so im wondering what it is im doing wrong. So last weekend i was at a small frat party (which i am not in), about 50 people, probably 15-20 of which are girls. I start talking to this girl and her friend, giving the girl im interested in much more attention. were mostly just chatting, and eventually she suggests we go out on the dance floor. So i let her follow me (dont take her hand though because i forgot), we start grinding for like 5 minutes, then she leaves for something as a song ends and i dont talk to her for a while. I start talking to some other girls that im not all that into, and later she comes back out and is grinding with a guy that looks like a typical frat guy. So long story short, after me she started trying to get me jealous (im fairly certain she was interested). She was still with him when i was leaving, but she didnt seem incredibly interested in him. I got her number on my way out, and she said "You'll call me, right?". So what would any of you have done in this situation? should i have tried to kiss her on the dance floor, found a way to isolate her, or both?

classysocks · 2014-03-03T21:14:42+00:00

I'm going to try to keep this short. There is a chick I have wanted to get with since as long as I can remember. I see her during the summer when I vacation at a lake. We party on islands, drink, get stoned, whatever. Previous years have been unsucesfull with what I really want to do with her. This year however my family is staying in a cottage they own right next to her familys. So basically we will be interacting 80% of the time instead of 15%. The past year I've stepped up my game a lot, started working out, started boxing, started getting girls. But I'm worried since I've always had such a crush on her I'll just fall back into white knighting her. I'm only going to be up there for a week and need advice for new game because the old beta bull shit never worked and it never will.

TheSicilianDude · 2014-03-03T21:30:05+00:00

I gotta be honest- I've been at this for 2 years and I've improved so much, but I still suck at day game. This is important because I've really been trying to transition to doing MORE day game than night game.

In night game, I don't even think about openers. I almost always open with: "Hey, how's it going? I'm _____!" and that has pretty much never failed me. It shows confidence that I don't need an opener and I just want to meet the girl.

But for day game, I often feel like this wouldn't be a good opener. People expect to meet people out at bars and parties. Not so much during the day. I could always do the more direct and bold "Hey, I know this is random, but I saw you from over there and thought you were cute so I wanted to say hi. I'm ____."

Long story short, I have this idea that you need a good opener to do well in day game.

Do you need to be more direct in day game?
Do you usually think of a situational opener in day game? (e.g. at the bookstore "Is that book any good?")
How does it really differ from night game?

Any help is appreciated.

Nerf_Circus · 2014-03-03T22:52:06+00:00

Hey,

Is it unwise to let your friends with benefits sleep over?

Cuddling after sex has always felt natural do I avoid that with fwb girls to avoid the interaction from being emotional intermittent?

bl1y · 2014-03-05T11:16:00+00:00

In my college class, it is often really quiet and many people keep to themselves. On the first week, I started talking to this cute girl who sits near me.

Being that my class is quiet, my conversations with the girl I speak to are usually the only thing heard and I know it's often that girls are usualy more interested in guys who can confidently speak with other attractive girls which I do.

I've started to notice girls I'd be interested in, glancing at me and would like to speak to them, but am curious if talking with a bunch of girls in the same class in a flirty way will look too desperate and playery.

And to add, in my class, the only time youre able to talk is before and after class.

thisaccount1984 · 2014-03-03T23:08:06+00:00

So on sunday I got a girls #, messaged her today to meet me somewhere at noon for lunch. She told me she had class, and that was the end of the exchange.

When do I text her again? Do I just say "meet me here" again and hope she doesnt go for the same excuse?

neurotoxicguitar · 2014-03-04T02:09:47+00:00

Used every bit of advice found on Seddit (except the part that says to move on from this girl), and I'm pretty confident that I'm doing most things right. Got a girls number, start crushing on her. Asked her out for coffee, and she declined.

Thing is, she texts me on her own about once or twice a week but doesn't seem to try to keep the conversation flowing very well. This confuses me greatly- why did she start a text when she's not going to try very hard? I have a lot to offer for conversations and can keep it flowing pretty well, so I'm certain it isn't on my end.

[Edit for some background] When we're in person, in class, I get her to laugh often. I developed a good reputation in that class and am decently popular. I've made it clear that I like her and even connected with her on various levels.

Raelo29 · 2014-03-04T08:12:12+00:00

I have been approaching many girls. I am a sophomore in college and while I get really good responses most girls have boyfriends. I don't care about these, it is the ones that I get numbers or dates from that I am concerned with. I continue to give off the impression that I am trying to date them (don't really care either way)

How differently should I be approaching a girl (how i do is below) when I want to fuck them or when I want to date them?

I approach and say hi, talk for usually 10 minutes or longer and then ask for number, same day say nice to meet you, next day ask to get together. If that get together goes well I usually ask to come over and make dinner with me or go for a walk or something casual...I usually lose interest by now.

xzak · 2014-03-04T17:57:10+00:00

How to find friends willing to get out their comfort zones

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-03-04T19:27:28+00:00

So I K-closed this girl at a bar the other night but she wouldn't give me her number. Is this a thing ?

I always figured the kiss to be higher up on the escalation ladder than the number ? Did she no want to leave a breadcrumb trail because she has a boyfriend ? Did she regret kissing me ? I was prett confused for the rest of fifteen of minutes that night

Vletrmx · 2014-03-04T20:16:38+00:00

How do I maintain a positive mindset and work towards my goals when I'm too sick to function properly?

My motivation and "momentum" have been very low recently. Tried hitting the gym but felt like shit afterwards, and going out isn't really enjoyable for me right now either.

Philosophicaltree · 2014-03-05T06:20:32+00:00

I have a friend who I've hooked up with before, but there doesn't seem to be much attraction. This week I have been hanging out with her one on one, and I am spending tomorrow afternoon at her apartment and going to the gym with her. Friday evening we may hang out in her apartment. How do I bring back the attraction that was once there? If it helps, she admitted that she had once had feelings for me 4 years ago while I was interested in someone else. This was after our first hookup that she said this.

blastncruise · 2014-03-05T06:38:07+00:00

Any advice for flirting with women from different cultural backgrounds where English is their second language?

e_corleone · 2014-03-05T07:59:56+00:00

Quick question.

Had an HB8 that spent the night at my place two weekends ago on a Sat night. I didn't f-close (partly because I was too drunk), but we both gave each other oral sex. We hung out and talked briefly at my place on Sun morning, then a mutual friend we had (one of her girlfriends, who's also a good friend of mine) picked her up.

I let a few days pass, then texted her a light and funny text on Thursday (the day prior). She replied, then I followed up by asking her how she was doing. I wanted to ease into the conversation before setting up a date. She didn't reply, so I left it alone.

I then texted her the next day (Friday) around noon, seeing if she wanted to hang out that weekend, but she didn't respond. So then when I was out with my friends on Sat night, I saw her with the group. That was by chance and wasn't something I planned. We just have the same social circle.

She acted distant towards me compared to the previous weekend when she was talkative and flirtatious. We talked here and there throughout the night. At one point told me that she likes her space. I didn't ask a question to trigger her to tell me that, it just came in the flow of conversation.

Anyways, nothing happened that night. I hung out with my friends while she was with us and that was that. I tried to leave her be and not be intrusive. Still, I found it a little odd that she essentially acted disinterested after being extremely interested the previous weekend.

Should I bother texting her?

2014-03-05T18:19:48+00:00

How do I not get jealous over my girlfriend showing more attention to one of my guy friends than me? I know it's a beta question, but it's really hard not to get jealous. The weird thing is, the guy she's paying more attention to is the one who introduced me to PUA and r/seduction in the first place. I know I shouldn't get jealous but I can't help feeling a bit of jealousy.

19911 · 2014-03-05T22:41:31+00:00

I'm interested in this girl at my school but we usually just greet each other and when we do have conversations they are usually short.How do I progress the relationship further and make my intentions clear?

RustToxicMan · 2014-03-06T02:54:58+00:00

Me and this girl started dating a while back now and she is afraid to kiss how can i fix that?

glassjoe92 · 2014-03-06T03:52:36+00:00

There's a girl in one of my lecture classes that I think is really cute. She's in a sorority and I'm not a frat guy, don’t know if that matters. I was looking at her today in class and we made eye contact once or twice and she'd look away really quick when we did but I didn't stop. I need to talk to her, but seats are pretty much established. Should I just walk up to her and say hey or compliment her? I think her eyes are gorgeous but I know that's a basic compliment.

Sickffreak · 2014-03-06T05:46:12+00:00

Whats kino

Suhtorious_BIG · 2014-03-06T18:26:14+00:00

I'm about halfway through "The Game" and I really enjoy it. What other books/PDF's should I read? All responses welcome.

XionGuard · 2014-03-06T21:52:49+00:00

Do you guys usually go with your gut when it comes to telling if a girl is interested in you?

gary_three · 2014-03-07T01:38:04+00:00

hi, i need some help my female cousin want introduce me with her friend (women and i male fyi), but i never on date before, i very shy in front women. i already 30 but never been on date, never kiss, and so on... i want try imprest this girl for not make my cousin feel bad, she really worried about me and want help but in fact i dont have thing to show. i dont know what say when meet her, should i try learn some magic trick to entertain them? i can play some flute if that nice i will bring it. what dress i should wear? sorry too many question, i so nervous... i have bad experience when talking with women, they tend to like me... unless my family, they know me, and find me ok, and not weird. i dont know what to talk with women, i really confuse. i not make jokes, i really desperate and need some serious advice... thank you, your help really mean for me

MasterBiltong · 2014-03-07T19:37:06+00:00

I'm currently studying abroad and I f-closed one of the girls who is in our close group of friends. She said that she wanted to have sex with me again because we were both pretty drunk but more recently she has been saying that she doesn't want to hook up with anyone in our group of friends because it complicates things. Do you think I still have a chance to hook up with her again? or should I just forget about it and move on?

Bootyan · 2014-03-07T07:52:43+00:00

I can get dates. I can approach and get a number. I feel comfortable talking during the dates I set up, but I don't get anything going. I'm bored by the end. What do I need to do to get myself to take more risks or make things more interesting for myself?

very1 · 2014-03-03T22:01:50+00:00

Hey Seddit, I don't think this deserves a thread, so I'll ask here.

I have a girl who I don't find 100% physical attractive after me. The problem is, she's in a few of my classes, and I find her rather cool otherwise. In short, how do I friendzone her?

Like an idiot, I kissed her (and three other girls) at a house party after a drink or two, though she's the only one who's still contacting me.

I've tried acting like my "pre-seddit" self around her, eg: being unfunny and boring, but it's hard to revert to the way I used to be.

neurotoxicguitar · 2014-03-04T04:39:12+00:00

Ok guys there's this girl who i wasn't interested in that ditched me. She's in my class though. Now, how do i call out on her behaviour in which she ditched me without even sending me a text. This is to show her that i will not tolerate this

Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/3/14
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Comments	98
Date	March 3, 2014 8:34 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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