[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/24/2012 (please upvote - zero karma)

MrChunkz · 2012-12-24T23:11:15+00:00

What are some fundamentals for a guy that is "low energy?" I'm a funny guy, pretty smart, and I'm social when I engage as well. I just don't get as intense or invested as some people though. Is this something I can work with, or is this just a symptom of being afc?

HorseLifer · 2012-12-24T21:26:52+00:00

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daveimprovement · 2012-12-24T21:08:33+00:00

Despite my looks, I've been able to defeat my AA. Or at least I have started really making some breakthroughs in that department. But I still have a hard time with the whole escalation thing. What is the one thing I need to say to myself that will help me escalate?

gx61 · 2012-12-24T22:13:22+00:00

How does one become socially calibrated? I've come to realize my main problem when communicating with women and people in general is I am socially retarded. I unconsciously talk about negative things in conversations and make fun of people (I don't mean it in a mean way but it comes across that way). How do I become more socially calibrated and not go full retard in social situations?

hirstyboy · 2012-12-24T21:26:53+00:00

I live at home and its often too expensive for me to get downtown to go out. I'm at the point where Ill start trying sober in the day. My question is what are some good ways to do this solo?

psyche_chems · 2012-12-24T22:04:15+00:00

the other day on the bus, an HB9 stared at me for a good 2-3 seconds and then looked away quickly. Would you consider this an IOI?

ARealSocialIdiot · 2012-12-24T22:30:20+00:00

There's a girl I like, I know she has liked me and may still do.

She rejected me though, when I said we should go for a drink.

We're still in the situation I was before, but the tables have turned. She always overtly liked me before, now that I've asked her out and she's rejected me she's in power.

What should I do to get her out with me?

ARealSocialIdiot · 2012-12-24T22:41:56+00:00

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haloll · 2012-12-24T23:43:45+00:00

It seems like the fact that I'm a virgin matters to everyone but me. My guy friends are giving me shit because of it, and the few women that I've been able to escalate successfully with have completely lost interest when the fact that I'm a virgin comes up. These women were the only ones I've even had a remote chance of losing it with. I didn't know that this is such a big deal. What can I do about it EDIT: I'm 19

DongcopterPirate · 2012-12-24T23:01:02+00:00

What's the key things in adjusting to (fairly suddenly) being much more handsome?

Girls of a certain kind, who wouldn't consider me before, are giving me looks now (working out, some small but important changes to hair/fashion/social skills). Female friends (platonic, genuine) confirm my suspicions that I'm suddenly an 8-9 instead of a 6-7. I'm glad, but I'm used to having to fight for attention.

Overt_Narcissist · 2012-12-24T21:14:26+00:00

So about 4 months ago, I got a waitress at a bar to write her number on paper for me. I lost my phone the day afterwards, and I lost the paper in my room, but I recently found it while I was rearranging my furniture. Should I contact her? How?

This_is_skyler · 2012-12-24T23:24:25+00:00

I would apreciate answers to both of the first 2 sample questions

watermelonpickle · 2012-12-24T23:24:00+00:00

I prefer day game to night game because I don't really enjoy parties, clubs or drinking. But I'm much better at night game than day game. What do I need to do to improve at day game?

It seems like whenever I'm doing well with a girl I don't even realize that I have her attracted and never go for a #close because it doesn't cross my mind. But when I am conscious of what I'm doing I freak out or I just flat out don't build any attraction.

gadelat · 2012-12-24T23:37:01+00:00

It's popular in this subreddit saying you should not watch for IOIs, but i think IOIs need to be used for calibration. For example if you squeeze girls hand and she wont return that squeeze, or when you play with her fingers but she won't in return play with your fingers but allow you to do so, am i right i should not escalate more and instead need to calibrate or i should ignore this and continue to escalate?

idk112345 · 2012-12-24T22:52:04+00:00

I have been hanging out with a new group of friends lately. Have seen this one girl maybe three or four times. We have pregamed at my place and have been to clubs and bars together and have seen each other in uni a few times. I have been unintentionally negging her quite a bit and the other night standing in line for the club she looked at me after a light hearted joke I made at her expense and said something like "I know that you like me, x". In the club we were dancing next ot each other but not with each other, she always was sipping on my drinks though and also bought me a shot after I told her she drank half of my vodka red bull. A few days later after giving her a hard time about her drinking up my expensive drinks she gave me a playful punch telling me to stop teasing her. Not sure if I'm legitimately upsetting her or if she is interested.

awildblokeappeared · 2012-12-24T23:44:11+00:00

How do I deal with being "tired" all of the time?

Every time I go out with friends I am practically falling asleep in my chair by 2am. I just don't feel like I have the energy to go out and get crazy. I've tried drinking coffee and whatnot, but it makes me feel unhealthy and doesn't last long.

What do you to do get the motivation to go out and stay up?

daveimprovement · 2012-12-24T21:12:03+00:00

Another question. I seem to have a problem keeping my interactions safe. I've been trying to get myself on the mentality of getting rejected just so I can prove to myself that I'm not keeping my interactions safe as well as getting myself over the feeling of being rejected.

How do I keep myself from being too safe? Its like I instinctively go there.

InquisitiveOne · 2012-12-25T00:25:51+00:00

I'm pretty decent at talking to girls. What I'm not very good at is approaching someone that I've made positive eye contact with...especially in a social setting like a hookah lounge or party. So my problem would be the initial approach. Also, how do you appeoach that person they are in a group? Say perhaps 4 friends. Like I said, im a great conversationalist, just dont know how to start it off in certain situations.

Foezjie · 2012-12-25T07:19:10+00:00

The last two times a girl askes something from me (A beer or a glowstick given out at a party) and I refuse to give it, it always turns into a long, playful argument where they keep asking and I keep refusing (using the normal methods that are suggested here, I think).

It's all fun, but I can't seem to put an end to that initial "argument". Any tips on this situation?

Lavandergooms · 2012-12-25T01:00:58+00:00

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Wiggin_Andrew · 2012-12-24T23:28:36+00:00

I just got back from some last minute chrimbus shopping, and while in hot topic I started up this awkward-but-kinda-nice chat with a really cute impact girl and ended up asking for her number. I got it. What do now?

Also what would be a good date spot for an 18yo?

InquisitiveOne · 2012-12-25T00:12:38+00:00

Can someone explain kino to me? I know its "touching." But how does one use it effectively?

Kidcurry · 2012-12-25T00:30:07+00:00

What am I supposed to do on once I am on a date? I absolutely hate going into interview mode but its sometimes the only thing to do to escape awkward city.

So far I have some funny stories to tell but that's it..how do I incorporate her into the conversation if I'm telling stories?

Vietlotus · 2012-12-25T01:22:53+00:00

if a girl says stuff like Don't talk to me but playfully... am I misunderstanding that she's joking or is she just playing around... She usually playfully hits me all the time

DRAGaDEAD · 2012-12-25T01:57:03+00:00

I'm in highschool and I'm having trouble changing girls' opinion of me since they have known me throughout my childhood. This is making it hard for me to get a relationship.. any tips? Also, in past relationships I go through random periods of paranoia that the girl doesn't like me anymore and I don't know why.. any tips on how to get over that too? Thanks in advance

uncooked_spaghetti · 2012-12-25T06:32:15+00:00

How does a guy in high school meet girls if he goes to an all boy school? Transferring to another school is not an option, by the way (mom pays the bills, so makes me go there).

erikster1000 · 2012-12-25T06:44:04+00:00

This one girl i like asked me to go to TOLO (Sadie Hawkins) but she said "as friends" (though i think she was just hesitant). Anyway, both her and i are busy for the night of the next (and last) dance of the year. Should i ask her just to get the idea that i like her or not?

edit:freshman in high school

Colbaire · 2012-12-25T06:52:12+00:00

Should I even give a shit in high school? Should the possibility of awkwardness sitting next to the girl who rejected me even matter? Do I have to talk to her for a while before I ask her out or do I just let her know how I feel and ask for a date?

Freevoulous · 2012-12-25T07:00:53+00:00

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thenorthwinddothblow · 2012-12-24T23:36:56+00:00

If you were called Robin (like I am) how would you use that to your advantage over the festive period?

Freevoulous · 2012-12-25T04:48:49+00:00

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wagamo · 2012-12-24T21:09:24+00:00

I have a problem with being late. By late I mean late for everything. Work, school and social gathers; late 9 times out of 10. How problematic is this when it comes to seduction? Or should I just accept that I'm an unorganized individual?

VirtualAnarchy · 2012-12-25T00:22:05+00:00

I have a terrible fear of rejection. I do extremely well with girls I'm introduced to, but I can't approach one for the life of me. I've started reading The Game, a book recommended to me countless times by members here, and it's great so far, but in the field I don't know what to say after hi. It takes a while for a conversation to roll for me. All I need are a couple of solid lines and I think I'll be OK.

blue_tune · 2012-12-25T02:07:12+00:00

I'm not trying to get a girl just to get laid, I'd rather have that once I have a good relationship going for a while. My main problem is communication/conversations with girls I'm attracted to. Whenever I am into a girl I never know what to say which kills any attraction if there was any. How do I go about starting a conversation with a random girl I see at campus, the mall, street, etc., that I want to go out with and show my intentions to possibly get into a relationship once we know each other enough without seeming like a desperate guy? Girls say I'm usually quiet and shy which is not what I want to be and I know its off putting to them. I usually get to texting the girl and once I bring up going out they just want to be friends or something. I keep hearing that guys should keep trying until they are comfortable but there is no point if it ends with rejection because I have trouble starting and keeping a conversation going. I'm on break right now so the only girls I talk to are the ones at work or that I text. Two of the girls I talk to I have been rejected by, so if there are little things I should do or say to them as pre-game for when I see a girl I'm into would be helpful.

hallsworth · 2012-12-25T02:42:38+00:00

Edit: forgot it was simple questions.

puff_of_fluff · 2012-12-25T03:01:43+00:00

If I send a text and no response is received, when is the appropriate time (if any) to send another?

androsiman · 2012-12-25T03:48:44+00:00

Girl I met and was macking on sent me a "merry christmas" text wich I responded to with "merry christmas, girlname!". Then she sent me a ":D". Do I respond or play it cool?

Freevoulous · 2012-12-25T03:55:01+00:00

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OC_Nerd1 · 2012-12-25T04:35:47+00:00

How do I keep a conversation going through text. I got her # and we texted for a bit, but how do you keep it interesting and how do you know when to stop and go at it again later?

SimpQuestThrow · 2012-12-25T05:18:45+00:00

So I've read over and over again the advice to just start going places and doing things, but how do I find bars or other places in my city to go to? I live in a medium sized city, so I'm sure they exist, but I don't live downtown or anything, so its not like there are a lot really close to me.

sh0nuff · 2012-12-25T05:23:49+00:00

I'd like to know how to friend zone girls I'm not into without actually losing them as friends.. because we all know that the ones we don't want are the ones we usually end up getting.

HaveTwoBananas · 2012-12-25T05:25:06+00:00

Was hanging out with a female friend (actually was a previous target, but turned out to basically be a lesbian) and her roommate. Was chatting up the roommate, turning the conversation sexual etc, but didn't initiate kino (this is a major problem of mine). Last call comes and we all go back to their apartment and shoot the shit for a few hours. Friend eventually goes to bed and I bounce like a giant retard (i know, i know). Anyway, is there still a chance on escalating with the roommate on another night out? Or do you think my chances are blown and I shouldn't bother.

syseddit · 2012-12-25T08:26:45+00:00

How do I hold interest if I don't speak the language very well? (literally)

Yes... of course, learn the language. I am working on it. In the meantime what can I do now?

austinbayarea · 2012-12-25T08:39:51+00:00

Background Girl I went to highschool with has been texting me. Told me she wanted to goto prom together and she thinks I'm sexy etc. She asked me if I want a relationship (keep in mind the only communication we've had is text message) and I dont want a relationship, or at least I dont want to just start a relationship with some random girl I barely know.

How do I escalate with this girl? I know she finds me attractive, but theres no way I'd start a relationship with her. I had to paraphrase a ton of this stuff, but everything I said is true.

"If you don't want a relationship then I'm the wrong person because I don't hookup" -This girl.

Idontlikekarmawhores · 2012-12-25T11:52:32+00:00

Can you give me a summary of inner game? good habits i should have to developt iit? thanks

2012-12-25T12:28:14+00:00

I want to ask out a girl, she works at the post office and it's the only time I ever see her. Any tips on approaching women while they're at work - particularly if they're behind the counter?

grinny588 · 2012-12-25T12:40:54+00:00

because of my current situation, I still live with the rents. How should I go about telling this to girls? should I wait after a couple dates? should I just be honest?

spivey378 · 2012-12-25T13:13:39+00:00

I met a girl a few months ago and went out with her a few times. Our schedules don't match up at all and I want to move forward but not burn any bridges with her. We still have great chemistry but want to infiltrate her social circle. I live in a foreign country (korea) and don't know too many people.

How do I transition from being interested in her to being more impartial and maybe interested in her friends without being a dick?

PullOnMyJeans · 2012-12-25T13:18:38+00:00

Is there a female version of this subreddit ?

doublenarrow · 2012-12-25T13:22:02+00:00

How do I stop being so oblivious? Numerous girls dropped some very obvious hints over the past semester (commenting on the color of my boxers, running fingers down my spine, etc), and I never realize what happened until several month later.

Freevoulous · 2012-12-25T16:26:21+00:00

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SeizeTheGay · 2012-12-25T18:28:23+00:00

I asked a girl out today for a coffee tomorrow. We met this friday at a party, and it turns out we went to drama class together as kids. We talked for a bit, and when I left I said "I think you're cool, give me your number" When I called her, she sounded a bit blushed and flattered. She said that I made her happy by calling since she didn't think I would.

So there you have the situation, I'm pretty nervous even though my game has improved severely in the last couple of months. So what I'm asking for is good leads? Subjects?We're both 18 and go to the same school, for clarification.

Thanks seddit for everything so far, you guys are lifesavers.

tl;dr - met a girl at a party, having coffee tomorrow, tips on subjects if the conversation goes cold?

haxfar · 2012-12-25T22:39:07+00:00

Have waited a bit for a new one of these, so yay \o/

A few months back, someone made a really good comment on how to kiss. Until that comment I couldn't get my mind around how one kisses, but I didn't save the comment that time, so I'm wondering if anyone have it saved or recognizes it. What I remember what was great about it, was parts of the escalation was up to the girl.

Iirc it started with lightly pressing your lips against her, then very slightly open mouth waiting for her to follow up.

Would be really nice to have it again, if possible.

Drvibe · 2012-12-26T01:19:31+00:00

I'm a bad kisser only kissed one girl, anything I can read or practise solo ?

banana_box · 2012-12-26T09:45:14+00:00

ive been talking to a girl that i havent built that much attraction with. i've asked her to do something together. how do i make it clear that it'll be us 2 and that it's a date?

TsumeAlphaWolf · 2012-12-26T10:37:26+00:00

Girl says "We'll see" to me telling her we should go out. How do I respond?

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bronzeflame · 2012-12-26T00:06:55+00:00

do sisters give good dating advice?

PhaseIV · 2012-12-26T01:57:29+00:00

How do I talk to a girl who I have met a few times at parties but never gone further than that?

Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/24/2012 (please upvote - zero karma)
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Date	December 24, 2012 8:49 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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