[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 1/8/2013 (please upvote - zero karma)

LikeMyWife · 2013-01-08T17:59:43+00:00

I had this situation recently - at a wedding out of town and met a girl. Hit it off, was hoping to hook up with her that night, but got separated after ending with a k-close.

We met up for drinks the next night and things seemed to be going well. But when the night ended and I asked to go back to her place, she was offended. Apparently she thought things were going to lead to something more long-term. I was only looking for a one night stand.

So my question is: how do you drop hints on a date that you're only interested in a one night stand?

2013-01-09T04:23:23+00:00

Today I did some shopping at some outlet malls. The entire time I said to myself, "Okay, there's a target go after her." I kept avoiding every single target. I said to myself okay fuck it. Go into that Sunglass shop and hit on this girl now. (HB7) I went in and made small talk and such about the sunglasses and how many pairs blah blah etc etc. cracked some jokes.

Then said to her, "I don't really need sunglasses, I just thought you were cute and had to meet you." Hand shake direct eye contact slight smirk. Then I asked her what she was doing after work for the Insta-date and AT FIRST she said, "Oh I don't really have a whole lot of time to hang out and all and I work late." I said, "That's cool I can get your number and we can hang out later on then." Then she shifted to I have a boyfriend and I said back to her, "That's fine he can come with us." she gives me a genuine laugh not a (You're a customer laugh). She says, " I don't think he would like that at all." I say, " He can chauffeur us around with a grin." She says, " he definitely wouldn't like that and chuckles. After that I say, "Well alright then I'll catch you later." I walked out of the store with my head higher then before and anxiety went away. I FELT AWESOME FROM GETTING REJECTED. To all the guys out there. Getting rejected is awesome you learn a lot about yourself. KEEP TRYING!

So Seddit, What did I do wrong in that situation how could I have kept it going and what are some tips for me in the future?

DialSquare · 2013-01-08T16:32:40+00:00

I have a fairly good memory, so I often will remember girls and some details about them even after a long time has passed and they more than likely no longer remember me. What should I do when I come across them again, call them by name or pretend that I forgot? It feels a bit embarrassing when I remember someone's name that was only a casual acquaintance 6 years ago, as if I've been secretly stalking them this whole time or something.

MulePUA · 2013-01-08T18:10:29+00:00

I'm going to a party of a friend of a friend and want to meet some girls there, how can I avoid seeming like 'that guy who's hitting on everyone'

frogbarrel · 2013-01-08T15:55:32+00:00

My confidence is coming up slowly, i live in new jersey (15 minutes from the city) I do not want to go to the city to pick up girls. Where are some places i can find some females to talk to?

noobdawg · 2013-01-08T22:16:33+00:00

I actually have the problem that was mentioned as an example. There's a girl in my maths class that i'd love to get talking to, problem is she sits on the other side of the class and at no other point do we cross paths (no other shared classes or mutual friends). So my question is how do I approach her and when is the best time to do so ?

I hate to repeat questions that have already been asked, so please link me if I'm being an idiot.

Dudeseemslegit · 2013-01-08T18:18:39+00:00

Going to the birthday party of a girl I've hooked up with a few times on sat. It's a wristband deal at a local bar with a bunch of her friends who I really don't know. We have a weird relationship that started around xmas; hook up, go a few days without talking - kind of like a staring contest to see who blinks first, hang out. Wash, rinse, repeat. Without looking needy, how do I work it so that I'm the one she goes home with at the end of the night?

Canei · 2013-01-08T20:49:42+00:00

I met this great girl when I lived in another city, but I had a GF at the time. We've reconnected recently, but we live a long ways apart now. We flirt a little, but I'm definitely the aggressor. Seeing each other would require a deliberate visit to the other's city.

Don't worry, I'm still meeting other women, but I really like this one. Tips on how to play this are welcome as fuck.

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choc_is_back · 2013-01-08T19:08:06+00:00

What's the typical sedditors opinion about "bucket lists", as in having goals like banging a certain type or being in a threesome? I have two dates this weekend that I think I could f-close if I really want to. Being a late bloomer and only truly building my confidence in the last couple years my motivation is simply to be able to say that I got two women in one weekend. I'm conflicted about whether it means I still have inner game to work on or that I'm in a place where I'm using my new skills to my advantage. Maybe both?

spivey378 · 2013-01-08T20:24:58+00:00

How do I set a date up for a specific day in case she's busy and not seem like a loser that has both weekend days available?

Recently I said lets hang on friday (I was free saturday too) and she said she was busy. Should I have said "how does saturday work?" I'm then asking for permission and look weaker and going along with her schedule and while having nothing to do for the weekend.

The same thing happened a few weeks later (she has a tight group of friends).

Cheeseblockz · 2013-01-08T21:58:40+00:00

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jros14 · 2013-01-08T22:59:33+00:00

So I was on a family vacation and my mom knows some people there. A couple of the kids of my mom's friend took my sister and I out. It was me, my sister, and this girl and her brother. Me and the girl had great chemistry and we were laughing a lot, etc. But I didn't feel comfortable escalating kino because her brother and my sister were right there. We had our bodies pressed against each other almost the whole night at various bars, and we were sitting next to each other the whole time.

What are some subtle ways that I could have been more forward with her - in a way that she knows exactly what I just did and the connotation of it, but the other people around don't notice it?

squanto1357 · 2013-01-09T01:45:34+00:00

I know a simple way for people to be comfortable is to smile, or perhaps making eye contact and smiling to strangers on the street. Unfortunately only a genuine smile looks any good on me. What are some things I could do to help this?

Nicospec · 2013-01-08T23:33:47+00:00

When I talk to girls, I always seem to have a problem in keeping the conversation going. We would talking about something for a minute then it would be absolute silence for a few more and I would keep on trying to keep the conversation alive by talking about something else.

Is there some sort of method to keep the conversation interesting? I'm in school if that'll help anyone with my situation.

2013-01-08T23:38:17+00:00

I've known this girl from my school since last year, but we've only ever talked since September. I liked her and tried to be friendly, hoping she would like me back. Then I found this subreddit, realized I was doing everything completely wrong, and kicked myself in the ass for it. Is it already too late for this girl, and should I move on to other women? Or should I keep trying?

TectonicPluto · 2013-01-09T00:10:19+00:00

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JuicyJazz · 2013-01-09T02:01:20+00:00

Where should I take a girl on a date if I'm only 17? I'm trying to get some cool, interesting places instead of the run-of-the-mill movies and dinner.

pat841 · 2013-01-09T03:41:40+00:00

I am not sure if this has been posted before, but let me try to explain this the best I can.

Being a college student, and no longer a freshman, how would I go about keeping up small talk instead of going for cliche lines such as "Whats your major, ect"

you-are-full-of-shit · 2013-01-09T23:37:00+00:00

Is it possible to become desensitized to ... having sex/women? I am lurking in here and I see that the PUA gurus claim to be sleeping with at least 1-2 at times 3 new different women every week, on average that's 50-100 women per year, after 10 years like that it's 500 to 1,000 women.

I can see how that can happen, because of becoming desensitized because the final act is not that different than the process to get there, and the act per se is also shorter in time and requires less skills than the process itself. In one sentence I can see how it would turn into a the hunt is more fun than the prey type of syndrome.

Is that the case?

tacocatism · 2013-01-08T22:52:32+00:00

A girl that I think is interested in me invited me over to smoke some weed. I can't tell if I should expect this to be sexual or just chilling. What's the probability of this ending with me sleeping with her?

User_0 · 2013-01-08T18:16:05+00:00

I'm standing on the inside corner of an "L" shaped bar. I have some friends I met on both sides of me and I'm in the middle. I'm standing because sitting down makes me boring. A girl I want to game sits at the stool right in the corner of the "L." How do I get her off the barstool so I can engage and bring her into the rest of the group?

astrokidd · 2013-01-08T22:50:18+00:00

If it is customary to go to bars and clubs and drink there to pick up women, how do PUAs come back home or bring women back home? I mean if they have taken drink or two, would they risk driving car to come back? If PUAs take cabs, wouldn't it be so freaking expensive, especially when you want to go to bars every night? Do I really need to work on being financially healthy in order to start this lifestyle?

videogames_ · 2013-01-08T23:41:35+00:00

She has invested quite a bit because she was the one who wanted to hang out for a 2nd time and she is willing to drive 50 miles to see me but is that only as a friend since she texted me "alright buddy"?

Does that mean she friendzoned me already or is that overthinking it?

the_brick_attack · 2013-01-08T23:55:53+00:00

What is some good advice for getting over one-itis? I just notice it's creeping into me at the moment for a girl. I had it bad in the past and I was bad at fighting it. Any good pointers to combat it? Don't worry, it's in its early stage, it's not terminal yet.

J_pold · 2013-01-09T00:08:33+00:00

Background: Went to get some clothes fitted and there was cute girl there. I go pick them up a week later and lady behind the desk says she left her number for me (fuck yeah)

Text her, build a bit of rapport and setup a date for Saturday afternoon. It was only a coffee date as I just wanted to meet her and make sure she was cute like I remember (she was) so it ended in in no f, or k close. Date went well, and she said we should do this again.

I text her the next day to check in but only send her a few texts before she tells me she has to go to Yoga. I don’t reply and don’t text her for a few days.

She texts me today “I just picked up her clothes and they fit great!”

I’ve decided to be a bit more forward in my text game so my response is “Perfect. You can wear them when we got to the science centre Thursday night” (Adult night at the science centre is a killer date)

Her Response: “Boo I’m busy Thursday”

Looking for advice as to how to proceed from here. I don’t want to come on off as too available as I still want to hold the frame she is pursing me (she did give me her number) but would like to set something up.

Question: Your thoughts on a good responses? Or feedback on the last text message.

Thanks fellas.

AlmostVentured · 2013-01-09T01:36:30+00:00

Im going to prom with a girl that I dont really know but we have a lot of mutual friends. Im hoping to turn it into a relationship as well, What can I do to help make the transition?

Smooth_as_velcro · 2013-01-09T02:44:47+00:00

I am transfering to a new school this semester as a junior. I plan to go out this friday/saturday and at least get myself out there. My one question is about when classes starts (monday) anyone have any good tips or pointers for meetings girls/anyone that first week of school?

I know the usual, say hi, introduce yourself; you already have enough in common to have a class together. Anything more than that would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance

mexasault · 2013-01-09T03:13:13+00:00

I know I'm more than a little late, but I've recently gotten into this PUA stuff. So in order to practice a friend and I have recently decided to go out and practice some day game. What are some good locations to get started? Any specific tips or things to keep in mind?

Alypius · 2013-01-09T03:24:13+00:00

How can I keep attraction/interest up over texting and internet over a period of 3 months?

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thisguy41234 · 2013-01-09T04:05:06+00:00

I'm 17 and on a special needs program at my high school due to a neurological condition that I have. One of the effects of my condition is that the usual structured high school experience is too much for my brain to handle, so I stay at home and do all my schoolwork from here. I still function extremely well in social situations, however, and I used to be a somewhat popular guy prior to my condition getting as bad as it is now.

The thing is, I'm totally cut off from all sources of women that I know of. I can't drive, so the only time I'm able to leave the house is for doctor/therapist appointments every week or so. I'm also too young (at least until my next birthday) for most dating sites, so those are out of the question. I'm not starved for romance or sex or anything - I've gotten used to the isolation over time - but I would like some advice as to what I could do if I were to want to pursue something like that, because I can't think of anything.

Sorry if this isn't exactly a simple question. Any insight at all is appreciated.

Suite_up · 2013-01-09T04:16:10+00:00

Took this girl out the other night to see a band, and a show. She's really kind and sweet, bought me drinks, doesnt mind going the extra mile. I k-closed her several times during the night.

Dropped me off back at mine (still live with the folks so hard to f-close). She expressed interest in seeing the hobbit. I remember that it's bad to take a girl to the movies. What to do? take her to the movies? or is there something better? (she doesn't like dancing either)

eldeetee · 2013-01-09T05:07:56+00:00

So I've been in the game for a half-year and have been exposed to different environments. I feel like college game is different (I'm a student). Any tips here?

Lightning_Training · 2013-01-09T05:43:32+00:00

I hope I'm not late to the party.

So there;s this girl I was gaming last week. I ran my usual set, got her back to my place, and we were chilling in my room watching Les Mis, kissing quite a bit. Then the set just died. I was walking her home, kissed her goodbye:

(Quick kiss)

Me: Haha, c'mon, you can do better than that.

Her: Mm, no I can't. Bye!

(She walks off.)

I want to make this set my first f-close. How do I re-initiate the set, and start building up a successful sexual frame?

nittutt · 2013-01-09T06:56:11+00:00

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SpockLivesOn · 2013-01-09T07:09:48+00:00

How do you discern a shit test? I always read these FRs with people pointing out shit tests, but if I were in their shoes, I would have seen them as legitimate questions.

SpockLivesOn · 2013-01-09T07:10:10+00:00

How many girls have you slept with?

SpockLivesOn · 2013-01-09T07:10:40+00:00

A good book to read that's not necessarily seduction-based, but does help improve game?

nittutt · 2013-01-09T08:53:26+00:00

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syesha · 2013-01-09T12:37:25+00:00

Im a guy who is sober and dont drink alcohol at all. How can I approach girls in a way that my soberness is not considered as a weakness?

HAYOOOO · 2013-01-09T17:13:07+00:00

I got this girl's number the other day, texted her to arrange a date yesterday, all sounded good. Seemed really keen.

Said she will have to check funds. She immediately suggested a few places when I asked her so I know she's keen.

How do I text her today and ask her if she can afford it without sounding needy?

stoppanicmode · 2013-01-09T23:52:29+00:00

At times I am depressed and all I want is a one-nighter, what is the best abd quickest way to achieve that?

sokipdx · 2013-01-10T06:49:20+00:00

Planning to ask a girl out in my class soon. If she says no, how do I play it off without it being awkward (at that immediate moment)?

syseddit · 2013-01-08T17:00:33+00:00

How come this post is a day late?

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slapstick2099 · 2013-01-08T22:39:43+00:00

I have a terrible memory for names. Can you offer any advice on remembering a girl's name?

idk112345 · 2013-01-09T00:41:06+00:00

How do I turn instant (a minute upon meeting) makeouts into f-closes. I'm 0 for 6 or so over the last few months and it's getting frustrating. My obviously failing technique has been to just flatout ask after a heavy makeout and groping session if she wants to leave. Always get the same excuse (friend is sleeping over/here with my friends, can't leave them)

StaticDude · 2013-01-08T18:15:42+00:00

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twinarteriesflow · 2013-01-09T00:32:24+00:00

Mine isn't all too complicated but here's a small backstory for context:

I'm an acquaintance of this girl who is friends with some people on my floor in my college dorm. I talked to her incredibly briefly in a party setting (I was high, so yeah I kind of fucked up the first impressions thing but it's okay because we didn't exchange names and I doubt she remembers the conversation since it was rather banal,) and after that didn't see her until I go to a Roosevelt Institute (college thinktank) meeting and lo and behold there she is. Like an idiot I didn't say anything to her and this was the one time I went because I didn't make the next meeting and after that were finals.

Now it's second semester and she's in my french class. Great, this will work, only like a complete idiot I didn't say anything to her on the first day. Second day of class I catch her afterwards and say, "Hey Anonymous, I don't know if you remember me but I was at the one Roosevelt meeting and I wanted to ask if you know when the next one is?" She says she'd let me know and it sounded genuine, but like a fucking complete idiot I didn't follow up and keep talking.

So I have a day in between until I see her again, what's a good way of reintroducing myself in a way that doesn't come across as stalkerish or pathetic?

Vinom · 2013-01-09T01:20:20+00:00

I've been sitting next to this girl in class for a few months. However, I never really tried talking to her (probably approach anxiety). Is it too late to try talking to her now, or will it come off as unusual/creepy?

TectonicPluto · 2013-01-09T00:57:09+00:00

University dining hall- real cute girl just started working there and I know she's a student. I'm always polite and smile at her but tips on moving onto an actual conversation/ fitting said convo into a 15 second interaction

Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 1/8/2013 (please upvote - zero karma)
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Date	January 8, 2013 3:45 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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