I’ve posted before but it’s gotten worse.

Me (39) her (38) have been at wits end.

Firstly she’s on adderall for ADHD but I think she’s misdiagnosed BPD.

She has been married once before and got divorced due to “abuse” and doesn’t have custody of her kids (they are now 20 and 14 but at the time of her divorce they were minors).

She has kicked me out of the house numerous times. One of which was her getting on my phone and seeing my Reddit account where I asked for guidance on how to deal with a wife on Adderall and she got pissed off about it. That’s why I am under a different username.

She has called me a narcissist for years, but most recently she kicked me out of the house and literally within four hours of kicking me out of the house. She wants to complain to me that she has to do “everything”. I told her if she needs help. I will gladly go grocery shopping for the house. But now she knows I work from 4:30 in the morning until 6 o’clock at night, but she wants to now hammer my phone saying that “we lost power” or “I’m throwing up blood”. Who’s the narcissist? She’s painting the bathroom now and making huge changes to the house to where I don’t even feel like it’s my home anymore even though I am the one that makes all the money and it’s the house that I bought. She has new sheets on the bed obviously, she’s moving on , am I wrong?

I love her, but I can’t say I’m in love with her and I honestly think she’s turning into a fucking psychopath. Your thoughts?