After 16 months and $80k+ in attorney fees, I just got a trial ruling from the judge. As I expected, I lost on sole custody and parenting schedule, but will be paying no alimony, and minimal child support, 2/3 kids as tax dependents, and a trivial cash payout. Most importantly, I got 50/50 parenting time. Best $$$ I’ve ever spent…considering she initial offered 0% PT and alimony amounting to more than half my take home income FOREVER.

Thank you all for your excellent advice and support throughout this misery.

For those still in the s**t, stay the course….getting a fair outcome is very possible. Get and stay organized, be disciplined, focus on your kids wellbeing if you have them, take care of your physical and mental health. You got this.