Morning ladies! ☀️

Okay so I've been SO blown away as I've been listening to various episodes of RC Blakes Jr's podcast (a male pastor who speaks on women empowerment in the dating realm - hold on, stay with me here 😂). He made so many eye-opening statements & had me feeling so literally WOKE that I accidentally pulled an all-nighter 🤦‍♀️😂 So yeah, I wanted to share with y'all some of the notes I've taken while binge-listening tonight. (I like taking notes because I absorb info better through reading as opposed to listening)

-------Disclaimers lol:

1) These are not direct quotes; I've paraphrased a LOT.

2) I edited out most of the Jesus stuff so as not to alienate/turn anyone off; I think this is good & relevant advice for all women.

3) Some of these tidbits are reiterating points already listed in the FDS Handbook. I'm simply including them because hearing a concept explained with different verbage/analogies helps me grasp it better; I figured some of y'all might learn like this, too.

Okay I'm being long-winded lol, without further ado: Happy reading! 🤗❤️

  • As long as you allow yourself to be a man's "option" (an easily available woman to be used/toyed with at his convenience) he will continue to play with you (and just straight up PLAY you).

  • Your sex drive will lie to you; it will turn a frog into a prince, because a lot of "frogs" are good at using sex to manipulate you. Sex in general distorts/clouds your mind and binds you to a man physically and emotionally. Men know this and bad men purposefully/maliciously act upon this knowledge.

  • When you don't thoroughly vet a man before having sex with him, YOU ARE HAVING SEX WITH A STRANGER (no matter how "in love" you feel).

  • Dating is for data. Not romance or sex. Dating is for obtaining information about each other to discern compatibility.

  • Falling in love is dangerous; falling can cause injury to you. If you're suddenly "falling" in love, then you should pause to evaluate that man & how well you've vetted him. You want to "walk" into love, not fall.

  • Are you the kind of woman who rejects respectable treatment? Are you the kind of woman who is not ATTRACTED to respectable treatment? Has society/your upbringing/past relationships trained you to be attracted to aloof, emotionally unavailable men?

  • If so, then your warped sense of what is/is not attractive (part of a broken consciousness) can lead you to place a good potential husband/partner in the friendzone. (And friendship is a very important component of a great relationship's foundation.)

  • If you don't know who you are and don't know your own value, then if a good man approaches you on your truest level, you may not know how to respond; and you may in fact respond in such a way that pushes him away.

  • IF YOU'RE DESPERATE FOR A RELATIONSHIP, THEN YOU DESPERATELY DON'T NEED ONE!

  • A perverted & misogynistic male culture manipulates a woman with CALCULATED CONVERSATION. The most dangerous weapon used against a woman in life is CALCULATED LANGUAGE.

  • A woman can be very intelligent; but a less intelligent man can still manipulate her, because his area of expertise/intelligence is: he purposefully observes her and gathers information about her, then intentionally uses that information to choose words/phrases/ways of communicating which he TAILORS to that specific woman.... all for the purpose of getting whatever he wants from her (spoiler alert: it's sex lol).

  • When a man really loves a woman, he will bend over backwards not to hurt the feelings of a woman he loves. If a man reveals to you (through jokes, dialogue, etc) that he is comfortable insulting and breaking a woman down (and this can be very subtle, not obvious verbal abuse) that means he HATES women.

  • A man who hates women is a BROKEN man. When a man is broken, the first evidence of him being broken is his desire to tear down the women in his world. The moment Adam was broken & out of sync with God, the first thing Adam did was accuse Eve, attempting to throw her under the bus. It's easier for a man to take out his anger/pain/dysfunction on women than to do the hard, humbling work of fixing his own brokenness himself.

  • In contrast to a broken man, when a woman is not healed, she becomes SELF-DESTRUCTIVE. The fallout of a woman not being healed is an overpowering need/craving for affirmation and approval. And when she's desperate for those things, she loses herself, her dignity, her self-perspective... her value is diminished in her own eyes, and she sells herself for nothing - because she's not healed.

  • It is important to TAKE TIME AFTER A BREAKUP TO HEAL YOURSELF. If you don't take time to heal before jumping back into the dating world, then you'll subconsciously attract and be attracted to the same bad qualities your ex had.

----That's all for now, kinda long, but he made so many excellent points that I had a tough time picking & choosing which ones to put in this post... so I put a bunch 🤷‍♀️😂 Hope this can be useful for y'all & I'll probably post a sequel soon, as I keep devouring this podcast. Have a great weekend! ❤️