The ‘doing __ aggressively to see my husband’s reaction’ trend

mynuname · 2024-07-14T23:00:04+00:00

Testing your SO is a red flag. Just say'n.

Onemoretime536 · 2024-07-14T22:48:38+00:00

I seen that on TikTok really interesting how people only called out the men but ingore what the women did

YetAgain67 · 2024-07-14T22:45:07+00:00

It's all so sickening. And it only serves to reinforce negative stereotypes of women as mind game players.

Can you imagine how much shit there would be if there were a bunch if internet trends men participated in to specifically "test" women?

alterumnonlaedere · 2024-07-15T00:40:50+00:00

The first one I saw was ‘aggressively serving my husband dinner to get his reaction’ I’ve now also seen one with slamming doors.

Straight up psychological and emotional abuse conducted in order to provoke a response.

And then I opened the comments and saw stuff like ‘the green flags are the ones who immediately asked if she was okay’ ‘red flags were those who got defensive’..as if it wouldn’t be normal to get defensive when someone is randomly aggressive??

Gaslighting at it's best.

A "green light" is given to men who show that they're able to be manipulated. A "red light" is given to men who stand up for themselves and won't put up with it. It's all about power and control.

This says far more about the social acceptability of psychological and emotional abuse directed towards men by their partners and the women engaged in this behaviour than anything else.

KordisMenthis · 2024-07-15T07:24:22+00:00

'Green flag' is code for 'easy to abuse/manipulate' here

Maffioze · 2024-07-15T07:31:53+00:00

This is really common in general. Men being defensive or more broadly speaking having boundaries and asserting themselves towards a woman is often seen as bad because its not chivalrous. Then you get all the accusations of being defensive, insecure, making things about you etc. Just think about the bear thing where its like "if you're defensive you're part of the problem" it's a way of manipulating men into accepting abusive behaviour.

throwawayfromcolo · 2024-07-15T01:07:23+00:00

Social media sucks ass.

Skirt_Douglas · 2024-07-14T22:49:45+00:00

I agree with your sentiments, trivializing aggression, normalizing emotional mind games... All bad things.

Honestly though? I kind of find it refreshing when psychopaths weed themselves out of the dating pool.

Vegetable_Camera50 · 2024-07-15T01:37:14+00:00

Testing your partner is one of the many reasons why I hate shitty things men have to deal with in society lol.

eli_ashe · 2024-07-15T04:15:49+00:00

what's being described is women freely treating their SO's like emotional cum rags for them to use and toss as they see fit.

a green flag is a good emotional cum rag. a red flag is a bad emotional cum rag.

the premise is that women ought be encouraged to behave like emotionally stunted child-women who may act out of control for no good reason, and the emotional cum rag is supposed to come along and clean up after their mess, comfort them after they behave poorly towards you, and ultimately have free reign to emotionally abuse you.

biggest green flag is free reign of total emotional abuse, with the abused fawning over them to try and comfort them lest they behave like monsters.

ElegantAd2607 · 2024-07-15T08:32:15+00:00

The day people stop fucking with eachother for likes and attention will be a glorious day indeed.

Professional-You2968 · 2024-07-15T13:27:06+00:00

A man that finds out that his partner is doing this should just break the relation.

suib26 · 2024-07-15T22:24:51+00:00

I've seen quite a few of these reaction tik tok challenge things. They all misconstrue the man's reaction and make out he's toxic or fragile in his masculinity. It's like men can't react badly to a women, eveb if the woman is trying to antagonise or make him uncomfortable.

There was one where they would try and lift their boyfriend/husband on a counter, I guess to replicate what a man might do to a women to be romantic or something, and many of the men reacted badly or with discomfort because it was out of no where and confusing. Well all these men were getting accused of all sorts. Many saying he had fragile masculinity for reacting so badly to something men do to women.

What's even more frustrating, is with how much discrimination bi men get I highly doubt those women saying that are actually that supportive of men wanting these things. It's only when a women does it and it's on her terms must a man be accepting, but if a man independently of a women wants something, it suddenly becomes a big ick.

StandardFaire · 2024-07-15T04:00:07+00:00

This kind of behavior gives me flashbacks to living with my parents (derogatory)

Punder_man · 2024-07-16T06:09:24+00:00

Human beings are animals.. and because of this we respond to situations different depending on context.
And, that being said the genders of different animals often respond differently as well.

For males of most mammal species, aggression is responded with defensiveness or aggression back..

So.. they are doing things aggressively, seeing their husband react aggressively and then treating that as some sort of "Red Flag"
This is on the same level of seeing a "Wet Paint" sign, touching the paint and then being surprised that your finger / hand is now coated in paint...

Also.. imagine for a second if there were a Tik Tok trend about doing something in a particular way to get an expected reaction from women..
I'm sure that would be called out as "Misogyny" by many women...

But what do I know?

Title	The ‘doing __ aggressively to see my husband’s reaction’ trend
Author	Clousder
Upvotes	194
Comments	30
Date	July 14, 2024 9:50 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates
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