Stop telling men to show their emotions.

I've spent a significant amount of time on feminist spaces to see what they're saying.

One of the most hideous concepts comes under the banner of caring and wanting to help men. Feminists have largely recognized that people don't care much about men who share their emotions or vulnerability.

Their solution: Men you have to learn to share your emotions more. You know, the way women do.

Am I the only one who sees how condescending and arrogant not to mention unfair that is? The presumption that women are superior at it and men just don't get it. If only men were as clever and evolved as women, all their problems would go away. But feminism is fighting sexism, you know.

Share your emotions like a woman - but deal with the negative consequences like a man!

Some feminists at least recognize that it's harder for men to do so. But then they'll quickly add "but it's up to them, not anyone else". Ironically they're not realizing that they're expecting a kind of stoicism from men: Namely that they take the negative consequences of sharing their emotions and deal with them.

Here's the reality that feminists don't (want to) know:

For women, vulnerability is an asset. For men it's a liability.

That's why women not only show their vulnerability, they often outright flaunt it. Just look at Emma Watson in her speeches for the HeForShe campaign. Listen to her voice in particular. She practically personifies vulnerability and fragility. Look at the media and fiction. Everywhere, female vulnerability brings benefits. Feminism itself is such a benefit.

It's not surprising women are "good" at sharing their emotions. They're just reacting to their circumstances.

And men are doing the same by hiding their vulnerability. It's not because they don't know how. It's because they know better than to do it.

Proof

Little boys do share their emotions and cry. So if those little boys grow up and stop sharing their emotions, you absolutely cannot conclude that it's caused by inability.

Corollary: Sharing your emotions is not a challenge. It's not difficult. And it's not a skill that one has to acquire. Not sharing them is the skill.

So how about you stop presuming men are stupid or "defective women" who need to learn to be better humans and, if you refuse to understand the cause, at least just let men deal with their circumstances on their own terms. Thanks.

Edit: Some people are interpreting this to mean that men shouldn't show their feelings. FYI: Saying "don't tell men to show their feelings" does not imply saying "men shouldn't show their feelings". To be clear: Men should show their feelings on their terms.

Do you think this is the only miserable failure to grasp reality that I encountered in those feminist spaces? Stay tuned for more....