“A woman cannot date backwards..”

CountTheBees · 2024-09-09T23:04:10+00:00

I think that un-self-aware women don't want to date backwards. Un-self-aware women are also not always great at vetting men. While they might hold that millionaire athlete in great regard, they never got to have a real relationship with him that would have exposed incompatibilities or flaws.

And I also think that the way men view women's attraction is largely projected and flawed. There was a guy that already had a whole blog about male-female relations before he realised that women don't fall in love the same way men do.

EmilyEggplant · 2024-09-09T22:40:59+00:00

Yes I think this is generally true and it explains why women should be more selective about how soon she becomes intimate with a partner and who the partner is. A lot of dating coaches and RP commentators have pointed out that women can easily sleep with a man above her “league” (celebrities, athletes, CEOs etc) but that does not equate to him committing or marrying her. This becomes an issue because many of those women think that sleeping with that high value man means that they are now in the same “league”, and so when she looks for future partners she will think she’s on the same level. So that celebrity or CEO becomes their new benchmark. This will probably make it very difficult for her to find a long term relationship with a man of that level, or, will lead her to feel like she has to settle with a man who is “below” her, even though he may have the same SMV as her.

PhotographMyWife · 2024-09-09T23:04:39+00:00

"People are the sum of a million factors, it would be unusual to continually date someone who was “better” in every possible metric, every time (and unhealthy to think of dating in that way)."

Best quote I've read in a very long time. More people should comprehend what this is saying.

PaganButterChurner · 2024-09-10T14:39:12+00:00

The problem is, men will sleep with 5/10 , 6/10, or women much below his market value. Who you sleep with is not a reflection of the men you are capable of marrying and locking down. The person you marry, and who you vetted could be totally different than who you sleep with.

Hot_Blacksmith_3404 · 2024-09-09T22:41:17+00:00

People are the sum of a million factors, it would be unusual to continually date someone who was “better” in every possible metric, every time (and unhealthy to think of dating in that way).

Now that I think about it, my current boyfriend doesn’t play an instrument or sing, but I’ve dated multiple men who were very talented musicians. I don’t miss that at all/it’s not something I particularly look for in a partner. I’ve dated men who were taller than him, more physically built, bigger you-know-what. I never think about those aspects in comparison - he is extremely attractive to me, end of story. No need for comparison. I’ve dated men more educated/with higher degrees than he has, but that isn’t valuable to me. He’s intelligent and I very much respect his thoughts and opinions, which is all that matters. Overall, taking into account the millions of little things that make him him, my life is overall better, happier, more peaceful with him in it. That’s all that matters. Not some weird competition.

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Full text: Hypothetically, if someone has dated/slept with men who were of high talent and ability, like had nice muscles or were really good at math, would the person she marry also have to possess the same qualities, or would it be settling for a beta? And would that be such a bad thing?

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Independent-Story883 · 2024-09-10T12:42:55+00:00

I think this strictly depends on the value she has seen from the qualities. I do admit, intelligence is hard to date backwards on. Women can be talkers. I am most certainly one. If he can not hold an educated discussion. Its a no. Marriage would be hard. Keep in mind lthe network of friends, family members built over time that this new less conversational relationship would not likely fit into. Sorry cant go back to highschool conversations from college.

Ambition is another thing nearly impossible to date backwards on. Its Not necessarily the number value of salary . To go from say the work ethic of a Manager to someone making more money in a sales job who is verbally not willing to increase their intake by sending an email would be difficult.

Lack of ambition almost an RPW red flag, It is certainly a longevity killer for me.

I have said it before and stand by it whole heartedly. For women looks become Beta very quickly. I do not call it settling. I think priorities just change. Also “ high value looks” on a man may be detrimental overtime. Women value loyalty, fidelity. If you are looking ‘too good’, her women friends will just assume that he is a cheater, unfaithful. Ironically decreasing his value in her eyes. “ I wonder how many he has got on the side? How does she put up with it? Well maybe he makes a lot of money? “. Its hard for women to keep their head held high amongst whispers especially in this social media world. Women would rather appear to be dating someone that cares for her and just her. So dating backwards on muscles and the visual like is possible.

Women date all over the place with behavior. They go from gentlemen to scum and from scum to gentlemen. Dating back wards okay in that regards as well.

Not going to lie: Post divorce you DO have moments of “ there is no way i can get with him , he is worse than my ex. I would be better off getting remarried to the ex than getting with him! “ Its sad. Its not fair.There are some good men unknowingly competing with the ghosts of exes past.

Dating never married, i dont think i would feel so strongly. I would just say “ Guy with X , hmmm lets try guy with Y.” Who knows.

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LI-valleymonarch · 2024-09-13T15:48:52+00:00

The ultimate goal for a red pill woman is to not sleep with a man until he married you and to attract someone at the top of the social dominance hierarchy that has access to knowing you.

Beachdog1234 · 2024-09-09T22:37:16+00:00

Shed the beta alpha thing. It’s silly. It’s about understanding attributes that make a man high value and then understanding if a particular man has those attributes. This requires dating and communication and observation. It’s learning.

A HVM who’s interested in you will wait on sex. He’ll give you the chance to evaluate him.

Title	“A woman cannot date backwards..”
Author	MathematicianMean273
Upvotes	14
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Date	September 9, 2024 10:07 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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