Periods and staying feminine

valkyrieone · 2014-03-13T15:53:33+00:00

Well I am certainly not as .... dainty about it as you. My SO raised a daughter on his own, so there's no "mystery" about feminine products or uteruses in this house. He's more open and straightforward about it than I am. I keep products and evidence of it as invisible as possible though, out of respect for shared space.

I don't have any physical issues and continue to hit the barbells, so besides a little feeling down about my appearance for a few days before I don't need any pampering and take the same amount of showers.

Language - Lady week? Nope, it's blow job week! :D

Also, orgasms help cramps and I'm not hesitant about asking for assistance with a bit of holistic remedy.

MrsStrom · 2014-03-13T18:24:18+00:00

Shower sex. No mess and he still gets some.

TempestTcup · 2014-03-13T15:36:23+00:00

I am menopausal now, but just before that I discovered SoftCup. If your flow isn't too heavy, you can have sex while wearing them, and it is much less messy. I wish I had had these for the 35 years previous!

Bakerofpie · 2014-03-13T16:06:26+00:00

Ugh I'm having mine right now. I'd love for you to teach me your ways ladies! I'm in so much pain and I get horrible "tummy troubles" every time. I get ridiculous headaches and just want to sleep for a week. I get random aches and pains. My doctor just said "go for a walk it'll fix all your problems" so I tried that yesterday (and every other time) and it didn't help at all. :( Luckily I'm very irregular and usually go a few months between cycles (especially when my weight is down).

I want to not be effected by it but I have no idea how other people function normally.

2014-03-14T11:41:22+00:00

I realize that in the past I really allowed my emotions to get haywire around/on my period because we're told so prevalently in the media that is how periods make us act. I want to posit that a lot of that is placebo effect. I think my emotions are supposed to be more intense so I let them run away with me. But if I'm mindful of it my period can come and go with nearly no discernible change in my mood. I don't just accept that I'm emotional I have to have a reason to feel that emotion and then I can know it's valid. It's the same with my diet, just because I want chips doesn't mean I let myself have them.

2014-03-13T17:36:02+00:00

Mine are ridiculously heavy and the cramps are horrific on the first day. I tend to get them on the weekend, so poor C has to deal with me being moody and crampy (granted, I don't get rage, just sad). I'm kind of pathetic on my first day with my new BC since it doesn't lighten them like the old stuff did. Every other day is pretty much fine.

I try to just move on as normal. Exercise, occasionally pain killers, and orgasms help me maintain a relaxed attitude so that I'm not so over-the-top. I keep tampons at C's so I'm always prepared, since my periods can be oddly irregular at times, though I have to change them frequently.

Of course, those become BJ weekends to keep everything cleaner, which keeps him happy. Sometimes, though, he's so ready to be rid of me because I'm extra emotional during those days. Lol

FleetingWish · 2014-03-13T21:25:46+00:00

I'm not sure this question applies to me, because my period is really unobtrusive. I'm a little more tired than normal, but still up for the things I normally do. I still want to go out and have fun, and I'm still horny as any other day. Since my SO tends to prefer Bjs more than intercourse, on a regular day that's pretty much what we normally do, so the effect on him is minimal at best.

That's my general rule of thumb. To try to make the effect on him as minimal as possible. Even if I am a little crampy, or cranky, I don't need to ruin his day because of it.

Ruthydugs · 2014-03-13T15:21:31+00:00

Language: is important to me I try not to talk about it because my BF doesn't need to hear about it, however if it is unavoidable I will refer to it as Lady Week. I may have to mention that I have a stomach ache to answer why Im looking for tablets etc but that's as much detail as I go into. I think neutral 'under the weather' language is best for this.

Appearance : Im a shower girl but on the first and last day of Lady Week i'll have a bath or an extra long shower and pamper session, making sure I look and smell as good as I can.

Being discreet : I used to get annoyed with my mum when I lived at home that she would leave sanitary products (clean ones btw) out and around the bathroom. I keep mine in a little make up pouch, next to other make up bags by the toilet during the week that I need them to hand and then they go back away in the cupboard. Even discreetly packaged sanitary products are obvious as to what they are. My BF doesn't need to be reminded of whats going on with my toilet trips everytime he goes for a wee.

Health Problems I have endometriosis which means I have some health issue surrounding my Lady Week, my BF is very caring and compassionate and will always drive me to the hospital and wait for me incase im upset or feel unwell, never let me get myself there and back. However what I discuss with the doctor, the ins and outs of my faulty uterus don't need to be discussed in the car on the way home in any depth, a ladylike air of mystery needs to be maintained when it involves my sexual organs and my sexual partner.

This is just me I don't know where I sit on the spectrum when it comes to Lady Week etiquette Im interested to know though.

Bakerofpie · 2014-03-13T15:45:55+00:00

I try to perform plenty of oral sex around that week, because even when I'm not feeling sexy I want him to know I'm up for meeting his needs in whatever ways I can. I also try to keep feminine products hidden away, though my husband isn't squeamish about it. He knows what's going on when I'm "not feeling well" because he has a rather close relationship with my lady parts and there's just no way of avoiding him having fairly intimate knowledge of my inner workings. For us it just really isn't a huge deal. I get really upset about not being able to have PIV (we do sometimes in the shower, but I find it quite painful around this time), and I'm more hungry than usual, but other than that it's just sort of a normal part of life. I definitely don't overshare with him about it, but it's not like he's grossed out.

SirNemesis · 2014-03-13T19:00:23+00:00

Follow Good Girl Gina's example: http://i.imgur.com/M0GibXT.jpg

swift-heart · 2014-03-13T16:22:00+00:00

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OddQuestionGirl · 2014-03-13T18:56:20+00:00

An IUD and blow jobs does the trick, for me.

I've never really gotten symptoms other than blood and a few pre-period pimples. My partner isn't squeamish at all about periods. Now that I've got the Mirena IUD there's barely any blood anyway (I just use a few pantie liners, I haven't needed tampons in like two years), so really the only difference between anything is that there's a few days every few months where I let it be known that doing vagina-to-mouth would be very unpleasant for me.

A few months before I got my IUD I bought a DivaCup which I highly suggest. If you feel there is too much scent with tampons/pads, this would be a good solutions because it's all just collected in a silicone cup. More hygienic because you don't have bleached cotton up in thar, and it will save you a lot of money in the long run (... assuming you don't basically stop getting periods a few months after purchase), plus there's fewer worries about "spilling" over night.

swift-heart · 2014-03-13T21:02:27+00:00

i have really severe cramps,especially the first 2 or 3 days. it is honestly difficult to move and i just want to curl into a ball and cry. i have severe mood disturbances during my period which don't seem like traditional pms. i end up sleeping a lot basically. i used to always take advil for it but i am only using it as a last resort now. i recently discovered that drinking coconut water also helps with cramps. (because of the potassium in coconuts) my period tends to last a full week rather than a few days, and can be irregular due to pcos. hormonal birth control isn't really an option because it makes me gain weight and destroys my sex drive :( don't know much about iud's but doctors i've seen have really pushed me towards the hormones because of pcos.

i don't find it necessary to come up with cutesy nicknames for my period, but sometimes i get embarrassed talking about cramps and just say i have a stomachache. my boyfriend doesn't mind hearing about it, and i don't think i'd hide my feminine products from him. however i try not to complain about it too much. not because it's too 'girly' for us to discuss but just cause whining is really unattractive and i try to minimize it.

period sex grosses me out for many reasons. one reason is that i am REALLY sweaty and bloated during it, so it's hard for me to feel sexual. also having an orgasm makes the blood flow heavier so it's often not worth it in the end. bj's are an option but not at the beginning of the week when i'm so nauseous it's hard for me to keep food down. but he doesn't really get turned on when i'm feeling that awful so we just take it easy and cuddle. then i can make it up to him later.

pinkantlers · 2014-03-14T09:09:37+00:00

My SO isn't afraid of biology so I don't worry about it. He knows if he wants a baby to come out of there at some point, he has to deal with other lady business first. It's not some big mystery. If it's that time, I just tell him that it's happening so PIV is off for a few days, and that I'll probably be feeling a bit rough. I do some stretches that help relieve my cramps, he gives me backrubs and cuddles, and I look after his needs in other ways. Plus I make really yummy food because i crave carbs like a mofo.

Also, shower sex.

CapnSalty · 2014-03-13T23:55:41+00:00

I use a ton of baby wipes. Each time I change out my tampon (and I use only tampons, some ladies like diva cups but they look pretty terrifying to me) I wipe all over with a baby wipe and then follow up with some powder or perfume. Remember to keep perfectly shaved the whole time, legs, armpits, trim everything. Keep it nice and neat and attractive. It helps, because then you don't feel quite so yucky down there! Baby powder on your butt and thighs, some nice lotion, and ibuprofen twice daily.

d3gu · 2014-03-13T21:26:13+00:00

I have a coil and don't get periods :D

Title	Periods and staying feminine
Author	Ruthydugs
Upvotes	10
Comments	77
Date	March 13, 2014 3:09 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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