The Many Reasons Women Have Sex

Men on the internet seem to think the only reason women have sex is that “you were a 6’4 chad.”

That couldn’t be further from the truth.

Women have sex for countless reasons, and many of them have nothing to do with attraction.

Understanding this will give you an unfair advantage in the dating game and dispel any limiting beliefs you have because you’re not a ‘chad’.

Here’s a list of common reasons women have sex (many are from personal experience, others are from scientific research):

She was talking to another guy that turned her on and it gets transferred onto you.

You remind her of someone she had a crush on when she was younger.

For an ego boost: to feel desirable and attractive (very common in cheating).

She saw that other women were attracted to you and wanted to make sure you wouldn’t go back to them (jealousy).

To gain access to financial advantages (I.E. gold-digging).

She broke up with a guy recently and wants to have sex to help get over it.

Because you’re a “Chad” (good-looking, muscular, tall, etc.)

She consciously decided she wanted to hook up with someone that night and you happened to be the first guy that made a move (this one is much more common than you might want to believe).

Due to guilt (this one is common in long-term relationships where the woman feels obligated to have sex as part of her duties).

Another guy rejected her and she feels undesirable.

Because you were charismatic and she enjoyed being around you.

She was bored and the idea of having sex with you was more entertaining than doing nothing.

To gain power (I.E. you have a skill that she wants access to: you’re a photographer, you have a large social media following, or you have the career she wants to have one day) .

Because you weren’t too physically attractive and you made her feel at ease (whereas a male adonis can be intimidating and uncomfortable to be around).

To get the attention of a high-status man (I.E. hooking up with a rapper because trying to go on a date with him wouldn’t work. Offering sex is a way to be noticed by such men).

Because you put in a lot of effort and she appreciated that (you made her feel desirable).

You and your friend approached her and her friend—she didn’t like you at first, but the other two hit it off so she stayed with you. At the end of the night, she had the choice to do nothing or hookup with you and she thought, “why not?” (this happened to a client of mine recently on his first day of coaching when I invited him to join me on a double date. His girl wasn’t that interested in him, but she still hooked up with him that night.)

To relieve headaches or other physical pain.

To make a guy she likes jealous (I.E., if you don’t commit to me I’ll just hook up with this guy instead).

Because you are a forbidden fruit in some way (I.E. her parents are racist and you’re the race they don’t want her to date).

To deal with feelings of loneliness.

You vaguely resemble a celebrity she has a crush on.

To get exercise.

Because she hasn’t had sex in a while.

She’s a nymphomaniac.

She just left home to go college and wants to let loose now that her parents aren’t judging her every move.

Because of Feminist beliefs: feminism often encourages women to have casual sex sheerly for enjoyment rather than as part of a relationship.

Sex isn’t all about physical attractiveness and pleasure. And even when it is about looks, society’s standards aren’t always relevant.

-Yes, being good-looking to a woman is partially objective: there are traits that are generally more appealing than others.

But it’s also largely subjective: each girl’s culture, background, and experience influence her personal preferences. If a girl fell in love with a short guy when she was in high school, she’s more likely to be attracted to short men in the future.

I still have a preference for olive-skinned dark-haired women because the first girl I fell for had those traits. And chances are, you also have a ‘type’ that was shaped by a celebrity you had strong feelings for or a girl you liked when you were younger.

With that said, it is beneficial to improve your sense of style, grooming, fitness, and financial situation—more women will find you attractive if you do.

But many women will be open to having sex with you regardless of those qualities because there so many reasoning for hookup that have nothing to do with that.

I hope this article gave you useful insights, if there’s a reason women have sex that I didn’t mention, let me know in the comments.