The "Not You" rule can apply to any guy, but more often than not to guys that are not considered gigachads. But it happens to everyone.

The Not-You rule is easy to spot: "I don't wany a relationship (with you) right now." "I don't want to have sex on the first date (with guys like you." "I am not much of a texting person (with you or guys like you)".

It's the generalization of statements, that will fly out the window as soon as someone comes along that is deemed worthy enough for her attention, body and time.

Spot the "Not you" sentences. There will not be only one of those, if she is applying them and she will use a hefty dose of gaslighting as well. "No, I am not giving this other guy more attention, that's crazy." "Oh, you are jealouse of me? You probably need some therapy..."

Some of those sentences were uttered to me by a friend I admitted to like a few days ago. I am somewhat furious, but I don't want others to fall into this trap. If you get a lot of those, go away. Seek other women, don't stay on her hook and don't let yourself be gaslight into those kinds of friendships, situationships or relationships.

I don't know if fuckboys do the same with women, maybe they do, I have no idea. So ladies, if there are any on this subreddit, look out as well.