Barely had the chance to read anything. Complete noob. Refused to walk where I couldn't breathe in the mall (perfume allergy) which set her off. She refused to shop and tried to ruin the night. I did my best to not dngaf. When we got home she ordered me to clean some dishes. I stfu since it was an order and not a request. She threw the dishes away, I stfu and dngaf. She took the bag to the curb to get me to get angry and buckle, did not.she escalated into trying to break my laptop, then started throwing medium sized objects, stfu and dngaf just put on a helmet and arm armor. She left the house with a bag and didn't say anything.

Figured she would come back based on past escalations, so spent the time talking with a friend about the situation. She came back and yelled at me. No discussion, just accusations. I stfu as best as I could and refused to let her make me get angry or pull me into her frame. She then packed her large bag and tried to get a taxi to go to a hotel. (Tried meaning a bluff, not actually trying) she then asked me to drive her to a hotel. I offered to find and book one for her if she wanted to go. She got mad I called her bluff and instead asked me to take her to the airport so she could book a flight home.

I offered to book the flight for her and looked up times. She got pissed and asked me to drive.

I loaded up her suitcase and started driving her to the airport. I started writing this at traffic lights while driving.

She made up an excuse to stop somewhere, which eventually turned into an excuse to go back to the house.

I broke my frame in the car and yelled at her. Told her I wasn't going to put up with being ordered anymore. That I was not going to live like that. That if she wants a slave, she can leave and find one.

When we got back to the house, she started going off on her hyperbole until I finally shut her off with what is the argument about? She said I need to apologize for my attitude. I apologized for yelling at her in the car. She then ordered (in her command voice) me to say sorry for my attitude. I refused, then stfu the shitstorm that followed.

I need some help. She has used this "I want to leave" as an item before. With the logistics involved with her returning home, she would never be able to return (no green card yet) so it's essentially the end to the marriage.

Background: I am 30 she is 26 she lived with her parents before we were married, has never had a roommate. I was also her first and only sexual partner. We have been married a year. We have known each other for 5 years, dated for a year then broke up, got back together 2 years ago.

What should I do? I know I am being a little bitch and I don't have anywhere near enough knowledge or experience with MRP to handle this.