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| 20 | If he makes fun of you for going to a community college, he ain’t the one.These are the same types of men who would make fun of you for having college debt if you chose to go to a 4 year school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:22 PM |
| 7 | The “sex work is work” mantra is kind of condescending coming from women who thought women being dependent on sexual service to one man for our livelihood was oppressiveYup. It's all about raising their status. I volunteer with an anti-sex trafficking organization and the liberal feminists I spoke with (in real life) can't even stomach listening to me for 2 minutes without freaking out/immediately trying to derail me. Not because they get upset by the conditions other women have to live in, but because they get angry that they can't lord over me with their superiority. They don't actually do shit to help vulnerable people so they are very far removed from the r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 04:48 AM |
| 10 | The “sex work is work” mantra is kind of condescending coming from women who thought women being dependent on sexual service to one man for our livelihood was oppressiveSame, I am very liberal in that I believe in universal healthcare and even in universal basic income. But I refuse to engage in identity politics and I reject liberal feminism. The "sex work should be legal" is a slippery slope. Sure yeah, don't put sex workers in prison or give them a criminal record, try to regulate it and give resources to poor women trapped in sex work. Services like government aid (for food, housing, healthcare), access to educational and vocational programs, access to psyc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 04:36 AM |
| 41 | Happy to see this posted on another subMaybe women aren't using their wombs as much as this woman wants them to because they can't find reliable husbands who are capable and willing to provide for a wife and family. So whether they want to be "career women" or not, most women have to work, most households require 2 incomes in order to not live in poverty/be 1 small disaster away from poverty. And if most women need to work, they need to get an education/attain skills in order to have the chance to have a job that pays more than what … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 02:04 PM |
| 29 | The “sex work is work” mantra is kind of condescending coming from women who thought women being dependent on sexual service to one man for our livelihood was oppressiveLiberal feminists do not give a fuck about women. Most of them are basic, boring, insecure, white women who think they are special because they have a BA degree and the 'correct' political/social values. They are like a caricature at this point. They're so basic and ordinary it is painful, but in their minds, they think they are part of a special and elite class of women. It's a case of "Some animals are more equal than others". They don't have the empathy needed to be able to relate to a woman … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:41 PM |
| 16 | Attention Male Lurkers: You need to SHUT THE FUCK up about your online dating problemsIn a few years OLD will be even more congested with Insta/OnlyFans promoters, bots, sex workers, and dead profiles. That's the trajectory it's been on, because men collectively can't avoid abusing and harassing women on OLD. The peak days of OLD are over because men have basically scared women off of dating apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:28 PM |
| 24 | “If she doesn’t put out by the third date, she’s not into you bro.”It's entitlement to women's bodies with extra steps. Extra steps meaning faking interest and intention for 3 dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 03:07 PM |
| 193 | What do you all think about this?I think there's a good chance her current BF is just violent and enjoys having an excuse to beat someone up. Like there is a chance him beating up her ex 4 times has little to do with her. Even if he is doing this for her honor-- it's better to have a boyfriend who isn't in jail and convicted as a violent felon. It's easier to live a good life when you don't have to worry about being in a prison cell, or when you don't have to worry about your significant other being in a prison cell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:56 PM |
| 2 | This was shared by a pickme who is currently the target of a NVM I and my friend group recently cut off due to his gf finally breaking up with him and sharing all the messed up stuff he did to her. This type of thinking will lead u right into the arms of an abuser. Save your best for yourself.I honestly believe it leads to narcissism in severe pick mes. They believe they’re ‘too smart & knowing’ to take your advice. They get some kind of ego supply from seeming ‘morally superior’ to their scrote and being a willing martyr 24/7. Yes, they act like covert narcissists. That martyr masochist mindset is narcissist adjacent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:28 PM |
| 37 | When you keep reminding yourself about all their good qualities…The only time I do that is with relatives or in-laws with difficult personalities. Even then, I reduce interactions and communication to the bare minimum, I grey rock them, and whenever I have to see them in person for whatever reason (holidays, etc) I try to tune them out as much as possible so I can't actually remember what they said or what body language they were showing. I try to remind myself of their "good qualities" so I don't blow a gasket and make a scene. These types of difficult peop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:16 PM |
| 63 | I'm SICK of hearing about how the rise of incels, and that"Inceldom" is a new strange modern phenomenon. IT'S NOT.This. In order to correct a problem, we have to first start with recognizing and accurately labeling the problem. Anything less than that is denial. Society chooses to portray inceldom as a recent thing, something very fringe on the internet, with the occasional mentally disturbed lone wolf 'shooter'. It's misogynistic domestic terrorism. Society will continue to call these terrorists "mentally ill lone wolf shooters" until incels start shooting "chads" in the gym weight room, shooting kids at d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:00 PM |
| 6 | This was shared by a pickme who is currently the target of a NVM I and my friend group recently cut off due to his gf finally breaking up with him and sharing all the messed up stuff he did to her. This type of thinking will lead u right into the arms of an abuser. Save your best for yourself.I’m not getting second hand mental illness trying to help severe pick mes anymore. Good bye Agreed. Especially since pretty much all women have some kind of trauma or history with men that can be triggered by talking to a friend in a bad relationship. It is really a self-sacrifice and putting another person before yourself, when another woman listens to you talk about your shitty relationship. Instead of being grateful that another woman is putting aside her own traumas to listen to you, in an a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:44 PM |
| 6 | This was shared by a pickme who is currently the target of a NVM I and my friend group recently cut off due to his gf finally breaking up with him and sharing all the messed up stuff he did to her. This type of thinking will lead u right into the arms of an abuser. Save your best for yourself.I just stopped talking to women in bad relationships. 9/10 times they are so dickmatized and so far gone that it isn't worth the effort. So many of them are almost as misogynistic as the men they choose to be with/have kids with. It's beyond subconscious self-hating internalized misogyny-- they consciously and deliberately belittle, degrade, or try to one-up other women, regardless of context. I can't deal with women who are that insecure and hostile towards me simply because I'm also a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:32 PM |
| 51 | This is simply vile. How they went from "not all men" to "not all pedos". There is so much to unpack, and there are at least 398 pedos who agree. Absolutely disgusting.Pedophiles are getting too big for their britches. They really talk like pedophilia is going to be an accepted sexual orientation any day now. The reality is that it is harder than ever for men (I'm saying MEN because the vast majority of pedophiles ARE men) to get access to kids, society is more aware of sexual abuse than it ever has been before, being put on the sex offender list has very real consequences (can't find housing or a job, angry neighbors coming after you), and the FBI WILL come f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:09 PM |
| 7 | This was shared by a pickme who is currently the target of a NVM I and my friend group recently cut off due to his gf finally breaking up with him and sharing all the messed up stuff he did to her. This type of thinking will lead u right into the arms of an abuser. Save your best for yourself.Dude she is acting this desperate with a guy who is totally worthless, broke, and treats her like complete garbage. Imagine what she'd do for a chance with a guy who actually kisses her, pays for a drive through meal, or occasionally compliments her? Scary to think about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:22 PM |
| 10 | This was shared by a pickme who is currently the target of a NVM I and my friend group recently cut off due to his gf finally breaking up with him and sharing all the messed up stuff he did to her. This type of thinking will lead u right into the arms of an abuser. Save your best for yourself.I don't even know this woman and I fear for her kid too. I chuckled at her "you're just jealous" accusation (what a ridiculous pickme), but I thought about her having a female child and my heart sank. She sounds like the type that would ignore signs of grooming/abuse, would straight up offer her child to a pedophile in order to keep a man around, the type that is jealous of her own daughter and blames her for stealing her man. I really hope she isn't THAT twisted but based on what you write here… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:13 PM |
| 14 | This was shared by a pickme who is currently the target of a NVM I and my friend group recently cut off due to his gf finally breaking up with him and sharing all the messed up stuff he did to her. This type of thinking will lead u right into the arms of an abuser. Save your best for yourself.Translation: "I choose to ignore red flags/abusive and predatory behavior/other women's testimonies. I personally think I am special and that he will be different with me. My enERGY is SPeCIaL. My energy is so sPecIal that I can transform the devil and make him good. I have SpeCiaL inTuiTion and I ignore people's actions because my intuition is more reliable than reality. I disregard other women's testimonies because they are my competition, and I am the special one. I am NoT likE tHe OthEr GiRL… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:59 PM |
| 126 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. He wanted to be lazy, inconsiderate, and cheap, and this is the result he got for his (lack) of effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:46 PM |
| 113 | “wHaT dO yOu bRiNg tO tHe tAbLe?”This is one of the (many) strategies LVM use to hunt down women with low self-esteem. They're looking for anxious insecure women who will ask "how high?" when they tell them to jump. The audacity of asking a stranger "What do you bring to the table?" is incredibly narcissistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:43 PM |
| 208 | Times I should have left my fianceI'm so glad you left him! He sounds like a jealous resentful whiny weak little bitch. He tried to grind you down. No doubt he would have doubled down after marriage, possibly escalated to emotional/mental abuse. Don't worry about the money you lost in deposits and whatnot. You would have lost so much more (yourself) if you married him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 01:25 PM |
| 147 | Know your worth and don't accept less, this engagement ring and an engagement announcement popped up on my newsfeedWtf is that? It looks like a dingleberry with a fungus-infected toenail clipping band. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 01:13 PM |
| 245 | I hope she got picked 🙄What does she mean by "I don't mind if I don't finish every time"? Because the way she writes this makes it sound like she never finishes or rarely finishes. Most women can't orgasm without clitoral stimulation or oral sex. She doesn't mention details, but if she is just having p in v sex, it is not a big mystery why she isn't finishing. If oral takes forever she can introduce a vibrator or something in the bedroom. I don't think she means any harm by writing this post, probably just looking for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 12:55 AM |
| 13 | Anyone else absolutely hate posts like these? There's just so much to unpack here.So much cringe. So much navel gazing. Women being creeped out by men has little to do with their stature and size. I walk past 6'2+ big guys all the time (live in a military town) and never act like a scared gazelle just because they are tall and/or big. Too much eye contact, standing too close, unwanted conversation, following, antisocial weird behavior in general, extremely disheveled looks with crazy eyes (looking like you're on drugs or homeless), etc are features or behaviors that creep wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 12:26 AM |
| 24 | The usual culprits at it with the fear-mongering again. If we all just popped out some babies for the terrorism plotting incels, deranged red pilled dweebs and paedophilic cheating porn fried scrotes, society would be magically better! 🙄This is the same type of guy who shits on single moms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:46 PM |
| 53 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...Ladies, this is how you should be dating if you want to get and keep a man! Download Tinder and invite a guy over to stay at your house for 3.5 days as a 'first date'. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:33 PM |
| 75 | Level up for your daughter's sake! An interesting article about father LVM's influence on women's expectations of men and in turn their sexual behaviourThere is something so primal about this. When something in you snaps and you feel like your life is a horror movie trailer when you imagine having kids with the guy. I remember being incredibly naive, in a relationship with a LVM 11 years older than me. He held up very well for his age at the time (quickly started to age badly after we broke up though) and I wrongly thought an older guy would be more mature and appreciative. The catalyst to me ending things with him was when I blurted out "I don… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 07:08 AM |
| 70 | The emotional labor of being hurtAgreed... a lot of women think doing this kind of emotional labor is normal but it IS NOT. Here is my breakdown for screening + avoiding doing emotional labor for a man who is attempting to clown you: A lot of women just assume every man is a decent human being until proven otherwise. Oftentimes, after being proven otherwise multiple - dozens of times. By the same man! Through trauma bonding, some of them are unable to see what is clearly in front of them. The truth is, you have to vet him to se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 06:13 AM |
| 18 | What are some ways that you typically signal to a guy that you're interested?It depends on the context and situation. If they are total strangers and you just see them at the grocery store or coffee shop-- these are bad situations to signal anything. Of course, you can still meet someone at a random place while doing errands, but the context and situation is not good for conversation or engagement. Not that I'm assuming you're trying to get guys at the grocery store to ask you out. If you meet at work or school-- school is fine, but be careful at work. Meeting someone at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 05:47 AM |
| 28 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂"I'm really 53 but I don't know how to change it lol teehee" "I accidentally hit 2 instead of 4... lol I mean 5. I don't know how to change it teehee" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 05:10 AM |
| 45 | Dating during the time of coronavirus deaths. Does he or does he not respect my time?That's sad but he shouldn't be dating right now. I would avoid going on a 2nd date with him. One date is nothing. You are still strangers. You don't have to be there for him at all. I know that sounds cold but you went on 1 date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 01:45 PM |
| 70 | Block and Delete: People Know Because Their Texts Turn GreenIt's okay to be tired of it. It is tiring and just because society expects women to maintain relationships with disrespectful, disingenuous, or contemptuous people doesn't mean we have to put up with it. I personally give women much more leeway and chances (especially old friends), but even those relationships have limits. I grew up with frenemy type of female cousins and it caused me a lot of mental/emotional pain for years. Their mentality stems from my aunts (mother's sisters), who are major … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 09:08 AM |
| 20 | Don’t ever let scrotes’ cheating make you question your value, they know what they’re doing. Don’t fall into their trap!You dodged a huge bullet with your ex. Imagine if you didn't get the opportunity to see his true face, if you were the type that is unable to enforce her boundaries. He really thought he could inspire you hate yourself and to feel like you must accept this in order to be worthy of his presence in your life. And all for what? He didn't even get to cheat, probably because he didn't have the opportunity to. What a sick twisted scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:35 AM |
| 53 | Hypergamy is not evil, and I'm tired of pretending otherwise.What makes him think a younger, better-looking woman with money would want him? Like those are 3 categories-- age, looks, finances. He should feel grateful to be with a woman out of his league in just 1 of those categories, but he feels entitled to all 3. Unbelievable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 06:41 AM |
| 11 | Why is someone like you single???He tried to hustle one of his flipped properties to you while negging you. So shameless. But the guy is a house flipper so you can't expect any decency or integrity from him. And wtf does a house flipper know about historic properties? Even if they have flipped historic homes-- they just did some cheap cosmetic improvements to make a profit on the house, like they do with all properties they flip. I wouldn't go to a house flipper for any kind of advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:38 AM |
| 123 | Hypergamy is not evil, and I'm tired of pretending otherwise.Women are "hypergamous" when we want to avoid poverty and/or partnering with an unstable or unsupportive man. Not giving antisocial men a "chance" (or better yet, treating them like they are the prize) is considered hypergamy. Screening a man for financial stability, emotional/mental stability, compatibility, and attraction is considered hypergamy to these men because they are not functional adults with an understanding of social, biological, or financial reality. Men are generally much more hyp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:25 AM |
| 78 | HVM will respect your time; LVM have no worries making you wait around for them because they have no respect for you.Lol I love hearing stories of LVM's asses getting handed back to them. They just assume every woman is self-loathing enough to put up with their BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:49 AM |
| 2 | UPDATE: I got a job! (From: "I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit")I am so proud of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 05:06 PM |
| 7 | The delusion, the audacity 🤡😂Exactly. Most celebrities start off looking at least nominally above average, and many of them start off well above average. A big part of their job is to look good, so they have trainers, nutritionists, plastic surgeons, stylists, a whole team of people who are tasked to maintain their appearance. And even with all this money and effort, you still can't fight time and gravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 11:13 AM |
| 8 | The delusion, the audacity 🤡😂I know. They really believe this! It's crazy. It's like me thinking I'm going to magically wake up looking like Elizabeth Hurley when I'm 55. Also magically going to have her net worth as well. And this is with me starting off pretty/conventionally attractive, having good self-care habits, with a good job, some assets and investments. I'm still not going to be near Elizabeth Hurley territory when I am her age. I don't look as good as her now and I'm 20+ years younger, and I will never have her n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 11:09 AM |
| 2 | Saw this in TwoX this morning. It was so hard to read.Seriously, why are you together if you make each other so unhappy? It's like they believe they have ZERO control over their own lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 11:02 AM |
| 11 | Saw this in TwoX this morning. It was so hard to read.This is both heartbreaking and horrifying. I feel so sad for this woman. This was my nightmare growing up. Being married to a lazy dumb selfish man who treats me like I am less than. My own mom didn't live this life but I had seen it in my cousin's families, friend's families, shit just on sitcom TV. I didn't want to get married for the longest time because I feared that this would happen to me. I never found the mom humor type of "tee hee my husband is an idiot/my 2nd or 3rd child" type of joke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:02 PM |
| 145 | The delusion, the audacity 🤡😂Doesn't he know? Men peak in their late 40s/early 50s, sometimes in their 60s depending on how alpha the guy is. Men magically wake up looking like a silver fox sometime in their 40s. They just wake up and have different genetics, different facial structure, clear skin, a full head of hair, a fit body, a good personality, high IQ and EQ, top notch social skills, etc. It just happens magically! On their 50th birthday, it starts to rain money, so now these guys are also magically rich. They reach … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 04:43 PM |
| 29 | LVMs and their love for "alone together"I'm probably giving them too much credit. A lot of these guys likely have ED and performance issues, given their lifestyle (gaming, porn, being a slug). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:39 PM |
| 106 | LVMs and their love for "alone together"It's just more of the same. Future faking. Wanting the benefits of long-term relationships/marriage like security, stability, regular sex, emotional support while completely dodging courting, bypassing women's vetting efforts, making as little effort as possible in order to get what they want. They try to get women to do netflix and chill, house dates and hiking dates to build this false intimacy as well. Like hey we are doing coupley things like chilling and watching TV, going on long hikes... … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:22 PM |
| 136 | Quickies ain't worth it, babesBonus, might also receive STIs and sexual trauma. /s And they wonder why women aren't signing up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:05 PM |
| 266 | Men know.My husband told me he "kNeW" at a very early stage of dating-- he told me this after we were already married for over a year. He just didn't openly say it at the time because he was worried that he'd creep me out. Meanwhile, it took me some time to know, because I had to vet him thoroughly. If anything, it takes women longer to know. We have to be more thorough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:00 PM |
| 29 | HVM right there. Take note scrotesAdorable! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:04 PM |
| 42 | I hope she gets picked !Instead of making this cringey Reddit post why not just enjoy your super awesome relationship where you both like and compliment other people? Like why bother even writing this if you were happy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:04 PM |
| 0 | Pick-me's vs Handmaidens -- an important distinctionGlad to see that shlock Liz Warren on your handmaiden list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 08:31 PM |
| 21 | CoMmUNiCate they say because obviously she is the problem 🙄Cousin wanking material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:54 PM |
| 81 | Men will be on their best behavior until they get what they want.Getting a haircut, texting good morning, cleaning his apartment and sharing his video games qualifies as high value and "sweeping you off your feet" these days? Lord. Even if these actions are consistent, so what? Men have to get regular haircuts unless they want to look disheveled at work. Even bald men shave their heads because they are not typically bald all over. Texting someone takes literally 1 second. Cleaning your apartment and not living in a pigsty is a basic hygiene issue and adulting… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:31 PM |
| 1 | OMG I am legit dying rn. Maybe because talk about "dad bods" has been trending on FDS lately but look at the ad that showed up for me while I was scrolling through our lovely subreddit 🤣🤣🤣🤣 "I'm a 2X dude, *CLASSIC* dad bod"Thanks for the advice! I know he's donated blood and plasma before but not in recent years. I want to donate blood myself but have issues with anemia/being borderline anemic most of the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:36 PM |
| 7 | What calling women "chaotic" really means:He sounds sooo nasty. Unfortunately, I've met pigs like that at work as well. The worst ones were in my CS classes at school. It was hard to breathe in some of my classes because it felt like I was in a mushroom cloud of BO, smelly feet, butt sweat, ball sweat. Would see guys picking their nose in class, greasy hair, dirty clothes, lack of footwear. It was so nasty. I wish I had all-female CS classes, for sure. Would also love to work at an all-female software team. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:12 PM |
| 3 | What calling women "chaotic" really means:I've been working remotely for the past year, so I haven't had to deal with any smelly male colleagues recently. But yeah, I've been dealing with BO smelling co-workers for nearly 10 years now. Not all of them stink, but far too many. And there is always that one guy who smells so bad you can follow his body odor down the hallways, even when you can't see him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Unexpected call from an ex.... he's an ex for a reason!The suicidal thing reminds me of Cartman breaking up with his girlfriend because she was "abusive" and then calling her saying he is suicidal, begging her to take him back. If he is mentally unstable, he needs to go to therapy and get professional help. If you want to be nice, send him a text message saying he needs to go to a professional, and that you will not pick up any of his calls or respond to any texts going forward. You don't have to tell him that you blocked him, but just block him aft… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:42 PM |
| 20 | Unexpected call from an ex.... he's an ex for a reason!Why are you picking up his calls and being his mommy/friend/free therapist? Just block him. Not trying to be harsh, but why did you even pick up? And you actually listened to him talk and gave him advice? He should venmo you the going rate for what local therapists charge for an emergency therapy session. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:15 PM |
| 63 | OMG I am legit dying rn. Maybe because talk about "dad bods" has been trending on FDS lately but look at the ad that showed up for me while I was scrolling through our lovely subreddit 🤣🤣🤣🤣 "I'm a 2X dude, *CLASSIC* dad bod"I generally don't body shame people, but I can't stand this "dad bod" thing. I don't understand why some pickmes love dad bod so much, even when they are fit themselves? It would make sense if they wanted their husband to die young so they could collect life insurance. A guy with a dad bod at 25 or 35 is going to have serious health problems by the time he is in his late 40s. My husband is 35, 10% body fat and has slightly high blood pressure. He eats healthy and exercises but he's just approach… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 01:38 PM |
| 30 | What calling women "chaotic" really means:Makes no sense when you think about how "women's work" often revolves around organization. Teaching-- organizing lessons, teaching 20-25+ students, managing school administrators, parents, testing standards, etc. Nursing-- managing and organizing patients and their charts, remembering things that the physician will forget, paperwork etc. Admin assistant-- managing and organizing executive's calendars, appointments, organizing things in general. Household-- managing and organizing appointments, c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 01:15 PM |
| 12 | A guy once told me, "I'm the last thing you need right now." Then got mad when I said, "Okay."Sounds like some kind of red pill thing. Bullet dodged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 01:26 PM |
| 36 | “I just had my time completely wasted by a LVM douchebag, but OMG it was awesome!!” 🤦♀️She needs to find something better to do with her time. Having your time wasted by inconsiderate and disrespectful men isn't a legitimate hobby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 01:25 PM |
| 127 | That last conversation won't give you closureI have a cousin who has been in a LV on/off relationship for the past 7 years. It's currently long-distance and "on". She is 34 years old and wants to have kids, a family, etc. They've never been "on" (and not long-distance) for longer than 3 months at a time. It's really sad. I remember her first breakup. She kept going on about 'closure'. Well, she never got closure, just this 7+ years mess. Learn to walk away. Just in general, knowing when to walk away from people/jobs/situations etc is a nec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 10:47 AM |
| 88 | Is Bill Gates LVM?Bill Gates is a cartoonish supervillain type, of course he's a LVM. I don't believe that he's had a genuine marriage with Melinda Gates for a long time. They probably had some kind of business arrangement for PR reasons. One or both of them probably just got fed up with this business contract type of marriage. 27 years is a long time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:51 PM |
| 212 | Men on unemployment think that this applies to them - at least it was an unemployed man who posted this. It doesn't matter how many hours some scrote works, a strong woman will NOT settle for this!!Where was my orchestra of tiny violins when I was working 2-3 jobs and studying, when I was working FT and studying computer science FT? My job, while not physically demanding, was mentally/emotionally difficult, and my courses were even more difficult. And I've had physically demanding jobs before that. No, I wasn't a welder, but I know what it feels like to be on your feet for 10 hours/day. Grow the fuck up. No one has to pat you on the back for having a job and going to work. This is what adu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:21 PM |
| 4 | Imagine how this "man" would treat you. He barely sees women as human. This is why we don't date down ladies!Dude needs to to be put on some clozapine before he commits a mass shooting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:00 PM |
| 45 | I’m just so tickled seeing this. Yes Queens, yes.Imagine being so shitty and parasitic that you manage to put women off to this degree. After they've received a lifetime of conditioning to give you the benefit of the doubt. Like women would rather go to a sperm bank and be a single mom instead of dealing with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 10:59 PM |
| 8 | My father taught me to choose LVMYou're a very kind and strong person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 07:34 PM |
| 20 | My father taught me to choose LVMWow, so instead of being appreciative and humbled that you forgave him enough to have a relationship with him, he's only "matured in some ways"? He doesn't push your boundaries only because he needs you. If he took a magic serum that made him young and healthy, would he still respect your boundaries? Honestly, elderly STRANGERS would be more thankful to you, and would be kinder to you. You're a great person for taking care of him, but damn... it's an example of the world being unfair. A piece of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 04:59 PM |
| 59 | The Vetting Process: A List of Minimum QualificationsThe adulting 101 is a bare minimum list for any person who strives to be semi functional, avoid living under a bridge and to live past age 50. The adulting 201 list is super basic for anyone over age 30. Like yeah, you should know how to maintain relationships with people, fix things when they need repair (that or have a lot of money to burn every time you need to hire someone else to do it/to replace it!), know how to cook something better than spaghetti and meatballs. Only exception might be h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 04:51 PM |
| 17 | My father taught me to choose LVMI apologize if I sound gruff but... why do you continue to have a relationship with him? He puts you down, has an explosive temper, is a slob, degrades your mother. And it sounds like he's been doing this since you were a child. Any man who isn't shooting blanks can be a sperm donor, but not every sperm donor is a father. Why even let him into your life? It sounds like he has zero redeeming qualities, completely lacks character, and is devoid of empathy and humanity. You don't owe him anything. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 04:23 PM |
| 14 | Trying to get rid of my own pick-me BS fantasiesI think our detached, increasingly isolated society is dangerously compatible with fantasy. I believe that cultivating a hands-on, practical, earthy or an analytical hobby/interest will help the mind snap out of fantasy. Perhaps growing food/keeping a garden, woodworking, any hobby that is outside and in nature (in the analog world), any hobby that strengthens your systematic and logical thinking skills. Fantasy is also necessary in life. We have to have dreams, but I think society has made it t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:55 PM |
| 12 | Being repeatedly ignored sounds sooo fun! Let's get hitched ASAP! 🤡 Why is this normalized?This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:36 PM |
| 5 | How is this even a question??!!This is sooo sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:26 PM |
| 93 | Deleted dating apps because I realized I deserve betterMen go on apps to find easy pickings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:22 PM |
| 130 | Housewife gets all revved up at the mere sight of her husband doing the dishesI don't get why women boast about this. You make yourself look bad because you're telling the whole world that your husband is lazy, selfish, doesn't care about you, doesn't respect you. Other people won't think much of you when they know that your husband doesn't think much of you. Your kids won't think much of you either, growing up in a household like this, and having role models like you and your husband. We don't live in the 60s anymore. Most households require 2 incomes to survive these da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:12 PM |
| 184 | Getting turned off by menThere's nothing wrong with men physically if they are fit and take care of themselves. I think plenty of men are attractive if they take care of themselves. But almost all of them become unattractive as soon as they open their mouths/after getting to know them. When I was dating, attraction was very rare for me for this reason. Their personalities, behaviors, the things they say and do-- are such huge turnoffs. And it doesn't help that the majority of them don't take care of themselves. But even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 04:27 AM |
| 33 | Nah a degree >>> a man. A man can leave, die or be broke. You will always have your degree & it will always put money in your pocket. A good piece of Red Velvet cake can replace a husbandWhy do they feel so threatened? What is so threatening about a woman earning a degree? My husband was happy as hell when I earned my MS in computer science. He was so proud of me, planned celebrations, was genuinely very happy for me and was excited for me. My dad was super happy and proud of me too. My mom said he was stupid happy and was acting silly around the house/bragging to family members on the phone, because he was so proud. A woman can have a loving supportive man AND a degree. She doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 04:01 AM |
| 95 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.Imagine her on a garbage truck making this speech, while she is picking up another woman's trash. Her voice being muffled by the sound of the garbage truck crushing garbage, being further muffled as the truck goes down the street and around the corner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:45 PM |
| 19 | AskFeminists: “We do not allow FDS users to participate here. “ Explain like I’m 5?This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 02:01 PM |
| 138 | AskFeminists: “We do not allow FDS users to participate here. “ Explain like I’m 5?Even if you used a different Reddit account (with no FDS posts), you'd still get banned, if you didn't follow their libfem narrative. These spaces are all about pandering to males, dumbing people/thought down to the lowest common denominator, and sublimating female dissent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 02:00 PM |
| 42 | I am BOILING. Ad that came up on my fb feed. A five year old with eye bags that need correcting?? The grooming starts so young. Thankfully they got dragged in comments.Grotesque. I am appalled. Fuck these photo filter apps in general. I refuse to use them. They are messing with people's minds. No one looks like a plasticy android in real life. It's not even attractive, it's dystopian and ghoulish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:09 PM |
| 22 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNThis happened to me on dating apps. I calculated the time I spent trying to screen/organize matches, and it was at least 7 hours/week. A few guys made it to about 4 dates, but they all lost patience/showed their true colors. Those guys ate up about 25 hours of my time each. I went on a few 1st-2nd dates, and those took less time but still several hours. I was only on the app for less than 2 months, had no issue getting matches, dates or interest-- but I realized I was losing several hours/week o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 10:33 AM |
| 24 | Men Pushing Pregnancy During DatingSo many red flags. When you first start talking to someone, you tell them if kids are in your life plan or not. It's a basic compatibility issue. On the first few dates, you might talk about when you picture yourself settling down and having kids, but you don't talk about it like you're going to do that with them. It's just date 1/2, you don't know this person. The fact that he talks about it a lot when it sounds like you haven't even met, is a huge red flag. He doesn't know you. You don't know … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:44 AM |
| 37 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNIt pissed me off so much, because I'd waste so much time. Like why not just say I expect sex quickly, I want a sexual relationship, I'm not into you? Even ghosting after a 1st date is better than wasting my time like this. 4 dates, each about 3 hours long, 12 hours Driving and parking, let's be conservative and say 15 min each way (usually takes more time), 30 min each date, 2 hours Getting ready for the date/getting ready to leave my house, minimum 1 hour, so 4 hours All of the text exchanges, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:21 AM |
| 2 | PSA: Ladies, don't post self identifying content using the reddit account you participate in FDS with. And PLEASE don't cross post in beauty subs with your face!I like NordVPN, but I've used ExpressVPN in the past and that was good too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:13 AM |
| 126 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNYup. This is the script most of them follow. It's the classic pretending to be into you/wanting a relationship/wanting to really date in order to get his dick wet. Women used to be more privy to it. Seems like a lot of women are more gullible now? That, or willfully ignorant. I really don't understand this coffee/walk date bullshit. It used to piss me off when guys would organize 3-4+ dates, then when I didn't put out-- they'd disappear. Not because I thought they were a romantic opportunity, bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:56 AM |
| 22 | PSA: Ladies, don't post self identifying content using the reddit account you participate in FDS with. And PLEASE don't cross post in beauty subs with your face!I don't mean to fearmonger, but there is a middle ground between being 100% anonymous and giving access to the entire world. It's the same in real life... anything can happen, you can be victimized in real life too. You can't be so anxious that you're unable to leave your house, but you also have to have safety in mind, take calculated risks etc when you go out. If you have to keep your profiles more public for networking purposes, just be sure to completely separate your personal life from your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:46 AM |
| 150 | Coffee & Walk Dates Lack Chemistry BY DESIGNGuys who ask for coffee and walk dates are really dumb and socially obtuse. Likely to be a wild card, unlikely to act even semi-normal on the date. Men who have normal social skills and actually get laid, understand that coffee/walk dates are a waste of time. They know to ask for drinks, they might ask for dinner if they're going through a dry spell, or if they match with a really hot girl. Ultimately, they know what gets them results. The script is this: 1st date drinks or dinner (if she's hot … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:29 AM |
| 3 | I live in a van down by the river - is this a turn off?No woman wants to live in a van without a bathroom you pile of shit. Where does he shower? At the gym? Or does he bathe in the river? Is he going to say "Hey let's shower together at the gym!" if he starts dating someone? No, he'll just shower at the woman's place, move in ASAP, continue to be a bum, refuse to work (no mention of any form of employment here). "Pixie wanderlust fairies"? Wtf? Was he picking up runaways and homeless women? He's 43 and claims to be financially stable? The least you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:31 AM |
| 118 | Men Are Visual BSThey're so visual, yet blind when they look in the mirror. People who really have a taste for aesthetics are the types who see aesthetics in everything. They dress well, are put together, they value aesthetics in their homes and living spaces, every feature of their lives really. Most people who are like this are women, but some men are as well. They're usually called 'gay' or metrosexual (in the US) by slob men who don't take care of themselves, live in filth, look like shit, most are fat, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:13 AM |
| 89 | PSA: Ladies, don't post self identifying content using the reddit account you participate in FDS with. And PLEASE don't cross post in beauty subs with your face!Internet safety tips (in general): Never post photos, location, personal details, anything that can identify you. This includes where you work, where you went to school, a recommendation for a local sandwich shop. This advice applies to not just FDS-- if you have another Reddit account for example-- do not post any personal or identifying information, ever. Keep your social media minimal, make it all private, don't have any public photos of yourself. Don't EVER post your location. Be careful who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:00 AM |
| 32 | It's easy to think that people should care about your opinion, when you're not talked over, told to STFU, and scared into silence.His fans (predominantly male, white, young) have such reverence for him that they foam at the mouth whenever anyone criticizes their all-knowing father. He's just a grifter. Like a red pill Dr Oz who says off color misogynistic and transphobic things routinely, and has a shocked pikachu face when people don't buy the shit he is peddling. The guy is a flaming narcissist. He was a nobody professor in Canada before he became an internet personality. He felt he deserved more respect, that he was owe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 06:56 PM |
| 55 | It's easy to think that people should care about your opinion, when you're not talked over, told to STFU, and scared into silence.Jordan Peterson is a drug-addicted degenerate schlock who peddles pop psychology to disturbed men with daddy issues. These men would hate him if he was their actual father. He's such a selfish piece of shit. His wife was diagnosed with a very aggressive (thought to be terminal) cancer and in her time of need/what his family believed was her last year of life, he got addicted to benzos. He got himself diagnosed with schizophrenia (turned out that he was not schizophrenic, just side effects of the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:33 PM |
| 54 | You ever feel like the women who are happy with their men are kind of just...dumb?I'm going to be really honest here. I'm married, because I randomly met a HVM in the wild and thought I'd give it a shot. I calculated the risks. I make a good income, have marketable skills, I'm emotionally stable, I know that I can support myself and live a good life, whether I am single or not. I didn't get married just to survive, to get out of my parent's house/control, or because I felt I needed to be picked, or because I wanted a man just so I can have children. I was happy when I was sin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 04:32 PM |
| 173 | I see a lot of ladies here feel shame about the way they used to be. But please understand that most of us have been some level of pick me in the past. Some still have remnants of pick me mentality yet to overcome. Please forgive yourself. Keep growing and becoming.Are butterflies ashamed that they were once caterpillars? Sounds corny, I know, but yeah-- would you knock down another woman, because she had the audacity to want better and to do better? No, you'd just applaud her and be happy for her. If your past self was on FDS, would you cackle and laugh at her, or would you want to help her? You'd want to help her, and you'd have empathy for her-- not judgement. Realize what deeply misogynistic society you live in. This shit goes so, so deep. Women are tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:02 PM |
| 67 | Even men themselves laugh at the low bar of pickmeishas 😭🤡That wasn't your fault. Unless you had the good fortune of being surrounded by tough smart HVW, your default socialization was to buy into the disillusion that the nicer and sweeter you are to men, the more shit you take from them, etc that they'll be moved by it and appreciate it. You probably weren't socialized to have high standards, to not take shit, to reserve your sweetness and kindness only for the worthy, to expect reciprocity. Most women aren't. Please don't beat yourself up over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:48 PM |
| 236 | Even men themselves laugh at the low bar of pickmeishas 😭🤡Of course. FDS gets so much flack for being judgy, and a lot of cool chick types feel unsettled when they come here. But we are really just saying what men are already thinking. They DO notice it when you have low standards, and they treat you accordingly. But yeah, god forbid a woman tries to look out for another woman-- she's just a judgemental bitch. Scrotes hate FDS because we are helping pickmes, and this dries up their pickme pipeline. These guys definitely don't have empathy for her, they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:31 PM |
| 23 | Found this on a relationship sub. Women think this kind of behaviour is endearing ?! Nah sis 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ makes me wonder what else he thinks gets done by magic. Some guy commented and argued with me about how men do more domestic labour lmao I can’t handle this sub. I never want to be married.I can't stand this zombie wife/mombie 'humor'. It's not funny. You're married to a selfish lazy person who doesn't care about you. It's not cute or funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 02:14 PM |
| 55 | A 49 year old man has an ✨epiphany✨ and people in the comments thank and praise him for his 'insight'🙌 and give him lots of awards 🏅🏅🏅Pathetic. Profoundly intellectually disabled people and children younger than age 5, can fold clothes. If you look at Montessori practical life activities for children-- folding clothes is considered a good practical life skill for 3-4 year olds. My sister is doing Montessori with her son, and he is almost 3. He can fold clothes. Not well, but he enjoys doing it. "I'm not good at it as she is, but I'm getting there from practice, and I now realize it's a big deal for her" Do you have limbs? Are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 01:51 PM |
| 30 | From the dating subreddit, "Men shouldn't be expected to carry the entire weight of the dating experience, and women shouldn't be afraid to scare men away by "chasing" them and providing support."I think this is a male. "Carry the entire weight of the dating experience", "providing support", and "while the woman sits back and receives". That sounds very autistic male Redditor to me. Although yeah, I wouldn't be floored if it were a woman. There are some really fucked up pickmes out there. The way this person writes this post just sounds male to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:51 PM |
| 77 | Online dating programs you to settleIn real life, women also have received a lifetime of conditioning on how to protect themselves. Don't take walks alone at night, don't go to x and y alone, carry a weapon, do this and that. We also have years and years of experience, getting a feel for assessing danger and risk. In real life, you can use your 'creep radar', you can analyze body language. At work, if some freak follows you to the car garage, it is on camera, you can report it, the company has his name and social security number. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:32 PM |
| 195 | Online dating programs you to settle The most dangerous aspect of dating apps is not the dick pics, negging, 'fuck you bitch, you're ugly/fat anyway" responses to rejection, the NVM, the zero effort 'hang outs'-- but the insidious way apps break down women's sense of self-preservation. I tried apps twice. Both times for only a few weeks. The first time-- I never met anyone, because I just got overwhelmed and felt scared. The second time-- I was more committed to giving it a chance, spent several hours every week just trying to or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:11 PM |
| 17 | Ladies - consider splurging on an expensive gym membership!I can attest to this as well. I used to cheap out on gym memberships, dealt with a lot of harassment and incorrectly assumed all gyms were the same/similar. The harassment and unwanted attention is significantly less in an expensive gym. I currently go to a high-end gym/recreational center that heavily markets to families (extensive gym day care, multiple kid's pools, etc) and the difference is quite extreme. I still get looks/approached, but the guys are not aggressive, and due to the family-or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 02:58 PM |
| 2 | TIL: There are a male gynaecologist out there that will forcibly impregnate their patients during Pap smears 😧 I will never see a male gynaecologistI can imagine! I once got into an internet argument with some women because I said I only go to female physicians. It was sickening, because their argument was that I was sexist, while in the same breath they licked male physician's asses, brought up how their friend's mom's cousin once had a bad experience with a female physician, and overall had a very different (much higher) set of standards for female physicians. It's almost like... they are brainwashed and unaware of their internalized miso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 02:25 PM |
| 29 | From the dating subreddit, "Men shouldn't be expected to carry the entire weight of the dating experience, and women shouldn't be afraid to scare men away by "chasing" them and providing support."And I love how this was posted by a "woman". Sure. So sick of these "I'm a woman and I think (insert misogynistic bullshit here)" all over Reddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 02:13 PM |
| 12 | He cheated on her and she's still with him. She now finds out he spends money on porn.What is there to talk about? Does she actually think her marriage is redeemable? I don't get it. "Send booze"? Really? How about "Send a divorce attorney". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 02:10 PM |
| 93 | From the dating subreddit, "Men shouldn't be expected to carry the entire weight of the dating experience, and women shouldn't be afraid to scare men away by "chasing" them and providing support."The sperm chases the egg. Men are more motivated by sex than women. Most men get off (quickly and easily) from casual sex. Men benefit from relationships more than women do. Married men statistically have a longer life expectancy than single men. Men are more depressed when they are single. Women are happier and live longer lives when they are single. Men cannot get pregnant. They have a minuscule chance of being raped or sexually assaulted by a woman. They are less likely to contract STIs due t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 01:27 PM |
| 7 | I have no words...I don't get it either. I have a friend with 3 kids. Her husband invited his uncle to stay with them for 1 month (a man she herself has never met) without discussing it with her, and she flat out said, "Sure, he can stay here-- if you can guarantee that he isn't going to molest the kids". Her husband was offended af and was all hoW dAre Uuuuu but ultimately realized he could not guarantee this, so he rescinded his offer for the uncle to stay with them. They were otherwise very hospitable, hosted … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 01:11 PM |
| 3 | TIL: There are a male gynaecologist out there that will forcibly impregnate their patients during Pap smears 😧 I will never see a male gynaecologistIn medschool, my female colleagues would talk about patients who they wished they could have helped better, and cases that keep them up at night studying for just one more hour, while our male colleagues would discuss get-rich-quick schemes, or staff optimization in order to garner the biggest paycheck. I am not at all surprised. My aunt is an anesthesiologist and she has some outrageous stories concerning male physicians and surgeons. Especially the surgeons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 12:59 PM |
| 71 | I have no words...Her parents are appalling. Yes, this totally sounds like grooming. Nobody normal talks to an 11-year-old (a tween) like they are a toddler. And for a long time? Talking about what? Wtf. The girl's parents need to get their heads checked. Who lets their 11 year old daughter have long phone conversations with adult men? Adult men who speak to them as if they are a toddler, and while at work. So fucking inappropriate on so many levels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:14 AM |
| 267 | I have no words...Pedophile scrote strategy: Step 1: Target a vulnerable underage girl with a bad home life for grooming. Be her 'friend'. Step 2: Feed her a script "We started dating when I turned 18". Step 3: Don't let her get an education, work skills or life skills. Knock her down. Make her feel worthless. Make her dependent on you. Step 4: Cheat on her. Make her feel even more worthless. Step 5: Impregnate her. Twice. Step 6: Continue to cheat on her, but make sure to tell her that you want to see other peop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:22 AM |
| 198 | TIL: There are a male gynaecologist out there that will forcibly impregnate their patients during Pap smears 😧 I will never see a male gynaecologistThat's so horrible. I've never been to a male ob-gyn. I don't think I've missed out on anything. I avoid male doctors in general. Why would I pick a male physician when I can choose a female physician? I've never been apologetic about choosing only female doctors. It's so annoying when women are like "MaLe OB-GynS aRe MorEee GenTleEEE" with this tone like female ob-gyns go out of their way to make their patients uncomfortable or to hurt them. It's my body, and I feel comfortable with women. And … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 12:14 AM |
| 46 | Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!!It can be hard if you forget things you learned years ago. You have to refresh your brain. That's totally normal. The way he writes this just chaps my ass. What planet does this guy live on? How does he have the audacity to even write this post? How is he not ashamed of himself? I read his comments in the original thread. He was defending himself with 'My PT job is physical while she is home all day' and "I'm taking hard math classes, she just reads and writes papers". Dude probably went on Redd… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 12:00 AM |
| 39 | Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!!full time phd student part time assistant full time scrote wrangler LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 04:45 PM |
| 78 | Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!!It's definitely possible to learn calculus (and more) at any age, but not with this attitude and work ethic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:50 PM |
| 600 | Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!!Boo hoo, I'm a 36 year old man who can't handle a part-time job and TWO classes. When does he plan to complete his engineering degree if he is still doing calculus and taking two classes at a time? When he is 43? I'm a software engineer-- the math gets a lot harder! Calculus is easy. High school kids take calculus FFS. He's jealous that she is getting her phD while he is struggling to do high school math. He wants to sabotage her by pushing her to the brink of exhaustion. What a manipulative cry… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:44 PM |
| 96 | Just left what I thought was HVMI'm so sorry. Why did you think he was the epitome of a HVM? I'm sorry if I sound like I lack empathy, I truly am sorry. But I am really analytical and I think it would help you (as well as others) on this sub, if you could break things down. I don't talk about how stupid or terrible other men are to my husband. He knows how stupid/terrible men can be. I only bring up examples of strong, brave and kind men to him if I ever bother to discuss other men with him. I love my husband, but I refuse to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:29 PM |
| 29 | I ditched my fuckbuddy when she caught feelings because she's "drama", now I'm too sick to fuck other women. She's got a bf now, I want her back. Help, please :(This is why you have to be ruthless. Men force us to be. Sooo many men will happily use you, not just for your body, but they'll toy with your mind for as long as you let them get away with it. They'll have the audacity to end things (even FWB) and not stay gone. The worst part is, all the while, they think they are doing YOU a favor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 01:59 PM |
| 6 | How does a woman go from cheerful and carefree to overworked and boring? So hard to understand. Such a mystery. /sLmao, definitely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:33 PM |
| 10 | How does a woman go from cheerful and carefree to overworked and boring? So hard to understand. Such a mystery. /sManbaby wants mommy's attention too! Maybe he could try to be a husband and father? That might actually make his wife feel attracted to him, and it will definitely give her more time and energy to take care of herself. She might be happier, might initiate sex, and be more bubbly if she weren't a childminder bangmaid mommy. Just a thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:06 PM |
| 27 | "He Might Not Be A Good Partner To You, Doesn't Make Him A Bad Person"You don't need any enemies with 'best friends' like that. I hope they will be your ex best friends soon. You deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 06:27 PM |
| 29 | Growing older does not mean you’ve grown up.There's no fool like an old fool. Some people are almost born highly perceptive, with rational thinking skills and with the ability to make good decisions. Many others learn things through trial, error and experience, perhaps most/many. Finally-- there is the group that NEVER learns and NEVER truly observes anything, least of all themselves. They get older, and that's just it-- they get older. They don't learn, grow or change. Not genuinely anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 01:36 PM |
| 15 | A Women's value is transactional and that currency is her bodyWhen you realize that some % of society (misogynistic men and self-hating pickmes) will see you as less than/have animosity or hatred against you no matter what you do or who you are, you learn to not give a fuck. Men don't have any legal or economic leverage over us anymore. Who gives a shit what they think? Who cares what they think about anything, let alone what they think about you? Same goes for pickmes-- absolutely no one cares what they think, least of all their boyfriend or husband. They… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 03:05 PM |
| 9 | I finally tossed out my Valentine's bouquet and after noticing that, my partner came over with a replacement bouquet - of my favourite colours! Always something bright to look forward to 💐Gorgeous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:54 PM |
| 135 | I really feel so sorry for this generation of women.They've only been dating a few months and they are in their late teens. Why is she even entertaining him/this situation? Go to school and get an education, adopt a pet, volunteer, get a job-- there are much better things to do with your time besides trying to fix a guy you barely know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:44 PM |
| 98 | Hot Take: Ghosting people is a perfectly valid form of ending communication.Women and men ghost for different reasons. Men ghost because they don't care about other people's feelings, women ghost for safety reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 04:10 PM |
| 57 | For those who deleted dating apps, how did you get over the fear of missing out?I met my husband while I was working full-time and in grad school. Men are everywhere. Dating apps create this mindset where you fear that if you delete the app, you'll never get a date again in real life. This happens because apps monopolize your time/social opportunities, so whenever you are out, it is often to meet up with some rando off of an app. There are maniacs, trash, rapists and fuckboys out there in 'real life' as well, but still not the same thing as dumpster diving on apps. Look int… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 03:49 PM |
| 134 | Guy begs and pleads with me to keep him entertained during his flight 🤣"Let me put on my dancing monkey costume and bang cymbals together for your entertainment" There is literally a screen in front of his face, that is there to entertain him. Has movies, shows, music and games on it. And if he has wifi on his phone, he can go online. Or... crack open a book, take a nap, just stare into space. He has several options for entertainment while he is stuck on a plane, but wants YOU to entertain him. This is somehow extremely silly, ridiculous and also a serious red flag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 05:12 PM |
| 474 | This 43 year old bald disgusting man cornered my gorgeous 25 year old girl friend at church while she was volunteering and demanded her phone number.Well, he thought he had a chance because she's an empathetic and kind young woman volunteering her time at the church. So in his mind, he thought she could volunteer at the church of his dick. He's angry because he thought she'd be a naive church girl he could easily manipulate. A place of worship should be a safe place where you're free from sexual harassment and don't have to worry about old lecherous men perving on you. He crossed the line, acting this way in church. Abusing people's trust, u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 04:43 PM |
| 28 | Dating men with daughters and the Madonna/Whore complexNot only that, but for someone who doesn’t want to be a mother, single fathers will expect you to become an instant mother to their child. This too. Why would I want to be a stepmom when I have a functioning uterus/ovaries and can just have one myself? Because I'm so in love with the idea of parenting someone else's kid? I'd be open to it if I had a kid myself, and if the guy truly and genuinely wanted to blend families-- not just use me to raise/parent his own kids. It's one thing to be a step-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 03:24 PM |
| 87 | Dating men with daughters and the Madonna/Whore complexI've never dated dads. The majority of them are fathers not because they wanted children and planned for children, but because they are irresponsible. And their 'parenting' also has this consistent theme of irresponsibility, selfishness and general "me, me, me". They are dads not because they dreamed of being dads, but because they knocked someone up (remember, only women are responsible for birth control! /s), had baby fever and knocked up a girlfriend without even marrying her, they sabotaged … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 03:14 PM |
| 230 | Pickmeisha (probably a scrote🤡) shames women‘s day and calls women insecure hypocrites who „criticize“ men"One of my female cohorts" How many times have you heard a woman say "one of my female cohorts"? Lol, this is a man. Not that an extreme pickme wouldn't write something like this, but she wouldn't sound like an angry testicle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:16 PM |
| 18 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?I'm married to my husband for many reasons, one being that he puts his soul into making me feel good in bed and out Same | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 01:43 PM |
| 23 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?I never did with my ex. Oftentimes, I was really close, but there was some mental block where I couldn't. It was 100% a mental thing, not physical. I thought I was a 'demisexual' or something, and that I couldn't orgasm with my ex because I didn't really love him. I thought that I needed to be in love to have an orgasm. That turned out to be untrue-- I was in a short casual relationship with a guy I knew I didn't want to be with long-term. Even without being in love, I was able to orgasm, and it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 01:36 PM |
| 32 | I had a date tonight...Wow. Outed himself immediately. He assumed that you'd be dumb and/or insecure. Bullet dodged. I'm sorry you went through that. You left and blocked him, but he still wasted your time and ruined your evening (to some extent). But remember, this guy is probably miserable 24/7. Only a miserable insufferable cunt would treat another person that way, and on a date no less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 01:36 PM |
| 9 | LVM male guide to cheap dating. Watch out for these bright red flags ladiesThis is random but I remember overhearing a group of boys in HS, talking about dates. They were making fun of one of the guys, saying he was so cheap that he'd order a soup to share with the girl. And now we have this. I swear, people are getting dumber and trashier as time goes by. I'd love to blame all of this on men, but women are out there accepting not bread crumbs-- but rat droppings, from men. Pickmes are chasing rat turds after the rodent ate the crumbs and shat them out. The big prize, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 01:25 PM |
| 9 | Only pickmeishas get mad at the other womanThis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 01:59 PM |
| 9 | She proposes to him only for him to tell her no and ask “why are you asking me?” So much secondhand embarrassment rnThis is so embarrassing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 01:52 PM |
| 21 | Sigh.Lmao at the menstruation related diarrhea smeared on their desk. Yeah, they 100% do this to derail/distract from conversations concerning male-on-female violence and/or female rape victims. Like they give a fuck about male victims of rape? Also, who do they think is raping the vast vast majority of male rape victims? Other men. So even when they try to derail/distract, they still can't get away from male violence-- they just think they can shut you up by pointing out male-on-male violence. Why a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:15 PM |
| 63 | Legitimately evil m*le tells his gf he *had* to cheat on her bc she was r*ped, men in the comments defend himThe bar is very low, but her boyfriend is a demon who lives in the earth's core. She really needs to run, now. Not only does he completely lack empathy, he is extremely manipulative. Her feeling that she's hurt by him making her rape about himself, is 100% accurate. Zero empathy + manipulative = psychopath. He isn't a normal person, I can understand a man's head getting twisted after his wife or girlfriend got raped, feeling helpless and like he couldn't protect her, but cheating, having zero em… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 09:45 PM |
| 28 | Studies show that husbands stress wives out more than their children. Women say they feel like a husband is another child instead of a partnerThis all stems from the fact that most men, probably a large majority, don't fully recognize what sacrifice women make when they have a man's child. They don't recognize that women risk their lives, risk their livelihoods, mental health and futures by having their children. They also don't care to understand how time-consuming and expensive children are, how much they require not just from their parents, but from their extended families and communities at large. At best, a lot of men just see ki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:35 PM |
| 106 | Sigh.The delicate tight rope walk of not 'asking for it' and avoiding murder. You can't be too friendly/open/nice, or else you're asking for it, but if being a bitch means you end up dead-- hey you deserve it for not being friendly/open/nice to men! Aka navigating the world as a woman. Oh, and while you walk on this tight rope-- some men will mansplain how to walk the tight rope (a rope they've never walked on), others will tell you the tight rope you are walking on doesn't really exist, others will … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:17 PM |
| 301 | Seriously?This is disgusting. "Over-the-top extrovert, a wild dresser, very sexual, very friendly to one and all, but a good bit too much for me". She's also a '9 out of 10', treats him like a king and is far smarter than him. If this is even true (good chance the guy is making this up completely), I feel SO sorry for her. This is the 'reward' she gets for being a real-life manic pixie dream girl. Being involved with some misogynistic flavorless insecure blob who wants to possess her, AND downgrade her in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 07:02 PM |
| 9 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.This is what nearly all men and a lot of women don't get. Very few men realize how dangerous pregnancy, childbirth and having children is. They just assume all 3 will go swimmingly. Most women understand that there are risks, but everyone assumes they'll be super lucky, that they'll be the special/lucky ones. There are NO guarantees with pregnancy, childbirth and children. It's like playing 3 rounds of Russian roulette. 1st round - pregnancy. Pregnancy used to be seen as something that should be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 06:30 PM |
| 54 | What are your thoughts on being married to a man who works seasonally and is away several months a year?I mean, to each their own, but what's the point marrying someone you won't see for several months out of the year? Marriage is too significant, legally, in order for me to do that. Also, you'd have like a free range husband most of the year. You're legally tied to your husband, and you don't know what your husband is doing most of the year. What does he bring to the table, where he gets to enjoy the best of everything? A wifey for a few months, freedom for the rest of the year, and a loyal long-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 06:09 PM |
| 91 | Pastor slammed for telling wives to ‘lose weight,’ look less ‘butch’He looks like a large 'butch' woman himself. More specifically, he looks like Peter Griffin on estrogen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 05:33 PM |
| 78 | The date bait and switchI 'failed' his 'screening' because my action of blocking him confirmed I was a gOlDdiGgeR... so why stalk me and send me a sniveling bitch ass message? Unless you're a total psycho? I tried really hard to screen on apps, spent so much time doing that, but ultimately realized you can't screen out crazy if it is crazy enough. I know you can meet crazy dudes in real life too, but I mean damn.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 03:31 PM |
| 118 | The date bait and switch🚨 🚨 🚨 One time, a guy on an app asked me out on a dinner date, in the summer, 6pm, a place with outdoor seating with a mountain view. He slid into my Google voice # with "Hey do you want to watch a movie? I put up Indiana Jones posters in my movie room. I'm going to make spaghetti and meatballs". He sent me photos of his movie room, like that was gonna entice me to come over somehow. His movie room had blue-green teal walls, like the color of the walls in old mental asylums. And he had walls ful… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 02:04 PM |
| 54 | These days it’s only walks and MEETINGS on OLD, no actual dates 🙄I tried online dating for a few weeks in 2015ish and for a few months in 2017, and both times, I'd say 70% of men I talked to called a date a "hang out" or "meet up". These were all men ages 26+, most were over age 30. I got a lot of matches, and these were the guys who 'passed' initial screenings-- don't be a cunt, don't try to neg me, don't send me a passive aggressive message, don't send me a licking face or eggplant emoji, don't call me a bitch or a whore, don't send me sexual messages. So t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 01:39 PM |
| 72 | That’s her 2nd one??She needs FDS ASAPShe has a 1 year old from a deadbeat, and shacked up with another guy just under a year ago? So she started playing house with this loser while she had a newborn? Her body still hasn't healed from her 1st pregnancy, her brain hasn't healed from it either. Pregnancy changes the brain, reduces grey matter, for 2+ years after birth. And she is talking about having more babies? With a bed ridden bum ass boyfriend no less? I have questions-- who works, who pays the bills? How does he work if he is to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:49 PM |
| 282 | There’s nothing empowering about OnlyFans. The consequences of engaging in sexual acts on camera always lie with the woman, which is unfair, but it’s the world we live in (sadly).You know who is the real winner in OnlyFans? Not the top earning accounts, but the founder and CEO aka pimp, Tim Stokely. He has a net worth of $120 million. His net worth jumped from $52 million to $120 million from 2018 to 2020. This is why the OnlyFans is eMpoWerInG crap chaps my ass. Why are liberal feminists so fucking stupid and useless? Why do they not call out OnlyFan's white British male founder and CEO? Wow, because it is sooo empowering for a white man to exploit women's bodies for fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:54 PM |
| 270 | He was not amused and blocked meDating apps are crawling with lunatics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:41 PM |
| 8 | Conspiracy theorist and frothing nutcase Alex Jones taunts his ex-wife by buzzing around her home in a helicopter after judge ordered him to stay away 🤡I read this and had an image of Alex Jones having a heart attack while in his helicopter. Imagine him going into cardiac arrest while laughing manically, circling his wife's house. Seems like he'd love to die that way too-- making a big scene, killing his ex-wife, destroying property that is really "his", getting attention even after he is dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:11 PM |
| 26 | How is it that, in an age of supposed "dating equality," women still get the short straw?Yeah, before covid, I would occasionally go to meetup type of events, or to classes. Most of the people attending these things were older, retired women. Men their age are either dead, infirm or they are grumpy angry old man types who detest leaving their house/trying new things. I talked to many of these older ladies, and a lot of them were attending classes or trying out new hobbies, in between managing their husband's doctor appointments, errands, pet care etc. But mainly elderly husband mana… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 01:11 PM |
| 179 | How is it that, in an age of supposed "dating equality," women still get the short straw?Honestly, men have had it really really good for the past 10-15 years or so-- all the benefits of a traditional woman/girlfriend/wife plus "eQuAliTy" pros. More access to women/dating/sex than ever before. Less expectations for male responsibility and sacrifice than ever before. No one expects anything from men anymore, besides don't act like an animal and don't rape people. And they want to cry about that-- there has been no time in history where men have had it this good/easy. The problem now … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 01:13 AM |
| 225 | Had to share because it made me crack up! Can’t even offer to but me a whole meal!This is how you know they strategically hunt for pickmes. They're looking for an insecure woman who is desperate for a relationship, and will accept crumbs, let the man dictate everything on his terms from day 1, just for the remote possibility of being in a relationship with any man. The sad part is, that their strategy probably does work in most cases-- their biggest obstacle is that they go too far/scare women away/put women off too soon. There are so many desperate insecure women out there w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:51 AM |
| 10 | I disappointed myselfYou don't love yourself enough everyday. What difference does it make? Perhaps you thought my comment had a slut shaming tone, that was not my intention. I do not think you should flagellate yourself over a mistake, but I do think you should deeply examine why you made this mistake, so that it does not happen again. I am also not implying that you struggle with loving yourself in every single way, or in all ways, or everyday, all day. Perhaps your journey to self-love has given you a great caree… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 03:00 PM |
| 62 | Plot Twist: Scrotes are the biggest gold diggers around.Of course. For anyone who needs to hear this: 1) Your time has value. Time is money. 2) Your energy has value. You spend 1/3 of your day sleeping, you are only awake 2/3 of the day. You have to sleep 1/3 of the day, work 1/3 of the day and spend a few more hours/day just to maintain your health and energy! I'm talking about health and survival, I'm not even talking about beauty regimens or high achievement here. 3) Your future has value. You are WORTH something, and your future is WORTH somethin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 02:35 PM |
| 29 | The ✨Perfect✨ WomanLmao, this is epic. The only adjustments I'd make to this is "Earns less than me or doesn't work at all, but pays 50/50", "Does 95% of household work and emotional labor without complaining", "Is into kink", and "Does not have expectations". I'd add those, only because these adjustments more accurately describe 2021 scrotes. Wanting a child-like woman you can control is more of an old school thing, men wanted that back in the day but they knew they had to provide, and they didn't expect the woma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 02:02 PM |
| 12 | I disappointed myselfYou don't love yourself. Please take a break from dating and men. Don't go on apps, don't talk to men at all, 100% cold turkey just stop interacting with men. Work on healing your spirit, be your own best friend. I know it sounds cheesy and stupid, but this is what you really need to do. And this guy was just a stranger, sure he acted decently on a 1st date, but don't blow smoke up his ass just for doing the bare minimum. Get yourself tested, delete all of your apps, find a good therapist, work … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:52 PM |
| 243 | Why are men so disrespectful when it comes to women that don’t “meet their standards”?The men who are really vocal/nasty about women who don't meet their standards, are the same men who are really vocal/nasty when they don't meet a woman's standards. It's pathetic, but they do this because it works. It definitely doesn't give them access to gorgeous HVW, but they can find cute, insecure pickmes with this method. They know that they can target an insecure woman, make her even more insecure and pressure her to lower her standards, or else she's a superficial bitch. These are the sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:45 PM |
| 39 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectThat was perfect! I can't imagine saying something that rude to someone, even in a video chat, and having a shocked pikachu face when they walk out or hang up on me. Distance yourself from your friend. She isn't a borderline pickme, she is 100% pickme, and of the worst kind-- the type that tries to shame you for having standards, for not accepting insulting, bad and abusive behavior from men. She called you unkind for refusing to accept unkind behavior from a man-- that's not borderline, she's a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:34 PM |
| 3 | "Women can have a man who is either attractive or a good person, but not both. If you want to date a hot guy, expect him to treat you like shit. If you don't want to be abused, you have to put up with having sex with someone you're not attracted to"This has not been my experience. Why are ugly men so obsessed with the idea that all attractive people are bad people? They really let their mind and soul rot, because they have this idea that attractive people will always be worse than them. Most of these ugly dudes wouldn't even be ugly if they practiced any form of hygiene or self-care. Instead of being jealous of fit, put-together men, go to the gym, floss your teeth, buy some cleanser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 04:57 PM |
| 134 | Lib Feminism encourages women to adopt LVM’s toxic behaviorsI have this libfem-ish old friend (we grew apart years ago), who once told me "Why didn't you say anything when I was sleeping with X?" I just looked at her in disbelief (I was truly stunned), and said "I did! I tried to. Multiple times. I remember you were getting offended because I was trying so hard. So I let it go, because I didn't want to lose our friendship over X". And that was the honest to god truth-- I tried, I really fucking tried. But these libfem types live in a dream haze when they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 04:38 PM |
| 14 | Opening messages on dating apps.If my husband ever dies or turns on me, you won't find me on apps. In all honesty, I'd rather have 5 cats and boxed wine over subjecting myself to apps. It's beneath me, not worth my time. Besides, even if by some miracle, my 2nd HVM husband was somewhere on apps, waiting for me to match with him-- the conditions surrounding OLD will likely not make a relationship viable. It'll be like the virtual version of meeting a woman at a monastery, and sitting across a really long stone table, and we bot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 04:23 PM |
| 83 | Have men always been so bad?Anthropologists believe that early humans in paleolithic times were quite egalitarian, despite their division of labor (men hunting, women foraging). Archaeological ruins are scarce, there is no recorded history etc, but based on things like burials-- people believe that early communal humans survived through egalitarian cooperation. I guess it makes sense-- what's the point bullying and oppressing women, just for shits and giggles, when every single person in the tribe was necessary for surviva… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:48 PM |
| 28 | Men who don't ask questions (99.9%)Yeah, dumb fuckboy types never ask you questions, they think their presence is enough to get you to take off your pants. But men with more than 2 brain cells, know how to psychologically manipulate you by asking questions. And no it is not a guarantee that a man is a HVM or even a decent human being if he responds positively to questions, but at least it's the beginning of your screening process, at least you feel empowered, and are not just sitting there waiting for the guy to ask you questions… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:20 PM |
| 277 | A message for the female lurkersIn Plato's 'Allegory of the Cave', Socrates describes a group of people chained inside a cave, whose perception of the world is limited to shadow puppets projected onto a cave wall. They believe that this is the real world, because they are chained to the cave, and they do not question the shadow puppets. One of the cave members, the philosopher, was freed from the cave, and he went outside, and realized that the shadow puppets were not reality at all. He was excited about his discovery, and he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:12 PM |
| 55 | Men who don't ask questions (99.9%)You should be asking HIM questions. Like for every question he asks you, you can ask him 2-3. Not shit test questions, but just genuine questions. The person who asks the questions has the power, they are the ones collecting data and creating a profile of the person. Men asking a lot of questions is not necessarily a HV trait, in most cases it probably isn't. It just means he is looking to collect information about you. It does not mean he gives a fuck about you. And why would a man collect info… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:05 PM |
| 2 | I hate when men, pickmes and fakefems say that "Men have just as much to do with creating life as women"I did not say that they really love their mothers, I said that they have a culture/religion where there is some value placed on mothers/motherhood. A social currency, a custom-- I am not talking about individuals and their value systems. I am talking about social norms. No it is not an excuse for a woman to abuse her children because of her conditioning, women also have responsibility-- but society overwhelmingly burdens women with responsibility, while it also pushes her towards making BAD choi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:29 PM |
| 6 | I hate when men, pickmes and fakefems say that "Men have just as much to do with creating life as women"I agree that women should "choose well", but when people blame their mothers for not choosing well-- they don't think of the lifetime of conditioning she received, to give men the benefit of the doubt, to lower her standards. They don't imagine that their mom probably experienced some sexual trauma, or was mentally abused, or experienced some assault by a man. Do we live in a society where women are encouraged to have standards, where women are encouraged to vet men, where women are taught that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 10:52 PM |
| 101 | For the love of god please stop having their children. Twitch streamer threatens to break child’s neck for being in his roomThis is no different than a man threatening to break his child's neck because the kid was distracting him while he was trying to smoke meth. Nothing is more important to an addict, than getting their high. Women who have kids with gamers are not getting complete information, they likely would not have had children with a meth addict or an alcoholic. They are brainwashed to believe that gaming isn't an addiction. Which is why they think it's no big deal if their boyfriend or husband is glued to a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 05:04 PM |
| 177 | Society needs to stop perpetuating the myth that women should settle for unattractive men because they'll be "nicer". Women should be allowed to date whoever they want whether men like it or not.My grandma used to say, "Don't choose a man that's too good looking, because he'll be too conceited. And don't choose a man that's too ugly, because he'll be too insecure." I love that she used the word "choose"... that I get to choose. I miss her so much. I think this advice was a lot easier to follow back in the day, before social media and free porn you could get on a handheld device in seconds. Men these days think they are good looking when they are not, they seriously overestimate their lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 03:00 PM |
| 17 | I hate when men, pickmes and fakefems say that "Men have just as much to do with creating life as women"I think having kids is simply pointless, if not destructive. I'm not one of those vicious "child free" types because I can see that it isn't black and white, but overall, procreation/parenting is a disgraceful state of affairs. And I'm the bad lady, the bitch or witch, for noticing the elephant in the room? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 02:32 PM |
| 39 | I hate when men, pickmes and fakefems say that "Men have just as much to do with creating life as women"This is a western thing. It's liberal feminism gone off the rails. Of course, misogynistic men will take advantage of it. And sadly, stupid low self-esteem women will run with it as well, because it's easier for them to believe pretty progressive lies than the cold hard ugly truth. It's easier to not use your brain, to just repeat "correct" sounding things you hear, instead of actually thinking critically. The sentiment 'Men have just as much to do with creating life as women" from the libfem si… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 01:56 PM |
| 15 | Why overt and extreme misogyny is a problem even for misogynists: It results in women being armed with knowledge misogynists never intended them to have (that they are openly hated, and they will be hated no matter what they do), and this activates women’s “jezebel” side.All these years later and they're still moaning about women's/girls' academic success, perhaps worse than ever. We need to stay vigilant of these unstable incel/MRA losers. They'll continue to fail and continue to hate women for their own failings. Agreed. Whenever I see a man crying about boys and men failing academically, with this sniveling tone like girls and women are responsible for it, I just assume he is an incel/MRA. These men are maniacs, and I'm afraid they will commit many more acts … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 01:36 PM |
| 445 | Every time one of our stalker subreddits make a hate post about us, 👏 WE 👏 GET 👏 MORE 👏 SUBSCRIBERS 👏Reddit is an extremely misogynistic platform. A lot of men on Reddit will deny this, because they are misogynists, but any woman who uses Reddit can attest to the surreal, obscene levels of misogyny that is passed off as "normal" on this site. So yeah, it's like saying "That woman's shelter down the street is SO TOXIC and HATEFUL" to a bunch of a battered women. I think a good percentage of women come here not even because they 100% agree with FDS, but because this sub is just comic gold. FDS po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 01:25 PM |
| 435 | Remember ladies. Your worth is more than just a number between 1 and 10 assigned to you by some scrote.They score women as if they wouldn't fuck a McChicken or a watermelon with a hole cut into it. Stop pretending like you have standards. And I'm sure attractive women cry themselves to sleep every night, because some pig-faced man with the body of a melted block of mozzarella cheese, rated them a 6.7/10. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 01:15 PM |
| 22 | ReminderThat is heartbreaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:27 PM |
| 109 | ReminderWestern countries have much bigger problems than pretending they live in a video game, in a world where misogyny and misandry are just about the same. But it is the western way, to be indulgent and delusional. Western countries are going to be like South Korea within a few years. The birth rate there is .98 kids per woman. This is well below population replacement level. Even if women there started popping out babies right now, their country will never 'recover'. I'd guesstimate that this will h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 03:43 PM |
| 60 | This is so fucking grossThis is a horror movie trailer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 01:50 PM |
| 32 | COSMO wants y’all to know that Armie Hammer’s Cannibalism Fetish isn’t the problem here and people are “distorting” it. Because nothing screams “safe and sane” like Cannibalism Play.Ugh. I remember when I was a kid, my aunt lived with my parents for a while after her divorce. She got married at 20 and divorced at 21. She had Cosmo subscriptions (and various other magazines) arriving at the house. My mom would burn her Cosmo magazines in the fireplace lmao. I remember feeling bad about it because I thought my mom was destroying my aunt's property (which she was), but now I would do the same. Like if you're going to live here, don't get Cosmo sent to my fucking house, when I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:06 PM |
| 4 | FDS 101: Money = Freedom = PowerStart a hustle! I worked as a UX/UI designer for years before becoming a cloud engineer. I still make money from my UI designs. I sell UI kits, it is a lucrative hustle, and it is also passive income. When you start a business, you can open a self-directed solo 401k or SEP IRA. These are self-employed retirement accounts with extremely high contribution limits. The solo 401k contribution limit is $57k/year as of 2020. You can use the funds to invest in real estate, stocks and bonds, cryptocurren… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 11:23 AM |
| 16 | Not paying for the date or getting an engagement ring, low value behavior!! But why.You can! It absolutely exists! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 09:57 PM |
| 75 | Not paying for the date or getting an engagement ring, low value behavior!! But why.Paying for dates early in dating/courting is a temporary thing. My husband paid for dates when we were dating, he got me a nice engagement ring (not a blood diamond either), and now he enjoys a double income household where we both make 6 figures. Add to this-- when we were dating, I made less than half his salary, because I had just finished grad school. He took my career seriously, supported me and encouraged me. I started thinking more like a man, in terms of my career, and in doing so, I dou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 09:53 PM |
| 118 | Why overt and extreme misogyny is a problem even for misogynists: It results in women being armed with knowledge misogynists never intended them to have (that they are openly hated, and they will be hated no matter what they do), and this activates women’s “jezebel” side.And with males dropping out of schooling like flies, soon they'll be communicating solely in cave drawings. Lol at "communicating solely in cave drawings". And this is also somehow women's fault as well. They love to quote statistics of boys failing in school, less young men enrolling in university, with this tone like women and girls are somehow responsible for it. Perhaps they'd feel better about it if they bombed a girl's primary school? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:16 PM |
| 46 | Why overt and extreme misogyny is a problem even for misogynists: It results in women being armed with knowledge misogynists never intended them to have (that they are openly hated, and they will be hated no matter what they do), and this activates women’s “jezebel” side.Some of them are smart enough to try and market themselves differently, but not enough. And once the communities they help create start committing crimes, well, the cats out of the bag and it's time to rebrand again. This made me laugh out loud. Instead of spending their time calling each other 'simps', beating their chests, and doxxing each other-- they could identify men in their group who have a high enough IQ and EQ to be effective publicists? But they would never do that, because they all h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:00 PM |
| 109 | Why overt and extreme misogyny is a problem even for misogynists: It results in women being armed with knowledge misogynists never intended them to have (that they are openly hated, and they will be hated no matter what they do), and this activates women’s “jezebel” side.Repulsive. This is why it is so important for women to keep busy, to focus our attention on building and curating our lives. You genuinely won't have any TIME to answer these asinine texts at the drop of a hat, let alone have the time to meet up with the guy. And you won't have the interest to do so either, because you have other things going on that are enjoyable for you. Compare spending your evening on a hobby, reading a book or taking a course that you enjoy, or with good friends, over an ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:42 PM |
| 88 | Why overt and extreme misogyny is a problem even for misogynists: It results in women being armed with knowledge misogynists never intended them to have (that they are openly hated, and they will be hated no matter what they do), and this activates women’s “jezebel” side.How many of us have experienced nuanced misogyny out in the real world and not said a thing because maybe we misinterpreted their intentions? Countless times. And that would have probably continued endlessly, if it were not for the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:16 PM |
| 109 | Why overt and extreme misogyny is a problem even for misogynists: It results in women being armed with knowledge misogynists never intended them to have (that they are openly hated, and they will be hated no matter what they do), and this activates women’s “jezebel” side.Yeah exactly. What did you expect? They really think women have no brain, that we are intellectually and cognitively impaired. I think they also believe that women truly enjoy pain and suffering-- I believe porn is responsible for a lot of that. Misogyny runs sooo deep, and it just compounds because so many men never had any intention to play fair, and as of late-- they refuse to play even by their own rules. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:04 PM |
| 38 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsI'm so proud of all the successful single moms on here. No doubt it's harder to pull off than having a supportive partner who does his fair share of parenting, but how many men do that? Single moms being happier, healthier and wealthier than women saddled to NVM chaps their ass because it reveals how worthless a lot of men are. They want to feel needed, like women can't live without them, without doing a damn thing to actually be necessary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:26 PM |
| 39 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsIt also explains the weird anger and resentment I’d encounter back when I was a single mom in a lucrative, flexible career that still left me time to be a present, involved mom. Oh yeah, they hate that. They want to see single moms suffer for their "bad choices". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:23 PM |
| 5 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.Yeah, I was really surprised when I started seeing all the things my nephew was capable of. My nephew is similar to your daughters-- he loves showing people what he can do by himself. My sister is careful to not praise him just for existing, I can now see that over praising children also causes a lot of harm. Before my nephew was born, I knew that people basically sabotaged their own kids, rewarded bad behaviors etc as that is just basic perception and common sense. Beyond that, I knew very litt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:58 PM |
| 10 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.I hope so too. I think it will get increasingly difficult as he gets older, with social media, porn being so accessible and so on. However, I think investing heavily in a child's mind and development, especially before age 5, can prevent children from becoming a statistic when they are older. There are no guarantees, but you have to at least try. I'm really proud of my sister, she is such a great mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:53 PM |
| 18 | Joss Whedon being a dick isn't new, take it from his ex-wife. Reminder, Out-N-Proud Male Feminists are NO FRIEND TO WOMEN.Thank you for being open to hearing my opinion. Yeah, I haven't researched many things regarding society, history, culture, and gender myself, I am by no means an expert on these topics. Not because I don't have the interest-- I don't have the time, and the more I learn, the more depressing it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:43 PM |
| 302 | Man sleeps with over 400 women and it broke his sexuality. I think it’s not just porn that’s the problem...*plays the world's smallest violin* Imagine if a woman wrote this? That she slept with 400 (close to 500) men, and is trying to garner sympathy because she's now emotionally shattered and feels lonely because she cannot bond with anyone anymore? You can imagine what responses that would get, ranging from "lol whore" to death threats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:28 PM |
| 71 | Joss Whedon being a dick isn't new, take it from his ex-wife. Reminder, Out-N-Proud Male Feminists are NO FRIEND TO WOMEN.I get it, but I think your reasoning is wrong. This is because misogyny is on a scale. An example would be, perhaps, misogyny in ancient Greece. All of the city-states were misogynistic, but Sparta was less misogynistic. To the point where the other city-states made Sparta the butt of jokes, because they gave women 'too much freedom'. It would suck to be a woman in any city-state at that time/place in history, but I'd fucking choose Sparta over the others in a heartbeat. Same way I'd choose livi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:15 PM |
| 390 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsIt's a power/control thing. They enjoy the fact that they now "own" a woman because they made her into a breeder. They also enjoy the fact that they destroyed her, that they effectively 'claimed' her by 'ruining' her, by making her undesirable to other men. They like passing on their genes, it makes them feel biologically successful, but they have no investment or love to offer to their child. The kid is just collateral damage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:55 PM |
| 7 | It makes me sad how delusional this woman is. This is such a bullshit excuse!She should 'compliment' fit, sexy men on Instagram. I mean, that's how you kill your man's insecurities, with logic and communication. 🤡 🤡 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:49 PM |
| 136 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.Yup. My sister got into Montessori when her son started walking. My nephew is just under 3 years old now, and he's more self-sufficient and takes more pride in himself than most adult men. My sister trained him to pick out his dishes from a cabinet his level, take things out of the dishwasher (not knives or anything heavy or sharp) and try to put them back where they belong, to help with food prep by mixing things, slicing bananas, and so on. He has a swiffer adjusted to his size and he likes 'c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 09:07 PM |
| 380 | Literally every guy I meet that I’m nice too thinks this. It’s why they hate women who are snarky. Unkind women are the worst thing on the planet according to them.The best way to be mean is to be an ice queen. If you act outwardly 'mean' to them in a petulant little girl way, they'll double down on their meanness towards you, because they don't take your 'meanness' seriously. They know you're a scared little girl. This is why men laugh at women who go on about "I drink boy tears". They know you don't. You have to make them uncomfortable by showing them disdain in a ruthless, cold, emotionless, ice queen style. Pretend like they don't exist, don't acknowle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 05:53 PM |
| 32 | Woman asks if it’s acceptable for her boyfriend to want to split the cost of her ENGAGEMENT RING. The highest voted comment is just sad. 50/50 is always a scam.That is so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 01:13 PM |
| 24 | 3 lessons I learned from my dad's two mail-order brides.Thank you for sharing, I've observed the same things in western culture. I've noticed the unjustified superiority complex, the aversion to common sense and practicality. And the men telling you that you're not "liberated"... I'm glad you didn't fall for that crap, that you have a strong sense of self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 01:08 PM |
| 11 | 3 lessons I learned from my dad's two mail-order brides.As an American, maybe we lack the matriarchal support structure that other countries (with much longer histories) have. I know I never had “man-handling” lessons from women in my family, and that seems common in my friends of other cultural backgrounds. Yes! This is a big part of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 09:09 AM |
| 8 | 3 lessons I learned from my dad's two mail-order brides.This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 08:45 AM |
| 50 | 3 lessons I learned from my dad's two mail-order brides.Terrific post. I have an Eastern European background and have nothing positive to say about western men's perceptions of Eastern European women. They may view East or South Asian women as submissive and docile, but they think Eastern European women are whores. However, I can't complain too much about it, because I'm white and people just think I'm American. A woman of a MENA, South Asian or East Asian background has to deal with this on a very visceral level, they don't have the option to not gi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 08:31 AM |
| 150 | What are some of the most difficult realizations you’ve had about men ?I had really high expectations for men because of my father and grandfather. I was never naive enough to think I should trust men for no reason just because I had good male role models, but it was shocking to me, to learn how predatory a lot of men are. I used to think it was a problem restricted to the fringes of society, that being a victim of predatory men came down to bad luck. Now I can see it is cultural, institutionalized, conditioned, expected, tolerated, endorsed-- and social media/ por… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 04:32 AM |
| 9 | This guy who's been following me around for months just threatened to "leave."Delete, block, don't accept offers for male friendship, read up on internet safety/privacy, don't give out your number or personal information willy nilly unless you want to risk having a stalker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 04:11 PM |
| 13 | Single LVM expects to be married by doing the bare minimum. The audacity.I'll check it out, thanks for the recommendation! I'm not from Siberia though, I've never even been there. I was born in a totally different part of the country. My dad was just sent there for his military service. He said it was so cold, that if you spat, your saliva would turn to ice before it hit the ground. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 04:36 PM |
| 11 | Single LVM expects to be married by doing the bare minimum. The audacity.We moved from there. I have some early memories of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:11 PM |
| 247 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.If anyone here needs help/a bit of a push to accept this and to build their boundaries and expectations accordingly-- remember that in 1 in 4 men carry high-risk strains of HPV (strains that give women cervical cancer), another in 1 in 6 have HSV-2. And now we have antibiotic resistant gonorrhea as well. Even if you want to ignore or minimize the risk of unwanted pregnancy, rape, sexual assault, catching feelings for someone who will treat you like a trash can, not getting off, feeling used-- yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:05 PM |
| 68 | Single LVM expects to be married by doing the bare minimum. The audacity.Thank you. I used to think men like my dad were normal/average. I grew up and learned that they're not. I find it really annoying how there are so many little bitch crybaby men, being viciously misogynistic, because they think that no matter how weak they are, they are still stronger than women and can bully women as they please. It's sickening how they think they are entitled to beautiful slim young women who are virginal and submissive. There has never been any time in human history, where wea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 03:51 AM |
| 106 | I feel so badly for this womanShe got conned. He did not honestly CoMmunIcaTe anything to her about his views on marriage. He knew that if he did, she wouldn't have married him. Men con women into marrying them all the time. They lie about their values, views and expectations. If they still somehow have a sex life, I hope she is being careful with birth control. Guys like this are the types that sabotage your birth control. This is my nightmare. The only comfort is that I know I have the resources to leave if this should eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 03:15 AM |
| 6 | The average male redditor starter packThey had known him for years and they just wanted him to have a girlfriend, because of course he's too antisocial/off-putting to have ever had one. My cousin was like, "But he has propertayyy". Apparently he had some property in a rural area, like the type of place that does not have reliable internet. My cousin told me the place was overrun by alpacas, because he had bought a bunch of alpacas and just left them there. I think he arranged for a neighbor to check on them, but yeah, I'm sure the a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:50 AM |
| 190 | Single LVM expects to be married by doing the bare minimum. The audacity.This is what happens when you have a kid, a male child, and you raise him to be an entitled lazy delusional crybaby. If this was my brother, my dad would straight up tell him "You're almost 30 and you're an electrician apprentice! You never read books, you can't fix a broken door knob. Why would a beautiful nice girl with a good job want you?" My aunt (mom's sister) was once ruminating out loud about her scrote son's single status, desperately trying to set him up with someone. She was on Facebo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:21 AM |
| 327 | I had a man say "enjoy your servitude" when I told him about my job that pays me more than his.I don't pretend that my career is everything, it's just a fucking job I do for money. Yes I enjoy aspects of it, but if I had a trust fund, I would probably be spending my time differently. I have a "career" because I think long-term, my career is quite literally saving me from destitution, disease and death. Yes I have a family and a support system, but people have their own problems, my parents won't live forever. When men say "You can't cuddle with your master's degree" or some shit... yeah I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 03:29 PM |
| 234 | The average male redditor starter packThis is before my Reddit days, but my pickme cousins once set me up on a date with a guy who looks just like that cartoon of the bald guy with the glasses on the top left. It was a coffee date, naturally, and he didn't even buy me coffee. He told me "It's 2016, women can ask out men", droned on about his cryptocurrency investments. After the date, he told his friends (we know mutual people) that it was a huge success, that he was concerned about leading me on, because he wasn't sure if it would … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 03:13 PM |
| 77 | Why "jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe" is problematic: we live in a culture where men generally get what they want when they ask for it, and where women generally don't.I recommend that FDS members read Robert Greene's books-- The Laws of Human Nature, Art of Seduction and The 48 Laws of Power to start. The books are dense yet enjoyable and easy to read. All of his books are available as audiobooks as well. These books taught me so much about "coMmUnicAtioN", about power play, unspoken communication, reading between the lines, interpreting people's motives, spotting manipulators and more. "Communication" is so much more than just saying words to someone. Women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:54 PM |
| 6 | 'A Man is NOT A Plan' - Article on older Women's homelessness and a good reason why we should spend our 20's/30's/40's securing ourselves.Thank you. She didn't really look down on SAHMs, she just thought it was a dangerous lifestyle. I am deeply sorry for what you went through as a child. You sound so strong, intelligent and brave. I hope that your body can be healed enough to be as strong as your spirit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:35 PM |
| 5 | 'A Man is NOT A Plan' - Article on older Women's homelessness and a good reason why we should spend our 20's/30's/40's securing ourselves.Thank you, I was such a little shit to her for years, wish I could make up for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:32 PM |
| 14 | A situationship without a situationI also saw him fight a tweaked out guy who came at him with a knife, he was a boxer and trained fighter previously. I was at a distance in the parking lot but I saw it and was thinking "is this real life?" I have never seen anything like that in my life, before or since. He was also really into cats, and thought his cat was a reincarnated human soul. Definitely one of the most eccentric people I've ever met. I actually wish him well and hope he's happy, he never tried to take advantage of me, he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 01:53 AM |
| 30 | A situationship without a situationI was once in a 2 month situationship without a situation too. It was weird, similar to what you describe here. I thought it was weird that he was so generous, but never made an aggressive move, he was affectionate but respectful. I found out over time, that he went to restaurants everyday, more or less. He was a regular at like 5-6 establishments, really into food, specific cuisines. One time he embarrassed me because he got upset about his meal, and was like "This is not x dish", he was genuin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 01:30 AM |
| 10 | Eartha Kitt--Timbuktu!, In the Beginning Woman, 1978 TVI love this woman so much. She was always electric, just burning with talent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 12:51 AM |
| 40 | 'A Man is NOT A Plan' - Article on older Women's homelessness and a good reason why we should spend our 20's/30's/40's securing ourselves.Yeah, it's a recipe for disaster, putting your life into a man's hands. I think the way girls grow up, what their mothers model for them and teach them, is so important. My mom crawled up my ass, drilling it into my head, that I needed to have a career, that I had to study STEM, medicine or otherwise get into some other high-paying field. At 18, I wanted to go to art school, she lost her shit and told me she wouldn't fund it. I was butthurt and sad that she didn't "support my dreams", now that I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 12:47 AM |
| 42 | Imagine playing the cool girl for a guy who talks about you like this. This is not an appropriate Valentine's date and I hope she leaves before they get marriedHe's trained himself well too, trained himself to have extremely low standards, to have utmost contempt for himself. He talks about this woman like she's a plate, when she's his fiancee. This is the romantic equivalent of digging through the gaps of couch cushions, trying to find spare change. Except this guy is bragging about having collected a whole $2.25 in loose change. *slow clap* You're winning at life man, keep it up. /s Most likely, his fiancee/wife (if they end up getting married), will… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 12:07 AM |
| 42 | Length of time before marriageFirst of all, why do you even want to get married? I'm a happily married woman, and I'm seriously asking you this. For me, I wanted to get married ONLY if I could find a high caliber partner who I could build a life with. At the minimum. I had a dozen other conditions that had to be met as well, in order for me to consider it. Ask yourself, WHY do you want to get married? This is step 1. Step 2. What kind of person do you want to be married to, what kind of married life do you want to have? If y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 11:51 PM |
| 28 | On Ethical Self-Preservation: is it okay to fundamentally distrust men?When you donate money to a food bank organized by a religious organization, does it matter to you if the funds you are giving is used to help a man or woman? Does it matter what ethnicity, age or creed the person in need might be? Probably not. Enforcing boundaries with men is not the same thing as believing a human is less than because they have XY chromosomes. Protecting the preciousness of your mind, body and soul, the life God gave you, is not the same thing as thinking yourself a saint, bei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 11:21 PM |
| 43 | You know it is bad out there when your (very recently) came-out-as-gay little brother says 'lol men are sh*t.'Also, women can get pregnant, men can't. So 2 gay men can have a dysfunctional, low value, abusive etc relationship. But unless they find a pile of money, to get an egg donor and surrogate, they won't have a child. This makes a difference. Women being able to get pregnant makes all the difference, millions of people being born every generation, to straight scrotes and pickmes, creates social, economic and psychological problems on a gargantuan level, where it just permeates all aspects of life, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 04:33 PM |
| 265 | It happened! All I could do was laugh and unmatch. Even Pre-FDS, I declined coffee dates, because I don’t like coffee and I feel like coffee shops are impersonal.I used to go out for coffee or ice cream with my friends as a teen/up to early 20s. Like going to Starbucks to get frappucinos. When you're young, broke and dumb, you are easily entertained, and have a lot of time on your hands. Now, in my 30s, I don't have TIME, my friends don't have TIME. We've gone hiking and have had dinners at each other's houses a few times since covid, and we put effort into those things. Like if a friend invites me to dinner, I'll bring a gift, some wine, I'll be good co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 04:12 PM |
| 17 | men having high body counts and wanting a romantic relationship?63 sexual partners? At age 20 no less? Holy shit. He has nothing to offer you besides venereal disease. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:52 PM |
| 64 | I doubt it shocks anyone here that Evan Rachel Wood is calling out Marilyn Manson for abuse. He has been such a crucial normalizer of sexual depravity. Out your abusers. Let’s help end this libfem sexpos mindset.OH and his whole "without makeup "im mr. pseudo- intellectual making comments on youth of today" - bowling for columbine bit - proves it, hes a clever snake that created a character to capitalise on the bank accounts of 14 YOs On point, and I used to like him back in the day. I still like a few throwbacks for nostalgic reasons, but yeah, I grew up and my tastes evolved. His music never evolved, because he was always a hack. And when you grow up, you realize what a creep he was, going after low h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:56 AM |
| 69 | I doubt it shocks anyone here that Evan Rachel Wood is calling out Marilyn Manson for abuse. He has been such a crucial normalizer of sexual depravity. Out your abusers. Let’s help end this libfem sexpos mindset.lmaoooo He looks like a 50-something goth kid from South Park. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:51 AM |
| 128 | I doubt it shocks anyone here that Evan Rachel Wood is calling out Marilyn Manson for abuse. He has been such a crucial normalizer of sexual depravity. Out your abusers. Let’s help end this libfem sexpos mindset.When some quasimodo looking man is with a gorgeous woman 20 years his junior, there is usually some power/abuse dynamic at play. Even more true with actors, celebrities and pop stars. It's not a case of a simple odd couple, or Frankenstein's bride. We don't live in a fairy tale. Usually butt ugly old ass guys are abusing the beautiful young women they are with, if they didn't straight up groom her, definitely true in the world of celebrities. Marilyn Manson looks like Nicholas Cage's deformed tw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:38 AM |
| 70 | Why We Take the High RoadI was single for 5 years before I met my husband. I got my masters degree, lived in Europe, lived in 3 different time zones in the US just to see which area I liked best, started a hustle as well, bought a house. I could have easily spent this time being a forever gf to a schmuck, or worse I could have gotten knocked up by a NVM and lost all/most of my opportunities to improve my life/future and to self-actualize. It wasn't always easy, my single life was glorious but it also wasn't a "boss babe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:18 AM |
| 52 | Why We Support Investment: The Fallacy of Focusing on Financial InvestmentITA! So many women think if a guy looks good on paper, that he'll be good to her. Not true! I'll add, if you focus on your OWN financial investment, you'll have a better perspective of what men are really offering you. Same is true of all other investments you make towards yourself. Other people can only treat you as good as you treat yourself. I make 6 figures in tech, so I wasn't easily impressed by high-earning tech bros. I know that pretty much anyone with a pulse, who isn't brain dead, can … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:02 AM |
| 49 | "You're being sex negative!" is so insulting to women. True sex positivity for women is impossible to achieve in a patriarchal world. Requiring women to be "sex positive" before dismantling patriarchy is such a "fuck you" to women.The only people who are even committed to this "sex positivity" crap are rapey men and traumatized women with untreated mental health issues, who regularly disassociate during kink. A lot of these types of people are on Reddit. People who aren't crazy in the real world (not the fuckups on Reddit) understand a few things... You can't force, coerce or trick someone to have sex or to do sex acts they don't want to do, and call that "positive" just because you put sex in front of positive. People do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 12:48 AM |
| 7 | What’s your opinion on Jordan Peterson?All of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 12:59 PM |
| 6 | What’s your opinion on Jordan Peterson?He's a combo of Dr Phil and the redpill godfather. A far-right shlock feeding misogynistic pseudoscience and pop psychology to porn-sick, brain-damaged men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 12:47 AM |
| 15 | How do you add surprise and adventure while following the handbook when dating?I totally get what you mean, I am romantic, creative, silly... I can't be in a boring dry relationship with a guy who has the personality of a concrete block. And most men are so boring, that's the thing, they try to trick you into thinking they are fun and adventurous when they are just thoroughly dull. You only need 1 guy to pass your screening, whose company you enjoy, you both get each other, you can be as spontaneous, fun, creative as you want with him. I really feel like men have made dati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 11:37 PM |
| 29 | It's time for women to start thinking about equity instead of equalityA woman who has had only 1 sexual partner in her life can get HSV-2, it is a case of "you sleep with everyone your partner has slept with" concerning STIs. I didn't create or control STIs by those rules, that's just how it works. I don't think people with HSV2 should live in isolation or be forced to only date others with HSV2. But in some places it is illegal not to disclose to a sexual partner that you have HSV2 for a reason. I absolutely do not think that a woman with HSV-2 cannot be HVW, nor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 11:04 PM |
| 25 | It's time for women to start thinking about equity instead of equalityThis is what sex-positivity should really be: Shine a light on the responsibilities of sex and how to handle them like adult people to take the burden from women's unfair share of sex due to biological reasons and social indoctrination. Yes! Absolutely. This was what real sex positivity is, being responsible, ethical, honest, not indiscriminately spreading disease everywhere and being so blase about it, not minimizing or denying biological facts concerning pregnancy, STIs, HPV and cervical cance… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:44 PM |
| 35 | It's time for women to start thinking about equity instead of equalityHPV in women is NO JOKE and it is DEADLY. Men don't give a fuck about preventing transmission because they aren't personally harmed by it. Their attitude is basically "who cares if one of my Tinder hookups dies of cervical cancer, all I care about is hitting it raw" This is harsh but it's the ugly truth. It really chaps my ass, how people severely minimize the risks women take in casual dating/3 date rule/MuH seXUaL cOmPaTiBiLiTy etc. No fucking man is worth getting cervical cancer, FFS. Especia… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:39 PM |
| 42 | How do you add surprise and adventure while following the handbook when dating?What does "surprise, adventure, spontaneity and creativity" mean to you? Because for men on OLD, generally their definitions of these words are likely different than yours. Some translations... Surprise = low effort dates, no respect for your time, wanting to meet up immediately. Adventure = sexually adventurous. Usually in the realm of porn, kink, be into anal and choking. Spontaneity = same as surprise. Maybe a last minute invite to a hiking or camping trip or something outdoorsy somewhere iso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:27 PM |
| 158 | It's time for women to start thinking about equity instead of equalityAgreed. Speaking of biology... I've noticed a disturbing trend with "sex positive" scrotes & pickmes. They are trying to take away the stigma of STIs like HSV2 and HPV. Men are less likely to pick up these STIs in the first place, due to their biology, and when they do have them, they don't face the same risks women do. HPV causes cervical cancer in women, and cervical cancer rates have been skyrocketing for the past 10 years. More than 40 years ago, cervical cancer used to be the leading cause … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 06:01 PM |
| 283 | Even men recognize when another man is playing a woman.Of course they do, they all benefit from keeping the bar as low as possible. They all benefit from the abusive/predatory/fuckboi guys doing the dirty work. They like things the way they are. Maybe I'm too cynical, but I doubt this guy gives a flying fuck about women, this sounds like a "nice guy" thing. Probably wants to bang his friend's girlfriend, and is mad that his friend gets to have all the fun. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 02:09 PM |
| 44 | Are all divorced men = LVM?Most of the time, yeah. Women file for most divorces, and they do so because they can't take being married to NVM anymore. So a man has to be thoroughly terrible and worthless for a woman to give up companionship, shared finances, an emergency contact, to accept the stigma of divorce, 10 times more true if he has kids. His wife decided that living alone without him, even with a child/children, is easier than dealing with him. This tells you that he has nothing to add to a woman's life, that he j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 01:28 PM |
| 108 | Dumped Him For Suggesting That I Pay Rent to Temporarily Stay at His HouseI wouldn't even do that to a friend... sure crash at my place, we have a guest room with a private bath. Plenty of food, everything you need, nice outdoor space. A fucking friend wouldn't do that to you, any person who cares about you and has the space would offer this, and they wouldn't make you feel bad for it. Shit, I straight up invited half my cousins (and I have a huge family back on the east coast) to come out west if they wanted to scope the area, study or find work. This guy sounds like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 12:36 PM |
| 281 | Diguising anger and frustration with humor...I'm so sick of this "teehee my husband is an idiot/useless/a slob" shit. We're literally living in a global pandemic and economic crisis. Like what does it take for these women to call a spade a spade? The guy laughing tells all-- he has zero respect for her, and his shittiness will escalate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:51 PM |
| 97 | How LVM parent.I used to live in NYC. It's so stressful living there, can't imagine being there during the pandemic, while being saddled to a brain dead slob who gets stoned while "watching" our toddler. His wife (if she's even a wife and not a baby mama) is probably growing a brain tumor as I write this comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:42 PM |
| 3 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Perhaps you can do an online program? There are accredited, inexpensive programs available. Or perhaps you can get certifications or change industries? Also check out Udemy, Coursera and similar-- you can learn so many skills for very cheap there. Every industry looks for leaders who have the qualities of a successful entrepreneur. Some require you to have a bachelors to get your foot in the door, but others will gladly take experience and actual skills over a bachelors. I have friends without a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:35 PM |
| 3 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.I'm so sorry this happened to you. My father-in-law tried to run a business years ago, he failed at it, but he used his experience as a business owner to get a 6 figure job. He works in tech however, so it might be different depending on your industry. Please don't sell yourself short, if you can run a successful business, you CAN get a job that will pay you what you are worth. I'm sorry that you are struggling, you deserve so much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:26 PM |
| 91 | Don't take the bait if a scrote from your past contacts you. They are only contacting you for nefarious and selfish reasons.Yup, my only 2 feelings were disgust for him and pity for his wife and child, and the pity was a stronger feeling. He sent me like 6 photos of his family, of his kid, it was just so weird and disturbing and creepy. Blocked him immediately because I didn't want to receive another barrage of paragraph texts or more photos of his poor wife or kid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 08:37 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else struggle to make other lady friends? 🥺I feel that very deeply almost every day. Yearning for a community but fearing being over involved in something that won't be sustained long term. Same, I grew up with community... big family, extended family, cousins, friends, family friends. Always having barbecues, dinner parties, multiple dining tables. My parents had 2 dining room tables that could be extended and they did that pretty routinely. My parents were social butterflies in their heydays. I couldn't be a social butterfly now even i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 08:27 AM |
| 3 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Like, you're already a liability to her, what more do you want? In their minds, they think they are an opportunity and an asset. Lol. They are not socialized to imagine they could ever be a liability, even when they destroy a woman's life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 08:20 AM |
| 3 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Yep, this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 08:17 AM |
| 22 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.It sounds like a huge risk, if you're smart enough to pull it off you could do it without degrading yourself, damaging your psyche. Men always win, broke men think gold diggers are winning, they like to push that narrative and sadly many naive young women buy it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 05:16 PM |
| 46 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Yes, I've observed this as well. You can still end up impoverished (not just financially, but robbed of everything) if you marry a wealthy man and have the audacity to age, or if he gets bored of you. Which is why I think smarter "gold diggers" use men to finance their own businesses and investments. I've seen women being lured into a life of servitude for schmucks as well. Some of these guys are high earning, most are not, none are high earning enough. The women they are with are generally very… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 04:35 PM |
| 272 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Patriarchy uses innocuous language like "equality, communication, 50/50, sex positivity" to exploit women. This was accepted for a long time, society seemed to continue to function. Women never had it that great, so there was no context to compare this to beyond it being the 70s and women couldn't open their own bank accounts. Economic inequality and porn/social media have unstabilized this system. To the point where I'd say MOST women face a huge risk of the poverty I spoke about in my post. It… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 01:53 PM |
| 37 | Anyone else struggle to make other lady friends? 🥺It takes hundreds of hours of time spent together to have any significant bond with any human. People in the past, actually had friends, because they had communities where they'd spend hundreds and thousands of hours over the course of years, with the same people. Their values, lifestyles, etc were either identical or not that different. Now there are no communities, people don't even answer texts let alone spend hundreds of hours with someone. People have more different values and lifestyles no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 09:08 AM |
| 302 | Another epiphany on male jealousy 👁️👄👁️I'm glad that women are finally putting their foot down, and refusing to accept being triangulated against pixels. It's about time. Like 3-7 years ago, you' be accused of being controlling, jealous, insecure etc if you didn't endlessly indulge in this bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 08:50 AM |
| 38 | I hate when men bring up men's issues when you talk about women's issuesThey do this to derail and distract. 1st they try to make you shut up any way they can, when that doesn't work, they get violent. I'm sorry about your brother, he sounds like a piece of shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:44 PM |
| 131 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.Can you imagine fucking around and playing house for half a decade? What a waste of life, opportunities, energy, not to mention the emotional costs. It's very low caliber. Either shit or get off the pot (both the man and woman), both are spineless cowards. You get the love you think you deserve. If you think the love you deserve means wasting years and years with someone you're unsure about/you're waiting for them to be sure of you, then idk what to say beyond get a life. You don't have to marry… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:59 PM |
| 10 | "To Compromise? For What?!" - Happy Birthday to Queen of Queens, the late, great Eartha Kitt. Here she is dropping knowledge in 1982. The way she throws back her head and laughs!She was Eartha fucking Kitt, why the hell would she have to compromise?? Imagine the interviewer asking these questions to a male music icon/legend? I'm just a regular average woman, I didn't compromise either. I completely relate to everything Eartha Kitt is saying here, and I'm happily married now to a man who adores me. The part where she said "Yes, I fall in love with myself, and I want someone to share it with me." really hit me. ❤️ "Stupid. A man comes into my life and I have to compromise… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 03:50 PM |
| 26 | Fetishized for my nationalityI have an Eastern European background too, thankfully my name is universal and not a name that conjures an image of a prostitute or mail order bride, in Western minds. So I've never been fetishized because of my name or anything, people only know if I tell them. When I was dating, I hid my background and only talked about it after getting to know the person. I also don't go into detail about my life with randos or acquaintances (people like classmates or coworkers for instance) so I've always av… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 03:19 PM |
| 93 | Childish mutant spends nearly $10k on video games as his wife wears literal rags. But not to worry! He’s a “good husband and father, otherwise” 😅 Anyways, wifey just needs to know how to raise this minor topic while respecting hubby’s “financial autonomy” 🥺"We make good money for our area, and he makes almost twice what I make" You don't make a good household income, if you live in an area that is so expensive, that you both need to work to pay the bills. What is considered a good income, is relative to how expensive your location is, how much taxes you pay, how much your expenses and debts are, and so on. "Like many stupid well-off people, our house takes a ton of our income" You are not well off, if you live in a high cost of living area, and ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 07:16 PM |
| 33 | Women are constantly bombarded by marketing and advertising, from a very young age, and how that reduces women's sense of self, how both marketers and men viciously try to make women feel unhappy and inadequate.That's why leveling up can feel so hard at times--you are pitting your one individual psyche against multi-billion dollar industries. Completely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:15 PM |
| 48 | The vibes of liberal men towards me since I started with FDSYup, liberal guys like 10 years ago weren't like this, they were always douchey, but they weren't sociopathic by default, they were overall a smidge better than conservative dudes, and the bar was always low. This "woke" shit has made liberal men deformed, they are straight up ghoulish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 03:53 PM |
| 11 | "He cheated on me and then cried about how life is hard" men: "wow you're abusive for not letting him speak about his feelings, thats why ur single".Scrotes calling women AbUsiVe and ToXiC after they dump their cheating bf. Projection level 10. Dude is stating that it is opposite day on this planet. "Girls don't want their boyfriends to be emotional and communicate". Projection level has slid off the 1-10 scale, onto not just opposite day on this planet, we are on another planet. "Now they're single". Projection level has traveled faster than the speed of light, and we are now officially in another galaxy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 03:43 PM |
| 16 | StoryTime 📖: “Tom” promised to cook me a salmon dinner (I wanted to avoid restaurants). He says he’s pumped...then bails. His explanation was that I was “too intimidating” 😅 Now he’s back + wants me to cheat on my new man (who, so far, treats me like a Queen)! Ugh. Anyone got scrote repellant? 😷🧼🐜I don't have any male friends at all, I'm not missing out on anything. I used to have male acquaintances, or friends of friends who are male, they can't even handle that. I had this 1 acquaintance (was friends with his sister, that's how I met him) who had the nerve to spread a rumor that I was in love with him. We talked like 2 times, when his sister was around. I told this to her sister, that no this isn't true, he's fucking making it all up, she was not surprised, she was embarrassed and apol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:22 PM |
| 71 | StoryTime 📖: “Tom” promised to cook me a salmon dinner (I wanted to avoid restaurants). He says he’s pumped...then bails. His explanation was that I was “too intimidating” 😅 Now he’s back + wants me to cheat on my new man (who, so far, treats me like a Queen)! Ugh. Anyone got scrote repellant? 😷🧼🐜This is bad juju for your new (hopefully promising relationship with a HVM), you are letting this guy into your head on some level. He still "won", because you responded. Men are so pathetic that any response to them is a win. Not only did you respond, you said you'd want to be friends "if you're interested". Sis, wtf? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:06 PM |
| 258 | The vibes of liberal men towards me since I started with FDSLiberal men are wolves in sheep's clothing. A lot of the times, they are the most misogynistic men out there. They openly love porn, sex work, they exploit women's labor, they love BDSM and kink, they get cunty when women have ANY expectations for fairness, they feel entitled to choking women sexually abusing women etc and will have the audacity to shame women who refuse to bow down to kink. They have a good scam going on, they know that all they have to do is say "yasss queen" (not exactly that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:37 PM |
| 131 | Say no to easy men 👀The more easy a man is, the more likely it is that he is manipulative and predatory. Even relatively hot guys have to work lie pretty hard, to get laid. It's not the same thing as a woman being easy. A woman is considered easy when she rejects 99.9% of advances but fails to reject the rest. A woman is seen as easy when she gets conned by a predatory man, if she keeps getting conned consistently. When men are easy, it is because they are predators. They try to target naive or traumatized women, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:27 PM |
| 2 | If you actively practice FDS, people are going to fucking hate you.100%! Great post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:08 PM |
| 9 | Do you mostly date men who you are viscerally and immediately sexually attracted to on a gut level or do you date a wide range of men and “give guys a chance”?I'm not going to take off my pants and sit on a guy's face just because I think he is handsome or physically attractive. I think most women are that way. But I need to find him generally attractive for there to be potential for me to feel sexual attraction. I didn't feel overwhelming chemistry, butterflies or tingles when I met my husband for example. I did think he was handsome and easy to look at, but that wasn't enough for me to feel sexual attraction. The first time I saw him wear a 4 piece … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:44 AM |
| 8 | HVM suddenly displaying traits of LVMIf you are happy with your life and your relationship, continue doing what you are doing. If you are not, you need to be more honest with yourself. We can't help you if you refuse to be honest with yourself. You didn't even write any details/context in this post, didn't explain his LVM behaviors (only his "HVM" behaviors, which you made sure to put on the top). I had to read details from other posters, who made the effort to look at your post history. He is completely LVM, based on those details… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:42 AM |
| 5 | UnReAliStIc mALe bEaUtY sTanDardS!!!Yeah, my sister used to have some kind of hormonal problem, where she had too much testosterone and it was messing with her cycles. It's still nowhere near as much testosterone as young men have, even with her hormonal imbalance and high testosterone levels for a woman. I vividly remember her eating like a football player. Like she was eating 2 big plates, sometimes thirds, would finish a pint of ice cream after. Like 3-4 hours later, she'd eat another huge meal. She didn't gain weight eating li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:18 AM |
| 7 | UnReAliStIc mALe bEaUtY sTanDardS!!!Yeah, I'd be really muscular, very strong and lean if I were a man. I have very good cardiovascular health, low heart rate etc, but it takes ages for me to build muscle, and when I do, it's not visible and doesn't look like much. The muscles also go away as soon as I stop weight lifting several times/week. It's just so MUCH easier for men to maintain a lean body fat %, to build and maintain muscles... yet all they can do is talk about how fat women are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:15 AM |
| 8 | UnReAliStIc mALe bEaUtY sTanDardS!!!Same, I have to eat under 1,700 calories AND I have to exercise, to lose like 5 lbs a month. If I don't work out, I have to eat closer to 1,200. My husband and I went on a clean eating paleo thing, he lost like 15 lbs in a few weeks, didn't even start out as overweight. His body is so carb tolerant, and he just melts like butter if he isn't eating hundreds of grams of carbs and thousands of calories everyday. Meanwhile I lost not even 5 lbs eating the same foods, still eating much smaller portio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:11 AM |
| 146 | UnReAliStIc mALe bEaUtY sTanDardS!!!They are projecting, as usual. All men have to do is not be morbidly obese and maintain basic hygiene, their beauty standards are so much lower. I don't understand why so many young men are fat anyway? They have the fastest metabolism, the most testosterone, the heaviest bones, the most muscle-- of ANY group of people. Most of the big women I know, wouldn't even be overweight, if they were men. It's always less than what an overweight man eats, most of the time even less than what an average wei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 04:48 PM |
| 8 | Bought me a ring to celebrate 1 year of living guilt-free and man-free.It's beautiful! 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 04:29 PM |
| 103 | This article blew my mind. "America and the world would collapse in 20 seconds if women were showing up for each other instead of being exploited for every form of labor.” - From "Feminism Has Failed Women" by Kim BrooksSo many societies and cultures rely on exploiting women to even be semi-functional. They just went so far with exploiting women, that a lot of women would need to clone themselves in order to fulfill all of the roles society expects of them, most of which society expects for free, or at best-- for less pay than a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 04:20 PM |
| 65 | Maybe we should date gay men, they will treat us better than straight men for sureYeah, the guys who talk about how masculine they are and how they want a submissive woman, are also the types who are like "If a woman slaps me, I'm going to repeatedly punch her in the stomach and head, because muH SeLf DeFenSe". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:48 PM |
| 189 | Maybe we should date gay men, they will treat us better than straight men for sureHe is "masculine" and wants a submissive woman, but I bet he still expects women to split the check and the bills. He wants her to be "submissive" but has no interest in being a provider or protector, no interest in being a gentleman, because eQuaLiTY. If he saw an altercation in public with 2 men, I bet he'd throw the woman in front of him and run away. He doesn't have a masculine bone in his body. So many scrotes think being masculine = being abusive and evil, and then they wonder why women ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Ring Pics: Married Edition. Also one of my Christmas gifts (and different lighting for the ring)That's a gorgeous ring! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:57 PM |
| 35 | I honestly don't think I want to get married (and I'm tired of my family saying I'll change my mind)People forget relationships add another layer of complexity and stress to their lives. So why do it if it's not worth it? Precisely! 100% agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 10:53 AM |
| 122 | I honestly don't think I want to get married (and I'm tired of my family saying I'll change my mind)I'm happily married (no kids) and I still sometimes fantasize about living in a cottage or even in a shed, by myself, surrounded by my most favorite things, a cozy place I can make music and paint. My husband adds value to my life, makes me happy-- but my single life was GLORIOUS. I did all the things I wanted to do, I traveled, built a business, developed passions, had transcendent moments regularly, really felt the human experience fully, being single. I only married because I randomly met a H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 08:45 AM |
| 125 | Ex-Husband Contacted Me to "Catch Up" After 6 Years of SilenceWhat a loser lmao. You handled that perfectly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:07 PM |
| 50 | Ugh the male mid life crisis causes so much destruction. All because (despite their attempts to project onto US) men handle aging so poorly.Great post! 100% truth, all of it. I would consider these to be warning signs. - Saying shit like "I look younger than my age", "People think I'm 25" (the guy is 35). I've seen maybe 2-3 guys in my ENTIRE life who actually looked significantly younger than their actual age, the rest are all lying to themselves. - Any kind of red pill/incel/manosphere language. - Men who chase after women much younger, that's an obvious one. - "I feel insecure about where I am at in life" As you should be, the ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 02:26 PM |
| 73 | In today's episode of "what object are we"...women are a benchpress machine!He writes this like he can snap his fingers, and a conventionally attractive petite woman weighing 90-110 lbs, will magically appear. Dude probably can't even get a date, or any girlfriend, let alone thinking he can get one who weighs 90 lbs and is willing to be used as his training equipment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 01:25 PM |
| 671 | NYT Journalist Nicholas Kristof, whose article exposed Pornhub and instigated the unverified video Purge, has set his sights on Reddit. Reddit ALSO hosts underage rape videos, involuntary porn, pedophilic content, and extreme sexualized violence with zero verification.I hope this wonderful man is not getting death threats constantly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 09:24 AM |
| 243 | Men respond better to silence vs cOmMuNicAtIonI once lived in a place where I noticed that a lot of the young kids there were very well behaved and obedient. I asked my friend (who is from there) what's up with that, and she explained to me, that parents in this country frequently ignore their toddlers or young kids when they act up. Like just completely ignore them, no positive response, no negative response. Apparently this makes young children obey you-- they'd rather get negative attention than zero attention. Not getting any attention … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 09:10 AM |
| 77 | Translation: I want a f@$k and hopefully this is enough to hook you in (asked what he was looking for lmao)Translation "I'm looking for a connection with someone" -- I'm looking for validation and sex. He is using the word 'connection' because connection is evasive and can literally mean anything, it can be a penis connected to a vagina. He uses the word connection, both to be evasive, and also because he hopes to find a pickme who trusts random stranger men for no reason because they said "i'm loOkin for a ConnecShUn" on an app. "but I'm open to the form that takes" -- I'm open to not labelling thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:46 AM |
| 29 | The sheer entitlement to think that women should effectively audition for marriage. Men aren’t that valuable or rare.The internet has really given a lot of opportunities for men to bully, harass, abuse, terrorize women. Before the internet, a guy this demented, fucked up and hostile towards women, would never have the opportunity to even say hello to this woman. They would not cross paths. And yet here he is, thinking not only does he have a chance, but that she has to audition for him. Women try to be nice/give the benefit of the doubt, oftentimes only blocking after the guy starts cursing her out or violentl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:30 AM |
| 2 | The comments were full of women claiming they were such kind.100% Agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 03:23 PM |
| 6 | Dropped a manipulative narc on Xmas, just looking for FDS support and loveI wrote this comment about this very topic the other day, I hope it is helpful ... https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/klh1c5/do_you_ever_imagine_flexing_on_your_ex_how_do_you/gh9rgiq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:56 PM |
| 27 | Dropped a manipulative narc on Xmas, just looking for FDS support and loveI'm so happy for you, and so proud of you (as a cheerleader lady stranger)! Confusion is the enemy, any and all contact with him is poison and will lead to confusion. He kept you in the relationship for as long as he did, because he confused you. You feel grazed and bloody, but your mind is clear, your emotions will follow your mind in time. It doesn't even take that much time, really. He doesn't deserve a long period of mourning, once you realize the relationship was never genuine, that your pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:49 PM |
| 43 | The comments were full of women claiming they were such kind.I don't understand the thought process behind this, what do they think they are auditioning for? To be a dancing bear and a free therapist and free prostitute for contemptuous men who fucking hate you? Or is the dReaM to get 'Picked' and to be a mommywife bangmaid to a man who at best, gives you crumbs and still doesn't like you or respect you? How sad. Girls need better role models, they need better content, they need better information and knowledge. I am honestly so scared for any little girl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:42 PM |
| 23 | Think long and hard before dating a gamer😂😂Yeah, and fuck gamer culture in general. The reason why gaming addiction is running wild in society, is because the gaming industry spends big $$$ to brainwash people into thinking that they are just "games". And the braindead soulless consumers aka "gamers", will shank their grandma to defend the gaming industry. They can't take it when anyone criticizes games-- but guess what, people who don't play games, are not convinced, most people who don't play games look down on grown ass adults who gam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:29 PM |
| 2 | She is asking the wrong question. If you are in this situation then you should leave. Even if it is just a suspicionExactly this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:10 AM |
| 2 | She is asking the wrong question. If you are in this situation then you should leave. Even if it is just a suspicionOh she KNOWS what is going on. At 26 she is too old to be pretending to be this clueless. Is it OK for her to ask him to stop talking to her? Lmao, she should be reporting him to the police. She's a couple of butt plugs away from preying on 15 year old girls for him herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:09 AM |
| 43 | Do you ever imagine flexing on your ex? How do you stop?I have a pretty unorthodox method of getting over a breakup, but to be honest, I didn't utilize it until it was too late/I wasted too much time. But when I did utilize this method, I got over it and reached 100% indifference. It's this... a LOT of women are not in genuine relationships, they are larping relationships after a lifetime of being brainwashed by Disney, romcoms and the wedding industry. Many if not most breakups, are breakups with a fantasy version of the person you idealized in your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:47 AM |
| 32 | Open Relationship?The only men who even want open relationships, are extreme loser types who have no idea how the real world works. Regular scrotes will go out of their way to be all "moNogAmYYYYYY" after a few dates, in order to make the woman they're seeing eliminate her other options. So he can monopolize her time, energy and emotions, so he can eliminate his competition from the get go. He might still pump and dump her or cheat on her later, but he will be MoNogaMouS. A guy in an open relationship is very unl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:09 AM |
| 63 | Julian Casablancas, left his wife of 15 years for a 21 yr old roadie.It's unlikely that he was a perfect husband, never cheated etc during their marriage. It sounds like she didn't even leave him, he left HER lol. His wife sounds like a major pickme. These are my thoughts about this... Don't marry or seriously date a guy in a band. Doesn't matter if they're a broke hobosexual with no retirement plan (majority of men in bands) or if they are a millionaire (tiny minority who make it). They aren't husband material. There is no prize for getting clowned by a man, whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:50 AM |
| 146 | FB scrotes are mad because they can't handle scientific fact 😂😂😂Tell a man the same thing and he's squealing like a pig. This is always their reaction, whenever they get a taste of their own medicine, to squeal like a pig. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 02:18 PM |
| 38 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.Stop falling for words that make it seem like it’s in your favour. We live in a men’s world This | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:42 PM |
| 28 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.Well, they'd respond to this by more or less saying, that if your vagina isn't free (in fact, you should be splitting the check, so you should be paying THEM) and you don't let any Tom Dick or Butthead inside you after 3 dates, that you're a low key prostitute who wants things in exchange for sex. Even if the "things" you want are not material, even if you want time, trust, commitment and safety--- doesn't matter, you're a prostitute if you don't sling your vagina around indiscriminately on dati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:40 PM |
| 47 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’."Let me try out your body while you hope your personality grows on me." Who the fuck do they think they are? It's mind blowing how entitled and arrogant men are, when the vast majority have nothing of value to offer, least of all their dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:38 PM |
| 23 | There is always societal pressure to be ~attractive to men~, but breaking down this standard to the individual guys themselves takes a lot of the pressure off. The average guy is not worth pleasing.I wish I had a photo of it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:37 PM |
| 5 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:36 PM |
| 9 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:36 PM |
| 16 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.The worst thing is during courting phase he hid all this and went along with normal sex, I knew something wasn't right and he always brushed it off as him being shy I'm sorry you went through that. That is so fucked up, hiding what he was really into. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:36 PM |
| 35 | There is always societal pressure to be ~attractive to men~, but breaking down this standard to the individual guys themselves takes a lot of the pressure off. The average guy is not worth pleasing.Yeah, these guys never have social skills or situational awareness either. You met a random stranger woman on an app-- is she showing any interest or attraction? Is she leaning in closer to you, did she touch you first, is she giving you a lot of eye contact and touching your hand. She isn't going to throw off her pants because you held her hand. They are either trying to 'escalate' so they can touch you some more, or they think you're going to fall in love with them because they held your hand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:35 PM |
| 36 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.Asking about sexual preferences = trying to see how responsive you are to a sexual chat = trying to see how easily. quickly and cheaply you'll have sex with him . Like they even give a shit about women's sexual preferences. I wish these guys would just get a fleshlight and leave women alone, but they never do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:29 PM |
| 42 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.Seriously, if anyone needs to try before they buy, it is women not men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:28 PM |
| 51 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationI’m a very tall woman, but I love it if a guy is legit masculine when having sex. I’m not talking about these fake masculine pornsick ‘dominant’ guys, but actually benefitting women kind of masculine. Yes! I know exactly what you mean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:27 PM |
| 434 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationIf a man can't kiss, can't dance, when he touches you and his hand feels like a sanding block on a wooden plank-- he is not good in bed. If he makes no effort on dates, makes no effort to please you or make you happy-- he is not good in bed. If he can't make any effort for arranging a date, he won't make any effort to get you off either. If he gets out of breath from a hike or a walk-- he has no stamina and he is not good in bed. If he has no upper body strength, is out of shape, fat, he is not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 07:48 AM |
| 268 | There is always societal pressure to be ~attractive to men~, but breaking down this standard to the individual guys themselves takes a lot of the pressure off. The average guy is not worth pleasing.Years ago, I went on an OLD date. The guy was trying to hold my arm, trying to act romantic. He was handsome enough and quite tall, but dude had zero muscle tone. His arm felt like a wet noodle. It was alarming how soft his arms were, like it felt as if he had muscular dystrophy. His arms were softer and more flabby than even a skinnyfat woman whose been on yo-yo diets for 10 years. I didn't say anything, but was turned off. Didn't plan to see him again. He was boring, had wet noodle arms, no re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 07:19 AM |
| 49 | Men lying on their dating profiles...That's really sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 01:14 PM |
| 13 | Anyone else have this view on having children?Children are not props for you to fulfill your fantasy of being a functional adult or give your life meaning. They are people who will grow up to have their own lives and should be given every opportunity for success right from the jump. I will NEVER get over how cavalier people are about creating human life. Blows my mind. 👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 04:49 AM |
| 22 | how can I spot LVM Chameleons 🦎 👀Yeah, trust is a big thing, the biggest. It's always a risk, to invest in anyone or anything, especially investing in people, specifically investing in a man in marriage. It's definitely a risk. But there are a lot of people out there in HV relationships, they are just less visible/vocal because 1) it comes off as smug and smarmy, to be bragging about how good and happy your marriage is, so happy couples tend to be quiet, 2) the worst examples of marriage and of people tend to be the most visibl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:37 AM |
| 28 | how can I spot LVM Chameleons 🦎 👀"HVM" is basically just a decent man who views women as people, isn't predatory, isn't brainwashed by porn and social media, has a sense of responsibility, is fair and empathetic. HVM is the average woman, most pickmes if they were men, would be HVM. It's not that hard for a man to be a HVM, it is also very easy to fake. Especially when life is rosy/good, it is very easy. It takes a while to thoroughly fact check, to know what you are signing up for. Knowing his family background and dynamics is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:02 AM |
| 76 | Anyone else have this view on having children?I think having children is selfish, more often than not. People want kids just because, to check off an item on their bucket list, because they feel pressured to or because they want someone to love (women). Men have kids because they want to pass on their genes, but that doesn't mean they have any interest in actually raising the child, or doing the hard parts of parenting. Having your own biological child doesn't help the world, at all. I don't understand how people think having their own kid … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:27 PM |
| 100 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAHow sad. The baby was born 8 weeks ago and her father has already lost interest in her and is openly resentful about taking care of her and providing for her. He's taking it out on her mother. This woman is talking about how sweet it is that he is "good" with the baby. She's delusional. I wouldn't even trust him to take care of her unsupervised. Infants are so, so fragile. Show me resentment towards caring for or providing for the baby, after I fucking carried it for 9 months and pushed it out o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 05:10 PM |
| 94 | So why do men say we'll be lonely in our 40s?Because they're trying to terrorize younger women into settling for LVM/NVM. They are trying to scare women into settling for loser and/or abusive men, because being a spinster is somehow a lot worse than being partnered to a scrote. And they say it because terrorizing women has worked for hundreds of years. It's like patriarchy 101, after denying women civil rights, property rights, reproductive rights. Terrorizing women is like in the top 3 tenets of patriarchy, they just change how they terro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 04:17 PM |
| 3 | When he thinks he's worth 3 minutes of orgasmless sex 🥴 :GOLD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:57 PM |
| 135 | Ew. Nah sisIf he doesn't pick up his pants off the floor (very simple thing), you can assume he does basically zero cooking, housework, that he doesn't even clean up after himself. Good for him, he got a mommy housekeeper and a bangmaid, didn't even have to marry her. Men are winning so hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:30 PM |
| 15 | My eyes have been open to the truth, that females and males can not be friends.I don't get why women even want male friends, even if they didn't have ulterior motives, and they usually do. Men are shit friends even to other men. It is relatively rare for a man to have an authentic male friend, someone he can talk to and maybe open up to a bit, someone who would be there for him in an emergency. I think it used to be more common, my dad for example does have friends. He doesn't cry to his friends or emotionally dump on them, but he does talk to his friends about life, his k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:20 PM |
| 82 | She really predicted the future ...This. It's so sad and sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 11:51 AM |
| 11 | Men are getting lazier and lazier when it comes to dating (found on tumblr)Yup. This right here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 11:50 AM |
| 11 | Low Effort Men Are Low Value MenExactly. Media likes to blame declining birth rates on women's careers and on cats, but a huge factor is women being unable to find men who have enough integrity and responsibility to be a father and husband. Society just does not want to have that conversation, they want to continue blaming women for everything. Millennial aged men refuse to provide because "eQualIty", but their sense of equality doesn't extend to household work, childcare, emotional labor etc. This is if they even pay 50% of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 11:27 AM |
| 85 | Low Effort Men Are Low Value MenImagine our very early woman cavewoman ancestors. Getting knocked up by a low effort caveman would be a death sentence, both the woman and child would die. We would not exist today, if our early ancestors made excuses for low effort men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:45 AM |
| 6 | Patriarchy uses a bizarre combo of monogamy + sex positivity + equality to limit women's standards and potential.The tech landscape these days creates this false sense of intimacy wrapped in a veneer of performative art. THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:10 AM |
| 45 | Patriarchy uses a bizarre combo of monogamy + sex positivity + equality to limit women's standards and potential.I agree with everything you wrote here, I half jokingly think people need adult courses on "stranger danger" and "internet/app safety". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:33 PM |
| 113 | Patriarchy uses a bizarre combo of monogamy + sex positivity + equality to limit women's standards and potential.Yes, exactly. The fucked up part, is that the woman can always do better, the man is usually getting the best he can get. But men are conditioned to be full of ego and to think they are amazing, and women are conditioned to chase after crumbs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:12 PM |
| 91 | HorrifyingAnyone who chooses to write about money with a font like that has negative net worth. I sometimes wonder, how dumb are redpillers? They go to communities filled with loser men, they know these subs are filled with unsuccessful men, that is why they are all there. They cry "woe is men" by going on and on about male homelessness, suicide, prison rape, while they do NOTHING about it. Some loser on the internet cries woe is men, the other losers engage in a circle jerk. A few days to a few weeks lat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 04:14 PM |
| 107 | Reminder to not ease your standards at all for a guy younger than you. In a world of pedos, it may seem like a guy aiming older is a green flag but he might just be like this POS. Doesn't matter if he's a broke college student, no exemptions. Be hard to get.He isn't that young himself. He talks like he is 21 when he is 31. He thinks older women have no options (even for sex) and will throw themselves at him because he is 31 lol. Apparently being 31 and male makes you a fetus. A put together, fit and conventionally attractive woman at ANY age can have sex with a 21 year old athlete if she wanted to. I'm so tired of men's fear of mortality/aging, and how hard they project. How jealous they are of women. How delusional, fucked up and brain damaged the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 01:27 PM |
| 25 | Ladies, DON'T settle for excuses and empty promises!Yeah, 6 months is nothing. You can't even really truly get to know a friend in that time. I also don't like the notion of "meN KnOw" like who gives a shit what they know? Why do so many women put so much importance to what men know or want, and completely ignore what they know and want? That bothers me a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 01:12 PM |
| 98 | Ladies, DON'T settle for excuses and empty promises!This guy is talking about it from a man's perspective. Yes, men KNOW quickly if they want to invest in you or not. But who gives a shit what they want, especially when you haven't even known them for 1 full year? Women NEED more than 6 months to know if we want to invest or not. Do not let the man's emotions, wants and his idea of "we" cloud your judgement, don't let him rush you, because 6 months is still very early. Talking about marriage (as in, I KneW that I wAnTed To WiFe You) before 6 mont… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 08:42 AM |
| 20 | Natalie Portman Says Being 'Sexualized as a Child' Made Her 'Afraid': 'You Don't Feel Safe'Honestly, when she was supporting Roman Polanski, I assumed it was because she had mental issues from being a child actor, and from being in that pedo movie, The Professional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:57 PM |
| 39 | Am I bugging or is this a real thing? The first thing I thought was “sounds rapey to me” I’ve had this happen to me, but idk how the person could really be sleeping. A lot of folks in the comments agree that it’s a thing.With sexsomnia, this girls boyfriend could potentially rape anyone in the house, including relatives and his children. Issa no for me. I’d have to drop him. Exactly, people who really have sexsomnia can rape their grandmother while they're visiting fam for the holidays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 02:37 PM |
| 206 | Man Baby TantrumI'm really worried for you. Please report him, document things he says and does, carry a weapon. I'm not sure if he would be physically violent, but he definitely sounds like a stalker, someone who will terrorize you at work, follow you etc. He sounds extremely mentally unstable, he's crazy but you don't know how crazy. Honestly, I'm not being hyperbolic-- he sounds psychotic, like he doesn't understand reality. He also feels extremely entitled to you, does not view you as a human or as a person… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 02:29 PM |
| 146 | Am I bugging or is this a real thing? The first thing I thought was “sounds rapey to me” I’ve had this happen to me, but idk how the person could really be sleeping. A lot of folks in the comments agree that it’s a thing.This. Someone who really has this condition would communicate this because they'd fear the legal and social consequences after a sexsomnia episode. A person who really has sexsomnia would also NOT KNOW what they are doing or who they are doing it with. This could result in regrettable or traumatic situations, even for men. They could get killed by their male roommate because they had sexsomnia and tried to fuck their guy roommate, and he fought back in self-defense. They'd know that "I have sexs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 01:50 PM |
| 60 | Am I bugging or is this a real thing? The first thing I thought was “sounds rapey to me” I’ve had this happen to me, but idk how the person could really be sleeping. A lot of folks in the comments agree that it’s a thing.Sexsomnia is real, it's a form of parasomnia (abnormal activity while sleeping). It's very rare though, like weird sleep disorders tend to be. Rapists however are not at all rare. I got sick in my stomach, reading "he was assertive, had a glazed over look in his eye, engaged in varying sexual acts". It's statistically SO much more likely that he is faking it, the assertive and "varying sexual acts" parts is so sketch and so vomit-inducing. Rapists try to use sexsomnia/sleep sex as an excuse for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 01:39 PM |
| 201 | It's a Power Thing - don't give it to themAgreed. Don't mistake power play with "This is a teachable moment". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:05 PM |
| 45 | Can we really be shocked at this point that men run the feminist account? Literally, they’re trying to take over everywhere and silence us!The type of 'feMiniSts' they market to probably wouldn't even care, they'd think it was a good thing. Mainstream feMinISm is controlled by patriarchy, and they recruit deranged dumb pickmes to do their useful idiot dirty work, like censoring women who disagree with their opposite day bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:00 PM |
| 10 | ‘Dumped’ my pickme friend the day after discovering FDSWhat a disgusting awful person! Good riddance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 04:56 PM |
| 61 | Men having a type and women having a type. How men fake interest and clown women. Ways to avoid this happening to you.Just be aware that this is a thing, if you have a gut reaction that tells you he is not being authentic, pay attention to it. There are other ways to suss out his type, does he follow a bunch of Insta models? That is his type. Does he make comments on celebrities or famous people, or even random women walking on the street? Does he give you backhanded comments like "You'd look better with this hair" or that? Men with delusional types reveal their ass if you pay attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:26 PM |
| 24 | Men having a type and women having a type. How men fake interest and clown women. Ways to avoid this happening to you.❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:41 PM |
| 47 | Men having a type and women having a type. How men fake interest and clown women. Ways to avoid this happening to you.Ugh, he sounds predatory af. I'm glad you got out of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:40 PM |
| 100 | Men having a type and women having a type. How men fake interest and clown women. Ways to avoid this happening to you.I'm sorry that happened to you. When you first met him, did he present himself as a nerd/alternative subculture person and wanting similar? And later he revealed the true extent of his type, after trauma bonding? I feel like guys with geeky, gamer, nerdy or alternative subculture interests are prone to feeling entitled to their very own real life hentai anime girl or suicide girl. Sorry if I'm being presumptuous, you do not have to answer if you don't wish to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:26 PM |
| 3 | 21yo seeking advice--what would you tell your 21yo self?All of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:49 PM |
| 6 | 21yo seeking advice--what would you tell your 21yo self?I have a past of surviving abuse and entertaining many flings. I am really sorry. I became aware that I was the glue and leader of my family, which allowed my family to become financially stable and supported my younger siblings on their path to college. You are your own person. You have to separate yourself from your family and not feel responsible for other people. You can love them and help them when you can, but you are NOT the glue of your family. You are not a caretaker. Women from abusive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:39 PM |
| 3 | "We want to make you happy. The fact is, we love when you orgasm almost as much as we love it when we do."Yup! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 02:22 PM |
| 39 | "We want to make you happy. The fact is, we love when you orgasm almost as much as we love it when we do."It would be better if what they said was "Fuck you bitch, we want to nut to torture porn lol" Which is basically what they are communicating, but they know their gf/wife won't put out/will leave them after that. So it all comes off as not only really psychopathic, but also cowardly, pathetic, conniving, manipulative as well as patronizing. Like they think women are so dumb and so reliant on cheap emotional validation/assurances from men, that we'd accept crumbs and basically mindfuck ourselves a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:13 PM |
| 25 | Of course an LVM couldn’t help but sexualize an innocent post about a woman’s puppy growing up. That comment in response was me btw, I couldn’t control myself.He probably thinks she really meant to show off her boobs, under the guise of showing off her puppy. He is too anti-human, too lonely, too porn sick and too wretched to see that the puppy is ridiculously cute, that she looks genuinely happy, that the photo is not AT ALL framed "check out my hair" when the woman is really slinging her ass on Instagram etc. But he doesn't think women are human, he demonizes women, he is so DAMN sure that this woman WANTED IT, that she posted these pics and made th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 03:49 PM |
| 55 | If you got a dick pic, it's your fault. Remember!Yeah, like men who send dick pics have a sign on their forehead saying "I will send you unsolicited pics of my dick". Same with the "I will pump and dump you", or "I will pretend to be in a genuine relationship/marriage with you" or "I will do a Jeykll and Hyde on you by pretending to be normal/authentic/empathetic, then I'll show my true face and will abuse you, after learning your vulnerabilities, making you hooked on me, after knocking you up and/ or after making you physically/financially de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 03:07 PM |
| 3 | OH MY GOD. IT IS NOT THE TIME TO EASE HIS MIND FFS.Maybe less women would have children with video game addicts, if the video game industry didn't successfully brainwash so many people into thinking that limitless consumption of video games is no big deal. This is no different than a man with any other addiction-- alcoholism, gambling, drugs. This is no different than a man going on a cocaine bender or going to a casino while his wife is giving birth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:58 PM |
| 3 | Law enforcement declines to charge women for killing a man that was attacking their daughter/sister.Some good news. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:40 PM |
| 23 | What’s your opinion on: Men who got out of a LTR & immediately jumped into a new relationship during a pandemic?He's probably above average in looks and social skills, or at least dating app game, to pull that off. He's either a hot/charming/funny fuckboi or he's an average looking or ugly "sensitive intellectual" predator who has a lot of women friends, gets into women's heads, knows how to manipulate women with psychology and language. A lot of men, maybe even most, will have long "dry periods" after a breakup. It's very difficult for them to get sex, dates and female attention/validation in general. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:37 PM |
| 134 | Holidays make it easy to spot LVM. Thank goodness my pick me days of cooking a full thanksgiving meal so a LVM can drink, watch football, and nap are over.That's a sad ass way to spend your Thanksgiving-- cooking and laboring over 2 useless entitled men who are not your family or friends or husband. It's pathetic when women do this in general, but it's sooo pathetic to do this for a bf and his friend. Did he at least buy really nice pies and wine? There are artisan pies you can order from a bake shop, and obviously you can splurge on wine. He probably walked in there with a Walmart/Target pie and $10 wine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 02:03 PM |
| 6 | Dating around after a breakup is not a substitute for therapy.I think people need to vet therapists carefully and not walk into the therapist's office ready to believe anything the therapist will tell them. A lot of people talk about therapy like it is almost magical, and they place a lot of blind trust in therapists. Therapists are just people like everyone else, they aren't a sage/priest/wise person/someone who can tell you how to live, think and feel. In the case of medical doctors-- people are always saying "get a 2nd opinion". At least with medical do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 01:10 PM |
| 7 | Dating around after a breakup is not a substitute for therapy.It's crazy how incompetent many/most therapists are. The psychotherapy industry needs way more regulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:59 PM |
| 18 | Dating around after a breakup is not a substitute for therapy.Doing literally anything besides dating around after a breakup is healthier and more productive. Therapy isn't 100% safe, more women need to realize that the therapy you receive is only as good as your therapist. If you have LVW or LVM as a therapist, you will get LV therapy. Especially couple's therapy- it's a disaster more often than not, and is used as a tool by predators/abusers to further victimize their partners by gaslighting them through manipulating the therapist. A bad therapist can ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:47 AM |
| 7 | How to deal with LV toxic people (both scrotes & pickmes).This too! I feel like the line between "you want to steal my shitty man" and "I'm trying to recruit you to have sex with my shitty man" is blurry. This type of thing also spirals into "you stole my man" when a pickme's underage daughter tells her she was abused by her boyfriend. For sure, pickmes can also be physically unsafe, they are generally untrustworthy because you don't really know how far their pickmeism goes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 01:34 AM |
| 103 | You are your own #1It's women that have to reprogram themselves to believe they are #1, men are living this life by default lol. They don't even have to be aware of it, like every cell in their body understands that they are #1. Like how many men have we met that DON'T believe they are #1? Even HVM think they are #1. A lot of women are asking others (as in asking men and popular opinion, which is censored by men) for permission if it's okay to place themselves at #10 in life. It's sad how broken down so many women… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Why therapy, self-care, and levelling up emotionally and mentally is so importantIt took yearsss. I moved to a lower cost of living area, lived frugally, paid off all of my debt. There are so many ways to gain skills and to increase income. It depends on your experience, qualifications and interests! You can go back to school to get another degree, but you don't have to (depending on industry). You can take courses on Udemy, Skillshare, all over the internet really. What I did was look for mentors/people I admired.. I did this sometimes for different areas in life. Like who … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 07:46 AM |
| 35 | This honestly is super toxic and I cannot believe all the comments are like, “this is true love ❤️❤️❤️” nah sis.This is so irresponsible and reckless. On so many levels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 07:32 AM |
| 13 | It's hard to meet HVW and have fulfilling female friendships.I agree, yes, it is hard to make HVW friends, but I think you are exaggerating a great deal. You are describing a caricature of women. Like most women have nothing better to do (like work, running a household, kids, elder care, the millions of other shit women do) besides be catty with each other. The older women struggling to be kind to younger women-- the vast majority of older women are NOT like that. Yeah some women are disappointing. In general women are way less shitty than men... includin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 09:12 PM |
| 7 | Imagine the audacity of thinking 30k is enough to justify this behavior.She is married to a man-child, and he's going to gaslight and abuse her if she lets him. I agree, but I think he's probably been gaslighting and abusing her for some time now. It's just bizarre how much he is flexing over $30k, childish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 08:58 PM |
| 29 | This is an AD I always see for Hinge (OLD). Hinge is showcasing, encouraging, and promoting LVM behavior. Stay away queens.Yeah, the obvious answer is: we are all fucked, socially and economically, if a vaccine isn't distributed by 2021. I'm more concerned about an economic depression, hyperinflation, millions of homeless, and all kinds of shit. Hopefully life WILL be mostly back to normal by 2021, and you can meet people in real life. If you want to use apps, that is your choice, I'm not trying to push my message like that. Do whatever you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 08:51 PM |
| 109 | Imagine the audacity of thinking 30k is enough to justify this behavior.Same! It's so fucking absurd to think $30k gives you that kind of power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 05:12 PM |
| 32 | LVM takes his date for a walk in the park and proceeds to sh*t himself in the bushes. Karma for organising an awful ‘date’.Yeah exactly, it's not even about him refusing to spend $20 on a lunch entree because "eQuAliTy". It's more like, he knows he has stomach issues, chose this specific park because they had porta pottys and he had diarrhea in one of them last week. You can't have a stomach problem, drink kombucha + coffee with oat milk and rely on a public park porta potty to not shit all over yourself on a date. I mean wtf? Even someone without stomach issues will get diarrhea after drinking both of those togethe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:59 PM |
| 2 | How to leave when you don't have a "good" reason?That's okay! We've all been there, just don't let this guy bring you down, you don't have to fear leaving him. You don't need an excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:30 PM |
| 166 | Imagine the audacity of thinking 30k is enough to justify this behavior.Lol 30k in 2020 is a joke. Also, how can women put up with such humiliation, degradation and abuse from their husbands, when they don't have to? It is 2020, not 1920. No woman has to put up with this. Just divorce him and DON'T take him back after he burns through his 'fortune' in a couple of months, contracts multiple STDs and maybe ends up homeless. I can't imagine her husband is a man with a decent paying job, where he knows how to responsibly save and invest money, even in conservative inves… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:29 PM |
| 207 | Thanks for completely ignoring the history & relevance of IWD to show you’re a “cool chick” 🙄The only thing scrotes love more than a cool girl doormat pickme, is a cool girl doormat pickme who is also kind of dumb-- like not so much that she is a liability or he has to have any responsibility, but enough that he can do whatever he wants to her. So yeah, 30k upvotes from scrotes who think you are a doormat and also very dumb (misspelling equality), but that's what they are into. So congrats? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:06 PM |
| 216 | This is an AD I always see for Hinge (OLD). Hinge is showcasing, encouraging, and promoting LVM behavior. Stay away queens.Lol dating apps are pimps. Their product is women, the customers are men. It sounds grotesque and extremely misanthropic, but dating apps are pimps who don't pay prostitutes a dime (they take 100% of profits they make from collecting and selling your data & collecting male user's subscription fees, also their data) and don't offer any protection against violent johns. You could even end up on the news, after being choked to death by a guy you met on Hinge, who pushed for sex by the 3rd date, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 03:53 PM |
| 5 | How to leave when you don't have a "good" reason?Just tell him we are breaking up, if you want to be nice say we aren't compatible and I don't see a future with you. If you want to be mean tell him you're not attracted to him anymore. In either case, just fucking leave and block him. He's not your husband of 15 years, where you built a life together and have 3 kids with. He's just a university boyfriend. You don't have kids together. Legally, you have nothing to do with each other. You aren't married. Stop letting him manipulate you. You don't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 03:41 PM |
| 44 | Why therapy, self-care, and levelling up emotionally and mentally is so importantSelf-care is really time and energy consuming, if you do it right. Which is a good thing. It's not all about a 20 minute bubble bath. Doing a total body, mind and soul self-care transformation would require you to not have a FT job, no responsibilities or kids/pets/anyone to take care of. Self-care is also not always pleasant, doesn't always make you feel good, when you do the deeper work, you need a lot of time for reflection and to observe your emotions. Years ago I started establishing routin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 03:26 PM |
| 173 | LVM takes his date for a walk in the park and proceeds to sh*t himself in the bushes. Karma for organising an awful ‘date’.He could have used a bathroom, like a human and not a dog shitting in the bushes, if he had organized a date at a restaurant with a bathroom. Even Applebees has toilets. Imagine being so cheap, so demented, so stupid and having such little self-respect, that you do this to yourself? He has known stomach issues + drank kombucha and oat milk on a park date. Also what did he wipe his ass with? And how did no one see him? He got lucky if no one did. Shitting in a public park can result in being clas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 03:05 PM |
| 93 | “Not looking for anything serious”Don't feel devastated. Why do you allow such a meaningless interaction to conjure feelings of devastation? Devastation is for death, divorce and disease, it's not an appropriate or healthy reaction to "not looking for anything serious" from a scrote you went on 1 date with. The trash took itself out! Maybe because he does know you as an acquaintance, he felt guilty and wanted to be upfront. If he met you on a dating app, he would dehumanize you completely, rationalize to himself that you're doin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 04:49 AM |
| 16 | Pickmes are just as toxic as the low quality men they worship and defend.Honestly, I think most younger pickmes have a chance if they don't damage their emotional health too much, if their pickmeism is mostly just an idea, not experiences. Pickmes who are too deep in the rabbit hole... They do not like other women, they hate themselves, so you can't expect genuine friendship from them. They will only ever be a frenemy, a pickme enabler fake friend who wants to drag you down, or if the pickme actually likes you-- you'll end up being a codependent savior for her. Best … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 04:36 AM |
| 63 | Can’t get through to “cool girlfriend” sisterDo you know if your sister has any trauma? This sounds more serious than cool gf. Usually cool gfs your sister's age are just entertaining stupid nonsense from guys their own age. Your sister sounds like she was groomed by older men as a teen, likely before 18. Doubt she started dating a 42 year old on her 18th birthday, this must have been a thing before 18. She sounds like the type that sex traffickers target. I'm sorry, this is more than cool gf. The liking photos thing is obnoxious, the way … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 07:09 AM |
| 4 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:21 AM |
| 3 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!Thank you so much for your kind words. I knoww, the whole thing is so sick and surreal. And she's the type of person that makes you feel so loved, so good, so happy and content, when you are with her. She deserves to have a partner in life who makes her feel the same way. I hope she gets out ASAP too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:44 PM |
| 15 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!He's older than her, don't know his exact age but he was like 34 when she was 27, so he must be around 41 now. I agree, she's not old, and even if she was-- it's better to get rid of him and be at peace. No relationship is much better than a relationship with him. Also the wild part is, she is stunning and gets asked out all the time! She is very charming, not just beautiful, she could easily find someone a gazillion times better than him, but this guy has ruined her self-esteem sadly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:37 PM |
| 31 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!I've tried talking to her sooo many times, I introduced her to FDS but she does not use Reddit and lost interest quickly. I have sent her direct links to posts etc, she does agree with FDS and is happy that other women want better for themselves. She supports the message. She just has this delusional belief that deep down, verrryyy deep down, that her on/off bf is just traumatized and that there is a good and decent person inside. I've even tried to show her articles about narcs, cluster Bs (pre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:14 PM |
| 52 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!You know what “closure” really is, ladies? Closing the door behind you when you walk away. Keep those crowns up. 100% ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:05 PM |
| 24 | I wish I knew of this sub years agoThis sub has only existed since Feb 2019, already has 109k members. Excluding the hate lurkers, I'm pretty sure every genuine woman member of FDS also wished this sub existed years ago. I know I wish it existed! I pieced together FDS type of strategy myself, before FDS existed and before I knew of it's existence. A lot of it is just common sense and women exercising their autonomy and right to self-preservation. I also have single gfs (all of whom I befriended years ago/we grew up together but h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:03 PM |
| 175 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!I have a cousin who has been in an on/off situationship for the past 7 YEARS. They can't spend more than a few weeks together without having a blowout fight. The guy is mentally abusive and gaslights her into couple's therapy, where he makes it into "we have compatibility problems", gets the therapist to blame her 50% while he manipulates the therapist to think he is a victim. They've been off more than on. She is now 34 years old, and has NOTHING to show for this relationship. It's currently lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 04:44 PM |
| 46 | Post all the high-value stuff you have ever experienced from any manMy dad keeps a picture of a car I drew for him almost 30 years ago in his wallet. The paper got so old that it tore in half, and he laminated both pieces together a few years ago. He likes to take it out and show it to people occasionally and is all like "Look what my daughter drew when she was 3". As a kid/teen, I would get embarrassed when he did this, now I think my dad is the sweetest man in the world. As a kid, I was scared to swim (because I had a near drowning incident when I was very you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 04:31 PM |
| 19 | Elisabetta Sirani, a true Queen.❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 02:19 PM |
| 8 | Bumble is a cesspool of LVM...blocked and reported 🤮Scrotes are trying hard as hell to chase away what few real women are left on apps. Enjoy paying money to match with bots, escorts and OnlyFans accounts dipshits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 02:06 PM |
| 31 | Never trust men. Yes he may be "joking", but he is serious. Never live with male roommates.On the day I moved out he pressed his phone number written down on a piece of paper into my hand, lmao. Scrotes are truly something else. LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:28 AM |
| 59 | SCROTES MAD: a taste of their own medicine 😜 💉🩹They expect this male power fantasy, but they end up getting their unwiped asses handed to them. On point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:11 AM |
| 162 | How many red flags can you count? 🚩🚩🚩Poor woman desperately needs FDSWhen the bar is that low, it will be easy to manipulate her again/repeat a love bombing cycle. She needs to leave him for good. Exposing a small child to this man is child neglect, even abuse. The human brain does most of its development before age 5-- her little girl is going to have this blueprint in her mind, that women exist to be masochists and doormats, that men are sadists, that it's totally normal and healthy for a 24 year old to get knocked up by a 46 year old porn-addict alcoholic. I f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 05:51 AM |
| 59 | A man "tried" making a birthday cake for his girlfriend. Pickmeishas in the notes going crazy over the "effort". 🙁This would be okay as a goofy thing to do to make your girlfriend laugh. But yeah, that is a cake made with very very little effort, almost no money and with no love. If you're going to make a handmade gift, you try to put effort into it because that's the whole point. Otherwise, it's just a lazy and cheap gift. No woman can make a half-assed piece of shit 'handmade' gift and have people praise her for it, people would say she is thoughtless and cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 10:50 PM |
| 187 | “iT’s JuST pRimAL” I guess we’re all going against our very nature by not leering at strangers!It's also primal for most men to not pass on their genes, to basically not have sex at all. Scrotes want to use biology/human evolution to excuse cheating, objectifying women, rape, pedophilia, etc, but they can't see that biology/human evolution/mother nature etc is actually not treating them advantageously. It is modern society that has 'allowed' people to live and to pass on their genes, people who in the past would not have done so. Most of these people are men. Also if scrotes want to compa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 02:05 PM |
| 7 | OLD is a lawless wasteland. What kind of "man" who apparently has their sh#t together would even joke about that? Sweetie you're not a good guy you're abusive trash. Next.He's either trolling and/or searching for his next victim. Which describes most men on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 01:14 PM |
| 8 | Sounds like a winnerI don't get what kind of reaction she was expecting from making this post? Did she want affirmation that she wasn't alone, or did she want validation that what she is doing is admirable and a lot of people's #relationshipgoals? She comes off at best as a clingy woman who won't let a man shit in peace, at worst as a woman with a scat fetish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:53 AM |
| 15 | Sounds like a winnerWhile he's shaving his face, she should change her tampon on day 1 or 2 of her period, a super tampon that is overflowing, looking like a small dead bloody mouse, with chunks on it. Leave the tampon on the counter next to his trimmer. It still doesn't smell anywhere near as bad as an adult man shit. I'm sure he would be totally cool with it, and it would be a similar bonding/intimacy experience as him taking a shit while she's doing her nails. /s That's how you know it's real, when you're puttin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:41 AM |
| 3 | The Onion nails it again: "Man Feels Like Girlfriend Hasn't Been Putting Effort into His Appearance Lately."On point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 08:38 AM |
| 39 | Quick question - Can you tell me your stories of meeting your first HVM in the wild? (I'm in disbelief I might have found one?)I met him as an acquaintance... he was handsome but I didn't feel sparks or anything. We got to know each other as friends in group settings. He never fucked up as an acquaintance/casual friend-- never made a backhanded comment, never acted like a creep, was always consistent, said what he meant and did what he said, was transparent and expressed his interest and feelings. This went on for 2 months. We dated, he saw it as courting, he was high effort in dates and was not resentful about that, in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 08:10 AM |
| 5 | This ain't prose..it's a cry for help.. Don't write that book sis.You're in a great high school! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 01:08 PM |
| 1 | This ain't prose..it's a cry for help.. Don't write that book sis.That's amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 01:07 PM |
| 6 | This ain't prose..it's a cry for help.. Don't write that book sis.I agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:12 PM |
| 8 | This ain't prose..it's a cry for help.. Don't write that book sis.Ideally parents would model healthy boundaries, self-esteem and relationships, and also talk to their kids about psychology, social skills, self-defense. But that's not the world we live in. So the next best thing is taxpayers funding these programs in public schools. I would be excited as fuck to pay more taxes to fund these programs. I'm sure that's not a popular opinion, people would probably not support this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:04 PM |
| 16 | This ain't prose..it's a cry for help.. Don't write that book sis.I'm also in my 30s. My high school had a girl's-only rape prevention/self-defense type of class but it was a one-time thing, for one day only, replacing 1 regular class we had. Like rape prevention and self defense is something that can be covered in under 1 hour, but at least we had the class. They just talked about avoiding rapists in a white van, cryptically saying your rapist is likely to be someone you know but not going into detail about that, going to college & getting roofied at a party … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 05:52 PM |
| 127 | This ain't prose..it's a cry for help.. Don't write that book sis.That isn't love. That is trauma bonding. I was thinking the other day, that tween and teen girls need self-defense psychology classes in middle school and high school. If more girls learned about gaslighting, trauma bonding, about how predators target, groom and psychologically break down their 'prey'-- so much violence (including emotional violence) against women would be prevented. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 02:47 PM |
| 342 | I felt this in my soul."YoU caN'T GeT a MaN" is like saying "You can't catch a bus, even though the buses come every 3 minutes 24/7." If you "miss" a bus there is another coming in 3 minutes. Trouble is, half of the buses are death traps, more than half have a salvage title and 90% can't pass inspection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Check on a Pick Me Friend TodayOmg, the last two, in that order. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:19 AM |
| 14 | The irony of this post is that the comments are full of people saying that they had experienced abuse and were using BDSM as a coping mechanism. The lack of self awareness and denialism within the kink community is just astounding.Sexual trauma + reduced grey matter in the brain from habitual, long-term, sometimes obsessive porn use + actually doing the shit they see in hardcore porn, with sadistic psychopathic men who enjoy torturing and humiliating women for their sexual pleasure. I mean, what could go wrong? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 02:37 PM |
| 5 | A man who is into you will make firm plans when it comes to being around you and take initiative. “You can come if you want” is not it.This too. I have to say that it is a good screening strategy for scrotes-- they can quickly suss out women with low standards/low self-preservation. The dating culture at large also encourages this and aggressively portrays it as innocuous. "i doN'T wAnT tO wAsTE tImE taLkIng foR weEks or MoNths" sounds like "i'm a busy, focused, decisive adult looking for a relationship with a compatible person" but it's really "I'm looking for a hole, and I will pressure women into meeting me, I do not care if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 08:52 AM |
| 120 | Take noteDon't we all agree with this, yes or yes? Be ruthless in your actions, but don't explain yourself, unless you want to get death threats from scrotes and pickmes. You don't have to be cruel and unkind, just expect reciprocity, it goes a long way. Stop trying to explain yourself to unworthy people, and definitely stop trying to explain unworthy people's behavior and choices to yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 08:44 AM |
| 28 | We need to stop normalizing the 'men are indecisive' narrativeTrue. I was once watching a Gene Kelly movie with my husband, and I made a comment about Gene Kelly falling in love with a woman in a few days. My husband smiled and was like "That was me when we first met". They know if they're into you or not, they fall in love fast, they want to put a ring on it when they find the woman they really want. Marriage benefits men, women are just socially pressured and brainwashed to value it, to value it so much that they wait around for several years, coerce/pre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 08:29 AM |
| 39 | "the dating market" is like a nature documentary about pickmeishas and LVM scrambling to prove themselves as the most mateable. You don't have to participate in "the dating market" while you look for a quality relationship100%. Reject mainstream dating culture, stay off of apps. If you want to make friends and/or date, cultivate and maintain social hobbies, move areas if you need to or want to. I know this is difficult with coronavirus right now, so use this time to level up, to educate yourself, to get fit, read books, learn a skill, etc. As soon as you can, expand your social network, make quality acquaintances and friends. I am in a happy marriage now, but I regret the time and energy I wasted, the risks I too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 08:15 AM |
| 77 | I haven’t used OLD in forever, and this was literally my first experience. “I’m an empath so I feel things more than you” is a massive red flag. What I hear is “I can be as insensitive to you as I please, but don’t you DARE have feelings around me because only my feefees are important”.I hate the word 'empath'. When women use that word to describe themselves, I just think they have issues where they attract narcs and predators, like it is a cycle with them and they can't see the patterns, the common denominator. Some seem co-dependent, they romanticize the abusive relationships they get involved in. Even if you feel like you're an "empath", don't describe yourself that way publicly, because 1) regular people don't care/think the term is bullshit and 2) the only people who care… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 04:51 AM |
| 71 | "You get what you tolerate" - Evy Poumpouras, Former Secret Service Agent on Standing up for YourselfIt's true. Being 'nice', a people a pleaser, being naive, ignoring self-preservation instinct, not expecting reciprocity from adults, making excuses for people etc-- will put you in a cycle where everyone in your life treats you like ass. Not just men, but everyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 04:43 AM |
| 68 | A man who is into you will make firm plans when it comes to being around you and take initiative. “You can come if you want” is not it.I think safety issues are more important. Men who have this attitude of minimizing or denying how much more dangerous dating is for women, are to be avoided. Decent men (not even saying HVM) understand that the world is more dangerous for women, and they definitely know dating is more dangerous than everyday life, and they know online dating is the most dangerous for women. Men who say stuff like "come over if you want", if they try to get you somewhere private quickly, men who try to go on park… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 08:55 AM |
| 25 | LibFem Twitter is at it again. WTF is “Sexual Mutual Aid”? Notice how quickly the Incels jumped into the fray to spin this idea into a way to punish women who won’t have sex with them🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️Libfems have gone from insufferable privileged women to terrifying unhinged lunatics. How the fuck are you a 'feminist' when an incel agrees with you? So in their "selfless service", will they require all women to perform sexual services, including upper middle class/upper class white women? Will it be like a sex tax, that women have to pay, in order to be allowed to exist? Or will they have a communal woman of minority and/or lower class background, to perform these sexual services for the over… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 08:18 AM |
| 30 | This kind of shit is propaganda to make women feel like promiscuity is empowering. The truth is that being selective and waiting a long time with my sexual partners is the most empowered I’ve ever felt sexually.Aka be a dancing monkey for pornsick men. So empowering. /s Here is a good way to quickly cut through the bullshit of liberal "feminism"-- would you give this advice to a girl or young woman? Would you tell your 14 year old niece to make porn and be a slut, because it's so eMpoWeRiNg? Real feminism-- inspiring your niece to get an education, take a self-defense class, learn to be assertive, learn life skills, learn about finances and investments, learn critical thinking skills, learn about psych… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Older men who date younger women admit they’d date teens as young as 16 and that their attraction progressively fades with age. It’s never a good idea to date much older men. It’s doomed to fail once you age out of his preference.So true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 06:17 AM |
| 64 | FDS is NOT about manipulating men into getting into a relationship they don’t want toStrategy after strategy post outlines, in great detail, how you can avoid getting into relationships with low value men. Which is most men. They have this idea that women are desperate to be in relationships with them. No girl even matches with you or responds to your texts lol, get a grip asshats. No one believes your clown universe bullshit. And they know-- the only types of women who are desperate to get into a relationship with any man with 2 arms and 2 legs-- are not the ones they want. Mal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 01:43 PM |
| 36 | Older men who date younger women admit they’d date teens as young as 16 and that their attraction progressively fades with age. It’s never a good idea to date much older men. It’s doomed to fail once you age out of his preference."Date" implies reciprocity, yet how many 16 year old girls have photos of silver foxes on their bedroom walls, let alone photos of old nasty men. By "date" they mean coerce, manipulate, groom, find a young girl with a history of trauma and brainwash her, pay for an underage sex worker, watch underage porn, purchase an underage mail order bride, live in a country where women have no rights etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 01:23 PM |
| 14 | The myth of the “honeymoon phase” 🙃Thank you! I've gotten used to sanity and health in all of my relationships, I had to cut out or grey rock a number of friends and family to protect my headspace. I met my husband after I did that work, of letting go of toxic people I already knew, some of them I've known most/all of my life. So by the time I met him, I already had a system to protect myself and to expand my social circle with healthy, inspiring, loving people. I'm just so used to people acting sane, considerate and respectful n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 01:12 PM |
| 5 | I started making lunchboxes. I always wanted to and couldn' wait to have a partner/children, so I can express my love this way. Just recently I realized that I already have a loved one, that I can make food for! (And who will always appreciate it) It's silly but it never came to my head before :DWow! Amazing self-care and self-love. Your lunchboxes are so cute, healthy and packed with love. This is inspiring me to put more thought, detail and love into my meal prep lunches. I meal prep for lunch 7 days/week but my lunchboxes look like crap compared to this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:59 AM |
| 45 | What in the PiCk Me I’M a CoOL GirL Hell is this????!!!How many women are pushing aside athletic muscular men with abs, in favor of doughy men with man tits? Maybe on opposite day? Also, if a man has a dad bod at 25 or 35, what do you expect him too look like at 45 and 55? He's going to look like Jabba the Hutt before age 50. It's concerning in general when people let themselves go at a young age, but what excuse do young men have to be fat? They have the most testosterone and muscle tone of any group of people, they do not get periods or get pregna… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:36 AM |
| 56 | The myth of the “honeymoon phase” 🙃I've been with my husband for 2.5 years, we're still in the 'honeymoon phase'. It's not as gooey gaga as it was the 1st year, but we are still super affectionate, romantic, have a great sex life. We've had 2 or 3 fights in 2.5 years, 'fights' as in arguments, we would make up within a few hours each time. Yes, it's a myth. A stable relationship shouldn't do a 180 like that. The initial gooey feelings get less intense as you get used to your partner, but a more stable deeper love also starts buil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:24 AM |
| 12 | A coffee date is ________A great dating strategy/date idea for scrotes looking to zero in on women with low standards and low self-esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:18 AM |
| 75 | Great article on the problem with men today... emotionally distant fathers who are not teaching their sons how to be menActually being a parent and not just a sperm donor is hard. Parenting a child everyday, teaching them how to be a person, teaching them good habits, nurturing them, protecting them, etc all takes up huge amounts of time and energy. LVM don't like to do hard things. That, and how can they teach a child something that they themselves do not know? They don't know how to be a man themselves. Articles like this make it sound like men are victims, and like they do not consciously choose to be lazy and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 02:51 PM |
| 11 | Woman gets negged by her husband and is wondering if she’s overreacting for being upset.Fat men are the worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:57 PM |
| 6 | How LVM think we resonate about dinner datesYeah exactly, scorned men and their petty sob stories , they are always so so so important, way more important than any woman's rape story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:54 PM |
| 18 | How LVM think we resonate about dinner datesYeah, because house dates, car dates and rapey park dates are "dating for love". Men making effort planning dates and paying for dates, reduces women's risks in dating, and allows women to focus on dating with their interests in mind. Requiring men to make effort and to pay for dates, filters out huge amounts of shitty men, and gives you time and energy to focus on actually, you know, dating. When women fall for this shit, of accepting insultingly low effort cheap dates, their time/energy/money … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:36 PM |
| 5 | Loser is discussing babies in first messages..smhHe wants you to "convince" him that your self-esteem is low enough to continue talking to him after that message. He knows that if you write some kind of "teehee" comment that he's good to go to treat you like dogshit after that. He's looking for a victim. The audacity... wow, you have to "convince" him that you want to risk your life to have kids for him, that you think his rancid deformed sperm is a prize? Like he's your last option, if you want kids. Does he at least have the 6 pack, the fit … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Tips for my OLD bio to ward off LVM seeking hook ups..?The chance of meeting a HVM on dating apps is miniscule. The chance of experiencing bodily harm or emotional trauma is very high, probable if the woman on apps is naive or impatient. Writing a profile to attract HVM helps a bit, it improves your odds of something that is extremely unlikely. But it does nothing to protect OP from the LVM who will lie, manipulate and use information in her profile against her. The intent of my post is to warn OP (and readers in her position) to never drop their gu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 03:31 PM |
| 4 | Tips for my OLD bio to ward off LVM seeking hook ups..?Most men on apps aren't going to read your profile. Or if they do read it, they won't care. They don't think you are a human being. Apps are like playing the lottery, there is no technique to scratch off tickets to increase your chance of winning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 03:13 PM |
| 14 | That's why I don't have casual sexTrue true, I think a lot of women feel this way but refrain from outright saying casual sex is bad and dangerous because they don't want to be accused of slut shaming other women. So the women who engage in casual sex, frequently do so blindly, because all they ever hear/are allowed to hear, is how great casual sex is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:55 AM |
| 78 | That's why I don't have casual sexCasual sex is not so casual when it comes with the risk of unwanted pregnancy, STDS, rape, sexual trauma, emotional trauma, cancer from HPV, homicide and ending up on YouPorn without your consent. Also casual sex is overwhelmingly unsatisfying for most women. Don't let scrotes and pickmes brainwash or bully you into accepting that casual sex is casual, or that it it is a 50/50 arrangement with 50/50 benefits and risks for both genders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 11:51 PM |
| 41 | I just removed myself from a childfree group because of scrotes and pickmes and I really need to rant.Yeah, childfree communities have very venomous vitriol against mothers, they feel they have a license to degrade, humiliate and dehumanize mothers. They roast fathers too but that's just it, they just roast them and ridicule them. The hate, contempt and vitriol is just not there for men, even when fathers are collectively more irresponsible and selfish than mothers are. Childfree communities have a huge misogyny problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:18 AM |
| 268 | Just a rant about comments on makeupA few possibilities... - He is making these comments without thinking, because he is socially obtuse and has low empathy. - He is making these comments intentionally, because he wants to make you feel insecure and like you wear a lot of makeup because you are not naturally beautiful. - He is making these comments intentionally, because he is insecure, knows you are naturally beautiful and wants you to downplay your looks by not wearing makeup. Other things... How were his clothes "covered" in ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 10:33 AM |
| 5 | Yesterday the California governor signed a law that gives judges discretion on labeling pedophiles as sex offenders. California is literally on fire and this is what the government is focused on. They stop at nothing to normalize pedophilia.Yeah, I wouldn't be quick to defend this guy without looking him up first. Both of these bills are grotesque, this man is grotesque. Doesn't even matter what his politics are, evil is evil. It's depressing how quick people are to defend this man/those like him, allowing legislation like SB-145 and SB-239 to pass either unnoticed or unquestioned, because they are too busy being reactionaries to the right wing. Imagine if a right wing senator or governor made it that much easier for people to purp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 09:46 AM |
| 5 | Yesterday the California governor signed a law that gives judges discretion on labeling pedophiles as sex offenders. California is literally on fire and this is what the government is focused on. They stop at nothing to normalize pedophilia.The same senator who introduced this bill, Scott Wiener, co-authored a bill in 2017, SB 239, which lowers the penalty of knowingly exposing someone to HIV without their consent, from a felony to a misdemeanor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 05:14 AM |
| 15 | Yesterday the California governor signed a law that gives judges discretion on labeling pedophiles as sex offenders. California is literally on fire and this is what the government is focused on. They stop at nothing to normalize pedophilia.I'm not even a conservative, but wow, California is a damn cesspool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:39 PM |
| 124 | Not only polyamorous, but also wants to bring down capitalism and patriarchy! Wow, so amaze, such woke.He's hoping to find some woke libfem pickme side chick with this crap, probably wants to choke her too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 11:07 AM |
| 7 | My friend and her bf bought a house and they’re moving in together only after a year together. This is her first real relationship I think. I’m trying not to be judgy but I need to respond to her so what do I say.. lolA year probably isn't enough time to get know someone well enough to move in with them, but it sounds like you don't know your friend well enough (anymore) either. Not trying to be the devil's advocate here, but do you still know your friend? You said she started acting standoffish when she first started dating her boyfriend. How much do you know about her or her relationship? Don't ruminate about your friend and her life choices, it's literally none of your business. It's better to focus on you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 09:20 AM |
| 156 | FDS is anti polyamoryThere is a reason old rancid men choose a very specific version of polyamory when they run their cults-- polygyny. Polyamory is a joke. It doesn't work, and only draws attention to how significant male/female sexual behavioral differences are. Poly women have tons of choices, poly men have to hire prostitutes, or they have to lie about their relationship status, or they have to hunt down vulnerable/traumatized women and brainwash them into accepting polyamory. The reality is that there aren't ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 11:08 PM |
| 3 | I think the Netflix Cuties movie may have just ended my relationship.THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:59 PM |
| 8 | I think the Netflix Cuties movie may have just ended my relationship.He should still have the tact to understand that discussions about matters like this are NOT the time to turn his debate team mindset on, especially with a girlfriend. Derailing discussions about disturbing and very serious issues by being a pseudo-intellectual debate team devil's advocate twat is not how you win friends and influence people, or how you keep a good girlfriend. I don't know you or your relationship, but I feel like you deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:54 PM |
| 9 | I think the Netflix Cuties movie may have just ended my relationship.Seriously, who thinks this trash is an intellectual pursuit? Imagine being that far up your own ass? You might pass out from the smell of your own farts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:39 AM |
| 16 | I think the Netflix Cuties movie may have just ended my relationship.Exactly. The concept of the film and what it aims to communicate is moot if the film relies on sensationalistic sick pandering to pedophiles in order to be marketed, seen or talked about. The fact of the matter is that those involved in this movie, all okayed casting 11 year old girls to spread their legs and twerk on camera, they all okayed hiring cinematographers to catch crotch angles and close-ups of this. Was there not another way of criticizing the sexualization of children? Yeah, sexualiz… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:23 AM |
| 15 | I think the Netflix Cuties movie may have just ended my relationship."The execution was very jarring and shocking. However I think this was the intention of the director." In 2020, aren't we past the point of things being shocking? What can actually shock people anymore? Is there not a thought-provoking way of making a movie criticizing the sexualization of children without making wanking material for pedophiles? The director is a hack. At best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:10 AM |
| 73 | I think the Netflix Cuties movie may have just ended my relationship.Your boyfriend is either a pedophile/pedophile sympathizer, or he is one of those insufferable low EQ types who drive people away because they think every discussion is a high school debate club argument. He argued with you? Argued about what? That men won't be masturbating to this content? Or did he just ignore that and rail on pedantically about what is porn and what is not porn. Great way to avoid addressing the reality that men will be masturbating to those images, as you said. Does he not h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:38 AM |
| 45 | Late Date. Do you wait or leave?Showing up late is a common 'abuse test'. Think about it from a scrote's point of view-- if a woman sticks around after he shows up late, she's a good candidate for future disrespect and bad behavior. Being late and changing plans last minute are both very common abuse tests. They choose these methods because they seem plausible... there was traffic/insert another excuse, I'm busy and have a social life (changing plans last minute). It all seems plausible and almost innocent, but it almost never… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:35 AM |
| 22 | How do you get queen energy/become HV yourself and receive better treatment when you never got it before?Are you meeting on dating apps? Most men on apps are LVM/NVM, and they treat all women this way. It's a race to the bottom, men are looking for easy pickings on apps. In real life... make sure you have good posture, pay attention to how you speak, pay attention to your words and choose what you say carefully, listen even more carefully, read between the lines (especially when talking to men). Trust your gut, have a value system set in stone (this will ensure your boundaries are not crossed), exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:04 AM |
| 13 | How can I level up as someone with severe depression and PTSD?It sounds like you are already leveling up in several areas of your life. Don't be too hard on yourself, you're only 22 and already have more awareness and drive than people 2x-3x your age, who are still in denial and have little to no drive to level up. Most of my 20s sucked, in terms of my mental health, emotional regulation, self-discipline, trying to figure out myself and my values. It only started to get better after 27/28, and I feel like my life just truly began at 30. My early 20s in par… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 07:50 AM |
| 5 | I don’t get why women like Pam from the The Office, what about Jan or even PhyllisYou nailed it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:52 PM |
| 28 | I thought Tinder and Bumble were dating apps? Sorry I don’t want to be your free call girl.A LOT of men think women who "resort" to using apps are desperate, defective, have deep-seated character or personality defects that prevent them from finding a relationship in real life. They go on apps to find easy pickings. Their "LoL itS a HoOkUp aPp bItcH" mentality runs deep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:15 AM |
| 45 | I don’t get why women like Pam from the The Office, what about Jan or even PhyllisPam is the least interesting, most basic, most pickme female character on the show. I can't stand Jim-Pam. I couldn't get into The Office because the show pushed Jim-Pam way too hard. The other characters are great... Creed, Angela, Dwight, even Dwight's weird cousin is funnier and more interesting than Jim and Pam. I think people who love Jim-Pam are just basic and superficial. They like Jim-Pam because they identify with their boring bland personalities & because Jim-Pam are the most conventio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:05 AM |
| 24 | I mentioned the steps I’m taking to invest in real estate in the near future with my SO. Interestingly he began using “we/us” pronouns surrounding the decisions that will be made with my money.I'm getting angry for you. You're a successful woman and this gold digging manipulative sketchball thinks he is pulling a fast one on you. I don't know your relationship but it's hard to imagine what he could offer that could make up for this. He showed his true colors. He probably wants to move into your house, continue being a broke boi, eat your food, have you raise his kids thinking he is doing you a favor by calling all of this "we". He might be worse-- sounds like he is trying to take your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 04:01 AM |
| 20 | Has it always been this way?A lot of men just think it's acceptable to let themselves go at a very young age, dress like a slob, never practice any type of skincare ever, have poor hygiene, age very poorly due to bad habits etc and women should just be attracted to that because we supposedly aren't visual. If the average man put in 10% of the work that a conventionally attractive woman puts into her appearance, most of them wouldn't be eyesores. They aren't born ugly, they make themselves ugly, inside and out, with their l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 09:26 AM |
| 273 | Happy to see men realising porn is negatively affecting their relationshipsYeah, they only think it's a problem when porn breaks their dicks and they can't get hard at the age of 30. Imagine being a man, consumed by porn for so many years, maybe during developmental years also, and you suddenly have a grotesque epiphany that porn is bad when it finally breaks your dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 11:16 AM |
| 9 | Why are European men SO INTENSE?This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 11:08 AM |
| 16 | When is it okay to hang out at a guy's house?It's up to you. At the end of the day, it's a question of "How likely is it that this guy will rape me or murder me" Most likely that won't happen but this dude isn't asking you to his house to see his dog lol. He's just using his dog as bait to get in your pants. Also don't expect to go on any real dates after you set foot in his house. 1 month isn't that long. Most men would probably consider it the beginning of a sexual conquest, if they managed to get a woman in their house after 1 month. A … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 09:40 AM |
| 82 | Why are European men SO INTENSE?I'm Eastern European and strongly advise that you avoid Eastern European men. There are a few gems amongst them but they are few and far between. The gem ones are almost always taken by a woman from their own culture. The chance of a woman outside their culture randomly finding a diamond in the rough is extremely small. This is obviously anecdotal evidence but I've seen this scenario play out dozens of times. All of my cousins and friends from my background have seen it dozens of times as well a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 09:21 AM |
| 3 | Dummy Wants Us To All Make Her Same Sexual Mistakes by 30. But seriously, why does every single female sex columnist sound vapid, attention seeking, and like her self esteem is too cripplingly low to be doing this job?I'm beyond disgusted and horrified by this but not at all surprised. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 09:11 AM |
| 11 | Dummy Wants Us To All Make Her Same Sexual Mistakes by 30. But seriously, why does every single female sex columnist sound vapid, attention seeking, and like her self esteem is too cripplingly low to be doing this job?This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:50 AM |
| 146 | Dummy Wants Us To All Make Her Same Sexual Mistakes by 30. But seriously, why does every single female sex columnist sound vapid, attention seeking, and like her self esteem is too cripplingly low to be doing this job?Is this for real? I can't tell anymore. Female sex columnists try to act like they are some kind of expert on sex, when they have little to no grip on their authentic sexuality. They just do dog tricks for men in an attempt to re-enact what they see in porn. Cancer from HPV? *That's fake news!* Antibiotic resistant gonorrhea? *that doesn't really exist* Men murdering women and trying to cover it up by saying they had rough sex *crickets* Prolapsed anus from anal sex *more fake news* Sexual traum… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:09 AM |
| 94 | Something I got from The FDS Instagram page. How true is this? I’ve just realised why sex was so good with my NVM! because he had starved me for affection otherwise- literally! No hugs or kisses only in the bedroom and that’s exactly why it felt good.There is a difference between being dickmatized and having actually good sex. Just my opinions. Dickmatized-- This is trauma bonding through "good sex" with a bad partner. How can a person who is bad to you be good at sex? This can only happen if you disassociate on some level, if you have some cognitive dissonance.. basically when those trauma bonds have already been set into motion. The sex just strengthens the trauma bonds, especially if the guy pushes for BDSM or whatever. Actually good sex-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 06:58 AM |
| 13 | Carmela Soprono should be #1 in the hall of shame. Sat idly by and blinded herself with jewelry and expensive gifts while her husband, Mafia boss Tony Soprono has COUNTLESS affairs. But even tho Tony was a serial cheater he was a “good dad” when he was NEVER home unless to shit, shower, or sleep.Ahh Sopranos! In Sopranos, women had a few options--be an evil mastermind grandma matriarch controlling the mob secretly through men, be a pickme wife or be a goomah... Meadow's character was interesting in that she had the potential to be the 1st generation to choose something different for herself. Carmela was a pickme in a general sense, but I think she wanted something much better for her daughter, and she tried to be a good mom. Every single character on that show was so well written. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 06:27 AM |
| 8 | Don't doubt your instincts, even when people around you try to make you doubt yourself.Yeah, he specifically said he noticed her at that party, 10 years ago. No mention of social media or seeing her anywhere else. He knows her age, but the aunt might not. Maybe she thought she was older and didn't realize that she was only 13 back then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:19 PM |
| 9 | Don't doubt your instincts, even when people around you try to make you doubt yourself.For real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:44 PM |
| 4 | Commitment Phobia: the basis for the emotionally stunted and toxic abusers?Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:36 PM |
| 5 | Commitment Phobia: the basis for the emotionally stunted and toxic abusers?❤️ 🧡 💛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:36 PM |
| 90 | A post on the ‘seduction’ sub, please don’t get ‘seduced’ by a $3 drink ladiesHe's probably lying about how many women he sees, but yeah, I agree. If people must date at this time, they should at least be sensible about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 10:59 AM |
| 27 | Don't doubt your instincts, even when people around you try to make you doubt yourself.I'm shocked by his family's audacity too, they really must be desperate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 10:57 AM |
| 309 | A post on the ‘seduction’ sub, please don’t get ‘seduced’ by a $3 drink ladiesYeah, if anyone here is on the fence about coffee dates, just look at this. This is exactly why men push for coffee dates. They know it's not a real date. They suss out women with low self-esteem by targeting ones who will accept a coffee date to begin with, and from there, it's a numbers game. Their biggest concern (as seen in this example) is that you won't be drunk and they can't take advantage of you as easily as they could after you've had a few drinks. Men reveal who they are, they show th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:07 AM |
| 12 | My sister just got this exciting dude, he asked her on a date and then decided to switch up on her???Yeah, when I wrote my comment I didn't look at all 4 pics, so I missed that. Just wow. The audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:53 AM |
| 26 | Commitment Phobia: the basis for the emotionally stunted and toxic abusers?No such thing as "commitment-phobic", they are just manipulators. Manipulators also lie to themselves, after some time, they believe their own bullshit. So you'll have men in therapy talking about how they are commitment-phobic, when the truth is that they are just unethical dishonest people who find themselves in therapy when at some point, their backs are up against the wall. It's easier to blame your shitty personality on a label vs accepting the truth that you're responsible for the person t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:08 AM |
| 110 | My sister just got this exciting dude, he asked her on a date and then decided to switch up on her???If he's that concerned about coronavirus (if he's vulnerable, or in contact with someone vulnerable), he shouldn't be dating at all. He's trying to gaslight your sister into meeting him in a private place by using coronavirus as an excuse to shut down her suggestions for meeting in public. Again, if he's that concerned, he should not be dating at all. Young women with healthy immune systems are FAR more likely to get hurt by meeting random men in private places than from coronavirus. He is a man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 07:54 AM |
| 34 | Pickme's gonna pickme. "Your feminism isnt inter sectional enough". Do these pickmeisha's even know what feminism truly means? Feminism incorporates the position that societies prioritize the male point of view, and that women are treated unjustly within those societies.It's never too late to get a library card and to learn the history of feminism! It's never too late to learn that feminism is more than an Instagram hashtag that you use as a device to superficially give yourself self-esteem for "woke points". It's never too late to develop critical thinking skills, to think bigger, to be able to hold more than 2 conflicting thoughts in your head, be able to analyze them and come to a rational conclusion. It's all possible with practice-- your head won't explode… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 11:55 PM |
| 31 | What do you do when a man is late?I've been hearing about this a lot lately. Are these OLD dates? I'm convinced a lot of these men are doing this on purpose, they are running their abuse tests on women when they show up late/change plans last minute etc. They figure that if you stick around after that, that you're good to go for whatever other abuse they throw at you. And they don't lose anything in the process-- if you end up having self-respect and tell them to fuck off, they didn't even have to bother leaving their house or m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 04:32 PM |
| 9 | The real reason FDS pisses people off so muchTerrific comment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 04:16 PM |
| 4 | When men ask about your pet peeve? How would you answerYeah, most guys have a shitty sense of humor and no wit, guys who are natural comics have a huge edge over unfunny bland boring men. It's tempting to like them and trust them too fast because they're funny, but vet them too. I've never actually dated a natural comic type but I've talked to men who thought they were funny. When they'd give me joke answers to evade questions I immediately wrote them off. Not going to be lied to AND have to pretend like you're funny when you're not lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 12:20 PM |
| 35 | The lies we are toldThis is like men chastising women for getting tattoos, or dying their hair primary colors. Women aren't public property where they should consider your opinions on their appearance. If you personally don't like x or y look that's fine, but who the fuck are you to tell women how to color/style their hair and how to look in order to get your dick? Your dick is of no value and hardly any woman wants it, you have to trick or coerce or pay a woman to be interested in most cases. I don't like fat men … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:37 AM |
| 42 | Where have all the good women gone? Scrote with ex issues laments that he only meets women with ex issues.He's 34 years old and probably can't attract younger women and he doesn't have the money/desire to be a sugar daddy. Good women his own age are either already in decent/good relationships, they are single moms focusing on their kids after being burned by men or they are inaccessible because women his own age have smartened up and he can't pass their screening. That only leaves women with a lot of mental/emotional problems, who have never learned self-preservation or how to make good decisions. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:21 AM |
| 19 | Vetting strategy: How to read between the lines, use power of deduction to read motivations/possibilities and how to make educated guesses.This too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:12 AM |
| 56 | Vetting strategy: How to read between the lines, use power of deduction to read motivations/possibilities and how to make educated guesses.The really sick part about the way men think about/view women is how much contempt they have for you when you "pass" their abuse tests. Women are conditioned to give men the benefit of the doubt, and when you do, men have even more scorn and contempt for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:11 AM |
| 23 | When men ask about your pet peeve? How would you answerJust give them some bullshit answer, it doesn't matter. Just say you don't like rude or unkind people, give them a very very general answer. Then ask them the same question, and ask 2-3 more. For every 1 question a guy asks you, ask him 2 or 3. The person ASKING the questions is the one who has the power... they are the ones setting the tone, analyzing the other person, getting information, creating a profile of the person's weaknesses. But don't ask him aggressive or off putting sounding questi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 08:38 AM |
| 3 | "My fiancé infantilizes me and is generally unsympathetic towards my issues. Also, we have two kids together and we aren't married."Same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:44 AM |
| 23 | "My fiancé infantilizes me and is generally unsympathetic towards my issues. Also, we have two kids together and we aren't married."It's not that he's more intelligent, he just has more energy because he's not dealing with caring for a toddler and an infant all day. If he was doing even 20% of the work, he wouldn't have the energy to want to have smarmy debates. Anyone who has ever cared for an infant + toddler at the same time knows how hard it is, you just don't give a fuck about debating about faux intellectual shit when you finally have 5-10 minutes to breathe. He also did not just give birth 7 months ago. Pregnancy caus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:19 AM |
| 45 | What does FDS think of Dita Von Teese ?I think she is a really good businesswoman. She is really good at marketing herself and her aesthetic. I don't think she is really doing anything noble or brave but I respect her for being a creative businesswoman who plays her cards right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 12:39 PM |
| 3 | How do you work on feelings of inadequacy? Need advice! Honestly you just need to reframe your mind and change your thinking. You're asking how do you work on feelings of inadequacy, you are NOT inadequate. Your job and credit score can change, things are just things, even the vast majority of jobs are just jobs. You are internalizing inadequacy for changeable factors that you have control over. And you are idealizing a man you barely know just because he's a nurse and probably owns a headboard. That mentality is not rational or serving you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 03:43 PM |
| 21 | My LV husband impregnated my daughter 🤡 Watch out ladies, never let a LVM around your kids.Yeah, Reddit is 70% male, misogynistic, nurtures incels, does not ban or take down subs that promote the rape, abuse and torture of women, fosters pedophiles. This is a platform with subs like rapekink, degradedfemales, degradingholes, putinherplace and inbreeding, to name a few. But they take down Gender Critical because the women there said some unflattering things about patriarchy. I definitely don't believe everything I read on here, especially on relationship subs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 03:22 PM |
| 19 | My LV husband impregnated my daughter 🤡 Watch out ladies, never let a LVM around your kids.Thanks. It took years of practice/observation. But in general, if you see information somewhere, especially if that information is trying to get you invested somehow, ask yourself what motive does this person or group have. To fact check who they are and fact check their motives. It's really easy with men and with advertisers-- men want your body and advertisers want your money. Sometimes it's not that simple, and a lot of the times people don't have good or concrete motives for what they do, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 02:27 PM |
| 66 | My LV husband impregnated my daughter 🤡 Watch out ladies, never let a LVM around your kids.Yeah the breeding fetish undertones are really strong. The whole thing sounds like a male revenge fantasy/porn fantasy. Another thing that sounds off-- the daughter confessing at the breakfast table. Lol. So many families don't even have dinner together anymore, whatever incel wrote this was conjuring some Leave it to Beaver family dynamic fantasy. As if a woman would be this obtuse in her own home, especially if she is spending ANY time at all with her family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 02:20 PM |
| 32 | My LV husband impregnated my daughter 🤡 Watch out ladies, never let a LVM around your kids.I know that there are fucked up people in real life and fucked up situations do happen, but Reddit doesn't represent huge portions of society. So any crazy story that isn't written from the perspective of a young male (most of Reddit users), that sounds "off", I just assume is fake. Especially when these posts seek to degrade, ridicule or dehumanize women. The type of pickme moms who blame their daughters for "stealing my man" are usually older women with mental illness or a personality disorder… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 02:03 PM |
| 28 | There is so much wrong in this one post. I’m not even sure if this is a real person or a troll.🤢RPW is full of "women" with scrotums. Maybe not all but a lot of them. Whenever you see some ridiculous post there written by a so-called "woman", imagine incels posing as women jerking off to each other's posts, thinking the other posters are actually women. Not that tradwives don't exist, they certainly do, but the cartoonish absurdity of RPW is 100% male. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 01:45 PM |
| 57 | LVM Manipulation Caught Just in TimeMy emotionally abusive ex once told me my breath smelled bad, and it did. I can't remember, but I think I was on some keto diet. But even he backtracked after saying it and said "But I know mine smells even worse, my mouth smells like shit all the time" Telling a woman she smells bad is really offensive, even the most pickme woman will have murder in her eyes after you say that. I have a hard time believing any woman will go that far to prove how clean she is to a man who tells her she stinks on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 01:35 PM |
| 127 | My LV husband impregnated my daughter 🤡 Watch out ladies, never let a LVM around your kids.That was the intent of the OP. To devalue the mom for being older and having an unsuccessful plastic surgery with ridiculous scars, to have the husband openly devalue and discard her for even trying to look/feel better, to sexualize stepfamily relationships, to portray the daughter as someone who was 100% willing (no questions at all about grooming, coercion, abuse of power/trust or rape) and very eager to sleep with her stepfather. Sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 01:21 PM |
| 347 | My LV husband impregnated my daughter 🤡 Watch out ladies, never let a LVM around your kids.This looks and feels so fake. Probably written by some male troll who got his inspiration from step family porn and he's jerking off to the 1,600 comments he got. Not that this kind of thing doesn't happen in real life, but a real woman and a real mother would write this differently. She wouldn't start off talking about asinine things like the appearance of her scars and the various ways her husband makes fun of her and puts her in her place. She also would be much more upset than this, even a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 01:08 PM |
| 65 | I can't help but feel like I'm being fetishized when I get messages like thisGross. Don't doubt yourself whenever you feel fetishized. Especially in this example, it's so blatant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:44 AM |
| 109 | Good luck with thatY'all-- how many single woman homeowners do you know who want to date a guy who takes selfies on a toilet while he threatens to remove women from their own homes? Any takers? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:38 AM |
| 58 | Basic Respect ≠ “Spoil” and “Delight”This is what happens when men are spoiled and coddled as children, not prepared for reality, when they spend too much time doing nothing and being nobody. They become this demented person who thinks real life is a comic book, don't view women as human (to an absurd level where it impacts their social skills), thinks beautiful women are treated well because sometimes they aren't treated like total garbage. What does he think of the beautiful women he sees in porn? That they're having an amazing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:11 AM |
| 33 | Just got back from a first date where the guy have some sort of eating disorder and made a whole scene about splitting the bill. So awkwardLol what a lost cause. So delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:49 PM |
| 117 | Just got back from a first date where the guy have some sort of eating disorder and made a whole scene about splitting the bill. So awkwardDude is mental and shouldn't be dating in the first place. He shouldn't have agreed to a restaurant if he has an eating disorder and can't eat food that isn't pre-packaged or otherwise labelled with calories/macros. Maybe he can't help being socially awkward but if he is dating, he should have made some effort to learn how to talk to people. Third, lol at the scene he made about paying the bill, when you just ordered an appetizer. So low class, red flags everywhere. As if you want to see him aga… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:36 PM |
| 20 | Slapped a girl, BuT iS oK bEcAuSe I WaS DeFenDinG mYSelF - Here's what that says about YOU and the other men who get off from those kind of stories.Sure, that totally happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:56 PM |
| 8 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.I'm married as well and think the same thing! I had slowly (mostly subconsciously) realized men's true nature, the reality of most marriages about 4/5 years ago. I didn't think I'd ever meet anyone who could build the type of marriage that I wanted with me. I met someone randomly, I screened him before I knew screening was a thing. I basically did everything FDS without realizing it. I actually discovered FDS a few months after being engaged. I agree that money is key, 100 times more so if you h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:39 PM |
| 82 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.Yup, women married in the past for survival and stability. Marrying did increase your chances of survival, marrying well did increase your chances of living a better life. None of this is true anymore, almost the direct opposite is true-- women's lives are often worse for marrying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 03:13 PM |
| 21 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.Yup, this too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 02:59 PM |
| 81 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.Scrotes are not only hypergamous, they are hypergamous while wanting everything to be free/zero effort. At least hypergamous women look good and make the men they are with feel good, many are excellent mothers and organizers, etc. Hypergamous men in comparison are unkempt slobs with zero redeeming qualities, and they expect a supermodel who has her own money, to fall into his lap. And not just that, but to fuck him like a porn star, be okay with him following IG models, not have any standards or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 02:49 PM |
| 61 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.Yup, they try to aggressively shame women for this... but yeah, unless the guy proves he has a heart of gold, is 100% committed to you and will never abandon you-- what securities are in place to make sure that you and your children do not struggle? There are none, especially when women marry very young, don't build a career or earning ability. It's playing Russian roulette with your own life and your children's lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 02:40 PM |
| 11 | Am I right to skip this date tomorrow?So many red flags. So creepy. Please avoid this guy. Yes you are right to skip this date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 01:45 PM |
| 24 | What do conflict and arguments look like with a HVM versus a LVM?A HVM won't pretend you're stupid or that he is stupid. In a LV relationship, women often pretend to be dumb/make themselves small because they fear rocking the boat. Men take advantage of women who pretend to be obtuse, by pretending to be obtuse themselves (to the woman's detriment). And then if there are strong feelings on top of that, it makes the intellectual and moral dishonesty almost impossible to address and correct at some point. Because if the whole relationship was built on a lie, no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 08:04 PM |
| 18 | Anytime I see “hang out” or “coffee” I already know it’s a red flag.Doesn't the phrase "hang out" just make you quiver with excitement? /s Especially a hang out where coffee and a walk are on the table, damn, where do I stand in line for a turn? /s /s /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 07:46 PM |
| 3 | How do you forgive yourself for past pickme behavior?<3 <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:15 PM |
| 18 | Why do men always think it’s “their” money only? And that being a SAHM involves no work? 🙄🙄🙄He doesn't want her raising her confidence, feeling more comfortable and more beautiful. 10+ years married LVM with kids often intentionally sabotage their wives healthy eating plans, their exercise plans, education/work plans, they sabotage whatever effort their wives make to feel, look and live better. They know deep down that if their wives felt better, looked better, lived better and were happier and more confident, that they will also start holding them to higher standards, will take less s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:08 PM |
| 166 | I sent my husband to jailI'm so proud of you! If FDS has helped you to stand up for yourself and not take any shit, I am also proud of everyone on FDS. Not to derail your post in any way, but when people compare FDS to incels-- what incel sub has inspired someone to escape from domestic violence? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:53 PM |
| 133 | How do you forgive yourself for past pickme behavior?You were socially conditioned from childhood/adolescence to act that exact way, forgive yourself for being brainwashed. Your natural birth right is to be a HVW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:46 PM |
| 97 | The guy I was dating gaslighted me about my own boundary regarding Instagram ModelsBut I will not be loyal to a man that objectifies women. 👏👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:44 PM |
| 2 | How do you ladies deal with insecurities regarding how you look?No problem, I'm glad you liked my comment. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:39 PM |
| 69 | "Real feminists" discuss how we are fake feminists enforcing patriarchy...meanwhile they have a post history of pushing financial abortion, being poly and blaming a woman with PPD for her husband watching porn. I'll stay here, thanks.I'm sick of self-hating, narcissistic low EQ libfem women with zero critical thinking skills, trying to tell me who I am, what I think, what I believe, what I should think and what I should believe. Stop using "eQuALiTy" to push male-pandering shit, over and over, constantly. At this point whenever I see the word "equality" in conversations I immediately think of Animal Farm-- "All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others". I can't stand their wordspeak, their narcissistic … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:25 PM |
| 23 | Looked up Female Dating Strategy on YouTube and it's all mockeryYeah, they will do and say ANYTHING for male validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:19 PM |
| 68 | Looked up Female Dating Strategy on YouTube and it's all mockeryThere has ALWAYS been a population of pickmes acting as stooges and useful idiots for patriarchy, whenever women have attempted to change misogynistic male narratives. Pickmes live for male validation. If pickmes were not a thing, feminism would have changed the world for women and girls. Women would actually maybe be considered human, if pickmes didn't actively FIGHT women who wanted better for all of womenkind. Like take a look at liberal feminism. How deformed and demented has feminism become… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:13 PM |
| 7 | Dating during covid"So I’ve been talking to what I think is a HVM." - You don't know who a person really is by talking to them for a little while. Someone acting nice or acting some type of way for a short time, does not make them HVM. "He has been interested, respectful, polite, and has put a lot of effort into our upcoming first date" - That's good, but very basic, the first step. "He has made it clear that he is very interested in me, possibly for the long haul depending on how things go (meaning he has made it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:46 AM |
| 168 | Communicating standards: no commitment no sexIf you don't have sex by date 3 or so (especially if you met off of OLD), if you shoot down dates at his place or yours, he KNOWS you won't have sex before commitment. The majority of men will show you their ass after date 3 if there is no sex, no groping or heavy kissing, no sign that sex will be had very soon. If you tell them I won't have intercourse with you before commitment, they'll just manipulate you because they now think you are desperate for a relationship. They'll even assuage their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 03:36 PM |
| 42 | When do guys start taking dating seriously?Most marriages before age 23 or so, result in divorce, poverty and/or severe dysfunction. Men who live with their girlfriends and play house, want to split bills and have sex with their roommate at their convenience. So if you're in that age range and you're taking a relationship very seriously, chances are high the guy is just using you for relationship practice, splitting bills and for sex. Men who want to get partnered and married, usually get engaged and married sometime between 25-35. Most … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 02:51 PM |
| 57 | Her husband wants to get her pregnant despite her objections, and her poor soul thinks that he might “just be curious”Wtf at "I don't know if he he really has any ill intentions or was just curious and I don't want to just start accusing him of things". So you getting pregnant against your will is a lesser thing than confronting him about planning to knock you up against your will? She is in a marriage where her choices and feelings are not important, but her husband's are all-important. This not a happy relationship. I hope she finds the perspective and strength to leave him without wasting years and years of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 02:36 PM |
| 9 | Beware of LVM/Scrotes in therapy!AGREED. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:09 PM |
| 11 | Why do men feel like they have a right to give their opinion on your body and lifestyle???!Because they know that you're too scared of them to retaliate. One time a guy told me "You'd look better with a tan". The guy had a GIANT crooked nose, I wanted so badly to tell him "You'd look better after rhinoplasty". Another guy with a balding head (not a date, just a random guy) told me I should change my hair color. I wanted so badly to tell him to buy a toupee. But I didn't, because I don't know how aggressive or crazy these men might be, and my safety is more important than getting even,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:49 PM |
| 112 | notice the double standardI think most women just want a guy who is taller than them, a plus if he's still taller when she's wearing heels. Scrotes exaggerate even the smallest preference women have, and make it into something grotesque and ridiculous. Based on the way they talk about women's preference for tall(er) men, you'd think that women refuse to date any man under 6'5. Yet go out into the world all around you, and you'll see that men of average or even below average height are partnered. I also have a theory that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 10:39 PM |
| 4 | YOUNG COLLEGE GIRL NEEDING ADVICE: How to start dating (never had a real thing before) without falling into PickMe traps?There is always a chance you can find a meaningful relationship where you can grow together, but (IMO) it's almost impossible in modern society. Small possibility if you come from a culture or religion where people get together/married young and grow up together, even then, unlikely for it to be an experience where you come out ahead, where your life is better for it. You sound like a planner, like you plan how you want to design your life. I'm the same way, but trying to find a serious relation… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 10:05 PM |
| 88 | Was I right to block? We had only just started talking from Tinder and I mentioned not being into team sports...his comment/emoji felt weird. Thoughts?He had one thing to do... have a human normal conversation with you on Tinder chat, and he fucked it up. He ruined it by trying to suss out how receptive you are to the beginning of a sexual chat. Was also laying it on too thick while doing so too, which makes it extra ick. He also managed an attempted neg there while he was fake apologizing... "don't play nice in teams". Absolutely was an attempt at seeing how weak your boundaries are. You played your cards right IMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 09:21 PM |
| 28 | How do you ladies deal with insecurities regarding how you look?The cultural conditioning that starts in childhood, where women are brainwashed to believe they will never be physically enough... is really really hard to break free from. And it never 100% goes away, but you can change your brain and how you react to things and how you react to yourself. It takes time, but you can one day look in the mirror with no makeup, when you're bloated, with a big period zit on your face and hairy legs-- and not only not give a fuck, but feel beautiful. Some tricks that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 09:07 PM |
| 76 | Do they really not see their own misogyny?I wasn't aware that prostitutes cared how attractive, confident, decisive and how good at conversation their clients are. They just want to get paid and not be raped or murdered. I also wasn't aware that vulnerable women with mental health problems and trauma required men to be confident, decisive and a good conversationalist before having sex. He says this as if he targets women with a sound mental state and with healthy boundaries. Men like this target vulnerable women, or they straight up lie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 08:44 PM |
| 389 | Don't let your ego play youYup. It has almost nothing to do with you, and almost everything to do with how accessible you are to them and how lonely/horny/bored they are. When they do this just translate the BS they're saying to "me, me, ME, muh dick, me, me, me, muh dick". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 01:50 PM |
| 38 | We're not a rehab centerYes, and they take pride in being judgmental, or they at least don't keep it to themselves/they say it out loud. Once women do the same, they act like we're committing a genocide against men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 03:01 PM |
| 163 | We're not a rehab centerI think women become rehab centers for men, because they are conditioned to "give him a chance" or "don't be judgmental". You know what, fuck that. When I was dating, I didn't give addicts, alcoholics, mentally ill men, personality disordered men, divorced men, men with kids, men with bad finances, etc (the list is long) a chance and I didn't give a fuck if I was being judgmental or not. I didn't bother to express that out loud because I knew what vitriol I'd get, but that's how I played my card… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:40 PM |
| 10 | How to get rid of the fear of being dumped spontaneously?Did you take a break from dating after your bad experiences? How long have you been dating this guy? If it's under 1 year, especially under 6 months, you haven't finished screening. Instead of thinking this guy is the greatest thing since sliced bread, and feeling afraid that you'll lose him, just screen him and see if you want to dump him yourself or not. And if he does dump you... what big loss was it? If he dumps you before wasting years of your life, knocking you up, and in doing so he shows… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:17 PM |
| 201 | Got banned from r/Feminism for saying that you don’t have to accept a dude’s Instagram model obsessionThe only subs that don't pander to males are female-only subs like this one, or subs that are about things and not about people... like subs about technical interests. So basically "genderless" subs where no one cares what gender the poster is, because they're not discussing people... they're discussing maybe investing, something technical, a product or whatever. ALL relationship subs are not only male pandering, they're more like male taint licking. I know that a number of women have found FDS … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:17 PM |
| 3 | She's a marriage therapist...has several other posts like this as well. Mostly men salivating over her posts as expected.She's an extreme and overtly misogynistic example, but I feel like a lot of marriage therapists are like "Idk, just blame the woman" and/or they care so little that abusive/narcissistic men routinely are able to manipulate them in therapy. This is why marriage therapy is completely pointless for women in abusive relationships. The abuser WILL con the therapist and you'll just get more mindfucked. Marriage therapy only works for couples who have a reciprocal non-abusive relationship with minor pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:59 PM |
| 239 | This is what they preach to young girls🤡How about "You're 19 years old. Stop trynna be a wife and go get an education". Being a hoe stating from age 19 will ravage your mental health, it will take years to recover, if you can. It will also maybe damage your physical health-- HPV, STDs, cancer. Playing house or pretend wife at 19, or acting like you have a serious relationship at 19, will waste years that you could have otherwise spent on building your future. Forgoing building your future in favor of building a man at 19, means having… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:40 PM |
| 21 | R/Dating Banned Me For Advising Young Women Not To Fall For Manipulation Tactics To Have Sex Early/ Without Commitment On A Woman's Post Opposing Men Expecting Sex On The Third Date (EYE ROLL)Truthhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:27 PM |
| 5 | Imagine being such a pickme that you flex that you post your nudes for free and hating on girls who wanna get paidShe is sooo demented. She needs help, ASAP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:44 PM |
| 4 | MEN KNOW THEY ARE SHALLOW AF-THEY JUST BANK ON BEING ABLE TO HOODWINK US-PPD GEMS (EYE ROLL)He's so delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:40 PM |
| 11 | How do I leave?What is your living situation like if I may ask? Do you rent and have both your names on the lease, do you own a house together, do you own and he rents from you, or does he own and you rent from him. You already sound over him, I don't think you really need our help with that. If you don't live with him, you can just break up and block him. His presence in your living space + his manipulative attempts to negotiate with you make it difficult for you to move on. Don't let him continue to manipula… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:08 PM |
| 11 | LVM and their livesLMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Is it a red flag if a man in his late twenties doesn’t speak to his mom ?I said that a lot of women do the self-work, men largely don't. I don't judge people in general for who their parents were or are, but I wouldn't get romantically involved with a man who has a fucked up mom. Chances are very high he hasn't done the work he needs to do... I'm not going to be a punching bag for a guy who hates his mom/wants to punish women. I wasn't talking about women or people in general, I'm talking about dating. I'm not a charity, where I have to date men with fucked up moms, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 05:37 PM |
| 3 | On r/sex a woman let’s her boyfriend have sex with her while she’s asleep. I wrote a comment in response and a Pickmeisba went at me for it.Perfect response. I'm glad you called her out on her BS. It's one thing to be chill about your man having sex with you in your sleep in your own bed in your own house, and you think this isn't rape. Okay. That's fucked up, but you do you. It's another thing to KNOW deep down your life is fucked up and you're projecting on possibly young and/or naive, vulnerable women on Reddit. Stop promoting rape to other women, in their own sleep, in their own bed, in their own home. Just because you have issu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 01:45 PM |
| 70 | Your insecurity about him watching porn is valid, and reason enough to expect a no-porn in your relationship.When I was dating my husband, I had him watch porn documentaries. We had a phase where we kept watching documentaries, both real ones and the mockumentary ones too. I nonchalantly put the porn documentaries on and he started crying. Like not getting teary eyed-- sobbing and ugly crying. I know he watched porn before, he admitted it. He had mixed feelings about it (he grew up as a good Catholic boy and he knew it was wrong but he was horny) now the porn documentaries traumatized him too much to e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 01:22 PM |
| 134 | "Some women think because they look good, men owe them money"No one is forcing you to throw money at women out of your league. Do you expect Disnleyland to reduce their prices or give broke families discounts? They have so many people trying to get in, they're only ever going to increase prices, never lower them. It's the same with beautiful, well put together fit women-- you're not the only guy sniffing after her or throwing money at her. If you don't like it, lower your physical standards and find a plainer woman who invests less time and money into her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 12:51 PM |
| 3 | Is it a red flag if a man in his late twenties doesn’t speak to his mom ?I would nope out. I can understand a man not talking to his abusive mom, but women who date him are taking on a huge risk. I'm personally not comfortable with that risk and would not get involved with a man who has a terrible relationship with his mom. In this guy's case, who knows what went down with his mom, but the way he speaks about her and how he shuts down communication with her after a fight is a red flag. A reasonable person with communication skills and conflict resolution skills would… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 12:24 PM |
| 3 | You will lose people along the wayI don't think everyone gets addicted to the drama or finds validation in it, I think plenty of women are just really agreeable and are people pleasers. They may have friends or relatives who just drain them, because they're so nice and always listen to people. I'm more of an asshole, so if I keep any non-reciprocal relationships in my life it's because I'm getting something out of it, even if that something is negative or shameful. Part of cultivating self-awareness for me was confronting the da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 11:04 AM |
| 6 | Is it a red flag if a man in his late twenties doesn’t speak to his mom ?Maybe I'm too cold, but I would write him off, even if it's not his "fault" that he doesn't speak to her. She could be abusive or narcissistic or an addict. Still, not my problem. Women with abusive parents often get help, they work hard for years, if not decades, to try to understand themselves, to heal and to have good relationships. The chance of a man doing this level of self-work (this is like phD level of self-work) is close to zero. If he cut off contact with his mom because she's abusive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 10:59 AM |
| 23 | Ladies, please help him understand why women get creeped out by [insert inherently creepy behavior]. It’s all so confusing for him.Yep, and these same guys (like the dude asking the question) are the same types who are like "wHaT abOuT mEn?" when they attempt to derail discussions about women's issues with stats about men being raped in prison. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 10:41 AM |
| 44 | Ladies, please help him understand why women get creeped out by [insert inherently creepy behavior]. It’s all so confusing for him.He's pretending that he doesn't know the difference between glancing at someone/briefly looking and staring at them/trying to force eye contact. When men leer it's a feeling like you're a piece of meat, that you are prey, that your existence is to be a sexual display for men who stare. It's a situation that can quickly escalate too, depending on if you accidentally return eye contact, if you are alone, what time of day it is/where you are, how many people are nearby. It can be fucking terrifying… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 10:27 AM |
| 40 | I miss physical intimacy so much that I cry over it. How do you all handle going without it?It's normal and natural for people to want to be touched, even in a non-romantic and non-sexual context. Our society is set up in such a way that a lot of people are suffering emotionally because of loneliness and lack of touch. I never bought into the "if you work on yourself you'll never feel lonely" stuff. There has to be a balance. We need relationships, human touch, friends, community, and most of us also crave a romantic and sexual relationship. It's necessary to have a sense of self, a ri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 04:47 PM |
| 26 | You will lose people along the wayYup. Personally, I also realized that I was getting some kind of gratification from my toxic relationships with friends and family. Like I enjoyed the conflict, the negative feelings, the "you ain't shit" feelings I felt inside. Keeping those people in my heart and mind was like holding onto my anger, self-loathing and insecurity. I realized I enjoyed it, it was comfortable. So I let these people go, and I let my negative feelings go. I wasn't dramatic about cutting people off though. I still ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 04:33 PM |
| 6 | Break up after 5 years bc of no proposal?This! Some guys have social skills and more than a handful of brain cells-- they know how to keep up with appearances, be socially graceful, make plausible sounding excuses. But if their core behavior is selfish, self-absorbed, self-interested, and all me me me-- that's who they really are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 03:15 PM |
| 7 | Break up after 5 years bc of no proposal?Ideally-- she should have dumped him 2.5 years ago, but hopefully she can break up with him now instead of drawing this out any longer. The guy sounds like he knows how to act socially graceful, make plausible sounding excuses and how to act nice in order to be self-serving. He doesn't see her as a prize, his actions over the course of 5 years show that he thinks she is convenient. So he'll propose to her whenever that is convenient for him, if it ever becomes convenient. The whole dynamic behin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 03:10 PM |
| 1 | No really can we? its sad that most men don’t know how to cook or properly maintain their area🙃Exactly! Seriously, anyone can cook if they can follow instructions. You can also do grocery delivery/pickup, you don't even have to go into the supermarket to get ingredients. And like you said, meal subscription services do all of the planning for you, so yeah, what good excuse is there? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 12:28 PM |
| 1 | I’m a bi woman, and a pickme just violated meThere weren't enough people in my area on Bumble BFF, a lot of the accounts were not active. I had better luck making friends just by doing activities solo and chatting with people. I had the best luck meeting people and making friends by volunteering. I'd totally recommend Bumble BFF if you live in a big enough city, there should be more than a handful of active profiles on there. It may be hit or miss in a smaller city or a suburb, just not a lot of active users. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 11:56 AM |
| 98 | I’m a bi woman, and a pickme just violated meI am so sorry this happened to you. What a piece of shit monster she is, she is beyond pickme, she's the type of woman that helps her man dismember a woman's corpse. It's one thing to propose a 3some to a woman while you're stilling messaging on an app, being honest about what you're looking for. It's another thing to ambush them like that. They are both sick evil fucks. I am so glad that you didn't go to her place and get drugged, although it happening at a bar is still incredibly violating and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 06:40 AM |
| 19 | And these guys wonder why they are single? 🤔Lock up your social media! Either no social media, business only or super private where you don't accept friend requests from random men or men you barely know. Don't be accessible to random men sliding into women's DMs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 05:26 AM |
| 108 | LVM and sex early onDon't say anything. Just ghost/block/delete. Ask yourself why you feel the need to educate strange men on human decency, etiquette, respecting the boundaries of others etc? Don't mistake men's manipulation with "this is a teachable moment". You're not going to teach him anything, because it's not that he doesn't know these things, he just doesn't care. And if he doesn't care about human decency or respecting boundaries, he is not a good person. What kind of response or reaction can you expect fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 05:03 AM |
| 34 | No really can we? its sad that most men don’t know how to cook or properly maintain their area🙃Also, even if you don't know how to cook, you can learn. It's not hard to cook with recipes. I didn't know how to cook until I was 27/28. I had issues with food, and just ate salads, eggs and quick to prepare type of meals. I knew how to make 3-4 dishes that I'd make for occasions or for big groups, I didn't think it was worth it to cook for myself or even for just 2 people. I learned how to cook, after getting over my issues with eating and body image. By "learn" I mean I figured out how to fol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:48 AM |
| 2 | How to get karma on Reddit: Blame women for anything and everythingAbsolutely. It saddens me that she chooses to internalize this message, and chooses to push it onto other women and promotes it to men, instead of accepting that she doesn't have good men in her life. If she had good relationships with decent men, she wouldn't feel the need to go on Reddit and lecture ALL women about how they say things wrong and don't address men properly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:34 AM |
| 83 | Love bombing vs Normal interestLove bombing: ~ Does not respect your boundaries. Sneakily tries to slide past your boundaries. They may have targeted you because they sensed that you have soft boundaries. ~ Wants to communicate more often, and with more intensity, than you are comfortable with. Wants to monopolize your time and energy. ~ Uses words like "soul mate" or "twin flame". Thinks you're the greatest thing since sliced bread, puts you on a pedestal, tells you that you're different from all other women. ~ Future fakes.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 06:12 AM |
| 112 | How to get karma on Reddit: Blame women for anything and everythingThe really demented part is that while she might get validation from "not being like the other girls", presenting yourself like this is one way that scrotes target you for exploitation and abuse. Abusive and predatory men go after women who are so insecure and have such little self-worth, that they project onto ALL other women. It's a huge sign that she'll be a perfect doormat, will be low maintenance to control and abuse (she'll do much mental gymnastics she'll mindfuck herself). Having "not li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 05:45 AM |
| 34 | I quite literally am not sure why I am shocked. Come on my guy.You shouldn't be shocked. A LOT of guys use OLD to troll women. They get off on saying asinine stuff out of the gate to get a reaction (mild trolling), or they are negging, insulting or threatening women (moderate-extreme trolling). The majority of guys on there are looking for a free prostitute and/or they are trolling and antagonizing women while they're taking a dump and swiping. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 05:08 AM |
| 72 | Advice for dating religious men?Same as vetting all other men. Men from x religion and y culture are not special or a different breed of male. Just vet them the way you'd vet anyone else, don't give them any special exceptions, don't give them the benefit of the doubt. Also be super aware of bad people pretending to be religious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 01:10 PM |
| 69 | LETS 👏 TALK 👏ABOUT👏THIS👏Yes, and I distance myself from family to an extent, because I know that they like to take my arm if I give them my finger. They just feel entitled to me. I love my family but I have to enforce boundaries to protect my sense of self. I felt guilty about it for years, but no longer feel responsible for other people's happiness. Getting married helped. My parents are old school Eastern Europeans, I think they saw me getting married as "She doesn't belong to us anymore". So yeah, now that I "belong… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 11:38 AM |
| 55 | MeN aRe sO oPpReSseDDesperate for male validation. I'd normally just feel sorry for her, you really have to be a lost cause to deny that patriarchy exists when you are a woman and have received an education and have access to the internet. I don't have sympathy for the ones who go on Twitter/online to rattle their "please give me male validation" beggar can, spreading male-pandering propaganda and hurting all women/girls. Men being shit at life, being lazy and emotionally fragile does not mean patriarchy doesn't ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 11:15 AM |
| 14 | Pick-mes be likeLmao too true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 07:49 AM |
| 12 | Your friends do not exist for the sole purpose of listening to you whine about some man you don’t plan on leaving.If a person doesn't respect my time or my energy, I won't be available or accessible to them. I've slow faded, grey rocked and cut off a number of friends, acquaintances and family members with zero regrets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 02:22 PM |
| 25 | Bf used to splitting the billJust dump him and work really hard at school, on your interests and passions. Save and invest your money, build your future. Don't waste your time or money on this guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Thank youThat was perfect! He was probably stunned that you called him out on it. Who knows how many women felt the same way you did, but they didn't have the guts or self-respect to tell him no, and to also politely tell him he ain't shit while saying no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 03:57 AM |
| 168 | I swear, the audacity"Happens to men too" should be "Happens to men too, by other men" What exactly are you contributing to this dialogue? Stop pretending like you have something to contribute to the conversation when you are very obviously just trying to derail and distract. They make no sense. They just say anything to shut women up. And sadly, most women do shut up-- most women get freaked out by men coming at them with Ted Bundy energy. Men act so fucking insane online that they manage to infiltrate or corrupt m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 03:26 AM |
| 52 | 30% of men are now sexually inactive but please do tell us all about how all that sex would be waiting for you out there if it weren’t for your wife 🙄These old creeps don't realize or care that for young women, the image of having sex with them is a horror show. They could care less what young women want or prefer, they just want to find vulnerable young women and/or break down a young woman who is agreeable/naive enough to allow him to steamroll her. Like dude, just because a young woman acknowledged you after you forced her to/pressured her to, because she was nice to you, or did her job (customer service) doesn't mean she has any romantic/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 03:18 AM |
| 97 | 30% of men are now sexually inactive but please do tell us all about how all that sex would be waiting for you out there if it weren’t for your wife 🙄Not everyone is blessed with great genetics, but men really do the worst with what they are given. They freak out over balding-- sure, balding isn't generally attractive, but most women will take a HVM balding man over a douchebag with a full head of hair. We aren't that superficial. Just at least know how to style balding hair, stop trying to grow it long. Practice basic hygiene and self-care habits, use basic cleanser and moisturizer (preferably with some SPF), take care of your mind and soul … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 03:05 AM |
| 12 | Ugh. At least she’s trying to change 🤡I just don't want to be friends with a woman who speaks that way about women. Not trying to be rude, but what does she have to offer to a bomb ass female? She's going to get what she gives in friendship, until she changes her mindset about women at large. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 03:01 AM |
| 268 | 30% of men are now sexually inactive but please do tell us all about how all that sex would be waiting for you out there if it weren’t for your wife 🙄"A man's value goes up over time" When I was 12, I had a crush on a boy-- who was also 12. In my late teens/early 20s, I liked ONLY baby faced pretty men. I didn't find wrinkles, grey hair, stubble, etc attractive-- those men looked like old dads to me. Now I am in my early 30s, and the age range I find attractive is usually my age or a few years younger. This is because so many men look like total ass by the time they are in their early/mid 30s. Their lack of self care habits, hygiene and their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 02:38 AM |
| 84 | Winona Ryder says Keanu Reeves refused director Francis Ford Coppola's request to hurl abuse at her until she cried on Dracula set.Yep. Masculinity + integrity = damn he's really sexy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 09:09 PM |
| 304 | Winona Ryder says Keanu Reeves refused director Francis Ford Coppola's request to hurl abuse at her until she cried on Dracula set.Love Keanu Reeves. He chose to be a good person, as a man in Hollywood, when he had every excuse and every vice easily accessible to him. It's always a choice. Dude also has held up SO WELL over the years. Hottest 55 year old man, for sure. I've had a crush on him since I was a kid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 08:57 PM |
| 89 | Is the anticipated “more intricately woven band” also made of scrote hair?Is she for real? I can't tell anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 02:30 PM |
| 117 | LVM's greatest fear are Cat Ladies. Here's why:I'm a married woman and I think easily half of marriages are doomed, a lot seem normal/conform with society because the woman is doing most of the work. I never wanted to get married, but I met someone worthy of marriage and thought I'd give it a shot. I'm not delusional and think my husband can never turn on me, I have my own income, accounts and fuck you money. I used to laugh internally whenever men tried to bully or terrorize women into thinking they're going to die alone. My great-aunt used… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 02:01 PM |
| 12 | Looking at other womenAgreed. I live in a place where people dress really casually, so the sexy glamorous style is uncommon, even when you go out at night. But sure, yeah, if a woman dressed sexy glam walked past his field of vision getting 2nd looks from pretty much everyone, I would understand that. I'd probably glance at her too. It's just a different thing altogether when they are scanning (not catching a glimpse), some look like they are hungry and like women are food. That type of staring is the worst. The wive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 01:46 PM |
| 31 | Looking at other womenWhen I was single, I noticed partnered men looking at me while their partner/wives were next to them. Sometimes they had kids, sometimes their partner was pregnant. It made me feel so sorry for their wives and their kids. I once sat on a flight with a woman and her 3 kids-- she was such a good mom. She had packed healthy meals and snacks for them, she was talking to them and playing with them, she had them do homework as well and was helping them finish their math homework. When I was getting of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 01:28 PM |
| 6 | For those of you who are married to HVM, what did you have to compromise?I've found half filled water bottles in random places, I don't know why I keep doing it. Lately I've been using glass water bottles that I just refill-- still leave them around half empty. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 01:21 PM |
| 32 | For those of you who are married to HVM, what did you have to compromise?I didn't have to compromise on anything related to personality, habits, goals or values. We have shared values and goals, compatible personalities, we enjoy each other's company and are kind and courteous to each other. We would compromise for travel plans, eating out, what movie to watch, little things like that. We never compromised on core values or goals, we never tried to change each other or expected the other person to magically change later in the relationship. We accept each other and a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 01:04 PM |
| 5 | How to handle people pushing their pick-me views on you?Just don't engage with them, go no contact or grey rock if they really are harassing you or trying to push their asinine, destructive views on you. Minimize or eliminate contact with them, depending on who they are and their relationship to you. Don't get roped into these asinine conversations with them, it is not productive and they will never change their mind. Instead, they will gang up on you and psychologically break you down, manipulate you to change their mind. Even by asking this questio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 12:56 PM |
| 219 | My friend sent this to me. She told me in under a minute, 6 other girls retweeted this. I hate how universal this is!If men really wanted to please women in bed (most don't care) they'd make more effort in several areas. Maintain an appropriate weight, actually look like the stronger and fitter gender-- don't try to be the person in the relationship with bigger boobs and wider child birthing hips. Women are NOT turned on by this. Dress your age, look decent, practice basic dental hygiene, wash your face, take care of body odor and body hair. Respect and care about your partner. You're more likely to give her a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 02:54 PM |
| 6 | Any advice about toxic male friends?Which is more important to you, your boundaries or having male friends? Unfortunately, having male friends usually (almost always) means not caring much for your boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 01:58 PM |
| 51 | By pitying your abuser, you do a disservice to yourself & your healing. Don't bother doing it.If you love yourself you won't feel pity for people who treat you badly, let alone for people who abuse you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 01:53 PM |
| 55 | NVM unexpectedly strangles girlfriend during sex and injures her, top comment from pickmeisha blames her for not warning him prior that she wasn’t into being strangled...I generally have a lot of compassion for pickmes, but this is the type of pickme that I can't stand. They will do and say ANYTHING, throw their own mom, sister, grandma and every female friend they've ever had, under the bus, for some male validation. They know they are fucked up, that their lives, men and relationships are fucked up. They want other women to endanger themselves, have dangerous sex, make themselves vulnerable to untrustworthy and predatory men-- just so they can feel better abou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 01:49 PM |
| 23 | After reading "Why Does he do That?" by Lundy Bancroft, I have started noticing how often abusive strategies are used by dominant classes (men, whites, ultra-wealthy) to maintain power, and preserve their ability to use and control others.Sounds like a great book! I've read several Robert Greene books-- including Art of Seduction, The 48 Laws of Power, The Laws of Human Nature. These aren't how to spot a narcissist books, but that's exactly what they did for me-- helped me to spot more sophisticated manipulators. I highly recommend these books. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 08:07 AM |
| 3 | Please Join r/BanFemaleHateSubs, a place for us to track all the misogyny, rape, and abuse of women on Reddit to bring to the Admins attention. No more feigning ignorance, Reddit needs to be held accountable for their content.Joined! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 08:01 AM |
| 129 | “Well if you believe a man should be a provider...”Lol guys like this want you to act like a 1950s housewife and a 2020s breadwinner, while they play video games and jerk off to animal porn. You can even be pregnant with a baby on your hip, and he's still going to think he's doing you a favor. Then when the woman has enough and gets rid of him, they get all bitter and say they were "blindsided" by divorce. Also, don't tell men what you expect or what you want, just do what you want and if men can't date you on your terms or pass your screening, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:44 AM |
| 5 | Why do men in online dating always steer the conversation towards sexual?THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:29 AM |
| 4 | We need to set boundaries with toxic women too. Don’t waste your time beating a dead horse. Some people just can’t be saved.I think the world would be a better place if people tried to help themselves before trying to help others. Helping yourself isn't just self-improvement and self-actualization, it also means protecting your energy, time and your own mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 02:47 PM |
| 9 | We need to set boundaries with toxic women too. Don’t waste your time beating a dead horse. Some people just can’t be saved.I agree. This is one of the more 'controversial' opinions I have on FDS. I think some people are too far gone and/or they are want to stay in denial, they actively fight self-awareness. Life is too short and most people are pretty self-absorbed. At the end of the day-- the only people that matter are the ones who would cry at your funeral or sit by your side in the ICU. How many people would do that for you? I'm not going to be a free therapist for someone who wouldn't be my free nurse if I'm in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 02:20 PM |
| 52 | HVM shitCreepy. The certificate is either fake and he's messing with her, he's lovebombing her and/or he wants access to her kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 02:07 PM |
| 93 | This is some next level NVM bullshit. Could you imagine thinking your friends are more important than you wife in labour. Chuck him in the bin IMO.Why do women have kids with men like this? I'm sure a few do a Jekyl and Hyde, but most of them show red flags early on, like before they marry you or before you get pregnant. She'll probably have another kid with him too. Women like this only learn things the very hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 01:37 PM |
| 5 | Reasons why I am done with dating appsYou won't miss them! I met my husband "in real life" a few months after moving out of state. Everything was new to me, so everything was a new experience, and I didn't stay at home all day. I tried all kinds of activities, was excited to live in a new city. Once this covid-19 thing is sorted out I think people will be eager to go out and live in the real world, and there will be many opportunities to make friends and partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 01:33 PM |
| 5 | This guy (M, 36) I am talking to does not believe in abortion. Abort mission?I wouldn't even be friends with a woman who believed raped women should have their rapist's babies, so not sure why you're not running away from a man who believes this and told you so to your face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 01:28 PM |
| 18 | A 30 something comes to a harsh realization,starting to realize it may be too late for love// Basically men jerking of a crying woman that she cant find her love.In her later video she introduce her new boyfirend,men in the comments still attacking and harassing herScrotes have a lot of revenge fantasies about what women's lives are like after 30. Their primary goal is to terrorize 20something women into thinking that the worst thing that can happen to them is not being chosen by a mediocre or even a destructive man. They also get off on trying to insult "older" women online. Always online. But the #1 goal for them, to get younger women to hand over their youth and future to them, before they wisen up. It gets increasingly difficult for men to manipulate w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 05:58 PM |
| 40 | It's always our fault, according to themYou have to turn your brain into swiss cheese, if you even want to keep up with male narratives. Don't expect any consistency or logic, if you want to not rock the boat, if you want to be a cool girl. It's hilarious that they think they are the rational gender, nearly everything they do and say is completely devoid of reason and logic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 05:45 PM |
| 19 | I detect NO LIES being told here...I wish I were totally wrong! I've been noticing way too many guys talking shit about "nice guys". Like men don't even have that much scorn for actual rapists and pedophiles, so I get suspicious. I think they're mad at them for outing all men in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 05:30 PM |
| 29 | I detect NO LIES being told here...I feel like the new "nice guys" are the guys talking shit about nice guys, trying to deflect from themselves. It's what I would do, if I were a predator man-- I'd pretend to be woke, but not too woke where it's suspicious. I'd also ridicule "nice guys", who are a caricature, to deflect from myself and to distract women from noticing that I am the king of "nice guys". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Woman goes on hunger strike for 10 days to get increasingly sick husband to go to the hospital.It's manipulative, self-destructive and destructive to her family. They are learning that this type of behavior is "normal". I'm sure she thinks she's saving her family by hurting herself doing dramatic and dangerous antics for a selfish asshole, this is the martyr masochist mindset. Pickmes on this level are typically manipulative and very codependent with the shitbags they refuse to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 05:10 PM |
| 18 | Here at FDS, we call these 'soul diggers'. Never be a man's therapist or emotional support girlfriend. If he has mommy/daddy issues, he needs to grow up and get professional help.Yup, and this 100% self-serving racket they devised is STILL not enough for them. They were always self-serving, but I think when their provider responsibilities were eased with women's advancement in the workforce, when internet porn became pervasive, they became brain damaged enough to think they can act like actual pimps and get away with it. Getting a bangmaid to pay their bills and birth/raise their kids, getting women to pay for dates while they get NSA sex. Their destruction also has no l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 05:00 PM |
| 64 | Husband is sexually attracted to teenage babysitter and is jealous of his own son for having her attention. “My husband hates our neighbour’s daughter (16F) playing with our son (7M)”I'd be surprised if her husband hasn't raped or sexually assaulted the 16 year old neighbor. "We have known her since she was only eight years old! My husband used to love her like a second father! we also have a very good friendship with her parents, and my husband treats her very nicely when she’s not around Adrian. But when she is with him, my husband loves to come and nag to me about how annoying Bella is. It’s very confusing. He’s like a second father when she’s by herself, but around our s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 04:43 PM |
| 13 | I'll never look at a single man who adopts a child, especially a female child, and not think "This man is likely a predator, he could be abusing/ grooming her, etc". Sure, some men genuinely want to be a father independent of their relationship status. But it doesn't seem right. Sorry not sorry.I agree. I'm not sure how legal it is to completely ban single men from adopting. I support making it as hard as possible, to the point where it is almost impossible. It's not worth the risk. I hope the man in this article isn't a depraved freak, the statistics for the abuse of disabled girls/women is truly despairing. From what I can remember, I think the vast majority of them get abused. If anyone here can clarify-- correct me if I'm wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 04:26 PM |
| 76 | Here at FDS, we call these 'soul diggers'. Never be a man's therapist or emotional support girlfriend. If he has mommy/daddy issues, he needs to grow up and get professional help.Many scrotes these days are also actual gold diggers. They use forever girlfriends and wives for reliable sex, female validation, emotional labor, for household work and management, childcare, women's general planning and adulting skills, while also getting women to pay for 50% or more of their bills. They use the soul digging to gold dig, too. This doesn't even include women fully supporting the household, women dropping out of college for men, women diminishing their earning ability for men, w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 04:23 PM |
| 11 | Woman goes on hunger strike for 10 days to get increasingly sick husband to go to the hospital.She has martyr/masochist issues for sure, probably the reason why she's still married to him. What a nightmare of a marriage. She's asking if she's the asshole, after her husband needlessly let her go hungry for 10 days? Just so he can dodge going to the doctor? Her husband is complete garbage, does not care about his wife AT ALL, and his family sounds like complete trash too. Only a super whacked out masochistic pickme would stay married to someone like this. So she probably is manipulative, be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 04:03 PM |
| 10 | Male manager trying to neg me?You might have to find another job. Record everything, report anything that is reportable, don't be afraid to rock the boat. He's going to escalate and make you miserable at work, more than he already has. I wish women could just go to work without having to deal with harassment and bullshit from males. I've personally been harassed at every job I've ever had where I worked with men. Especially when I was younger, and gave men the benefit of the doubt more, didn't shut them down immediately, tri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 03:47 PM |
| 48 | I'll never look at a single man who adopts a child, especially a female child, and not think "This man is likely a predator, he could be abusing/ grooming her, etc". Sure, some men genuinely want to be a father independent of their relationship status. But it doesn't seem right. Sorry not sorry.For every 1 man who is a saint like this (adopting a small disabled female child) there are countless predators. I do think single men looking to adopt kids should be suspect, it's just a weird thing for a typical single man to want. They normally want biological kids, few want to be single fathers by choice. Even divorced single dads are sniffing after childfree women, or women without kids, because they don't want to deal with taking care of their own kids. Adoption is also very difficult and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 03:30 PM |
| 150 | Being upfront about wanting a HVMYou don't. You observe their actions. Telling them what you want just means that they will act how you want them to act, until they get what they want from you. You walk the walk, not talk the talk. Which means, not accepting low effort dates, blocking as soon as the guy crosses a boundary, not responding to late texts, not sleeping with the guy before commitment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 02:29 PM |
| 13 | Ladies what's stopping you? I'll start! Self respect... and go!I swear, to NVM/LVM, simply being female IS the joke.They know that society is built as a trap for unenlightened women, for the benefit of any and every man. That's the only reason men like this have any success. THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:49 PM |
| 9 | So much this! Insulting another woman will never be a compliment to me. You're beautiful, cool, chill and real and so am I. The great thing is we don't need validation from men with bad intentions to know it.My cousin and sister are on the spectrum, this is not spectrum thing, this is internalized misogyny. You do you. I'm not making stuff up to put you in a bad light wtf? Not going to engage with you anymore. I wish you well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:40 PM |
| 32 | They can't function without constant over stimulation and wonder why they're miserableThat's the BS sob story they tell women. Unless they're Forrest Gump level mentally challenged, they know what they are doing, they do realize things. They just get mad when they see their shitty friend getting x, y z and they can't. They know they're a piece of shit, but they have so many examples of pieces of shits winning in life, that they're mad they're not winning too. It's not that they don't realize things, they are just entitled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:38 PM |
| 33 | They can't function without constant over stimulation and wonder why they're miserableThey just want access to you, I agree. It's that simple. In any case, a man with real remorse would have enough respect for you, to not bother you again after he fucked up. Especially if he treated you in a bad, abusive or humiliating way. The vast majority of scrotes never do that self-transformation and complete 180 character change, but the few that do, will at least have the decency to leave you alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:31 PM |
| 10 | So much this! Insulting another woman will never be a compliment to me. You're beautiful, cool, chill and real and so am I. The great thing is we don't need validation from men with bad intentions to know it.I understand what you are talking about, it is hard to make quality female friends. A lot of women are either pickmes, or they already have an established group of friends and don't have time/energy to maintain additional friendships. Especially if they have a heavy workload in their career or at home. I understand the sentiment behind your posts, but the way you are writing this just sounds off, like you are suspicious and distrusting of women, that you judge all of them based on the bad experi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:18 PM |
| 35 | They can't function without constant over stimulation and wonder why they're miserableYeah this. They also 100% manipulate women who think they are capable of self-awareness, observation, empathy or change. Like the types of women banging on about "closure"-- they get taken advantage of, because they basically mindfuck themselves into believing what they want to believe, ignoring what they see in front of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:07 PM |
| 5 | Is this normal?Not normal, block him immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 08:50 AM |
| 19 | So much this! Insulting another woman will never be a compliment to me. You're beautiful, cool, chill and real and so am I. The great thing is we don't need validation from men with bad intentions to know it.In your previous comment you said that you like alternative music and other women don't. That's just really silly. All kinds of women like all kinds of music. I'm a metalhead for example, I go to shows, have friends who also love metal. Metal subcultures are also very male-dominated, so I know exactly why men are so friendly and easy to talk to when there are 10 dudes for every 1 woman. I also know that in these scenes, it's harder to make female connections (there are just a lot less women), bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 08:44 AM |
| 11 | LibFem pickmeishas does threesomes, sex parties, and FWBs but never once orgasms with a partner because she can’t master basic communication. Why is a person with such poor boundaries and low self advocacy skills giving sex advice?Damn. I guess shelling out the cash to hear a comforting lie is easier than accepting and dealing with the disturbing reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 08:28 AM |
| 29 | So much this! Insulting another woman will never be a compliment to me. You're beautiful, cool, chill and real and so am I. The great thing is we don't need validation from men with bad intentions to know it.You're not clicking or connecting with men, they just want to have sex with you. Men will pretend to get along with just about any attractive woman, as long as she isn't coming at them in clown makeup with a broken bottle or something. Remember that women are all individuals, some of them just won't be receptive to conversation or friendship, others might be shy or on the spectrum themselves, some of them might be assholes. We're all different. You will eventually find a group of women you click… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:36 AM |
| 37 | So much this! Insulting another woman will never be a compliment to me. You're beautiful, cool, chill and real and so am I. The great thing is we don't need validation from men with bad intentions to know it.Yup! Internalized misogyny is a mindfuck for sure. You CAN overcome it though, it just takes time and practice. At first, you might have to condition yourself to reframe your mind because you want to give other women a chance, the benefit of the doubt, to support other women. Then one day you realize that these things were helping YOU most of all. It's like a huge weight is taken off your shoulders, when you start to tackle and defeat internalized misogyny. You cultivate true self-love, you grow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:32 AM |
| 39 | LibFem pickmeishas does threesomes, sex parties, and FWBs but never once orgasms with a partner because she can’t master basic communication. Why is a person with such poor boundaries and low self advocacy skills giving sex advice?She copes with her trauma day-by-day by trying to push propaganda, to encourage others to make the same choices, so she can strengthen her mental gymnastics to Olympics level. The lunatics are truly running the asylum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:24 AM |
| 60 | Daughter received an email from her father who passed 10 months ago containing instructions on what to do for her mother on their 25th wedding anniversary.That is so sweet. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:21 AM |
| 5 | Emotionally unavailable LVM that I ghosted tries to flatter me by comparing me to a potential one night stand from BumbleSafety, including emotional safety, should be more important than finding a man. But women are socialized to think that finding and keeping a man is the most important thing. I think this is why a lot of men view women on apps as being desperate, they are men and know how disgusting men are, and they assume that women who subject themselves to that are desperate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:17 AM |
| 13 | Emotionally unavailable LVM that I ghosted tries to flatter me by comparing me to a potential one night stand from BumbleFirst of all, yeah right, no way that woman is offering him a one night stand. If he wanted to make that sound more believable, he should have screenshotted a dating app profile that looks more real. Even then, who does he think will believe him? Any neckbeard can screenshot a photo of a woman and claim that he had sex with her or is going to have sex with her. When I tried dating apps in the past, I never used photos like that.. showing cleavage, with a vixen pose etc, and men still thought I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:07 AM |
| 79 | What do you do when you’re not sure if you want to keep seeing someone?He's proposing a situationship, and by being unsure, you're taking the bait. He can't or won't commit, he will not make a real effort at forming a bond and a relationship. He "caught feelings" but is "not ready" and "uneasy" aka he's blowing hot and cold air to keep you confused, to have you act like a girlfriend while he looks for what he perceives as better. Classic situationship dynamics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 06:56 AM |
| 214 | They can't function without constant over stimulation and wonder why they're miserableI think this is a woman projecting female self-awareness and empathy onto predatory, low EQ men. They don't regret missed connections and opportunities, they don't regret not feeling genuine love for another person. A man who doesn't view women as human, who is incapable of loving a person, and also incapable of loving himself-- will never have this revelation. They're just mad that they don't have the looks or money to have casual no strings attached relationships. They're just mad that they ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 06:26 AM |
| 30 | When a poly guy is trying to get you REALLY HARD to continue a conversationLmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 10:58 AM |
| 17 | Why do lots of LVM think they’re going to be rich and you’re going to end up poor, ugly, and regretful for not picking them?Revenge fantasies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 10:57 AM |
| 3 | Is this normal for a HVM to say?Don't bother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 10:56 AM |
| 12 | Why are men so willing to let a great woman go and not make any effort? I can’t wrap my head around it.Yup. This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 09:43 AM |
| 6 | How FDS has caused me to get involved with the George Floyd ProtestsAgreed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 09:04 AM |
| 113 | Why are men so willing to let a great woman go and not make any effort? I can’t wrap my head around it.A lot of men don't view women as human, so they don't see a woman's individuality. Even when they find a woman way out of their league (in all categories), they think "If I can get her, I can get someone better". They're delusional to begin with, so when they get lucky and hit the scratch off lottery, they think "I can win the mega millions". A lot of women are pickmes and enable men's delusions. Tons of beautiful, funny, intelligent, talented and creative women have low self-esteem, even if the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 08:58 AM |
| 151 | Ladies, how to react to this? Details in comments.Just don't respond and block. He'll get the message. Cancelling twice? He doesn't even deserve a response, just block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 07:31 AM |
| 16 | When "doing the dishes, talking a walk, trimming his beard" are considered romantic 🤢Lmaooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 02:01 PM |
| 47 | Why do men always assume you want their opinion??Because women don't talk over them, or tell them to shut the fuck up, the way men do to women. They get used to that, and start thinking that random people, the whole world really, gives a shit about their existence and their opinions. They get upset and angry when they realize that no one gives a shit. That's why the manosphere guys try to victimize themselves, they think that no one giving a shit about their dumb opinion = men are the oppressed gender LMAO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 01:56 PM |
| 5 | Why do they only care after they've hurt you?I think you're just seeing what you want to see. I know that breakups can distort your way of thinking, try to take care of yourself, and remember that this type of thinking is not healthy or productive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 07:25 AM |
| 31 | Why do they only care after they've hurt you?They don't care about you, don't fall for that. If they cared about you, they wouldn't have fucked up what they had, they wouldn't have hurt you. They just want sex, attention, they get desperate, feel like they're running out of options/time. They are manipulating your emotions and caring nature. I think you should channel your emotions and nurturing feelings towards a hobby, work, volunteering, towards your family, friends instead of ruminating about shitbags you dated in the past. "Leaving th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 06:39 AM |
| 354 | When your boyfriend asks you to do wife shitLevel 3 is "don't do wife shit for a man who won't do husband shit". Level 4 is "don't marry a man who will expect wife shit but won't do husband shit". Level 5 is "don't audition to be a wife, observe the guy as he auditions to be your husband". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 06:30 AM |
| 15 | Porn sick husband hasn’t had sex for one week with his about to give birth wife and and is getting nasty. What a fucking surprise.THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 02:19 PM |
| 101 | What you can expect from late 30 somethings.I'd rather get coronavirus than to spend time alone in a private place with this tubby aging wannabe fuckboy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 02:07 PM |
| 37 | If you had a good father, how has he influenced you when it comes to relationships?My dad was my primary caregiver from age 2-7. He worked shifts and organized his schedule with my mom so that he took care of us in the day time. As a kid, I was pretty spoiled, super confident, to the point where I was cocky, I acted like I was a queen. When people told me I was pretty or smart I'd respond with "I know". I really believed I was beautiful, smart etc. I felt good about myself all the time. I thought my dad was the strongest man in the world. I'd jump on his arms and swing around … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 01:56 PM |
| 21 | Apart from having a separate bank account and keeping your important documents at a safe place, how else can you provide security for yourself in the case of needing to exit a relationship quickly?I bought a house before I met my husband. We bought a house together, and my 1st house is rented out. Sure, I can't move in there when I have tenants, but with the extra cash I get from rent, I can always stay at a hotel or book an Airbnb/short-term accommodation. If you have 6 months of savings you can leave immediately if you wish to. I'm really sorry this happened to you. I'm glad that you value financial independence, it is so important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Everyone needs a father like him.Great dad! That's a creative way to communicate with your kids, during times when they are hard to communicate with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 01:50 PM |
| 1 | What kind of man gets off on beating his wife until she’s unconscious? A pornsick one.I had a physically ill reaction from reading this, fucking sick and disturbing to the nth degree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 01:20 PM |
| 2 | 100% reject pickme influence if you want a chance of success in your love life.Thank you! It is sad, giving up having a close connection with them, but necessary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 05:10 AM |
| 82 | I’m Fed-Up at How Dangerous Shared-Housing is for Women and How Society Gaslights Us About itWhen I moved in with my roommate, many years ago, my dad carried my boxes to the 5th floor walkup, but refused to go inside, because my roommate was there and he said "I don't want to make her uncomfortable with my presence". My dad is an old school Eastern European man, but he still has an awareness that a stranger man's presence will make a single woman uncomfortable in her own home. Pickme roommates, despite being women, don't have this awareness. They think it's no big deal to bring over ran… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Is it just me...or are men, especially the younger generation, becoming EXTREMELY misogynistic these days? Just read the comments on this TikTok video (you need the app first).For real, that and the "mental illness" handwringing. I know mentally ill people, including a schizophrenic relative who has been in and out of institutions his adult life. His mental illness hasn't caused him to join a hate group. Hatred is not the same thing as mental illness, I am so sick of them calling hatred "mental illness". It gives hateful evil people a free pass while further stigmatizing the truly mentally ill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 11:22 PM |
| 7 | 100% reject pickme influence if you want a chance of success in your love life.Awesome post! I really enjoyed reading this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 11:20 PM |
| 6 | 100% reject pickme influence if you want a chance of success in your love life.Thank you! I want women to know that it's natural to be happy, have a happy relationship, as long as you can reject the social narratives that are designed for men's gain. Once women can see how so many social narratives are designed for men's gain, at the expense of women's happiness and health, they can think more clearly and that changes lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 11:20 PM |
| 7 | 100% reject pickme influence if you want a chance of success in your love life.Yup. I mean duh? Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 11:17 PM |
| 6 | 100% reject pickme influence if you want a chance of success in your love life.Just ignore her, it's not worth it to care at all what they think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 11:16 PM |
| 8 | 100% reject pickme influence if you want a chance of success in your love life.I'm sorry you went through that. Absolutely, they are dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 11:15 PM |
| 14 | Is it just me...or are men, especially the younger generation, becoming EXTREMELY misogynistic these days? Just read the comments on this TikTok video (you need the app first).No, it's not just you, incels are a growing domestic terrorist threat, and their targets are women. The only reason the government, media etc isn't taking this more seriously, is because these terrorists target women. Misogyny and hatred against women and girls is the 2nd most widely accepted prejudice, after classism. People just don't take terrorists seriously, when their targets are women. And those are just the most extreme 'modern misogynists', there are so many others. Younger generation m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 03:12 PM |
| 12 | Time to cultivate indifference towards anyone who detracts from your light.THIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 02:48 PM |
| 33 | 100% reject pickme influence if you want a chance of success in your love life.Yup. That guy was just a typical LVM, with bad social skills, entitlements, no clue how to talk to women. The story isn't really about him, it's about my cousins and how they treated me during this incident. They were really acting like he was the last man on earth, or my last option. It really hurt me, to think "Is that how you view me?" I'm indifferent about it now, and wish for my pickme cousins to be happy and healthy, but I will never give them access to my life or my head ever again. Espec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 02:42 PM |
| 20 | What do you think of Mrs Midwest’s advices?If you look her up, you'll find that she's a tradwife, married to a red pill guy, most of her viewers are incel guys jerking off to her videos, she follows red pill, white supremacists on Twitter. There are screenshots of her old Reddit account, where she talks more honestly about herself and her life. Her husband has a porn addiction, treats her like shit, she's estranged from her family, she's knee deep in white supremacy red pill shit. Her life is actually very sad. I feel sorry for her becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 01:31 PM |
| 68 | Never date men who self-identify as “Gamers.”The whole gaming subculture itself is toxic and makes people into worse versions of themselves 99% of the time. If people spent this much time and money, destroyed families, relationships and their health over any other "hobby", people would call gaming what it is-- a waste of time at best, a destructive addiction at worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 08:10 PM |
| 31 | Nothing new here, but telling us 10mins into the conversation about your needs to dip your dick somewhere never ceases to amaze meMost men think dating apps are free prostitution apps. Before they even talk to you, they think you have no value, because they view women on apps as the lowest of the low. They think that a woman with options would never be on apps, that only desperate and unstable women are on apps. They don't think this of themselves, but that is how they view and treat women on apps. Men on apps will prove this multiple times over, how they don't view you as human or as someone worthy of basic respect, it's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Roommate is dating the lowest of low value men, any advice on how to get her to realize?If she is dating really terrible men and bringing them over to your house, then it is not safe for you to live there. It sounds like you've already tried to talk to her, and it didn't work. I think you should just cut your losses with her and worry about yourself. Start looking for a new living arrangement asap. I've had friends who moved out of apartments because they had roommates who would bring home a different guy every week or month. That or they'd have a partner who made them uncomfortabl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 12:22 PM |
| 30 | Weird situationI would have walked out, no reason to be nice and sit through that bullshit. They are not your friends or even decent neighbors, they are trying to sexually groom you to be their fuck toy. The woman isn't your friend either, she's a sick pickme doing whatever she needs to do to please her man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Ppppiccckkk meeee. This is disgusting. Who told this woman she needs a man this badly? TRIGGER WARNINGI am sorry you went through that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 07:07 AM |
| 24 | Real reason why pickmes and scrotes are opposed to women getting a decent engagement ring.Which is why I don't understand why they bother to get married at all? A ring costs nothing compared to a divorce. Marriage is a serious commitment, you can't get the benefits of marriage by offering cheap commitment, it won't last. Cheap commitment + marriage is a recipe for divorce or for an abusive marriage, messed up kids, etc. Your heart has to be in it, or don't bother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:36 AM |
| 12 | Real reason why pickmes and scrotes are opposed to women getting a decent engagement ring.I felt the same way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:33 AM |
| 30 | Real reason why pickmes and scrotes are opposed to women getting a decent engagement ring.Exactly. He isn't going to step up or magically change at some later time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:31 AM |
| 12 | Pickme coworker strikes again she was giggling "this is so my fiance" like she was actually proud. Then went on to tell me and the other coworkers how "he never likes my cooking?" &I Asked what does he cook? "OH HE WORKS" me: "you do too! He should cook too!"The "you ladies" diatribe about us being damaged, and "positive thoughts will take you a long way miss"... Definitely a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 04:52 AM |
| 16 | Pickme coworker strikes again she was giggling "this is so my fiance" like she was actually proud. Then went on to tell me and the other coworkers how "he never likes my cooking?" &I Asked what does he cook? "OH HE WORKS" me: "you do too! He should cook too!""For those women who are single, if you ladies continue having this mindset that all men are garbage then one needs to look internally and restablish their internal emotions. " The OP did not say all men are garbage, no one in the comments did, I did not either. You sound sooo male. "Both men and women can break hearts and be fucked up. Start looking at the glass half full. Positive thoughts will take you a long way miss." Yeah, I'm convinced you're a dude. Blocked and reported. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 04:00 AM |
| 18 | Pickme coworker strikes again she was giggling "this is so my fiance" like she was actually proud. Then went on to tell me and the other coworkers how "he never likes my cooking?" &I Asked what does he cook? "OH HE WORKS" me: "you do too! He should cook too!"I'm actually happily married, what is wrong with you? And even if I weren't married, "Haha, u DoN'T hAvE a MaN, UR JeAlOuS" is not an insult to me. Seriously, what is wrong with you? She said he called her UPSET (in caps). Do you think he was saying "Baby, I'm sorry to disturb you at work, but you forgot to pack my snacks?" You know damn well he raised his voice, that he was upset with her. She literally said he was upset with her in caps. It's not a meme, she's trying to pass it off as being fu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:51 AM |
| 18 | Pickme coworker strikes again she was giggling "this is so my fiance" like she was actually proud. Then went on to tell me and the other coworkers how "he never likes my cooking?" &I Asked what does he cook? "OH HE WORKS" me: "you do too! He should cook too!"Calling someone at work to verbally abuse them for not packing your fruit snacks, is not my definition of a happy or supportive relationship. FDS does not normalize or support relationships like this. What kind of positive response do you expect for this? I have to ask, do you have a scrotum? The way you're attempting to gaslight me, the way you insist that this type of relationship dynamic is normal or happy, the way you try to shame women here as being bitter and single-- makes you sound like … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:48 AM |
| 18 | Pickme coworker strikes again she was giggling "this is so my fiance" like she was actually proud. Then went on to tell me and the other coworkers how "he never likes my cooking?" &I Asked what does he cook? "OH HE WORKS" me: "you do too! He should cook too!"He literally called her on his lunch break to yell at her for not packing him his gummy snacks. Yes, we are so jealous and bitter that this is her fiancee. What a privilege, to get yelled at in the middle of your work day, by a man child, because he doesn't have his gummy snacks. I think you should find another sub, you're either a man or a pickme saboteur. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:43 AM |
| 13 | What a read 🙄🙄 "miNiMAL bloOdsHed"Disgusting freak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:20 AM |
| 89 | Ppppiccckkk meeee. This is disgusting. Who told this woman she needs a man this badly? TRIGGER WARNINGThis is why I don't give as much benefit of the doubt to pickmes as some of you do here. You never can really tell if a pickme is just naive/stubborn/dim-witted or if she is morally ambiguous, narcissistic and so addicted to male validation, that she'll support or even commits acts of evil to get her "high". I've seen the dark side of pickmeism (thankfully not directly), and I know that many pickmes are not simply naive, some of them have a black heart. Even towards their own children. There are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:10 AM |
| 49 | Pickme coworker strikes again she was giggling "this is so my fiance" like she was actually proud. Then went on to tell me and the other coworkers how "he never likes my cooking?" &I Asked what does he cook? "OH HE WORKS" me: "you do too! He should cook too!"She's going to be one of those women on breakingmoms confused and angry AF, at her wit's end, feeling trapped and hopeless, unloved, unwanted, unappreciated. The warning signs are always there, the red flags are always there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 02:11 AM |
| 39 | What’s your opinion on flirtatious teasing?Are you also teasing him, or is it just one-sided? How would he react if you made a "joke" about him paying for dinner at a 5 star restaurant? I'm guessing that joke wouldn't go over too well with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 01:50 PM |
| 5 | Older guy gave me mixed signals, then cut off contact and is now back.Please stop talking to men, stop dating. Read this sub, go to therapy if you can (choose a good therapist, there are a lot of shit ones), read books like "The Gift of Fear". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 03:05 PM |
| 58 | It is good to set the bar high and have high standards.If you don't tell people something, they won't have the opportunity to try to argue with you, manipulate you or insult you. The only people talk to about my dating standards are my mom and my HVW friends. I'll also hint at my dating/relationship standards, if another woman asks me a genuine question, looking for advice. I never tell men anything. I accomplished a lot of things in my life, by ignoring people I don't respect or trust, and by doing what I want, because I know I can. Are they going … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 02:57 PM |
| 12 | Older guy gave me mixed signals, then cut off contact and is now back.You need to stop dating and talking to men altogether, for a long time. You have zero self-preservation instinct, you didn't even attempt to screen him, you ignore red flags the size of wildfires, you have no boundaries. You can end up dead in a dumpster, this is how terrible your boundaries and judgement are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 02:52 PM |
| 37 | Thought we could all use some more discussion of green flags.Yup. Looking for green flags is dangerous and leads to being victimized, because you should be busy looking for RED FLAGS, not green ones. Green flags can't even be confirmed as being green flags without consistency and time-- of several months at least, consistency of character in many kinds of situations and settings. Someone being nice to you, telling you what you want to hear, or acting some type of way for a few hours doesn't mean you can do a quick and dirty screening by having a check lis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 02:41 PM |
| 101 | Men abhor the idea of a woman who is both intelligent and beautiful so much, to the point where they've convinced themselves that this completely irrational stereotype is a truth.Don't overthink something that is simple. They just hate women. How do you think they treat unattractive or mentally disabled women? They have different kinds of vitriol for different types of women. They like to defile women who they perceive as being uppity, they like to exploit women who they perceive as being vulnerable. The best way to suss out these guys, is by simplifying men's behavior-- does he hate women or not? It's that simple. If he makes some negative comment about fat chicks or si… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 02:38 PM |
| 10 | Thought we could all use some more discussion of green flags.Sorry if this was unclear-- my post wasn't directed to you. I'm just saying in general, discussions about green flags benefit predators looking to refine and adapt their behaviors, they don't actually really strengthen victim's boundaries or perceptions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 02:29 PM |
| 64 | Thought we could all use some more discussion of green flags.Discussions about "green flags" just educate predators, they teach predators to adapt their behaviors so they can target their victims more successfully and more efficiently. Green flags are just common sense. Truth = goodness = common sense. If you find yourself overthinking something or someone, that person is not good nor truthful. This can be confusing, if your own head is a mess and you've lost your truth compass. If you lie to yourself, you can't tell when others are lying to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 02:24 PM |
| 17 | How exactly do I give him a last chance to meet my needs?Yeah, this. No offense to the OP, but there is no secret FDS script to give him, that will transform him into the man she wants him to be. You just have to cut your losses and move on, mindfucking yourself to stay just makes it worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 02:17 PM |
| 23 | I hate my mother, for realI'm sorry. Are you in therapy? Are you working towards finding other work/income outside of sex work? Your mother sounds like she might possibly be a cluster B, the dynamics of your family sound like a typical narc parent with a scapegoat child and golden child. Check out the sub raisedbynarcissists, Maybe your mom is just a misogynist asshole from a culture that idolizes boys and treats girls like garbage cans, but she can still be a cluster B. It's not normal for a mother to have zero empathy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 02:04 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend proposed to me with a $30 ring. It was a huge fake diamond and he didn’t admit it was fake until my sister saw it on Amazon. He said he did that because for 5 months he paid majority of the rent.Lol this. If she doesn't wake up fast, this (or some similar depressing variation), will be her life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:57 PM |
| 59 | If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, the “with you” is silentYeah, women being desperate for a relationship (with seemingly anyone), really makes mediocre men think they are a prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:56 PM |
| 35 | How exactly do I give him a last chance to meet my needs?I think you should read the FDS handbook, spend some time reading content here, and decide if this place is for you or not. This is not the sub that will support your cognitive dissonance, that will help you mindfuck yourself for his gain. You know what we are going to tell you, just move on. You don't have to ghost him, if you feel like being courteous, send a short text before blocking. If you don't like this answer, there are tons of subs out there on Reddit that will tell you to cOmMuniCaTe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:50 PM |
| 18 | Rushing commitment/marriage is a red flag (trauma bonding)Yup. I'm concerned for women who are idolizing getting married in a short time. It's the opposite of endlessly entertaining fuckboys, being a forever girlfriend, but it's just as bad or even worse. You can really FUCK up your life by doing this, irreparably so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:41 PM |
| 18 | The Discovery Phase: how to uncover his valuesAll good points. I'd suggest that you keep your cards close to you, don't reveal them, observe the guy's natural behavior and patterns, ask him questions (not trick questions) and let him reveal who he is to you. The vast majority of them will tell you and show you who they are, most of the time very quickly, you just have to believe it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:36 PM |
| 46 | Mixed signals is your cue to exist stage left.Mixed signals = manipulation tactic 101, keep the person confused by blowing hot and cold air. Motivation = desire to have an upper hand over another, due to self-loathing and loathing towards women. Mixed signals is actually better than a strong signal. If you are unlucky enough to be a manipulator's "type", he is going to use whatever brain power he has (even if it's not much) to try to manipulate you for something bigger and longer than cheap attention. Men who show you mixed signals are show… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:33 PM |
| 173 | If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, the “with you” is silentDo you even want a relationship "with him"? Forget that, do you even want a second date "with him"? Think about what you want, at all times, not about what he wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Focus on making your body feel good, not on how it looksIs that a fried chicken dish? I gravitate towards the fattest Asian recipes, especially if Indian. My palette is in the meat-potatoes-bread-cheese quadrant, but I'm trying to experiment with different textures, flavors, seeing veggies as a complete meal lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Focus on making your body feel good, not on how it looksThat all sounds amazing! I'm starting to cook more Asian recipes, I stocked up on pantry ingredients to try all kinds of things. I've never tried daikon but I'm crazy about mushrooms, eat them several times a week. The baked zucchini and parmesan-- I recently made a similar dish! Baked zucchini, with caramelized bell peppers and onions, some gruyere cheese. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:34 PM |
| 26 | Oddly specific but soooooo spot onYeah, there is this very talented YouTube artist I watch, and I cringe when she makes self-deprecating jokes. One or two funny self-deprecating comments is fine, constantly shitting on yourself and trying to laugh it off is not. I watch less of her content now because of this. I don't think she even realizes that she does it. She's married, and I wonder if her husband tells her that her work is beautiful, that she is brave for doing what she does? It takes so much bravery to be a woman creator, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 03:32 PM |
| 10 | Focus on making your body feel good, not on how it looksI can attest to this! I lost 7 lbs in the past few months, because I decided that vegetables are more interesting than I give them credit for. I spent my time in quarantine cooking new recipes with veggies, trying out different kinds, some that I never cooked with before. Eating more veggies simply made my body feel better. I also decided to go hiking in the mountains more often, painting outdoors as well, since there is nothing to do.. why not? I didn't have to diet, count calories, do boring m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 03:27 PM |
| 28 | Cut those onions right outta your life!For real. Onions are amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 06:49 PM |
| 3 | 20k upvotes in a womens subreddit praising a man for apologizing for rape 11 years later. "Women you have to let men apologize, how else can we expect men to grow? Be open and let your assaulter speak". "He's such a strong man"Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 06:40 PM |
| 10 | Finding a Muslim HVMRidiculous. How can you possibly know how they feel when watching porn, besides feeling horny? Despite porn being prohibited in many/most Muslim countries, 6 out of 8 "most porn-searching countries" are Muslim. "Porn is being made and watched in the Middle East, and millions more are watching it around the planet. In fact, some of the world’s top porn consumers come out of the Middle East. According to data released by Google, six of the top eight porn-searching countries are Muslim states. Paki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 06:23 PM |
| 67 | Finding a Muslim HVMHow does he view/treat all women? That would be the ultimate screening test to see if a religious/cultural man is a HVM or not. Not just women from his culture/religion, who he sees as acceptable or respectable, someone his mom would approve of. If he views other women as whores, as subhuman, as less than-- he is not a HVM and never will be. The only way you can brainwash yourself to think otherwise is if you have a "not like the other girls" mentality. That you are different from all of womanki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 06:05 PM |
| 17 | A lesson from Cassie, who majorly upgraded: Don't let your boyfriend keep you from your husband- when they know they knowI think women should be careful to not idolize getting married/knocked up fast. It's not a problem for Cassie. She is wealthy, most likely signed a prenup. She can easily leave the marriage/man, whenever she wants. She won't have to worry about finding a place to live, how to survive, how to take care of her child, she can afford good lawyers. There are TONS of married women with kids out there, who would leave if they could. 1 year is not enough time to get married AND pregnant. Don't go from o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 05:54 PM |
| 91 | Am I in the wrong?She's not your friend. When you try to defend her/be an advocate for her, she brings up a traumatic event in your past to hurt you. You're trying to protect her, she's trying to hurt you. She doesn't care about you, the way a friend should care about you. Let her go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 05:36 PM |
| 7 | So I know this isn’t the absolute worst but still😭 Are they trying to make walk dates a thing now?He seriously does tho. I can't tell the difference between reality and satire anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:58 AM |
| 79 | IF HE WON’T COMMIT LEAVE HIMYeah, it's really sad. Women think they "won" because they got a wedding, a ring, a house, some kids. They think that being chosen by a man = I've won. In order to not get clowned by men, you have to reframe your mind to think the opposite. The guy is auditioning to be your husband, is he good enough, will you be able to deal with him? He is the one that is going to gain more from the marriage/from kids, not you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:57 AM |
| 145 | IF HE WON’T COMMIT LEAVE HIMCommitting doesn't mean that much though. He can "commit" to you because he knows realistically that you're the best he can do, but will act contemptuously towards you in marriage. Men can commit for a million bad reasons, they are also good at pretending to commit to you, to get what they want from you. Avoiding being a 7 year forever girlfriend is like passing FDS kindergarten, it doesn't mean you're "winning" just because he's doing all the motions. I'm not saying this to be a bummer, I just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:46 AM |
| 56 | Women, you are NOT a fucking play thing.This is why I dumped a guy after his best friend died. We were dating for about 4-5 weeks, I noticed he was dropping the ball/treating me as an option. His good friend dies in a freak accident, with the exception of the friend who passed, I think the guy didn't have any other real friends (like many/most men) or anyone he invested in enough to rely on for emotional support. So he expected that emotional support from me, some random woman he was casually and briefly dating. I told him "I'm sorry … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:38 AM |
| 33 | So I know this isn’t the absolute worst but still😭 Are they trying to make walk dates a thing now?He looks like he has a human foot in his freezer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:08 AM |
| 5 | me up at 1 AM telling women on r/relationship_advice to leave their shitty boyfriendsLmao! :] | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:02 AM |
| 32 | The big lie about women and communicationI really love this post, thank you for writing it. I have vivid memories of feeling disturbed as a kid, when seeing women trying to CoMmUnICaTe with men. I remember seeing men acting really short and gruff with their wives in public, their wives making themselves small, and I felt disturbed. Also on holidays-- seeing women pander to males all day long, cooking and cleaning, while men sat on their asses. Little girls are socialized to believe in x, y and z, but we are born being a whole person, h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 01:59 AM |
| 20 | Is there any saving my friend? In a relationship with a man 16 years her senior.Nothing you can do. You can't stop her from destroying herself. I'd personally distance myself from her, unless she asks me for help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 01:55 AM |
| 50 | Why can't a guy just admit he doesn't like you?Because he wants you to chase him, he wants you to be available to him for fast and cheap validation, sex an ego boost, as a second-rate/last option. If he admits he doesn't like you, he risks losing access to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 01:53 AM |
| 36 | Do not fall for the trap of liberal "feminism"I wish liberal feminists would see the grotesque misogyny that their ideology pushes, instead of being rabidly obsessed with conservative misogyny. Like a conservative misogynist will fart, libfems will hear the fart from 10,000 miles away, but they won't hear or smell the diarrhea volcano erupting in their own backyard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 01:34 PM |
| 29 | That's a rough 41 😬Sure, and I just turned 8 last week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 08:40 AM |
| 1 | The Mother’s Day card my 13 year old son gave me. I feel like I’m doing something right.You're doing a LOT right mama. Be proud, I hope you had a fantastic Mother's Day. I respect HV mothers of sons so, so much. You are raising a kind, strong son, you are a hero. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 06:41 AM |
| 17 | I walked away from my cheating ex while pregnant. Today is my first Mother’s Day and this is the card I received from my 10 year old cousin. 🙌Omg I love it. Your little cousin is fantastic. "YOU DON'T NEED NO MAN'S EEWW" with the face she drew. She could make a t-shirt or poster with sassy quotes and funny smiley faces, and I swear I'd buy it. This girl has talent. Happy Mother's Day! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 06:28 AM |
| 16 | this porn sicko wants everyone to know he controls her, she's worried he will leave her if she doesn't obey.Oh yeah, he is going to escalate. Guarantee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 06:21 AM |
| 18 | this porn sicko wants everyone to know he controls her, she's worried he will leave her if she doesn't obey.I like this idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 06:19 AM |
| 39 | this porn sicko wants everyone to know he controls her, she's worried he will leave her if she doesn't obey.That post is making me sick. Great example of how normalizing and promoting bdsm and kink, empowers abusers. She's scared of breaking up with him, when really, she should be afraid of HIM. And I just noticed she calls him "He" lmao. Like he is God. She might be too far gone. Sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 06:16 AM |
| 7 | Am I alone with this feeling?I'm sorry to hear that. I have a cousin who went through something similar. His parents (my aunt and his dad) got married young, divorced when he was a toddler, his dad saw him a handful of times in the span of over 10 years. My cousin felt some type of way about it, was very stubborn and stupid, craved a relationship with his dad. So as a young teen, he moved several states away to live with his dad. He came back with stories of abuse, beatings, etc. After that, he slowly started to accept the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 05:59 AM |
| 27 | Am I alone with this feeling?Your son was a slave to your ex for years, I think this is the bigger problem. I'm not judging, but why was he ever even in the position to have to live there and be his slave for years? Your son probably has a lot of resentment and even trauma from that. It sounds like you haven't been defending yourself or your children from this terrible man, for years, even into your son's adult years. It's time to protect yourself and protect your children. The sinking feeling you get in your stomach after … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 05:27 AM |
| 40 | Men fail as fathers = women labelled with "daddy issues" because it is easier to put down the woman in the equation.Deadbeat and abusive dads have both male and female children. Tons of men walk around repeating their loser scumbag father's legacy. They just don't see this as being "daddy issues". Daddy issues for women is sexualized. We can can thank porn for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:54 AM |
| 78 | Men fail as fathers = women labelled with "daddy issues" because it is easier to put down the woman in the equation.Scrotes just say anything, and if they get even a little bit of attention for saying it, they'll keep saying it over and over and over. I have a great HVM dad (not perfect, but tons better than the vast majority of males now), who always supported me emotionally, financially and physically in life. No guy in real life has accused me of having daddy issues, but online, sure. If I write something unflattering (however true) about males, men will accuse me of having daddy issues online. In real lif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:43 AM |
| 24 | “As a High Value Male, I would never be attracted to any of you FDSers, thereby proving your methods are ineffective”LMFAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:14 AM |
| 18 | What to do when your boyfriend of 4+ years says he thinks he can "do better"?You're a placeholder. He has said it to you directly. Dump him and work on your self-esteem, health and body image. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 02:47 PM |
| 34 | Does anyone actually believe this is an accident when this happens?I feel so sad for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 01:27 PM |
| 67 | r/TwoXSex users are upset males refuse to respect their female only space, dominate the conversation, derail the discussion, and force women to constantly cater to their feelings and pervert behavior. 😡BAN THEM ALL. Signed, an FDS MOD.Yeah, r/TwoXSex mods need to grow a spine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 04:45 AM |
| 27 | Globally, Women’s subordination (Unpaid Labor) is Worth $10,900,000,000,000. "India has the largest gap: Women there spend almost six hours a day managing the home; Indian men spend a paltry 52 minutes. The smallest divides are found in Sweden, Denmark and Norway." Link in the comment section.I'm calling bullshit. All countries have a much bigger gap than this. If India has the worst gap and Indian men still supposedly spend almost 1 hour/day on household labor, I'm calling bullshit. The average American man doesn't spend 1 hour/day on household labor. This chart says American men spend about 2.5 hours on household labor/day-- LMAO. Maybe in an alternate universe. I think men in countries with very large gaps, do NOTHING at all, and countries in the middle have men spending maybe up … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 04:26 AM |
| 41 | Am I naive for thinking that soulmates exist?I believe in soul mates, as in you become soul mates after spending many years together. I think sweet old couples who have survived economic disaster, war, the loss of a child etc are soul mates. I believe that all people are born with the potential to become a soul mate, but most don't. People are too dysfunctional for most people to become soul mates. Finding soul mates to me is just sexual chemistry, maybe a feeling of familiarity (the person reminds you of someone else), or sometimes it's f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 04:14 AM |
| 65 | Naivety will kill youThis! I always try to spread this message on FDS. Some newbies get angry or feel like they are being picked on when they are told to not be naive. This is a radical concept for many-- it shakes a lot of people's value systems, to treat half of the population like they are "guilty until proven otherwise" vs assuming that most people have good intentions and try to be good people. Being naive, will get you NOWHERE. We all start out genuinely naive, but we all also naturally have strong instinct an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 04:05 AM |
| 6 | STOP RESPONDING TO ABUSIVE DMSDeactivate your DMs. It takes a few clicks, that's it. Before I disabled my private messages, I also got abusive messages from scrotes. I never read a single one of these angry mansplaining messages, immediately deleted and blocked lol. I would open my messages again, just to get the satisfaction of deleting them without reading them, but I think the scrotes sending them assume I actually read it. I don't want to give them ANY satisfaction at all. So I prefer to disable PMs instead, so that when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 03:57 AM |
| 21 | Anyone constantly rolling their eyes at how hard men supposedly have it when it comes to dating?Dating isn't harder for them, existence and being human is hard for them. They often confuse the two. Women are much better at existing and being human, being a person, because we are socialized to be empathetic, responsible, hardworking, resilient and flexible. We are growing and evolving, and outperforming men in basically every area of life. This is happening starting at a young age, girls start outperforming boys young. Currently, women outnumber men in the workforce, on top of doing the vas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 01:34 PM |
| 2 | No HoOkuPZzz I aM a SerIoUz peRsOn loOkiNg fOr a loNgtErM cOnCuBinEPretty much lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.I think super mom is the next life stage for cool girlfriends. Not always supermom, some of them choose really shit men and don't have enough energy or money to even try being a super mom. Those go from cool girlfriend to "mommy needs wine". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.I highly doubt it too, but she should stand up for herself. Being a doormat = you're going to implode sooner or later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 01:20 PM |
| 9 | With online dating, I really recommend waiting a few days before giving a new guy your social mediaI agree! It's important to learn how to be happy alone, even if you are partnered. It is so, so necessary. Most women are unhappily partnered, many will statistically divorce or will be abandoned in some way or another. Even happily married women will likely outlive their husband, and will be alone in old age. As for kids, you can have kids without having a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:58 AM |
| 6 | No HoOkuPZzz I aM a SerIoUz peRsOn loOkiNg fOr a loNgtErM cOnCuBinEThere's different kinds of mentally unhealthy. Yeah I agree, they want someone with zero self-esteem, but they don't want a woman who is going to slash their tires, get pregnant on purpose, someone who is going to steal their wallet or their valuables. They do want someone who looks "normal", but who hates herself so much that she goes along with this. Poly guys are mentally unstable in a different way-- they are predators. Poly guys aren't decent looking themselves but they want someone convent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:54 AM |
| 4 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.No judgement if you like to watch them! I personally just don't enjoy watching them because I can't stand it anymore. And not all cleaning videos are like this, the ones geared more towards organization, that don't have a mommy/SAHM angle, are not toxic, from what I've observed. I think it's the mommy vlogger thing spilling over everywhere, and that subculture definitely is extremely toxic IMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:46 AM |
| 9 | With online dating, I really recommend waiting a few days before giving a new guy your social mediaIt was dangerous and harmful before too, but I think with FDS strategy, it was possible back then to find someone decent. I personally failed at it, because I was extremely naive, inexperienced, and I met an emotionally abusive older man. Big time regrets concerning that. However, I do think it was possible to screen back then, if you knew how to. This type of information was just not out there back then. Now It's just a way to donate your body, mind, energy and time to worthless men who don't v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:43 AM |
| 15 | No HoOkuPZzz I aM a SerIoUz peRsOn loOkiNg fOr a loNgtErM cOnCuBinEPoly guys are really, really dumb. Regular cheating scrotes understand reality a bit better, they know that you can't attract a decent looking, somewhat mentally healthy woman by being polyamorous. They pretend to be single because it works a lot better than this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:33 AM |
| 2 | I hope it's not a repost :)Lmaoo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:26 AM |
| 19 | With online dating, I really recommend waiting a few days before giving a new guy your social media*sigh* Idk how old y'all are, but I'm 32 and can remember a time when OLD wasn't like this. It was awkward, but nowhere near this bad. First of all, social media is usually (almost always) bad. Unless you're using it for work, keep your shit super private (don't even use real names), only add family and real friends. Don't add any random men either. You have NOTHING to gain by putting yourself out there on social media, by making yourself accessible to every Tom, Dick and Butthead slinging DMs i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.They're literally videos of people (always women from what I've seen) cleaning their house. I have to admit they did used to work-- I would get inspired to clean for hours. Now I just get annoyed. I still like organizing videos though, lots of inspiration and practical tips. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 02:25 AM |
| 7 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.That's too cute! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 02:20 AM |
| 57 | Point By Point Critique of “The Wall”Saved this sooo fast. Some of my favorite parts of the post... "I don't know of any teen girl who had posters in her room of balding 50 yr old "silver foxes"." "Many young men nowadays are showing signs of aging in their TWENTIES: balding/ receding hairlines, wrinkles, sagging skin, potbellies, and flabby "dad bods." Whether this is due to unhealthy lifestyles, hormone imbalance, porn addiction, whatever, the effects are glaringly obvious." "Also, the same men who critique women's vaginas for no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 12:49 AM |
| 19 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.Yeah, my husband works in cyber security and he also thinks the same way. I was always against putting kids online. I don't get why people even feel the need to do this. Just send photos/videos via groupchat. That's also not completely safe but it's a million times better than FB. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 12:24 AM |
| 19 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.That's embarrassing, she's not even married to him. Even as a wife, it's so cringey to flex because you're licking some man's ball sack. I never call out LV relatives or acquaintances because it's not worth it. They're already miserable. A lot of the times, the only happiness they get is when they are accusing someone of being jealous of them. It's surreal and sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 12:22 AM |
| 55 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.The supermom thing is going to blow up in their face, big time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 12:19 AM |
| 3 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.Oh I made a typo... I meant put my dishes in the dishwasher. :] | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 12:19 AM |
| 33 | This is why you must have separate accounts even if you think he's a HVM. You can never be too sure.This! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 12:13 AM |
| 42 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.Even if a pedo isn't watching them, the child can't consent to having their identity put online, forever. You can't ever truly remove something from the internet once you put it out there. It is wrong, and I have a feeling a lot of parents will have bad relationships with their adult children in the future because of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 12:10 AM |
| 24 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.I don't get why these women don't have any self-respect, even with their own kids. Teach them to respect you for FFS! Or at least stop teaching them to disrespect you. Also, why aren't the husbands teaching their kids to respect their mother? They probably don't teach it to them, because the dad doesn't respect her either, and the kids learned that from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 11:51 PM |
| 24 | Cleaning inspo videos are toxic. They normalize women cleaning up after their slob kid's and husband's messes.True, but I think the Pinterest/YouTube subcultures push something more extreme. I remember a few things growing up... 1) We didn't make THAT much of a mess, because we were trained to do basic chores, to clean up after ourselves to some extent 2) My mom did most of the laundry, deep cleaning etc but my dad didn't just leave messes if he saw them, he also cooked 3) My dad would yell at me and my siblings if we made a mess, saying that we don't respect our mom or our home. Holidays were the most … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 11:43 PM |
| 13 | Funny 1st date story to lighten up the mood... also an example of why LVM/NVM have no excuses for their behavior.Oh yeah, it was definitely too much. If it weren't for his watch stopping at 8, him getting terrified of me and shitting his pants, I would think he was just screening to see if I was nice and agreeable enough to go along with such crazy shit on a first date. The watch thing + being scared of me made me think he's a genuine weird guy into genuinely weird stuff. Arrogant and a tool, but arrogant tool women are a dime a dozen in NYC too, he just needed to find one weird enough for him. I did call … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 01:20 AM |
| 19 | Funny 1st date story to lighten up the mood... also an example of why LVM/NVM have no excuses for their behavior.He had an intimidating look but I honestly didn't feel creeped out by him. Annoyed, yes, especially because he was a type A (former bodybuilder, had degrees in engineering and economics) and had that typical arrogance of type A NYC man, except he was into really weird things. He annoyed me because he kept saying absurd things without evidence, and he would say it in a matter of fact way lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 01:08 AM |
| 37 | Funny 1st date story to lighten up the mood... also an example of why LVM/NVM have no excuses for their behavior.I think you can be a massive weirdo and still be HV, as long as you are kind, honest, treat others the way you want to be treated. I don't know if this guy was HV or not, I just knew that we were completely incompatible lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 01:05 AM |
| 31 | This man is gutter rat lvm, like the lowest of them all.He sounds like a future wife murderer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 12:34 AM |
| 13 | What’s the difference between a LVM and a NVM?NVM is just a worse LVM. It's the same with pickmes, there are different tiers of pickmes. IMO, based on my observations, average LVM and average pickmes are married or partnered. They have mediocre, unsatisfying relationships where they don't even like or respect each other, because they can't stand being alone for any amount of time. NVM and extreme pickmes (or pickmeishas) are the types who can't even manage a mediocre LV relationship, they are spinning their wheels on apps. NVM men are porns… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 12:21 AM |
| 67 | Funny 1st date story to lighten up the mood... also an example of why LVM/NVM have no excuses for their behavior.I have my pm's disabled bc scrotes send me novels, so I'll just share it here, it's not a very long story. I went on a 1st date with a guy who showed up in a leg cast. He didn't mention that he had a cast when we were chatting, so I was surprised. He was able to ride his bike but couldn't walk without limping. I asked him what happened and off the bat he said, "I got shot in the ass in Argentina on Thanksgiving. The bullet traveled from my ass down to my leg and caused nerve damage. I have to we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 12:08 AM |
| 29 | Funny 1st date story to lighten up the mood... also an example of why LVM/NVM have no excuses for their behavior.I have 1 more funny bizarre 1st date story from my time dating in NYC, but this one is by far the craziest and funniest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:57 PM |
| 17 | Funny 1st date story to lighten up the mood... also an example of why LVM/NVM have no excuses for their behavior.lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:56 PM |
| 32 | Funny 1st date story to lighten up the mood... also an example of why LVM/NVM have no excuses for their behavior.It is the bare minimum, and I described it as such. We talked for a few weeks before meeting. People didn't meet after just a few messages back then. The point of my post is that I'm sharing a funny story, and also pointing out that even really out there guys like this can meet the bare minimum if they want to. That LVM/NVM have no excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:49 PM |
| 4 | Is it a red flag when a guy says on his profile that his favorite quality of a person is “empathy”?I thought it was in the present, because you said park date. For the 2nd date, you mentioned a restaurant, but some places are opening up now. A LOT of people are actually dating in lockdown, so if you don't want to be mistaken for one of them definitely put a disclaimer saying these dates were from months ago. People are still hooking up in their house/car, going on park dates etc, it's absolutely not "common sense" that "no one's going on dates now". But in any case, yes it's a huge red flag t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:43 PM |
| 21 | Is it a red flag when a guy says on his profile that his favorite quality of a person is “empathy”?Omg yes. Please work on your screening skills. Also avoid going on dates during coronavirus. It might take months or even over a year before life returns to "normal", so use that time to level up, improve your boundaries. You can talk to guys on chat/video chat (avoid sexting, sending nudes) but don't get attached to them. Just practice screening with these chats. A guy who says his fav quality is "empathy" is basically saying "I'm looking for a victim". He knows that any woman who matches with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 10:54 PM |
| 3 | Jezebel.com shames Ronda Rousey for saying Lube is unnecessary if a man takes his time and you’re aroused enough & that needing lube means he’s probably lazy. Everytime women try to set a standard like “my vagina must be moist in order to fuck” Libfems shame us out of it.This is like weaponized insecurity... most women struggle with some type of insecurity/self-esteem problem or another at some point in their life, or for most/all of their life. The vast majority of women seem to keep it to themselves, take it out on themselves. Pickme libfems are so obsessed with male approval and imitating men, that they weaponize their insecurity the way men do. They aren't aggressive and scary about it the way men are, but they use shaming and damning language to force women… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 10:10 PM |
| 27 | Jezebel.com shames Ronda Rousey for saying Lube is unnecessary if a man takes his time and you’re aroused enough & that needing lube means he’s probably lazy. Everytime women try to set a standard like “my vagina must be moist in order to fuck” Libfems shame us out of it.I wonder how many women were re-victimized, in their process of trying to heal, because they followed libfem advice to re-enact trauma and sleep around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 01:09 PM |
| 42 | Scared to move on from my long term relationship"My entire routine is built around spending time with him and making sure he’s happy." Not every man is the worst kind of abuser, some men are just slob parasites who bring you down and manipulate you into having your life revolve around them. Women with trauma are especially vulnerable, they think this type of guy is "safe". A lot of the times, these guys are so immature and ill prepared for life, for challenges in general, that they go from harmless and annoying to abusive and degrading as soo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:34 AM |
| 11 | How to make High Value friendsSame. I had a bigger group of friends before, but my life improved after dropping them. Not immediately, it was hard at times to enjoy my own company. These days, I'm picky about who I spend my time with, because I love my own company so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:10 AM |
| 9 | FactsYup. Also, if you want to see the job description of a scrote's wife, check out breakingmom. It will open your eyes. This information is denied to women. What happens to you after you become legally and physically tied to a scrote, after you have kids with him. Also check out deadbedrooms if you really want to see how it's not worth it to audition being a wife to a guy who wouldn't respect his actual wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 10:32 AM |
| 37 | How to make High Value friendsI agree! But I'll add-- it can take a lot of time and luck to meet HV people. In 8 years, I made 6 HVW friends. I met 3 of them in Europe, moved back to the US, 2 still live in Europe and the other moved back to Korea. I have another HVW friend on the other side of the US. I have 1 HVW friend who lives one state away from me, and another who lives in 1.5 hours away in the same state. I have several acquaintances/casual friends who seem HV, but I don't know them well enough. I also have several f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 10:07 AM |
| 17 | Men want virgins, but who will sleep with them on the first dateI noticed that one too. The only way that would be true is if he was a GQ model billionaire fending off models on his yacht, or if he was a rock star with groupies trying to snip off a piece of his hair. That or if he was James Bond. Sure buddy, in your dreams. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 09:26 AM |
| 51 | Men want virgins, but who will sleep with them on the first dateI can't stand sneaky manipulative guys like that. At least bro/chad types will be like "send me pics of your tits" and will peace out if you don't. Those balding, flabby mediocre looking guys who have no game and no sexual prowess, resort to sociopathic manipulation tactics to get laid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 09:20 AM |
| 51 | Men want virgins, but who will sleep with them on the first dateDefinitely. 80-90% of them expect it by date 2 or date 3. I was single for 5 years because of this. Being single for that long, not even having sex, can fuck with your mind in a big way. As strong as I was, I still had thoughts in the back of my mind, like "Maybe I lost an opportunity with someone who has potential, because the dating culture pushes sex by the 2nd-3rd date ". I didn't let that thought into the front of my mind, because it's completely irrational. It's not like men are living thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 09:05 AM |
| 34 | It’s been almost one month since I told my best friend that I didn’t want to hear about her fugly cheating creepy scrote of a boyfriend. I’m not emotionally responsible or stressed for her anymore and I’m really happy about it!I had a friend like that too. We were childhood friends, and reconnected many years later. My blood pressure would go up, having hours long conversations with her about why it's not a good idea to be a side chick for a married man 14 years older than you, who has a kidney disease, a shortened life expectancy, whose dad sexually harassed you. I did tell her to stop talking to me about him, but it didn't matter. She drove me crazy, with her fucked up expectations of being her free therapist, alway… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:42 AM |
| 10 | I'm starting to think liberal feminism might actually be antifeminismThey probably have a lot more control over when and how they choose to be subjected to being sexualized and pressure to having to do performative femininity. For other women, they never really have a choice it’s something they have to be constantly aware of and they have to be “on” with their femininity all the time because men pressure and bully them into gender conformity. Yes! This. They're so obtuse about this, they act almost as clueless as men about it. Sooo helpful and soo feminist. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:22 AM |
| 42 | Vacations- who pays?When I was dating my husband/when we were engaged, we went on 4 trips. We flew for 3 trips, he paid for the tickets, and we drove for 1 trip, he drove both ways, paid for gas, accommodation and meals on the road. On 1 trip, he upgraded our plane seats to business class because I had a really bad sunburn, and he wanted me to be comfortable. When we got home from the airport, my sunburn got really really bad, and he ran to Walgreens to get me supplies. And I didn't even ask him to, he just saw tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:10 AM |
| 29 | I'm starting to think liberal feminism might actually be antifeminism"The “sex positive” movement feels empowering to them because they want to be objectified just like the gorgeous women." I think they like to identify with kink subcultures, because they can pick and choose when they are in the mood to be objectified. They can control the situation and setting, and that makes them feel empowered. It makes them feel desirable, which is understandable. But they don't want to understand that conventionally attractive women are objectified all the time, 99% of the t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 06:42 AM |
| 40 | I'm starting to think liberal feminism might actually be antifeminismThis! You worded this perfectly. A luxury belief system for the 1%. This describes them perfectly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 06:30 AM |
| 20 | I'm starting to think liberal feminism might actually be antifeminismThey're definitely antifeminists. Some of them are just really stupid and naive, especially the young ones (teens/early 20s). Like the tumblr libfems-- a lot of them are probably mentally ill with sexual trauma. Not to shame mental illness or trauma survivors, but just look at their content, its suggestive of mental illness and sexual trauma. A lot of the times, they talk about their mental health and trauma openly, but their perspective is too warped to connect the dots. I have hope that many o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 06:22 AM |
| 46 | Jezebel.com shames Ronda Rousey for saying Lube is unnecessary if a man takes his time and you’re aroused enough & that needing lube means he’s probably lazy. Everytime women try to set a standard like “my vagina must be moist in order to fuck” Libfems shame us out of it."Depending on the kind of sex being had, lube can be essential because not all our orifices produce the necessary fluids to ensure adequate slipperiness, especially for anal play. If someone is undergoing cancer treatments, going through menopause, or even taking certain medications, their natural lubrication production can dramatically change and decrease. For survivors of sexual trauma, even when emotionally feeling ready to have consensual sex, their bodies may be so dissociated that lubricat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 06:09 AM |
| 110 | The Frisky posts “7 Excuses for getting out of Anal Sex”. Because your “HELL NO” is just not good enough ladies! We must always lie and apologize to men over our lack of desire for Anal Sex to protect their fee fees!So much for being "sex positive" when you need to make excuses to say no to a sexual act you don't want to do. Also, if you're a typical woke sex positive libfem, who is all about eQuAliTy, what's stopping you from putting a dildo up his ass? He's the one with a prostate. Their whole sex positive progressive kinkster thing is such a transparent cover up for having no self-esteem, wanting desperately to be validated by men. I believe men see through it and they target these women accordingly. Wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 03:46 PM |
| 10 | Man wants new GF to foot half the bill for him and his two kids. Throw the whole man awayShe reminds me of an old childhood friend I had. We reconnected after many years, she started opening up to me. She was having an affair with a married co-worker. She had zero empathy for his wife, rationalized what she was doing in really fucked up ways. I later came to discover that she had issues with empathy in general, and was completely in denial about her abusive upbringing. I also learned how manipulative, selfish and self-centered she was. She would call me and pick my brains talking ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 03:18 PM |
| 14 | Man wants new GF to foot half the bill for him and his two kids. Throw the whole man awayI generally have empathy for pickmeishas and women being exploited by men, but she is the type of enabler that I have limited empathy for. I know she has problems and would probably choose something better if it were as easy as snapping her fingers, but her level of denial, mental gymnastics, etc is dangerous because those are the types of women who let men steamroll other women and abuse children, just for a little bit of attention and affection. She already showed a bit of that, by responding … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 03:06 PM |
| 21 | Is being called 'cute' less of a compliment?Have you screened him for having an Asian fetish? Calling you cute 10 times and kissing your head? Sounds like an Asian fetish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 02:36 PM |
| 18 | Man wants new GF to foot half the bill for him and his two kids. Throw the whole man awayI felt bad for her when I initially read her post, but my empathy pretty much disappeared after I read her comments. She's unbelievable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 02:27 PM |
| 39 | Man wants new GF to foot half the bill for him and his two kids. Throw the whole man awayThat got me distraught too. She is so vile and so disrespectful. People wrote her thoughtful, informative supportive comments, and she shamelessly responds with "Would you mind asking your husband or boyfriend for his opinion?" She is seriously awful. Maybe she can't see how awful her partner is because she herself is filled with rot? Not as much as him, but it's there, and it shows. Also, did y'all catch this... "And it is more complicated. We were coworkers and he was still married when we met… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 01:49 PM |
| 7 | Man wants new GF to foot half the bill for him and his two kids. Throw the whole man awayWow, is this a new species of pickmeisha? She needs to wake up and run. What a disgrace of a man, preying on some desperate woman, so he can avoid providing for his own children. I got sick reading that post. Sounds like a typical narcissist/codependent relationship. The "twin flame" thing cements that. Codependent enabler types love trying to rationalize their sick twisted abusive relationships with "twin flame" bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 01:27 PM |
| 197 | Seriously. Stfu.You literally can't win. There is no route to be validated as a human being or as a woman. Nothing you are, do or say is correct, good enough or even acceptable. This level of psychotic misogyny is a bizarre mix of conservative/old misogyny and progressive misogyny/pornsickness. Like a combo of ISIS, Ted Bundy, woke BDSMers and rapist pedophile stepfathers. Women tend to be agreeable, but being this overtly misogynistic is not even in the interest of patriarchy. You have to be somewhat intellige… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 09:49 AM |
| 39 | Great video about the dangers of stingy LVMTRUTH. Scrotes and pickmes are going to attack her with gold digger insults, but both of them know deep down that she is telling the truth. It triggers both of them-- scrotes know they are the low men she talks about in this video, and pickmes know that they don't have any self-respect. Some of these stories are crazy appalling. Who puts up with this kind of disrespect? At least some of them put their foot down. Congrats to the woman who ghosted her fiancee after he booked her an economy ticket … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 09:32 AM |
| 66 | [Interesting article] Sometimes, it’s better to be single. Love is political. Let’s not be blind to the way social expectations often play out in personal relationships. Never settle.I think life is also just getting harder, survival trumps maintaining a delusion, and hard times are pushing more women into understanding that. If you can't find a good mate, in this society, you are better off single. Most women in the past got married to survive. It's the opposite now. The institution of marriage, nuclear family etc will be at great risk/greater risk once more women are pushed towards this realization. Shit will really hit the fan if/when women realize they can just have kids… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 08:43 AM |
| 68 | Boyfriend (M22) and I (F22) just broke upYou weren't too harsh. You stayed too long. Learn what you need to learn from this and don't ever look back. "It's yet to be determined" You'll look back on this, and grimace when you think about how you spent 2 years with this douchebag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 08:04 AM |
| 2 | To be fair he looks like a catchLmao accurate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 03:38 PM |
| 77 | I’m crying y’allIt is such a cruel joke. I don't mind tall lumberjack muscular with a layer of thick fat type of guys who are proportionate and don't have a gut, but that body type is relatively rare in men. Where they are solid and proportionate, not a flabby messy pile of melted mozzarella cheese. Even when they're thin but just out of shape, they still have these soft flabby gelatinous bodies. It's such a turn-off. If I wasn't married, I'd be screwed too. So many men are a pitiful mess, both inside and out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 03:09 PM |
| 20 | Is he a man or a puppy?Sorry I missed that part. Yeah this guy is going to escalate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 03:00 PM |
| 39 | Is he a man or a puppy?He knows he's making her uncomfortable, he's just being selfish. My husband and I are both very touchy feely. We grope and kiss each other a lot, especially during lockdown, but not during times when the other is obviously busy doing something or needs to go somewhere. We've also talked about it and have asked each other if we like it or not. And we both love it, but still, there is an understanding of body language, knowing your partner, understanding their affection style or love language. Som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 02:57 PM |
| 67 | Only LVM don't care about a woman's accomplishmentsManosphere scrotes live in a fantasy world. What they say has no resemblance to reality. LVM care about a woman's accomplishments, because they plan to dupe some woman into a"50/50" arrangement. They'll get a bangmaid, a classic wife who washes his underwear and cooks his meals, a breeder and childminder-- while he is responsible for 50% or less of the bills. You know the type-- those scrotes who play video games while their sleep-deprived wives are caring multiple small children. Men who felt r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 02:38 PM |
| 403 | I’m crying y’allWhy do so many zoomer guys look like they have some kind of mental disability? Also, why are they so fat? I've noticed that zoomer girls put a lot of effort into their bodies, makeup, hair, they style themselves after Insta models/social media. The guys look mentally unhinged, like they have bad hygiene and might be a bit touched. Straight up Beauty & the Beast stuff in this video. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 01:49 PM |
| 28 | What are the typical true motivations of LV exes who contact you to "apologize"?They are baiting you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 01:37 PM |
| 5 | No Excuses.I love her too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 12:17 AM |
| 1 | My lessons learned from attempting to spark conversation using online dating while blocking bad behavior using FDS style basic standards to vet messages.Sooo true. I'm glad that you realize this and see OLD for what it is. I'm concerned for a lot of women who use apps. They become used to a really depraved "normal", and it's not normal at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Fed up with a man child!I feel the same way. But I've spent a lot of time doing my own research, I've spent a lot of time and energy trying to understand myself. I think therapy can be helpful for people who want to do this work with guidance. Therapy is definitely not magic and sometimes it can even be harmful, especially couple's therapy. There are sooo many terrible therapists out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 12:10 AM |
| 135 | No Excuses.True. Even before age 25, people don't typically do a 180. I liken the human brain developing by age 25 to baking a cake. The years leading up to 25 are the last few minutes when you bake a cake, when you insert a toothpick in the cake and realize it's not done yet. So you leave it in the oven for 5-10 more minutes, and then it's done. It's not like the brain does so much development, and changes so much, that you shop for the groceries, mix the wet and dry, bake the cake from the beginning. Tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:50 PM |
| 18 | Fed up with a man child!There are a lot of shit therapists out there and yours sounds like one of them. Definitely find a new therapist, someone who is not a total quack. There are some really good therapists out there, but a lot more bad ones. Shop around until you find one that you can respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:45 PM |
| 44 | I was beaten for having confidence last night.If he is anything like a typical homicidal abuser, he does not want you to leave. If he texts you or gangs up with his family on you to push you out of the house, it's likely because he wants you to feel helpless, desperate, that you need him, that you can't ever leave, that this is your only option. Most likely he wants you to beg to stay in your house. He'll make you feel like you don't belong in your own home, just to make you feel powerless, tortured and desperate. It's all a mind game. In a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 01:13 PM |
| 115 | I was beaten for having confidence last night.Please stay safe. Try to eat something so you can think more clearly. Take deep breaths, don't let him know something is up. Pretend like you "learned a lesson". You know his personality best and what makes him suspicious or not. Plan your escape ASAP. Keep us updated too! We are worried about you. (But be careful with scrubbing your internet history, make sure he doesn't know that you have this Reddit. Delete posts and comments. Don't give him an inkling of what you're up to.) Edit: Also docume… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 11:54 AM |
| 338 | I was beaten for having confidence last night.He almost killed you! This is not a beating, it was attempted murder. He didn't slap you, he choked you out for 15+ seconds and slammed your head onto a wall. It doesn't take long to choke someone to death. Slamming someone onto the ground and their head hitting a wall, can also result in death, brain damage. If he has gone this far, he might very well kill you next time. Get the fuck out of there ASAP. Keep it on the down low, pack things in secret, find a woman's shelter. "He would rather that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 10:55 AM |
| 13 | Why you have to be extremely careful about the company you keepSome women are so far gone that they act like goons. The women you describe in this post sound very goon-like. It's crazy to me that people choose to live their lives this way. Being such a piece of shit, not ever striving to be better/do better. I just don't see the value in having people like that in my life at all. A woman doesn't have to be a queen to be in my circle, we are all a work in progress. But I have certain standards that a lot of women just don't meet. Like having self-respect, ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 10:28 AM |
| 33 | ""WoKe""" dating advice from Male RedditorsTheir manipulation tactics are so stupid and unsophisticated too, they just bank on exploiting women's niceness/politeness in the name of eQuALiTy. Stop being so nice and polite to them, block, don't look at their content, don't entertain them, don't be their friend, don't talk to them, don't argue. Just block and ignore. Unfortunately, they've taken over relationship subs with this, but it's indirect advertising for FDS. The opposite day "advice" they give is so overtly woman-hating that it lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 03:30 AM |
| 34 | My lessons learned from attempting to spark conversation using online dating while blocking bad behavior using FDS style basic standards to vet messages."Men are fucking shit their own nest stupid. None so far want conversation. They use tactics that require pickmeishas. And apparently there’s not enough pick mes to meet their needs which makes men mad." Yes, this. They shit in their own nest and don't know why they smell like shit. Completely oblivious. No self-awareness. Little to no empathy for women, they consider women to be subhuman at best. Since OLD requires free will, agency, etc it requires women to make autonomous decisions since no o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:06 AM |
| 31 | Woman finds out before her wedding that her stepmom was her dad’s mistress and overhears them talking shit about her mom. I think this thread makes a good case that you should always tell your children the truth about their LVM father.I'm surprised that she didn't pick up on their shittiness before. Maybe she just didn't want to see it. But she couldn't deny what she heard. I'm glad that she sees them for who they are now though. Her poor mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 05:41 AM |
| 100 | Woman finds out before her wedding that her stepmom was her dad’s mistress and overhears them talking shit about her mom. I think this thread makes a good case that you should always tell your children the truth about their LVM father.Lol at the dad being on anti-depressants and grandma blaming her for his depression. He already has 2 women in his life with no integrity, who enable the shit out of him. It's greedy and selfish for him to also expect his daughter (who he betrayed, by cheating on her mom) to also be an enabler. He deserves to be cut out of her life, out of his grandchildren's lives. She isn't the asshole. Her dad, stepmom and grandma are giant assholes, and if I were her, I'd cut all of them out of my life. I ap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 05:28 AM |
| 53 | I am so sad after this breakup, even though I know he’s a piece of trash. Any advice or tips are welcome"But I cannot lie and say I did not see potential." Don't mistake what your heart wants, with what your brain knows. Your brain knows he is a NVM. You said it yourself. Your heart wants to believe he has potential. Understand the difference, remind yourself of this constantly, and in time, your heart and brain will align. With more time, your heart will grow more self-love, and will not betray you. You have to use your brain to train your heart to love yourself. Somewhere along the way, you lost… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 05:19 AM |
| 107 | The NVM ManchildThey think FDS is toxic because FDS challenges their martyr complex. They choose shitty men, build shitty lives with them, won't leave these shitty men and then indulge in the depressed alcoholic mommy needs wine subculture as a coping mechanism. I see way more man rants there than kid rants. The sub pretends like both types of rants are the same-- one type of rant is about a grown ass man, another type is about children that are you are responsible for parenting. So even if your kids suck, whos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:19 AM |
| 103 | The NVM ManchildAt least half of the women on breakingmom are married to this guy. Check out that sub if you want to scare yourself into leveling up and being more selective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:01 AM |
| 20 | I love men who put their red flags in their dating profile biosThose are the guys who are trolling/intentionally being as crude and low effort as possible, knowing that their statistical odds are low to begin with. They are trying to find the most pickme pickmeisha. If they can't find it, they are at least getting off on trolling women while they're taking a shit and swiping. Men just don't take dating apps seriously, nowhere near as seriously as women take them. Women load up apps thinking they are going to find a relationship or seriously date. Men load u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 03:49 PM |
| 10 | LVM throws a temper tantrum because his daughter got her periodThis is so sad. That poor girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 03:29 PM |
| 7 | How long should you wait before opening up about deeply personal things?You can talk about little disappointments or heartbreaks after you've finished screening and have a legitimate, genuine high value relationship. But something really dark? Honestly? Only if you completely trust him with your life and mind. And even then, why? Ask yourself why you feel the need to talk about it with him. If you've addressed a trauma, you'd have discussed it with a therapist. What do you have to gain from telling him? I don't believe that your traumas define you, that you need to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 03:28 PM |
| 37 | When it comes to sex, make your specific needs clear from the start and if he fails when the time comes, dump him IMMEDIATELYAgreed! I'd add that you should be even more assertive than this. Make him understand that he has to earn this, that he has to sexually worship you. Having a subtle dominant streak helps immensely. I'm lucky in that I have a natural drive to be sexually dominant, so I didn't have to condition that into myself. I'm not into BDSM, pain and I'm not a dominatrix, but I've done things like sat on a guy's faces for 30 minutes. Sometimes I'd read a chapter of a book while getting multiple orgasms this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 03:19 PM |
| 125 | Guy says gf is selfish because she wants a breast reduction due to back pain...He is abusive and sadistic. He cares nothing for her health, wellbeing, comfort or happiness. He gaslights, projects, tries to punish her. It will only get worse if she stays. She needs to take her boobs (38D, C or B, whatever) and run. It sounds like this is breaking her cognitive dissonance though. I hope she finds the courage and perspective to leave him and stay gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 02:49 PM |
| 6 | How FDS has changed my lifeOnwards and upwards! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 02:41 PM |
| 16 | FUN FACT: The subscriber base for any forum meant for teenagers is at least 75% middle aged men.Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 01:09 PM |
| 30 | I think I’m dating a HVMYou've only dated him for a month (during coronavirus) and you're reading too much into things during a very early phase of dating. You don't even know who he is as a human being yet. Just chill and be more patient while you are screening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 01:03 PM |
| 23 | What’s the strategy when you’re not looking for marriage?Avoiding marriage is easy, avoiding cohabiting will be hard. The men who don't want to marry still want to cohabit and be ghetto husbands. Even child-free men who never want to marry, still usually want to live together, because it's advantageous to them, as men. Most men will want to merge together, because they get so many benefits from merging. They get childcare, housekeeping, emotional support, a roommate who splits the bills, etc. They'll merge their lives with you, not want to marry, but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 07:14 AM |
| 21 | The scrodacity of this guy!This is why you need to not just screen men for general low character, predatory behavior etc but also for fantasy and delusion. Sooo many men live in a fantasy world. Attractive people usually partner with other attractive people. Rich people usually marry other rich people. This is how the world works. If he could get a beautiful woman, he'd already have one. His fantasies make him delusional, endlessly selfish, entitled and destructive. Screening a man looking for common sense, pragmatism, re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 07:03 AM |
| 2 | Doctors and LawyersYeah, this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 07:15 AM |
| 2 | “Women you marry, women you fuck”Yes! So unfortunate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 02:11 PM |
| 3 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.And you’re right there’s an aggressive pressure to date with no accountability and an overwhelming blame for women that get hurt. The panacea offered is it’s just as bad for men. 3 men a day are not being murdered by women they were intimate with in the USA. This! People pretend like everything is the same for men and women, but it's clearly obviously fucking not lol. I think a lot of people are brainwashed to believe they live in opposite day everyday. Thank you for your comments, I saved them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 03:56 PM |
| 10 | “Women you marry, women you fuck”Yep, they just consume women and throw out their empty husks like it was yesterday's trash. They do this even when they marry the "women you marry" woman. Consume and discard. Women need to realize how common these types of men are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 03:53 PM |
| 9 | Do we just say anything now to get men to like us?Yeah, they think they will be spared, but they won't be. I hope she changed her tune after realizing that alt right men hate women (duh lol). If she hasn't, I'm thinking she just has zero conscience and her shtick is too much of a cash cow to give up. That or she is unemployable, can't ever get a job anywhere because of the hatred she supported and spewed publicly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 03:52 PM |
| 66 | “Women you marry, women you fuck”Men will brainwash themselves to devalue you, demean you, dehumanize you-- in order to assuage their own guilt over how they are treating you. You don't even have to do anything crazy to be put in the "women you fuck" category. He might decide you're a whore because you slept with him, he might decide you're a whore because you didn't (but you're totally fucking everyone else but him). There are millions of non-reasons why a man would do this. It's a category that men try to force and coerce wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 01:15 PM |
| 23 | HV Fucking M. Nothing but respect for this man and his wife. [Couldn’t repost...]Yes! It's so, so important to not allow bottom feeders to monopolize your time, energy and mind. Why it's so important to block, not give them a second more of your time, to end things asap once you see red flags. You may miss out on a genuine HVM while you're walking through the haze bottom feeders will put you in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 09:57 AM |
| 13 | one important yet often understated piece of advice for women who want to start dating HVMI think it's really hard to make new friends in lockdown right now, but I had success going to fitness classes, workshops, teaching some classes myself. A lot of women who go to these things are looking to make friends, many are new to town, etc. There are sooo many women in the same boat-- wanting genuine, positive and uplifting female friendships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 09:37 AM |
| 25 | one important yet often understated piece of advice for women who want to start dating HVMYes, I believe it's important to have good female friends. I think that men can do okay in life, without having real friends, because the world is designed for them, it's easy for any half decent man to find a supportive woman, who will gladly provide more emotional labor than he gives. Society is not at their throat, constantly trying to gaslight and censor them, they don't live under the "female gaze", life is just smoother for them. Women NEED female friendships to survive and to thrive. We n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 09:24 AM |
| 102 | You're not his mom: what to do instead of "nagging"Yes! I'll also add-- express your disappointment in him. A HVM who cares about you will feel vexed in his soul, if you show disappointment even in just your facial expressions/body language. Express your disappointment, straight up tell him he disappoints you. His fear of losing you will inspire him to do better. Even then, it's not great, because he's doing x or y just so you won't be disappointed in him. Ideally, he'd correct his own behaviors, strive to do better because of his own drive and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 09:03 AM |
| 25 | HV Fucking M. Nothing but respect for this man and his wife. [Couldn’t repost...]Imagine how different the world would be, if the average man had just 10% of this man's capacity for love and compassion. Fuck, even 5% would mean living in a radically different, much better, much more beautiful more peaceful world. I wish this couple infinite love, beauty and transcendence. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 08:23 AM |
| 25 | Do we just say anything now to get men to like us?She thinks she'll be spared from male subjugation if she does their useful idiot dirty work propaganda for them. "See, I'm USEFUL, I'm GOOD, I'm NOT ONE OF THEM. Please don't hurt me, please love me, please value me." is all I see when I look at this tweet. She's tragically misguided, harming herself and other women. I hope she wakes up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 08:07 AM |
| 1 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.Didn't say it was a ploy against me. I said it was an attempt to derail my post, which it was. And you're still doing it. You knew exactly what I meant, now you are attempting to make it seem like I am paranoid, that I think there is a ploy against me. Please just stop. There are so many male lurkers, looking at this sub, trying to find examples of us being ridiculous, or against each other. I completely support everything you do, I genuinely wish you the best. Same for everyone else on this pos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:55 AM |
| 9 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.It's really depressing to lose so much faith in 50% of humanity, but being willfully naive was not an option for me. I try to encourage other women to not be willfully naive, even if they are genuinely naive-- try to learn and understand. It's a male concept-- that if you make the right choices, choose the right men, if you're the "right" woman, if you think the "right" thoughts, that you'll be spared from male subjugation, abuse and exploitation. But it's not true. Having your head in the sand … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:47 AM |
| 1 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.I don't think lonely people are a piece of shit or evil. Hasn't everyone felt lonely at one point or another in their lives. I do think it is intentional misunderstanding, to think that my original post was "all lonely people are inherently evil and a piece of shit". When FDS uses negative adjectives to describe men, do they have to clarify that they are applying these adjectives to only scrote men, to the extent that I did on this thread? I'm talking about OLD scrotes changing their strategy be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:38 AM |
| 0 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.At this point some posters here are just attempting to derail my original post. I'm talking about lonely desperate thirsty predatory scrote men, I'm not talking about how lonely the average person is right now. Yes, I do realize that this is an emotionally difficult time right now for many people. Being single and socially distancing alone is of course very lonely and isolating, but there are also many partnered or married women right now living in hell in their own home. Domestic violence rates… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:23 AM |
| 4 | Almost 100% of our cultural sexual terminology is centered around men’s pleasure and we should be outraged.So true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:19 AM |
| 15 | “wHaT dO yOu hAvE To oFfEr?”Eerily accurate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:18 AM |
| 3 | What Are Some Girlfriend Benefits We Should NEVER Give To An FWB Or Guy Friend?It really is that simple! It's a boundary issue. Men think you are a plaything, a backup, etc when you make yourself accessible to them. Especially when you give them friendship and/or partnership benefits when they are not a real friend or a real partner. I have male acquaintances (like the partner of a female friend), male extended family and family friends, who have a little bit of access to my life, but they know where my boundaries are, because I enforce them. These same guys would pick up … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 06:57 AM |
| 9 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.Yes, I agree with everything you wrote here. I think mainstream women are dangerously naive, when it comes to dating apps, especially in quarantine. It's insane to me that women are meeting up with guys during this time, sending nudes, getting emotionally attached to a person they never met, etc. It's not in the interest of women. I like that you are using dating apps as a sort of experiment. I did that before too. It really helped me to accept men's nature, and to act/plan accordingly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 06:26 AM |
| 3 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.How you are interpreting my post is manipulative and intellectually dishonest. That is not what I said at all. I am talking about scrote men, not women. "This post is not empowering and shows a negative, toxic side of FDS." This is not a "yas queen" sub, sometimes we talk about difficult subjects, uncomfortable topics, inconvenient and ugly truths. Lashing out at any post you don't like, calling the poster "negative" and "toxic", low key throwing shade at all of FDS, is really a low blow. You ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 06:20 AM |
| 3 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.Stop being intentionally obtuse. I'm talking about scrotes on dating apps being thirsty, desperate during quarantine. It's not about you., I'm not talking about single women feeling lonely. I'm not single shaming. FDS always talks about how being single is infinitely better than being saddled to a scrote. Amazing-- that you think I am shaming single women "who failed to settle down". Get a grip. I was single for years before finding a worthy relationship, a few months of social distancing is not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 06:09 AM |
| 3 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.I'm talking about scrotes on dating apps. Not everything needs to be taken personally, especially when this is clearly about men. Men are single usually for different reasons. Stop pretending like male/female socialization is the same, that dating is exactly the same for men and women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 05:58 AM |
| 6 | Pussy is Power. The only thing standing between you, a high value woman, and an inbox full of blue check marks begging to pay your bills is the low value man in your life convincing you that you aren't worth it.I can attest to this. My ex was 11 years older than me, skinnyfat, out of shape, bad teeth, emotionally abusive, selfish and lazy in bed, could care less if I orgasmed or not, didn't have a great job, cheap, had no career ambitions, had no hobbies or interests, had no sense of humor, never made me laugh even once. Husband now-- only 1 year older, fit/muscular, active, much more handsome face, great teeth (he wore headgear as a kid-- I think experiences like that made him humble), dotes on me, is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 07:09 PM |
| 17 | Many (most?) men do mass-swiping on dating apps. There are apps that swipe right on thousands of profiles at once. Do not message first.Pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 06:35 PM |
| 12 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.Yes, that too. Lol at mostly use them for reddit material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 06:09 PM |
| 2 | You are not your boyfriends MUMThank you! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 04:57 AM |
| 13 | How do you know if relationship is progressing towards marriage if you’re dating while young?The world is significantly different today than even 10-15 years ago. I think older family members usually have good intentions, but a lot of them are extremely out of touch. A lot of them are too stubborn and/or lack the cognitive ability to expand their mind enough to understand how the world has changed. My parents got married young, they've been mostly happily married for over 30 years. Like 27 years of happiness and 3 years of struggle due to external factors like both of my mom's parents a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 06:48 AM |
| 29 | How do you know if relationship is progressing towards marriage if you’re dating while young?At 18-23 you should be focusing on school, work, building your skills, building your value system. People who get married young statistically have a very high divorce rate and an even higher married and miserable rate. I think 23 is a good age to start dating seriously, if you have your shit together, you've finished your education, you have a good job, you have developed a value system young, etc. Most 23 year olds are not there. Wasting your time wondering if you're a forever girlfriend or not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 05:41 AM |
| 22 | Just... No comment.He lives in a porn sick fantasy world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 05:29 AM |
| 44 | Man wants a girlfriend, but not a relationship. This is why it’s important to not put out and give girlfriend/privileges until they have shown commitment and investment!He wants a naive/traumatized woman who thinks she's his girlfriend, when he's telling other women he's single. He has a predatory drive, knows it, and has conflicted feelings. He knows he's a scumbag, and he's trying to assuage his guilt over this by writing about it on Reddit, where he probably subconsciously knows that misogynists on this site will help him do the mental gymnastics to get rid of his guilt. He will likely try to devalue his "girlfriend", view it as a "she wants this" or "she's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 05:17 AM |
| 25 | Reasons for getting married and reasons for wanting kidsFor me, it was a case of... I'll marry if find someone worth marrying, otherwise I won't. It's not something that I felt I needed to do. I am monogamous, straight, I thrive emotionally and mentally in a good relationship. Pair bonding has benefits. Partnering has practical benefits, like lower cost of living, emotional support etc. Society is also designed for pair bonding-- the constant feeling of being a 3rd wheel, etc. You need to have a really strong personality to not let that get to you. H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 05:09 AM |
| 24 | What Are Some Girlfriend Benefits We Should NEVER Give To An FWB Or Guy Friend?None. Zilch. Nada. They get ZERO girlfriend benefits, and zero friendship benefits, because they are not your real friends. Keep men who are not a family relation or partner at arm's length, as an acquaintance at best. Don't have FWBs or guy friends. Women learn this the easy way or the hard way. The easy way is by reading the stories of women who have had FWBs and guy friends, decide that the vast majority of women have been exploited in some way or another by allowing these men into their live… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:47 AM |
| 24 | Myth: Beautiful Women Don’t Need A Dating StrategyAs scrotes like to say, it's a number's game. Except our numbers game is in reverse of how men do the number's game. The goal is to cull the herd down to 0-1. An "average" woman might attract let's say 50 men, a very beautiful woman might attract 200 men. 70% or more of men are various shades of scrote, the average woman has to screen them, but so does the beautiful woman. She just has to screen more, and she has to screen more aggressively. Men future fake, fake their personalities, fake their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:42 AM |
| 17 | A 3 month failed relationship is better than a 3 year failed relationship. Avoid sunk cost fallacy like you avoid coronavirus.Yes, people should keep relationships under wraps for at least the first 3-4 months. Don't announce the relationship before you have finished screening. Definitely don't introduce to family or social circles etc. Only tell very close friends who are naturally FDS, no one else. Most people don't need to know that much about you. You don't need people interfering with their input during your screening process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:21 AM |
| 19 | A 3 month failed relationship is better than a 3 year failed relationship. Avoid sunk cost fallacy like you avoid coronavirus.Yes, this is true. Abusive relationships have significantly longer recovery times, and not doing that work often results in getting into another abusive relationship. I was single for years too, I have had similar responses from people. Society really wants to shame the fuck out of single women-- there is something wrong with you, you're too picky, you're selfish, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:19 AM |
| 26 | A 3 month failed relationship is better than a 3 year failed relationship. Avoid sunk cost fallacy like you avoid coronavirus.Fuck that. The "she can't keep a man" thing serves men, not women. So convenient-- trick some woman to be with you, have society shame her into staying with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:17 AM |
| 3 | Put out always or go to hell - helpful advice from RPW"One of the most unfathomable things about the absolute abyssal anus that is the male mind is their quasi-autistic, disturbingly infantile need to roleplay their wishful fantasies. It's like they require self-soothing LARPing to function because reality keeps them in a perpetual state of horror." You're an amazing writer! I've observed everything you've said here, and have thought the same things, I just couldn't express it so eloquently and creatively. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:15 AM |
| 6 | A 3 month failed relationship is better than a 3 year failed relationship. Avoid sunk cost fallacy like you avoid coronavirus.This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 03:44 AM |
| 10 | A 3 month failed relationship is better than a 3 year failed relationship. Avoid sunk cost fallacy like you avoid coronavirus.You'll definitely know within 3 months. It usually takes a lot less time than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 03:43 AM |
| 48 | Retired PornStar Lisa Ann says the demand for extreme hardcore porn is pushing veterans out of the industry. Pornographers now rely on drugging young amateur women and forcing them into things during filming by surprise that they did not agree to, because experienced porn stars won't do it.This is fucking sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 01:10 PM |
| 19 | Put out always or go to hell - helpful advice from RPWDon't underestimate how demented RP men are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 01:05 PM |
| 17 | Incel to FDS: 'Men need sex, women are cruel for denying it, even if they're scared'Society could care less if he lives or dies, let alone if he gets laid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 01:02 PM |
| 30 | Put out always or go to hell - helpful advice from RPWRPW is full of women with scrotums. Men fake being women online when they have less motive, so I assume most members of RPW are men. It's like 80-95% men, trying to promote red pill ideology, in an attempt to recruit actual women to RPW. They are predators, trying to find women naive, mentally ill, traumatized or vulnerable enough to fall for it. RP functions like a cult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 12:58 PM |
| 18 | What do you all think of sexting?My husband works in cyber security and he was adamant about his belief that sexting, sending nudes are extremely risky. Not that I ever wanted to, I was just relieved to hear how negative his opinion was on it. We've never sexted or sent sexy/nude pics, and I don't think we've missed out on anything. If you're talking to someone in quarantine, please resist the urge to sext or send nudes. You'll feel stupid later. I think even men feel stupid after sexting, they are just horny enough in the mome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 07:41 AM |
| 10 | Budgeting Glow up?First budget necessary expenses like rent/mortgage, healthcare, groceries, transportation. Those are the most costly and should be given priority. If you are renting, look into finding a cheaper place, since rents will likely drop in the near future, as a result of coronavirus crippling the economy. If you are living in a too expensive house that you mortgage-- consider selling it before house prices tank. Consider talking to a financial advisor before making any major decision. If you have 2 ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 06:53 AM |
| 40 | Would you give an unattractive guy a chance?If he was a half decent partner and was willing to date women that were physically closer to his equal, he would not be single. Don't pity ugly guys who are shooting way above their league. Most of them have a deep resentment against women, especially attractive women, and many of them will exploit you, hurt you etc as part of their revenge fantasy against attractive women. Back in the day, men who were nothing to look at, at least compensated for it by having a stable personality and stable inc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 05:30 AM |
| 5 | Don't let friends who settled drag you down.Most of my married friends who got hitched young/relatively young, are over this phase and are just trying to survive their own marriages and lives. Most people do eventually grow up, understand what is actually important and what's not, they learn to stay in their own lane, etc. But yeah, distance yourself from "friends" like this. They may grow up, they may never grow up, but in the mean time, don't allow yourself to be a target for their pettiness and insecurity. You don't need that energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 05:24 AM |
| 53 | Imagine being this pathetic thoughLmao... I bet this guy rates gorgeous women as 6s and comments about hypergamy on random videos on YouTube. Imagine you could get a copy of this guy's internet history? Would it be hilarious or terrifying? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 02:59 PM |
| 6 | Wife is so impressed and showers her husband with praise because he's...bakingI think this story could have had a more positive spin about her appreciating that her husband took an initiative with cooking (finally)...but sadly her perspective is extremely telling about their dynamic and that dynamic is one I would want all women to avoid. Of course there is nothing wrong with baking banana bread for your spouse, doing nice things for others in general. Her warped perspective is just disturbing. I can only imagine how hideous her marriage must be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 02:10 PM |
| 14 | Wife is so impressed and showers her husband with praise because he's...bakingNo one is calling him a villain. No one is shitting all over other women's happiness. We are commenting on this ridiculous banana bread story, which we're not even sure is satire or not. Stop trying to push the notion that FDS is hateful. We're not the type of sub that is going to praise men for doing extremely basic tasks, we're not the type of sub that praises women for treating their husband like a child. It doesn't mean we are hateful or not positive, please stop with that bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:47 PM |
| 27 | Wife is so impressed and showers her husband with praise because he's...bakingIs it cute and wholesome to not know where anything is in your own kitchen? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:34 PM |
| 64 | Wife is so impressed and showers her husband with praise because he's...bakingShe could have probably baked the banana bread in half the time, since he interrupted her every few minutes to ask for instructions. I have to wonder if it is satire too. I don't know anyone who would say "Men are so adorable" after reading this post. Everyone I know, both women and men, would roll their eyes at this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:23 PM |
| 5 | HELP - my brother is turning into a LVM who hates all womenThis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:15 PM |
| 276 | Wife is so impressed and showers her husband with praise because he's...bakingShe talks about her husband like he is severely mentally disabled. How fucking hard is it to bake banana bread with an online recipe? Did she put a sticker on his reward chart for this accomplishment? "Having a proud mom moment... even though I'm his wife" That really tells you all you need to know about their marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:12 PM |
| 11 | You are not your boyfriends MUMActing like a giant baby = a get out of jail card for being lazy, insensitive, socially obtuse, destructive, moody, etc while also reaping the benefits of a relationship or marriage. Why change if you found some sucker to enable you? They resent it because they like to think that they'd be a big steely eyed man if it weren't for some harpy nag babying them. The harpy nag serves as a convenient scapegoat-- they know deep down that they are inadequate and filled with self-loathing, but they are to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:05 PM |
| 17 | Can a man get any lower than this?That backfired on him in a spectacular fashion. I doubt he learned anything from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:01 PM |
| 5 | Imagine working long hours or a second job simply to make ends meet then having the nerve to demand a woman that has to work too in order to supplement your broke ass provide you a home cooked meal every night then complain over what plate she chose.I can guarantee you that this guy never reads books, maybe has never had a library card. Very low caliber, low class, trashy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 02:15 AM |
| 53 | You are not your boyfriends MUMYes, you're not his mother, and also, he will resent you for acting like his mother. If he is wanting you to act like his mommy, he has mommy issues, and since you are not his mommy and don't have a time machine-- nothing you are doing is noble, productive, positive or nurturing. All you are doing is indulging in masochism, choosing to be a martyr for a lost cause. Men who want you to act like their mommy are damaged from childhood, and nothing you can do will change that. Only they can choose s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:54 AM |
| 13 | This guy who I met doesn’t believe a girl like me could have anixety or other mental illnesses simply because he thinks I’m attractive.You shouldn't tell random people sensitive information like this. A guy you went on a date with or are chatting with is not the same as a therapist. A therapist is a professional, this guy is not. You cannot trust every Tom, Dick and Butthead with sensitive information about your life and your health. Listing all the mental disorders you have to strange men is a great way to find a predator, cluster B or abuser. This guy sounds like a run of the mill asshole, he is verbalizing how he views you a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:43 AM |
| 6 | Christian men freak me outNon-denominational churches sound great in theory, they are less intimidating than a more structured older church that has more rules. But I met 2 low key far right dudes on dating apps, who went to non-denominational churches. Typically, they grew up politically and socially liberal-ish, at least classically liberal, they become politically radicalized and start going to "church" as part of their new conservative Christian identity. They are more likely to choose the non-denominational churches… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:15 AM |
| 3 | What does a HV relationship looks likeThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 02:30 PM |
| 8 | How do yall feel about all the incels on r/amiugly?Incels support terrorism, homicide, pedophilia and rape. How do I feel about them? Well, what do you feel towards terrorists, murderers, pedophiles and rapists in general? I think they are dangerous. The FBI agrees with me. The FBI has issued warnings about incels before, and they may soon be put on domestic terrorist watch lists. Why would you post photos of yourself there? I took a peek at your profile-- you post your personal photos all over Reddit. Please stop it. You have no idea what psych… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 02:17 PM |
| 19 | What does a HV relationship looks likeDisclaimer: I've only been partnered for 2 years, and married very recently. So by no means, am I an expert on relationships nor do I think I've found my happily ever after in a delusional way. I try to be humble, and I always seek to learn more things. What I have discovered so far... - Dating was easy, pleasant and simple. We looked forward to spending time together and learning more about each other. Basically defined the relationship right away. He never played games, was high effort from th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 01:26 PM |
| 20 | Reminder: men/women who are willing to meet while in this pandemic are TRASH. -not my convo-True, but it's also a reminder that tons of men on apps are unhinged lunatics, wanting to hurt women in some way or another. Stay off apps if you value your life and your sanity, even after quarantine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 01:09 PM |
| 8 | Christian men freak me outI've actually never met a religious Catholic, and I grew up on the East Coast. All the ones I have met and known were secular/cultural Catholics. I side eye loosey goosey non-denominational churches, they lack structure and provide a lot of opportunities for lunatics, far right, red pill types etc to infiltrate. I've met a few politically radicalized people who went to non-denominational churches. Not that I'm saying your experiences are invalid, people's experiences just vary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 12:15 PM |
| 85 | Christian men freak me outIt depends on the sect of Christianity and how religious they are. Maybe this is controversial, I don't care, but Evangelical and Mormon types creep me the fuck out. Even the women. Their version of "Christianity" seems to be less about Jesus and more about worshipping males and/or worshipping the rich. I live in an area with a lot of Evangelicals and I always avoid them. They irk my soul. Cultural Catholics, Orthodox Christians etc are fine. They are usually secular, have a good understanding o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 11:34 PM |
| 29 | Is it rude to say "i want to be financially independent so that a relationship is a pretty thing in my life but not a requirement.""i want to be financially independent so that a relationship is a pretty thing in my life but not a requirement." This is something that is so normal, that it's assumed and doesn't need to be verbalized or explained. Only disordered/toxic/abusive people want something else. Even by just verbalizing this, you're saying something so obvious that no one will pay attention to this statement besides the disordered/toxic/abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 03:11 PM |
| 148 | Kristen Bell's husband says "America's sweetheart has some character defects" in a live interview with her... thoughts?He's a prick. Imagine being a celebrity woman-- how hard it must be to find a man who doesn't try to put you down, who isn't insecure, who understands he can't monopolize your time and energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 03:08 PM |
| 7 | Begin your conversations with an end-goal in mindTerrific post! Thank you for writing this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 03:05 PM |
| 69 | Liberal Feminists created a world where we can literally witness a woman being choked or slapped and we now have to second guess whether it’s abuse and she wants it instead of being immediately alarmed🤡Men have used the "she wanted it" excuse long before libfems came around. Libfems just doused the fire of patriarchy with gasoline while wearing clown costumes, holding up signs to male crowds, saying 'Did I do good?' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 01:17 PM |
| 4 | How to say no to a boyfriend asking for money?Why would you do that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 01:09 PM |
| 36 | How to say no to a boyfriend asking for money?A HVM would be ashamed to ask you for money. He'd get a 2nd/3rd job, do without or at most-- he'd ask a family member or close friend he's known for years, not a girlfriend. He'd pay them back asap. As soon as he got a job or money, he'd pay back his debts to family and friends, plus probably add a gift or two. He'd feel humbled and grateful that his family and friends helped him in his time of need, and he'd do whatever he can to never be in that situation again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 01:05 PM |
| 6 | "At least he's not abusive..."Yes! I'm lucky to have had him as a role model. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 01:48 AM |
| 7 | "At least he's not abusive..."Thank you. He really was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 01:47 AM |
| 46 | "At least he's not abusive..."I haven't heard this in my family, but I've heard it from family friends/in general. One of my aunts was married to a womanizing gambler alcoholic who wouldn't come home for 2-3 days at a time. She wanted a divorce, but she was 21, broke and with a baby. My grandfather paid for a divorce attorney with his social security checks, his only income. He hated seeing her miserable, he didn't care about gossip. Mind you, my grandfather was an old man who didn't speak English, immigrated to the US with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 03:20 PM |
| 15 | LVM going through their phone/social media/yearbook during quarantine.Accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 02:52 PM |
| 10 | Pick me does wifey shit for her LVM, and he responds by complaining 🤡This is sad AF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 02:51 PM |
| 54 | Boyfriend said another girl was hot while he was drunk. Pass or no.Dump. Before I read the last sentence, I thought you were both in your early 20s. It's cruel to do this at any age, but if he was 21 then maybe you could say that his brain isn't finished developing yet, that he might be genuinely obtuse. As a 30-something, it was very intentional. Him being 'visibly sad' makes no difference because he is just manipulating you. He's trying to make you feel insecure/less than. He might not even do it consciously, but he does it. He is showing you who he is, belie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 08:21 AM |
| 58 | OLD and “being myself”It doesn't matter what you write or don't write. OLD is filled with 99% LVM and they think they're using a free prostitution app. It doesn't matter if you write a genuine or well written profile or not, they don't read it/don't care. Most men on apps don't think you are human. I know my comment sounds negative and dramatic, but it's the truth. Of course there is always a small possibility that you'll meet someone decent on apps, but you're more likely to get a STD or get involved with a narc. To… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 02:31 PM |
| 7 | Boundaries and outcomes: being decisive is self-preservationWhat a great post! Absolutely, being decisive is self-preservation. Knowing who you are, what you believe, what you want and what you don't want creates naturally iron boundaries. You don't have to try so hard, keep fumbling, keep goofing, keep getting manipulated in new and different ways-- if at your core, you have a strong sense of self and are decisive about who you are, what you do and how you do it. Btw, anyone who is starting a non-argument argument with you about this on FDS, is either a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 03:04 PM |
| 136 | More kneejerk defenses of porn and threats we’re all going to die alone unless we accept it. “Nice Guys” don’t make overt threats, they wrap it up in some concern trolling.More projection as usual-- men are far more likely to die alone. And not by choice. Even older women can easily find men to date/be in relationships with. Men are always wanting a bangmaid therapist mommy. Older men in particular want a caretaker. Women just figure out at some point, that it's not worth it. If women die alone, it's by choice. Porn is one of the things that is helping women to open their eyes about men's nature. Calling a woman a spinster or an old maid doesn't carry the same wei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 02:04 PM |
| 140 | Coronavirus making married moms realize that they may have a husband, but they don't have a partnerWell, normally they're all "teeheee, my husband is my 3rd/4th child" or "teehee, my husband is an idiot". Suddenly not funny anymore when there is a pandemic. Partnering up with a scrote means that you're fucked if there is a pandemic, economic crisis, if you get a long-term illness, if you have any problems with your child, if there are any problems with your life in general. Even when things are rosy, their slob husbands make their lives unnecessarily difficult for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 01:53 PM |
| -6 | This is all it takes, gentlemen. He read my profile and created a great message.How is it a great message? He can write something terrible in his 2nd message, or he can act decent until he gets your #, before he sends you a dick pic. I don't think it's a great idea to be using apps, if you're this easily impressed by men. If you mistake the most very basic decency with greatness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 01:40 PM |
| 194 | The Biology argument is in our favorBiology overwhelmingly favors the female over the male. Men LOVE to go on about biology when they're attempting to legitimize their sexual depravity, but they ignore biology in all other cases. According to biology, males are disposable, and only the best/fittest males are to mate and pass on their genes. In other species, the female eats the male after mating with him, for nutrition. Amongst mammals, many males have to brutally fight another male, sometimes to the death, to mate. In birds, male… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 04:31 AM |
| 3 | What's the quarantined OLD scene like right now?I imagine it's full of scrotes with skid marks in their underwear (not enough tp, and they are dirty to begin with) who are trying to bait women into quarantine & chill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 04:16 AM |
| 5 | Scrotes are self-destructive and destructive to others, because they never cultivated self-esteem through self-discipline.Thank you for writing this comment! I saved it. It's true, the majority of people with an infantile mind are men. It's surreal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 04:14 AM |
| 4 | Scrotes are self-destructive and destructive to others, because they never cultivated self-esteem through self-discipline.They're aware that actions affect their body too, they just don't care. Even when they do work out and take care of themselves, men do that for themselves/for their own vanity. They don't do it out of social pressure, to find a job, to find a decent mate the way women do. They're entitled and know how low the standards are for men-- they can be a flabby butterface going to the gym 3x/week, and they think that entitles them to a supermodel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 04:13 AM |
| 20 | Loser man can’t even be bothered to give his girlfriend a free drink at the place he works at 🙄 or pay for it himself after charging her for EXPIRED foodThis guy is a tyrant and gets off on humiliating her and putting her down. I guarantee you that he hates himself, but has zero motivation to be honest about that and do something about it-- instead he'll deal with his feelings of self-loathing by trampling and humiliating his GF. She needs to run. If he gets any ounce of power, you know he's going to abuse it. Whatever little power he does have at a coffee shop, he tries to act like a sadistic Napoleon over. What kind of depraved freak sells the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 04:06 AM |
| 4 | Anti-Black? IS HE WORTH MY TIME?I think you should trust your gut instinct. If something feels off about him, don't risk finding out specifically what it is. It's not worth it. I'm not black but I have an ethnically ambiguous look and have experienced men fetishizing me because I look like an "other", men not taking me seriously because I don't fit into their tribe look. A lot of men are racist and they use the "love is color blind" thing to objectify women, all just to get their dicks wet. They get to be racist, hide it, not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 03:59 AM |
| 4 | I'm not big on the idea of a man completely financially supporting me...I didn't get the feeling that OP was a troll, I thought maybe she is seeing things in a warped way because of the financially abusive relationship in her past. She seems to not even be aware of how that relationship is affecting the way she thinks now. The financially abusive relationship she mentioned in the post is what makes me think she is not a troll. If she didn't write that, yes I would have thought she was a troll just trying to smear FDS by making opposite day posts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 03:40 AM |
| 5 | I'm not big on the idea of a man completely financially supporting me...FDS doesn't advocate financial dependency, we do talk about women being financially independent, having their own banking accounts, retirement accounts, building their skills, building their earning potential. We just have politically incorrect conversations about men paying for dates, dismantling the naive destructive '50/50' concept and having standards for men providing. Money can be a sensitive topic for people. People often have complicated feelings about money because of their upbringing a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 03:29 AM |
| 42 | He offered the password to his streaming service?It's a nice thing to do but it's not a big deal. Just say "Thank you, I appreciate it" and that's all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 12:28 AM |
| 6 | Need advice: My boyfriend's friend sent him explicit nude pics of his wifeDefinitely tell her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 11:13 PM |
| 12 | Should I be offended by this?Yeah this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 02:28 PM |
| 6 | Ended things with me and he’s already getting serious with someone new. Help please.This pandemic is forcing people to stay inside, not go out, not date. Use it as an opportunity to be single, to reflect, think about your values, needs and wants. Avoid text or online communication with men during this time as well. Just be alone with yourself, figure out who you are, what you want and need. If you don't do this work, time will pass, opportunities will pass, you'll likely become a worse version of yourself. The work is unavoidable. Putting it off just means more wasted time and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 01:18 PM |
| 10 | Looking for advice on dating younger7 years for me is the cut off mark. Wouldn't even entertain it past 7, younger or older. This is more for people who are in their early-mid 30s. Even small age differences in your 20s are significant. Yes, at 25, you don't want to date a 32 year old or 18 year old. I still think my own age is ideal, 5-7 older or younger is just what I wouldn't screen out just based on age alone. My husband is 1 year older and I like that we are the same age. I think being the same age helps a relationship to run… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 01:11 PM |
| 99 | Reminder NOT to visit RPW, it's a Pickmeisha Haven where they literally make posts defending inequality in relationships.RPW is full of red pill men pretending to be women. The cartoonish, obtuse way they talk about things feels male to me. The way a lot of them write feels male. I think the "women" on RPW are scrotes who pretend to be women, who are jerking off to RPW posts. Men pretend to be women online when they have less motive to, so yeah, unless there is hard proof that RPW are all/mostly women, I'm just going to assume most of them have scrotums. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 11:45 AM |
| 60 | Hard to apply FDS on guys I likeI view men with disdain, so just looking pretty isn't enough for me to lose my faculties. I don't care if they look like Brad Pitt in the 90s, I have NO tolerance for men's BS. I was never the boy crazy type growing up, I was socialized to believe that all men are guilty until proven innocent (I'm honestly thankful for my upbringing), I was a late bloomer and my experiences with men (not just dating, but living in society in general) has made me view men with disdain. So I can't just meet a guy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 11:37 AM |
| 46 | Looking for advice on dating youngerFor a serious relationship-- I would go 5-7 years younger or 5-7 years older. Past 7 years and the generational differences start to become apparent. If I wanted a fling, I'd go for someone the same age or up to 10 years younger. I don't want to deal with the neuroticism, bitterness and entitlement of older men when I'm just looking to have fun. If I were single, I'd keep my options open. I think a lot of women do themselves a huge disservice by having very rigid age preferences, where many will… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 11:18 AM |
| 5 | Coronavirus quarantine stock ups?I always have 2+ weeks worth of non-perishable pantry ingredients and freezer items. I cook a lot and it's just good to have in general. Because of coronavirus, I stocked up to have 4 weeks of non-perishable pantry items. As long as they are non-perishable, just get things that you like and can cook with. I also bought 2 months worth of toilet paper, paper towels, vitamin C, bleach, isopropyl alcohol, antibacterial hand soap, cleaning supplies, cold and flu over the counter meds, lozenges, an ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 11:02 AM |
| 21 | A “women’s rights” lawyer on Bumble...He sounds mentally ill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 05:30 PM |
| 19 | I have a band where everyone but me are men. Guess how much I get to listen to sex talk, menstrual jokes and them talking about masturbating. Now, during the quarantine, they post pictures of lubricants to the whatsapp group. Nothing has changed after our conversation.I can guarantee you that they all get off on making you uncomfortable and sad, even the "nicer" one. Men are trash but some are a lot worse than others. My brother and male cousins have known me all their lives, but they don't ever make disgusting jokes or sexual jokes when I'm around. They still make crude or dark jokes but they don't make misogynistic ones by their female cousins or aunts. I don't even know if they indulge in misogynistic humor, I'm sure they do to some extent, but they don't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Want to quit your Facebook, but it's the only social your family uses?I'm sure your immediate family has your phone number? I'm all for group chats with family and friends, over social media posts. Social media is more for nosy extended family and acquaintances, not for actual family or real friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 03:55 PM |
| 10 | Why do people think it’s so sad when a woman says she may never want a relationship again?If your parents or grandparents say it, it's probably just because they want you to be happily partnered, and maybe they want grandchildren. They might be out of touch and don't fully realize how terrible dating is for women now. If other people are saying it-- they are just putting you down and calling you sad so they can feel less sad themselves. Probably because they are in unhappy relationships or marriages themselves, and can't find the courage or the money to get out. If my marriage doesn'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 03:29 PM |
| 20 | Guy wants to make dinner for first dateHe's going to invite you for dinner at his house lol. Coronavirus is the perfect excuse for scrotes to get women into their house, if they don't try to invite themselves over to yours. They openly talk about this on Reddit, don't fall for this guy's shit. He knows damn well that no restaurant is open, and if any are, they'll be closed soon. Even if restaurants are still open where you live, it's stupid to go right now. Your life and health is more important than dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 03:22 PM |
| 7 | Guy wants to make dinner for first dateTHIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 03:21 PM |
| 9 | Best way to spend time being quarantined?I'm so sorry that your asshole coworker infected you with coronavirus. Please take care of yourself. Drink plenty of water, sleep, rest. I know that when you're sick, your brain is eager to recover, but often your body isn't ready yet. Sorry to be a mom but yeah, #1 just take care of yourself at home. I'd recommend Skill Share classes. I think you can get the first month for free, but be sure to cancel your membership before then so you don't get charged. I have the full membership but I take a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 06:27 AM |
| 7 | My pickme cousin told me "Getting married is the biggest accomplishment in our culture" a few years ago. I got married last week.At the time I wasn't sure what her intentions were when she said it, but now I know that she was just trying to make me feel bad. I just hope that she is happy and can find peace in her life. I have a lot of great memories with her, but none from the past 5-6 years. It's really sad to grow apart when you've known each other all your lives. It's sad to not be able to support or love someone you've known for so long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 06:05 AM |
| 3 | The KinkMeishas have officially gone too farYeah this. These couples are really predatory. They give off rapey vibes in fact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 06:01 AM |
| 4 | So ladies, there has been a lot of focus on LVMs but what is your definition of a HVW?Thank you! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 06:01 AM |
| 3 | My pickme cousin told me "Getting married is the biggest accomplishment in our culture" a few years ago. I got married last week.I think they are just trying to survive, but they are going about it in the wrong way. Putting down another woman won't increase your own chances of survival. It just doesn't make sense, but it gives pickmes temporary relief from their feelings of fear and inadequacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 06:00 AM |
| 4 | My pickme cousin told me "Getting married is the biggest accomplishment in our culture" a few years ago. I got married last week.Yeah, I have the same experience with pickmes. The ones I know in real life are smug and covert, not like the FDS recovering types at all. The good thing is that not every woman is a loser. Once you reach late 20s and above, women decide who they want to be, and some decide not to be losers. It's that age from teen years - mid 20s where women tend to grow apart in friendships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 05:58 AM |
| 3 | My pickme cousin told me "Getting married is the biggest accomplishment in our culture" a few years ago. I got married last week.I don't think her friend was abusive, or at least I didn't know him to be. He was just very socially awkward, didn't have a good job and had a very needy family. The least she could have done was tell the truth and say I'd be doing him a favor, but she made it sound like he'd be doing me a favor. That's what hurt. I mean, I've had guy's moms and aunts try to set me up with their sons or nephews, and they'd be begging me and telling me "My son needs a woman like you." Even the moms/aunts of these… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 05:56 AM |
| 1 | My pickme cousin told me "Getting married is the biggest accomplishment in our culture" a few years ago. I got married last week.I think being happily married for years is an accomplishment, but just getting married itself? Anyone with a pulse can get married. Even when people tell you congratulations for getting married, rational people say it in a way of "Congratulations, good luck, I wish you well" type of way. Irrational ignorant people think marriage is magical or can transform your life in a magical way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 05:51 AM |
| 3 | So ladies, there has been a lot of focus on LVMs but what is your definition of a HVW?Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 05:49 AM |
| 6 | So ladies, there has been a lot of focus on LVMs but what is your definition of a HVW?Having that strong sense of self, knowing what you are, what you can offer, your worth, your uniqueness, and having strong unshakeable core values will be necessary to own your place in the world. THIS! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 05:49 AM |
| 52 | My pickme cousin told me "Getting married is the biggest accomplishment in our culture" a few years ago. I got married last week.We used to be very close, but we now live a few thousand miles apart and and have grown apart over the years. I do think her not even congratulating me for getting married, was a really bad social faux pas on her part, but I'll still acknowledge her and be cordial if I see her in person. I just wouldn't go out of my way to see her again. Only if I ran into her at my mom's house or at a family event. Oh, and thank you! I'm not very disappointed, we have been growing apart for a long time. I am su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 03:15 PM |
| 35 | The KinkMeishas have officially gone too farJoin what? Your failing relationship/marriage, that you're trying to save by dehumanizing and objectifying a lesbian who isn't even into dick in the first place? The audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 03:01 PM |
| 86 | PSA: stay away from them ladies!Men are dirtier than women and don't take care of their health, this is not shocking. So many men older than 50 look like they have one foot in the grave already. You can tell they have high blood pressure and high cholesterol just by looking at them. And it's not just heart disease-- so many men are fat fucks who look like a pregnant woman in her 2nd or 3rd trimester. Having that much fat on your abdomen might mean you breathe super heavily and loudly, that you have problems breathing in genera… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 02:30 PM |
| 17 | Girl’s “sweet and caring” bf of 2 mos stabs his roommate right after she leaves after they drink... she blocks his Snapchat but leaves him unblocked on her phone in case he needs to apologize 👀🙄😩🤬 SIS.She sounds like a train wreck with a death wish. Like the type of pickme that would write love letters to serial killers in prison. Or like an older pickme, who would help their man kidnap a young girl so he can have a sex slave in his sound proofed basement. He stabbed his roommate, what more does he need to do before you decide to run? Does he need to shoot his mom in the head? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 02:19 PM |
| 66 | The KinkMeishas have officially gone too farThese female cucks forget that other women aren't interested in being a third. If they wanted no strings attached sex, they could pick and choose from an ocean of men. They could you know, hookup with a guy who is sexually focused on them, instead of being a sex toy/experience for a trashy, vampiric couple. These disgusting couples rarely understand that in order to fulfill this sexual experience, they probably need to hire a prostitute. And the prostitute will probably charge them extra for thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 02:08 PM |
| 5 | Need help changing my mindset about my ExFunnel all of this emotional and mental energy into a pet, learning new skills, reading a book, starting a hobby. You're wasting your time putting so much energy into a person who does not respect you, who does not even seem to like you, let alone love you. Put your energy into worthwhile things, or put your energy into destructive things. It's your life, and your choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 01:48 PM |
| 104 | So ladies, there has been a lot of focus on LVMs but what is your definition of a HVW?The basics for HVW and HVM are: having self-awareness, empathy, self-respect, values, respect for others, self-discipline, having goals, being responsible. The biggest difference between the 2 is that a HVM will sail through life compared to a HVW. That describes men and women in general, but it's still true even with HVM and HVW. HVW are still women, and as women, they are living in a man's world, where the game is rigged. HVW have to understand that things are not fair, they can't be gullible … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 01:40 PM |
| 27 | LVM thinks being a man is so hard, is completely bothered and justifies his thinkingDoes he really believe that the attention and compliments women get are genuine or well meaning? He's complaining that he doesn't get harassed socially the way women do. So many LVM have terrible social skills, no situational awareness or empathy. Instead of complaining about women, trying to find excuses to hate women, he could you know, improve his social skills, improve his grooming, read a book, take an online class. LVM watch porn, eat junk food, play video games, isolate themselves, make n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 01:28 PM |
| 5 | How do I stop getting crushes on strangers?Yes, you have to pay attention to who he is as a person, pay attention to what he says, and believe what you see. Men are way too predatory and depraved to see them as a blank canvas, just because you like the way they look. Depraved, predatory men can be handsome, they can be attractive, beauty is not goodness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 02:21 PM |
| 7 | ....What? That...is absolutely revolting.I bet his mom is so proud of him. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 01:47 PM |
| 9 | How do I stop getting crushes on strangers?When I was in my early 20s, I was prone to fantasies. I had little life experience, no experience with men at all, and I just made up fantasies in my head because I simply didn't know any better. I had a strong self-preservation instinct though, and checked myself and my fantasies, because I knew on an instinctive level that fantasies are dangerous. As I approached my mid-20s, and definitely by my late 20s, I became way more pragmatic and rational. This came with gaining life experience, underst… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 01:40 PM |
| 91 | Don’t Compete With Other Girls For A ManThis is triangulation. Something cluster Bs like to do. You dodged a huge bullet. If you haven't blocked him already, do so now. Cluster Bs will never respect a civilized and polite request to not communicate anymore. They like to keep tabs on people, so they have go-to sources for supply. Also block him on social media. It might sound dramatic, but triangulation is a huge red flag and strongly suggestive of a cluster B personality disorder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 01:32 PM |
| 6 | My friend’s bf (both 34) messaged me on tinder while she was overseas at a funeral. He didn’t recognise me.Yeah, this. OP's friend is probably secretly resentful, choosing to blame her somehow, and she will likely distance herself from OP if OP doesn't do it first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 10:10 AM |
| 25 | Spongebob and Patrick in a 50/50 relationship.Me too! I laughed at this episode as a kid, but I also felt dread. I would have similar dread feelings during holidays, and I'd observe the women working like slaves, and men sitting on their asses doing nothing. Even as a kid, I thought it was so unfair and so grotesque, and I thought "Am I also going to be breaking my back working in a kitchen while men sit on their ass and wait for food?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 08:29 AM |
| 28 | In a certain sub a female rape victim talks about vocally forgiving her rapistYeah, this. People also forget or don't accept that real forgiveness requires a real apology, real remorse. There are plenty of people in society who are not capable of real remorse-- these people are psychopaths. And even if they are remorseful, that doesn't mean the victim has to be rushed to forgive, to express forgiveness verbally or in a letter. The victim never has to forgive at all. The way society pushes for victims to "forgive" makes my blood boil. People are very naive or delusional, a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 08:09 AM |
| 77 | Ugly men always have a superiority complexYeah, I once explained to my grandma that ugly guys these days will treat you the worst. She comes from a time/place where ugly men had to compensate for their ugliness by having a stable personality or stable income. Her dating advice was to go for a guy who was good looking, because ugly guys are too controlling, but not too good looking, because very good looking men are too conceited. I told her that these days, ugly guys are still controlling, but they're also conceited now. 9/10 times this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 06:19 AM |
| 22 | Look at the LVM and pickmes in the comments bragging about how cheap their engagement rings are. What an amazing sign of commitment and devotion when he’d rather spend more on himself than on you!Meanwhile my fiancee says "I'm happy that you picked out a beautiful ring, it makes me feel good." or he says "I'm happy that you picked this ring, it makes me look good." Sometimes he takes my hand and just admires it himself. Ladies, you have a choice. You can pick a man who is proud to get you a beautiful ring, who is proud of you, is happy as hell to be with you and can't wait to build a life with you. Or you can marry a contemptuous, ill mannered, ill bred man who will get you a shitty ring… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 05:59 PM |
| 19 | Deleted dating appsYes, dating apps are 99% LVM. Not even regular standard LVM, but a lot of them are predators, criminals, undiagnosed/untreated mentally ill, addicted or personality disordered. A huge amount. And yes, these types of men crawl around in regular society as well, but you would never be exposed to the vast majority of them, if you were not on apps. Your lifestyles, routines, the people you talk to and associate with-- would not have you crossing paths with such scum. Another thing about dating apps-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 01:29 PM |
| 2 | Are There Any Sex Columnists or Blogs That Aren’t LibFem Trash?I'm laughing at your description of this, but these are the only sex advice people I can think of that aren't pushing BDSM. I just wish they would tone down some of the woo woo. It puts off most people. You already have to be new agey or really open to being new agey soon, to even get into it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 01:05 AM |
| 48 | Men: You get what you giveLmao So many men are built like melted mozzarella cheese, and they have the audacity to be critical of women's bodies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 12:41 AM |
| 7 | Ughhh. Gross, on so Many Levels !!Lol this reminds me of the Key & Peele sketch, 'MC Mom Tears It Up". Video link and lyrics below. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B5FnlmfYldk[Verse 1] Yo I’m the M to the C to the M-O-M And when it comes to mom rappers I’m the biggity best of them Sendin' out this rhyme to my homie number one His name’s Carl Stewart but to me he’s just "son" Word up! [Verse 2] You left some stuff behind that I can send ya if you need Like your best friend bear, and your magazines Going through all this stuff but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:57 PM |
| 17 | “Relationships are hard” is a myth spread by pickmes who find validation in struggle love.This is how it should be! Partnering should make your life easier and better, not more difficult and worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:50 PM |
| 12 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.We come from a really similar background! Except my family is not religious, just old world cultural. Some old world things are antiquated and terrible, but not all of it is complete bullshit. For instance, I was raised to believe all men are guilty until proven innocent, that I could not and should not trust a strange man the same way I'd trust a woman. Another is facing the reality of the differences between men and women, how men can and will exploit you if you allow them to. Yet another "fac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:47 PM |
| 12 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.Yes, I've known a number of Muslim people, from various cultures. I've observed what you write here in real life. The misconceptions surrounding Muslim cultures (westerners mainly choose to see only the worst of the worst) is insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:39 PM |
| 15 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.I did not know that, but I am not surprised. It makes no sense for collectivist traditional cultures to give men a "boys will be boys" get out of jail for life card. Their societies and way of life would crumble to the ground if they allowed and encouraged men to be irresponsible and endlessly selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:36 PM |
| 15 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.I had a great aunt who would talk shit about the losers who tried to court her 50+ years ago. She was like "He was a lout then, I can see nothing has changed." when she hears gossip about him through social circles. lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:34 PM |
| 25 | Would you continue seeing a guy as a friend ?Newbies need to stop using the FDS rule of men paying for dates, as a "get out of jail free" card for everything else. It just comes off as being deliberately obtuse. Not sure why you are wasting your time-- entertaining him, seeing him, talking to him, and then asking this on FDS? You know what we are going to tell you. We're going to tell you, have better standards, stop lying to yourself, take a break from dating and "guy friends", level up, go to therapy if necessary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:56 PM |
| 27 | How to become a racist LibFem or TradWife Pickmeisha in one helpful illustration! Brought to you by the racists at r/TradWife!Is self-autonomy not an option for them? It baffles me that they think they have no legal power, no rights in society, etc. We don't live in the dark ages ffs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:39 PM |
| 32 | How to become a racist LibFem or TradWife Pickmeisha in one helpful illustration! Brought to you by the racists at r/TradWife!Yes, this. Tradwives are not very bright women. Connecting racism with misogyny doesn't take a brilliant mind. Their men openly say they view women as broodmares for the white race. What more do you need to hear? Also, what love, respect or decency do their husbands show them, beyond comparing them to "fallen women"? You can't use your "cool girl tradwife" card forever, it has a short expiration date. Your man will view you with increasing contempt as you have the audacity to live and age. How c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:38 PM |
| 30 | How to become a racist LibFem or TradWife Pickmeisha in one helpful illustration! Brought to you by the racists at r/TradWife!They choose to ignore the fact that their husbands are no better than any other man. That their conservative men can rape and abuse and leave them just the same. That's why they blame victims of domestic abuse and single moms for "choosing bad men." They have to believe that if they choose the right men and make the right choices, they'll be safe. They have a false dichotomy in their heads: I'm either public property, or I'm private property. Then they realize that their conservative men hate th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:30 PM |
| 30 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.I don't listen to true crime podcasts, but that is a crazy ass story! I have nothing against Evangelical or Mormon women, but a lot of them put up with shit that women in other Christian sects simply won't put up with, largely because they were not conditioned to. Not all patriarchy and misogyny is equal, some of it is a lot worse than others. The Book of Mormon doesn't directly say that women should marry shitty men, but their views on polygamy are an issue even in afterlife. They believe men c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:23 PM |
| 102 | How to become a racist LibFem or TradWife Pickmeisha in one helpful illustration! Brought to you by the racists at r/TradWife!Tradwives are aghast when they find out one day, that their husbands are misogynists who will never approve of them, accept them or love them. They ride the wave of delusion for as long as possible. It usually takes physical abuse and marital rape for them to be lucid. And because of the way they set up their lives, they don't have a lot of recourse. They don't have a problem with racism, misogyny or hate, until it's directed at them. Note the alt right women who complain about misogyny and bein… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 04:36 PM |
| 85 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.Women need to revert to their animal instincts, in order to see past the haze of confusion and cognitive dissonance that has been conditioned into them. Female animals will simply choose not to mate with an inferior male. They won't try to change him or wait for him either. They'll just move on, and will find a strong mate with superior genes. The male is lucky, if the female doesn't eat him for nutrition, or if he doesn't have to fight another male to the death. Sure, we are more than animals, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 03:55 PM |
| 140 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.IMO, traditional cultures have customs and rituals surrounding men being providers /hunters and women being nurturers/gatherers. Without modern tech and industry, this is how societies become efficient and survive. Respect for elderly is cultural, often religious, as the elderly ensure cultural and linguistic survival through storytelling. Tradwives and their scrotes pick and choose, yes. They ignore the parts about respecting elderly, respecting mothers and grandmothers, they ignore the parts t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 03:45 PM |
| 16 | Another TradWife meme that makes no sense as usual. The only way to pretend they’re empowered in a patriarchy is by constantly pretending words mean different things than they actually mean.Lol, they're trying to legitimize their abusive relationship through religion or conservatism. It's clear that these women don't come from a real conservative culture. In actual conservative cultures, it's more like "Men are the head of the household, women are the neck. The head can't move without the neck." (My Big Fat Greek Wedding) Real conservative women at times might be soft spoken, but they control their husbands with their little pinky finger. A lot of them are aware of their feminine p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:27 PM |
| 23 | Is it the season for random dates to come out of the word work or something?Phones, apps and technology in general has made men think any woman who has ever given them attention once before, will give them attention again, instantly. I know you think you didn't give them anything, but men are so delusional and desperate that you merely responding is enough validation for them. They got what they wanted, still. Of course they'd take more if you were willing to give it to them, but they got what they needed the day they messaged you-- a response. Don't be accessible. The … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:19 PM |
| 23 | HVM don't begrudge women for screening men. They understand why we need to do it.This! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 08:21 PM |
| 18 | HVM don't begrudge women for screening men. They understand why we need to do it.Definitely. Everything you say is 100% true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 08:21 PM |
| 33 | HVM don't begrudge women for screening men. They understand why we need to do it.So true! Women never have to apologize for protecting their bodies and hearts! Anyone who thinks women have no right to protect themselves, is a garbage human being, with a black heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 08:20 PM |
| 27 | Dating in Asia vs the westI come from a non-western culture, not East Asian, but the shit that is "normal" in the west is considered baffling in much of the rest of the world. You're absolutely right with your observations. Some girls accept these shitshow guys because they don't know any better. They are delusional and in denial. A lot of these girls never had a chance to begin with, because they come from broken families, all their friends do the same thing, they don't have a strong identity so they desperately try to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 08:11 PM |
| 8 | Do I go over to his house alone (on the second date) to work on his project ?God bless you too. 💕 I promise, you'll make your way. You don't have to be traumatized to learn a lesson. You can learn from other people's stories, and from observing people and society carefully. Always ask yourself, would you let a western man get away with this? Would you go to a western man's house for a 2nd date? Don't give Azeri men special exceptions, thinking they are any different. You can't trust them anymore than any other men. They have to actually prove themselves to you more than … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:59 PM |
| 7 | Do I go over to his house alone (on the second date) to work on his project ?You're welcome! Your post really hit my heart. Please feel free to ask me questions if you want to. I don't know everything, but I do know what it's like to be from a culture like this, to struggle, to feel misunderstood and confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:50 PM |
| 50 | Marry a man you'd be happy for your sons to turn out likeYup. Years ago, I was in a relationship with a controlling and emotionally abusive older man. I grew up very sheltered, didn't know anything about dating or what was "normal", he had a huge advantage over me in life experience, I always walked on eggshells around him. Until one day, he talked about having children with me, and I said "I don't want a son like you" It just came out of me, I didn't even think-- came straight from my lizard brain. I regretted saying it at the time, because he defini… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:42 PM |
| 16 | Do I go over to his house alone (on the second date) to work on his project ?Don't do it. My family is from Eastern Europe, and I am familiar with Azeri culture. It's very similar to the culture I come from. He sees you as worthless if he is even proposing this idea for a 2nd "date". Would he tell his mother that for a 2nd date, he invited you to his house for a "project"? An Azeri mom would smash plates on her son's head for even saying that. No man who values you would ask you this, but definitely not from cultures like Azeri culture. He is probably one of those Azeri … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:26 PM |
| 15 | Getting engaged within a year of dating?Yeah, they know way before 1 year. 1 year is a very generous amount of time to give them. My friend was checking out and preparing to leave him at the 9 month mark. She is awesome. She's gorgeous, smart, kind and knows her value. She has a great career now, and is married to a HVM who treats her like a queen and is endlessly proud of her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:10 PM |
| 8 | Getting engaged within a year of dating?Did you even read my post? I said that people go on 1st or 2nd dates, and ask "serious" questions because they just don't want to waste time with an incompatible person with completely different values and goals. It doesn't mean they want to marry a stranger on a 1st date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:08 PM |
| 52 | HVM don't begrudge women for screening men. They understand why we need to do it.I agree completely! This is why I'm so against dating apps. Men on dating apps, on Reddit, online in general, slowly but surely break down women's expectations and boundaries. They use "equality" and liberal feminism to push their woman-hating, narcissistic agenda. In the real world, decent men understand why women screen men, they know why we have to do it, they know how sick and dangerous the world is, they know how terrible many men are. They don't hate women for having common sense and self-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:02 PM |
| 52 | Getting engaged within a year of dating?There should be discussions about getting engaged and married within 1 year, but actually getting engaged within 1 year, is too soon in my opinion. In fact, there should be discussions about marriage (in a general sense) as soon as date 2-3. Don't waste time with people who don't have the same values or goals. I've been on dates before, where men brought up marriage or kids on a 1st date. They just don't want to waste time with women who have completely different values or goals. It doesn't mean… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:41 PM |
| 17 | How LVM will treat you when you behave like a pickme... Pickmesha gets played, ladies...LOL yeah right. He probably can't even get a match on dating apps. Men are so fucking delusional, and such bad liars. Maybe consider scaling down your lies and making them sound more believable? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:14 PM |
| 5 | Dress Code for a HVW?Looking the part helps tremendously. It also increases your confidence, to look how you feel inside. It does ward off LVM to some extent. A lot of them will still shoot their shot though. The difference is that their mask will slip off more quickly because your appearance will trigger their insecurity. Meanwhile, if you look chill and low maintenance, they'll feel more confident by you, and it might take longer for them to show their true colors. It's hard to explain the advantages of dressing w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:59 PM |
| 7 | Her Baby Daddy Wants her to pay halfsies on a house but refuses to put her name on the deed. He’s a lawyer. 🤦♀️That's sad. This is why women need to protect their womb, screen ruthlessly, never have children without marriage, and not have kids right away after marrying either. Live together as husband and wife for at least 1-2 years before even thinking about it. If women did this, the rate of children born into sad situations like this would drop dramatically. This all sounds like he wants to get rid of her and his kids. She's so clueless and in denial. He's setting up his life so that he can easily dis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:43 PM |
| 2 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?This guy is a manipulative, self-pitying piece of shit. Avoid, unless you want to be a host for a giant parasite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:30 PM |
| 5 | The 10 Stages of Giving Up on OLD.. I'm currently at stage 9 - withdrawal and FOMO - but I'm sticking to it! Anyone got any stages to add?Stage 10 should be "I realized I loved myself too much to expose myself to dating apps." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Is There A Way To Tell If A Guy Is Going To Pay Before Going On A Date?I would have ordered myself a coffee and a pastry to go, and left. I strongly suggest that all FDS women get off of apps. You're just banging your head against a wall and expecting a different outcome each time you get a headache. But if you insist on staying on apps, really work on your screening process. Set up video chats before meeting. And even then, 99% of men are going to disappoint you, sooner or later. OLD is filled with the dregs of society. Looking for a HVM on apps is like buying scr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:23 PM |
| 4 | Gang of women in India who track down & beat abusive husbands with brooms.Not all superheroes wear capes. 💖💖💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:12 PM |
| 3 | Being high maintenance is the ultimate self-defense.Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 01:18 PM |
| 7 | Don't reveal your hand to men, until you have THOROUGHLY vetted them.It's important to screen women too. Pickme friends are bad, bad news. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 01:18 PM |
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