How to handle women who insult you publicly?

thebetrayer · 2011-01-30T22:08:58+00:00

A calm, logical response is a man's best choice in most situations.

Not only do you make the bitch look bad for losing her shit, but it also gives you a good chance at countering her bullshit insults with a dignified response that proves that you are truly not stupid as she claims.

Basically, turn her rage against her to make her look bad.

I think that being a gentleman is the happy medium between asshole and sissy. You remain calm under stressful circumstances, but you don't let others treat you like shit.

gadimus · 2011-01-30T19:40:58+00:00

Honestly, just feel happy that you aren't as miserable as she is. If she starts going off on you in public just tell her you don't appreciate it. She may hate stupid people but far more people hate mean ones. Avoiding her is the best bet. Karma will catch up with her if it hasn't already.

somethinginteresting · 2011-01-30T19:25:30+00:00

Treat it as irrational behaviour. Be concerned and detatched from it emotionally. "Are you OK? Do you need some help? Would you like me to get someone to help you with whatever it is you are going through?"

You'll most likely get some vitriol thrown your way, but you can always finish with "Well, if you do need some help getting through this, don't be ashamed to ask." Remember, you are not being snide or sarcastic, you are concerned about whatever has brought about this wierd outburst.

Works in both your cases. If someone is making a big produciton about your lack of knowledge in a certain area, you bring to the discussion how this sounds irrational and a little disturbed to you. Also, if it all calms down, you can ask the question "Were you born with this knowledge, or did you at some point have to learn this too? Do you think that you learning it first makes you better than me in some way?" A bit of turning the tables, but would then make sense to the peer group as to who is in the right.

Above all, do not let any of these events affect your behaviour around them. Be yourself, if you let them control your inner workings then you are lost.

fishwish · 2011-01-30T19:06:57+00:00

First off it's spelled "sissy" not "cissy."

Next, slapping her for verbal harassment is the wrong choice. Verbal harassment should never be met with physical violence. No one will respect that.

Next, yelling at her is typically a wrong choice. If she is acting nasty or crazy, sinking yourself to her level doesn't make you look any better. You will both just look crazy.

Of course if you happen to have a razor sharp wit that is always handy. But inspiration doesn't always come quickly at all times.

In cases of lack of inspiration, you can either say "So all of this is about.... and state the case as trivially as possible" or you can make some comment about her being psycho.

The final step is the most important, deviate attention away from her. Immediately start up a conversation with someone else and ignore her. Don't look at her or face her. She wants attention, don't feed her give her outburst any further legitimization by paying attention to her.

You might get better answers from this reddit. They had a recent discussion on that in the past week.

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/

TommyGun991 · 2011-01-30T21:22:11+00:00

Man or woman, no one should talk to you like that. Fuck her.

The best bit of advice I have is to actively make her irrelevant. Start study groups and don't invite her, study really fucking hard and have fantastic ideas, come with an awesome story and when she interrupts completely ignore her. The most important part is to never get mad. Just know that you are way better than that twat, as evidenced by the fact that she has to remind you that you aren't, in an effort to make herself look better. Truly great people feel that others can be great as well.

Oorion · 2011-01-30T20:08:11+00:00

I don't think those are the only three options. You can stand up for yourself and not scream at her. I might have said something like "well why are you in school if you know everything" and continued that line of thought. Definitely don't just ignore her, especially if she's now trolling you. As for the others, it doesn't matter what they think. Don't let those idiots affect your behavior. Be confident. If it comes down to it, though, let it be known that you don't give a fuck what she thinks as long as you do it in a way that doesn't get you kicked out of class. Good luck mate. You're awesome.

rageingnonsense · 2011-01-30T20:34:53+00:00

You handle them like you would handle someone of any gender who insults you publicly, by using your wit to make them look the fool.

TommyGun991 · 2011-01-30T22:19:13+00:00

let me offer a bit of advice that probably contradicts what most of other redditors are telling you. i'm assuming that you are in college right? well guess what? this is probably the last time you can afford to be a massive dick without big repercussions (as opposed to working in a job).

are you afraid of being thought of as a dick? WHO CARES?! it is better to be respected and feared than pitied and seen as a sissy. i'm not saying you should stand up and backhand the bitch (satisfying as that may be). I'm saying you need to stand up for yourself and not be afraid to make her look like a fool. Trust me, if she's acting like that, chances are it'll be easier for you to turn the tables on her since she's the one being crazy.

yes you were being a sissy. i can't say its entirely your fault since society did condition us to be this way towards women. i say fuck it all. chivalry should only exist for women who deserve it.

TommyGun991 · 2011-01-30T22:22:17+00:00

Hand them your card.

fishwish · 2011-01-30T19:09:27+00:00

If you want to fine tune your verbal wit, you need practice. http://www.toastmasters.org/

wiredconcepts · 2011-01-30T23:46:12+00:00

I have always felt that a properly executed "FUCK OFF" or "PISS OFF" tends to really get their attention.

maxdisk9 · 2011-01-31T00:34:14+00:00

The best thing you can do to ruin a bully's fun is to laugh at their remarks. Start laughing at her when she insults you, the rest of the class may join in (laughter is frequently contagious). Then, if you have one, pull out a cell phone with a camera and say something to the effect of "This is too precious, I have to post this one on youtube." Start filming her, laughing the whole way through. Start the video by saying "And here we have Miss Piggy, explaining to us the origin of space and time...!". And if she doesn't stop, post it on youtube and send it to the whole class.

The problem with laughing at some bullies is that they will physically attack you, but since it is a woman there is little to worry about. Record her childish antics and post them for the world to see.

joculator · 2011-01-30T18:50:32+00:00

I think "fuck off, cunt!" would fit the bill.

kloo2yoo · 2011-01-30T19:22:23+00:00

in a loud voice, (not yelling, but audible to whoever hears her):

"I don't deserve that. I don't have a relationship with you. I will not be a victim of your false allegations."

De_Lille_D · 2011-01-30T20:12:13+00:00

I would make em look crazy; because that's what they are (at least most times they're yelling). You can also make them go over the edge by shrugging it off and saying something about "that time if the month": guaranteed they'll get angry.

TommyGun991 · 2011-01-30T20:27:58+00:00

When someone's being excessively douchebaggy like that grin and laugh at them and tell them to "wow..... you need to chill the fuck out" and if they keep raging which lets face it lots of people will when told to chill, tell them to "calm down". As long as you stay calm and laugh at the situation it just makes their rage seem even more out of place and ridiculous. In the class situation, like you said you'd never done it before and didn't quite understand....for some reason when we're children this is completely acceptable but as soon as we become adults we're expected to know everything about everything even with zero experience in the area. If that were true you wouldn't need to go to class at all though would you?

pcarvious · 2011-01-30T21:20:38+00:00

The first step to winning an argument is self confidence. You were more than likely picked for two reasons. The first, there was an obvious opening, the second, you weren't very confident. Even if you're pretending to be confident the perception people have of you will effect dramatically how often and how they'll attack you.

When facing someone that has started an abusive conversation the best way to end it is to stand up to them immediately. Once they get rolling they won't stop. Bullies like their targets to be responsive. This is true. However, by confronting them at the start and then refusing to interact with them again after you can cut their enjoyment off much more quickly than you could by simply ignoring them. School your features and try to control your body language. Simply being upset and pretending not to be is noticeable otherwise. The best stance I've found, and this will probably vary by stature and build is, legs shoulder's width apart, shoulders back head up. Keep your hands either at your sides or at your back. Gesturing is normal, people will see it and it will attract attention. YOU DO NOT WANT TO ATTRACT ATTENTION. You're just the means to an end. The goal is to draw every other person into the area into the confrontation.

pipsqeek · 2011-01-30T21:38:31+00:00

By walking away you've avoided adding fuel to fire.

You've also avoided looking like a dickhead.

I think you did the right thing.

genik · 2011-01-30T22:09:38+00:00

Sometimes I think a "wow, really?" works well enough.

WindKin · 2011-01-30T22:38:23+00:00

I'll let Chris Rock say it

frostek · 2011-01-30T22:42:18+00:00

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jabali · 2011-01-30T23:06:30+00:00

mate, the secret to a good come back is to never be reactive. don't be responsive.. whatever she says, you make something else up that has nothing to do w/ wat she says. so maybe like omg..did you forget to take your pills today? " lady i'm not going to sleep w/ you! w/e. go crazy w/ it laugh and get bck to your shit..

phukka · 2011-01-30T23:13:46+00:00

There are few things in life that are more satisfying than telling someone simply "Go fuck yourself," when it's deserved. The impact, in person, is much greater than on the internet. Against some noisy bint, it'll shut her up out of surprise.

inej5364 · 2011-01-30T23:46:00+00:00

Where the hell was the teacher?

Eugoogily · 2011-01-31T02:54:56+00:00

sometimes ya just gotta punch a bitch brosef. they want equal pay? they can get punched in the face like a man.

Simon_the_Cannibal · 2011-01-31T02:57:55+00:00

Well, it's probably too late for you to even see this, but taking your less-aggressive nature into consideration, here's my advice: disarm the situation.

The easiest way to do this is to accept everything said about you. If she calls you an asshole, say "the biggest." She calls you a coward, say that you belong to a long line of chickens. "You're stupid" = "I know! I can't count past ten without taking off my shoes!" That sort of thing.

She'll quickly run out of things to call you and people will see that you are (a) funny, and (b) in control of the situation. She'll either have to give up or physically confront you - in the case of the latter, get behind a pal and say "I know better than to fight crazy!"

P.S. for the love of my eyes, please put the "i" back in shit; you've turned your whole post into italics. Oh, and you need to hit enter twice to make a new line, if you don't want to have a wall of text.

LongoSpeaksTruth · 2011-01-31T04:20:20+00:00

Talk "down" to her.............SLOWLY.............and calmly............make her feel stupid............

McChucklenuts · 2011-01-31T05:39:35+00:00

Tell her she's fat. Seriously. Tell her "Look, I get it, you're fat. You put on all this weight and you don't know how to handle it. No need to take it out on everyone else." After that make oinking and snorting noises whenever she opens her mouth.

rogersmith25 · 2011-02-03T05:59:48+00:00

Stay cool. Never get butthurt.

Do what James Bond would do.

matthank · 2011-01-30T19:02:35+00:00

Use humor and group dynamics.

Tell everybody else, right in front of her, that you called her a two-bit whore and she hit you with a sack of quarters.

The laugh will get them on your side and shut her right up.

2011-01-30T23:19:34+00:00

This is really easy. Call her fat or ugly. It will work every time.

TommyGun991 · 2011-01-30T18:57:14+00:00

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2011-01-30T23:04:05+00:00

For your first example: Group assignments are shit. There always seems to be one in every group there to make everyone else miserable. Who gives a fuck? Don't slap her; you're escalating the situation far beyond what it needs to be. Take the high road, do your work and shrug off irrational behaviour. Why should you care what she says? Don't let it interrupt your education. You're not being weak, you just don't prioritise a stupid argument over your own studies.

For your second example: Why oh why would you involve yourself like that? If someone you don't know is extremely angry and you mock them within earshot, what do you expect but to be yelled at? You don't seem to know why she was angry (could have been a totally legitimate thing or a totally irrational one, doesn't matter) so why even go there? It was none of your business.

jelliedbabies · 2011-01-30T23:05:35+00:00

It may be you're opinion that I'm stupid but it is obvious from the way you are going about sharing it with me that you are a classless, tactless, bitch with no grasp of of how to appropriately behave in public. So I would prefer it if you promptly fucked off. Bye now -wave at the bitch-.

Unenjoyed · 2011-01-31T00:20:13+00:00

WTF is this place where an asshat can throw things at you, yell at you, and talk smack about you with such utter disregard? Are you living in CrazyTown?

erawenahs · 2011-01-31T00:27:52+00:00

Well, I've recently come to the obvious conclusion that all judgments are projections of personal insecurities, and the harsher the judgment, the more insecure the individual, so just smile at her, ask her if she feels better now and walk off, or smile, call her a fat bitch who will die alone, and walk off.

DespritGraveDigger · 2011-01-31T00:41:32+00:00

I don't think it's worth the energy dude don't worrie about bitches like that they'll come and you probly did the right thing the worst thing you can do is dwell on what happened. You can't chain the past

wiovom · 2011-01-31T01:03:12+00:00

Two words: PSYCHO BITCH.

That's all you have to say. Equivalent to a girl calling a guy a creep.

xebo · 2011-01-31T01:13:27+00:00

My mother yelled at me once.

Once.

GroundhogExpert · 2011-01-31T01:15:27+00:00

I would just start laughing and asking them what their problem was. If a girl wants to insult me publicly, I'm just going to be completely dismissive, I won't even treat her as an equal, and make her look very foolish in front of the largest crowd I can. A lot of women have major image issues, just exploit it by making them feel horrible in front of a crowd. It should check their ego, and make them think twice about mistreating people in the future. Same goes with guys if they're really small dudes.

destructobot64 · 2011-01-31T01:17:47+00:00

Firstly, follow a lot of the advice given here, secondly remain calm and carry yourself well. If you're getting bitched at, don't crunch up in a corner, try to make yourself appear big.(If you can follow what I'm saying.) Act strong and don't take anything she says seriously, I know you said that it's hard for you, but seriously fuck her.

Mitoshi · 2011-01-31T01:20:27+00:00

Simply ask, "Why are you being mean? You are insulting me and you look like an awful person. Do you not care that people look at you and think you're a bitch?"

incurious · 2011-01-31T01:24:57+00:00

In high school I would just tell a bitch to shut the fuck up. Like let her rail at you for a minute, then just grin and say "Hey! Shut the fuck up!" in a goofy voice. Throws em off. Mind you, this was only with girls who I really hated and only when I couldn't take their shit any more. Though that's not the best way to go. Just treat them like they're retarded from then on. Offer to help with basic stuff, etc.

2011-01-31T01:38:49+00:00

Just point out the fact that she's a bitch to her.

mhsmubarak · 2011-01-31T02:06:10+00:00

In my country we would slap her.

Honey-Badger · 2011-01-31T03:02:37+00:00

you need to think of something that'll insult her without you losing your nerve or being realy ridicliously rude, then when she next insults you just calmy knock her down a few places.

smuffin · 2011-01-31T03:39:16+00:00

Slap her is never an option. Honestly the best thing to do is just ignore her and recognise that if the dysfunction is with her then happiness will not be with her however.. I do ok socially with women and I can tell you a bit of a universal truth about women, they are just about all way messed up about personal appearance even the ones who dont appear to be. So knowing this basically in your repost if you slip in something like .. are you angry because of your nose/skin/legs/hair/whatever it doesnt matter.. the important thing is it doesnt matter if she has great hair if and she laughs it off or even comes back with better than your hair etc I guarantee you the first second alone in the bathroom she gets she will go totally insane about that one thing and probably will forever, literally haunting her for years everytime shes in the mirror. Weight is always good and you can snuggle up at night imagining shes vomited herself into a coma. Of course its best if its an obvious flaw but remember it has to be delivered in a calm almost concerned way. Anyway this is all childish BS best to just avoid her or even go and have a quiet talk with her, likely she hates herself more than anyone.

thinkingtrees · 2011-01-31T04:23:20+00:00

she probably likes you.

2011-01-31T04:52:37+00:00

Ask her if she is ok, or if she needs mental help? If she keeps on report her actions. Feel sorry for people that act that way and have no self control

fluidmsc · 2011-01-31T04:59:05+00:00

"Wow, you must be having a bad day." Works every time. It shifts the problem back to her.

2011-01-31T06:25:31+00:00

Related.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJLTi0L3mPM&feature=player_embedded

DeadPand · 2011-01-31T06:41:31+00:00

'You look like a man.'

johnseagull · 2011-01-31T07:03:19+00:00

I think we are getting trolled right now... girls don't do this IRL.... if they did, you can look to almost anyone else in the room, roll your eyes, and get a chuckle out of them.

This is not normal human behavior, doesn't pass the bullshit test sorry.

morganwatch · 2011-01-31T07:40:58+00:00

Most of the advice I would give you has already been given, but here's some stuff i'd add:

never lose your cool, seem like your above it even when your not.
be kind to her when she is crazy, it'll backfire on her.
If she really pisses you off: discuss her beliefs openly in front of everyone. When angry, dumb people usually make sweeping generalizations - with the right argument, she's two steps away from Female-Hitler.

Just remember you are above her rage, and everyone can see the crazy.

CaptSnap · 2011-01-31T08:10:10+00:00

This is all good advice and Im a little late to the party but I do want to caution you about slapping a girl in college. Your college and your local law enforcement would absolutely go unhinged. I dont care how provoked you were or anything, it wont matter at all.

Secondly, as paranoid as it sounds I wouldnt raise my voice to her either.

Some of the advice here is advising you to use your wit to take her down a few pegs or something similar. I would advise against that as well. Youve got to be careful and weigh your risks versus your rewards. A false allegation could really destroy your semester and derail your life.

I think the best advice is absolutely just to avoid her and for the love of God DO NOT EVER BE ALONE WITH HER.

Honker · 2011-01-31T15:15:27+00:00

Are you polite and stop talking while these people are insulting you? Try saying things to them as fast as you can(mean or not) while they are talking. It doesnt matter what you say just dont listen to them. I like to rattle off a couple stupid insults then insult myself and pretend not to notice then talk about them more. I call this talking at people instead of talking to them. Its like a game. Random words and 'lalalalala im not listening' work too but you could just quote all the people in this thread. Just dont stop talking while their mouth is open.

2011-01-31T16:00:28+00:00

Outwit her. Treat her like you would your 6 year old niece that is misbehaving. You aren't mad because she is your siblings responsibility... you are amused. Act as if nothing she says should be taken seriously.

Be careful though, this is somewhat likely to turn her on (not a joke).

If you really aren't that witty and can'd do this, a respectful, "Please stop your verbal abuse," will always make her out to be the wrong doer to everyone watching. The word abuse is pretty strong and makes anyone - man or woman - look shitty.

The main thing is to remain calm. She is going this to either run you over in a verbal exchange, get you visibly heated and so on. Don't fall into her trap!

atrocious_advice · 2011-01-31T23:42:17+00:00

find a group of bitchier girls; pay them to kidnap her, and bring her to a secret/dark place.

while they are doing this, watch the "saw" series along with "hostel"

torture her (wear a mask while you do this) while explaining to her that her being a abhorrent cunt is the reason she is being tortured.

let her go.

enjoy never being harassed by her again.

2011-01-30T19:41:25+00:00

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TommyGun991 · 2011-01-30T21:10:11+00:00

Once the bitch stops yapping, just say "sorry, I didn't realise that it's your time of the month". Then walk away, while the moody cunt starts ranting again.

Ma99ie · 2011-01-30T21:50:57+00:00

From now on just prefix the word "psycho" to her name. Like, oh, shit, here comes psycho-Sue. Say it loud enough to hear, so that a group of people can watch her flip out. This confirms your name for her.

2011-01-31T00:17:56+00:00

ok, first of all, don't slap her.

a crazy bitch yelling at you in public should be handled just like anyone else who flies off the handle like that. you make it clear that you won't stand for that kind of shit and she needs to pipe the fuck down and get out of your face. ignoring the person (female or otherwise) is not a solution, and only serves to solidify your reputation as a victim.

edit: PS not to shift the blame onto you, but you may want to ask yourself what it is about you that makes people think they can talk to you that way. i can't imagine anyone talking to me like that, especially a woman. let me ask you this: when you walk into a room, do you own that room? because someone does. and that guy isn't getting abused by some psycho bitch, i'll tell you that.

TommyGun991 · 2011-01-30T19:38:11+00:00

"Shut that cunts mouth or I'll come over there and fuckstart her head! "

From "Way of the Gun".

Or better yet, this>

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e6eFWPLyDA4

AnnArchist · 2011-01-30T19:16:15+00:00

Call them a fat chick with lopsided tits and an even more lopsided face.

bashar1209 · 2011-01-30T19:20:48+00:00

I strictly follow the "Jacket" solution to all confrontations now.

Next time you see her, and she makes some snide remark, sternly go up to her and yell loud enough for everyone to hear:

"HEY! I WANT MY FUCKING JACKET BACK! DON'T THINK THAT YOU CAN JUST FUCKING STEAL MY JACKET YOU LITTLE TWO-BIT THIEF. I WANT MY FUCKING JACKET BACK BY TOMORROW OR I'M CALLING THE FUCKING POLICE YOU FUCKING CRAZY PSYCHO. HOW DARE YOU DO THAT!? WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU...DIDN'T ANYONE TEACH YOU ANY FUCKING MANNERS!?"

Make sure the tone of your voice gets progressively angrier towards the end of the tirade. For example, at the beginning it should be normal angry yelling, by the end try to act like you are a second away from just losing all control (hands are shaking, voice is shaky and raspy). On your way out push over a desk and slam the door, skip that lecture. come back next lecture to find a brand new jacket on your desk.

Ribsbroken · 2011-01-30T22:16:55+00:00

I just tell them your pussy smells and they shut up!

SubRyan · 2011-01-31T01:35:56+00:00

Remind her that a women's place isn't in a college classroom but a house kitchen.

stargitaur · 2011-01-31T01:52:52+00:00

...as a woman, we're supposed to take shit from everyone, so you should still count yourself lucky as a man. case in point:

a girl in my dorm was yelling and screaming extremely pissed for some reason and I told my friend: wow, she's lost it

for all you know, she could've had a perfectly good reason to 'lose it.'

there are more than 3 ways to handle your situation, btw, you could have calmly (or as calmly as possible, i understand it's hard to keep your cool when you're being insulted) said to her that as you are partners, rather than insulting each other you could just do your best to work together to finish the project.

but what do i know, i don't know the pain of being a man in our society that's so kind to women.

Ofold · 2011-02-01T05:46:37+00:00

Look her in the eye and tell her men have an average of 3-4 more i.q points.

2011-02-01T19:56:12+00:00

Tell her that its not your fault that the only way she can reach orgasm is by reading the works of Andrea Dworkin.

larryo · 2011-01-30T19:08:15+00:00

Or how about: "Look, I'm sorry I came in your throat but it was you who suggested the face-fuck and you do not have a stomach pregnancy - if you want money for an abortion, you will have to get it from whoever knocked you up!"

djwork · 2011-01-30T20:54:53+00:00

well if you really want to fuck with her...... Does your mobile phone have the cappacity to record video. If so pretend your a director and she is the actor. 1. Flip out your phone and record her performance. 2. Upload the video (possibly edit it to make her look worse). 3. Post the link here (and maybe 4Chan if you are feeling nasty). 4. Sit back and let the fun begin.

TommyGun991 · 2011-01-30T21:51:36+00:00

"brush ya hair bitch"

They won't be able to see if their hair is messed up and it'll be on their mind until they check it out haha

TommyGun991 · 2011-01-30T21:41:42+00:00

"Eat shit and die. I hope your children are retarded" And NOONE from your class or dorm will ever bother you again

jakethesnake4888 · 2011-01-30T23:33:07+00:00

Falcon punch to vagina works for me every time.

http://forum.ebaumsworld.com/showthread.php?t=249049

Liverotto · 2011-01-30T19:41:59+00:00

If you are a black man you might play the race-card against her pussy-pass, example:

"You RACIST!"

If you are a white-male you are pretty much fucked, realize you can't win, save your rage for later, hire a hooker and beat her on the face while you fuck her.

Title	How to handle women who insult you publicly?
Author	TommyGun991
Upvotes	39
Comments	144
Date	January 30, 2011 6:42 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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