I don't know whether this kind of post has been done before, but this is one of many issues important to me. I will also say this will be ranty.

First off, I sometimes read manga/manwha that is of the BL (Boy's Love) genre, it may also sometimes be called Yaoi. Technically yaoi is a seperate genre then BL but the western world, specifically western women/girls incorrectly use both terms interchangeably. These women/girls are called fujoshis, this is actually how they desribe themselves as well. The attitudes of fujoshis are borderline homophobia, they don't typically see the this, I have even fujoshis call gays such as I who call their behaviour out misogynistic.

Apparently if a gay men feels uncomfortable about the attitudes that fujoshis display it "oppresses" them, their defense is that this is an expression their sexuality, therefore we're trying to oppress said sexuality, they feel like gay men are attacking them because of this and say that they just like the genre so therefore we are attacking them for their interests.

However this is a misinterpretation of what gay men who are anti-fujo say, fujoshis treat real gay men in ways that are similar to how they treat their fictional ones, like a fantasy, or an object. They ship real people, haress same-sex couples, use terminology that even Japanese gay men don't use - seme and uke* - even going as far as speculating which guys are seme and which are uke, although a lot assume purely based on looks.

*Seme is used to describe the penetrating partner, uke being the penetrated.

Now, I would like to note that there self proclaimed fujoshis that don't act like this so not all of them are absolutely horrible, however I still don't really even like these fujoshis, the reason being that it feels othering to me. Why have a word to specify being this interest? Why can't they think it's hot like straight men do for lesbians? Why do straight women feel the need to have a word, yet straight men don't?

M/M romance has more works written by women then men, the demographics of readership is similar. Said authoresses of M/M romance have stated in interviews their reasons for about an identity they know nothing about is similar what I mentioned earlier about why fujos read m/m "an expression of their sexuality" but authoresses also say it's because m/m relationships are more equal when it comes to gender roles, and same-sex romances are superior to opposite-sex ones because of this. They would rather write m/m then write m/f that doesn't have these grievances. Yet even tho they have these reasons, I have read many works by these authoresses that apply heteronormative roles to the homosexual couples in said works.

Again this has exceptions, there are women who write m/m romance because they want to help Achillieans (a word that replaced mlm (which is short for men-loving-men)) have more reprensentation and feel more comfortable with their sexuality. I applaud these women 👏.

Now these situations only involve literature, so what about the real world, outside reading and writing, besides what I previously mentioned about how fujoshis will treat real people, there are situations and types of females that just bother me a lot.

First up are feminists, I'm sure plenty of y'all know how feminists deny or diminish or ignore men's issues, I probably don't have to explain the things a feminist might say or do when it comes to men's rights. Men's rights and Gay rights often overlap in different ways, there's the obvious fact that I'm both gay and man, therefore Gay rights are also Men's rights. Issues include sexual assault/rape, In the UK it is legal for a woman to rape a man, so if hypothetically if I lived in the UK and were raped by a woman, I couldn't do anything about it, I wouldn't be able to take any legal action against my rapist, this situation is can be described as corrective rape, as the main motive behind this event is 'correcting' one's sexuality, what really sucks is a if lesbian experienced corrective rape, she would be able to seek justice. The belief that sexuality is a choice that can be changed is neither new nor rare, and both men and women have perpetuated these beliefs. Feminism largely ignores the issues and struggles unique to us gays, yet when they do acknowledge us, they use our opression as tool for their narrative, until their done and we go back to being privileged males in their eyes.

Second up, The "I want a Gay best friend!" Girls. There are girls out there who specifically say they want a gay best friend because they then can have an male friend who won't fall in love with them, or hit on them, and still talk about boys. Ironically these girls will end up being the ones who fall in love, and hit on their gay best friends. Also, I think it's really annoying that we can talk boys with them is also one of their reasons for wanting a gay friend, especially since said girls will come to us with all their problems and we comfort them, or we compliment them on their looks - another reason these girls give - yet when we come to them with our struggles, they don't bat an eye.

Okay rant is over, there might be more, but I can't really think of more right now, and it's 5am and I wasn't able to sleep, granted my sleep schedule is really bad, which stresses me out, which in turn doesn't make it easier to fix said sleep schedule.

P.S. Since this was mainly a rant there are no sources to anything in said rant.