The UK social media "all men are responsible" frenzy has really fucked with my mental health

froznlolipop · 2021-03-13T13:15:47+00:00

This incident gave misandrists all over the world a chance to show who they really are.

Atilla942 · 2021-03-13T14:15:22+00:00

What we see on social media and on TV can be over whelming. Take a break from social media, news channels/papers, and toxic friends. I suggest a week of no social media, switch off your computer for a week unless you need it for work, only use phone in case of emergency just for a week. No TV either just go outside for a walk or a hike, basically treat your self how you would expect to be treated at a 5 star deluxe hotel.

a-man-from-earth · 2021-03-13T13:48:05+00:00

I am here for you. We are all here for you. Let's stand together.

Jewishbabyducks · 2021-03-13T13:50:32+00:00

The biggest problem is that any sort of pushback you may give it suddenly dialed to 100 by those types of people and perceived as if you said the woman deserved what happened to her. No, we’re just trying to say that there is a lot of gray area and labeling men as a group should be as crazy as labeling a race as a group

Suicidal_Alone · 2021-03-13T14:05:02+00:00

I hear you brother, it's getting to me too. The people who are most anti-male are people I would otherwise respect and see allies. It messes with your head more

sassy_lil_sasquatch · 2021-03-13T20:25:00+00:00

I lost an entire friendship group because I said I didnt want to be blamed for the actions of a few men when I already do my part to protect the women I know

ancientaversion2 · 2021-03-14T01:29:25+00:00

I thought I'd post an update here. I'm quite drunk, but eh. I met up with a few male friends. Not people I'd spoken to while I was being abused. And I told them how it made them feel. They were somewhat "But it's really important that women are shown how we care" but also they genuinely listened to me. I saw them thinking. I saw the cogs turning when I told them what had happened to me.

In the past I'd always felt more comfortable talking to women about the abuse I suffered at the hands of a woman. But I felt relieved to talk to these men. They struggled to come to terms with what I was saying (not about my abuse but about it not being okay to blame us) but I set things in motion in their head.

I'm pleased I did.

I also got the chance to speak to their girlfriends. They found it even less hard to believe. Rather than the men who had to overcome something in their mind, the women were immediately on board with the idea that maybe it wasn't so great to blame us all. They recognised that every single man around them was a good man, yes they had encountered some shit men, but most men are straight men, so they are likely to encounter more shit men than they are shit women. I think it was helpful for them to hear about how shit women can be.

I found it really helpful to speak to them. I was scared, and I'm glad I didn't just reply to their Instragram stories, but speaking to them in person, they listened to me and they heard me. I think it might take some time for them to see that I'm not just an isolated case but I don't care. I feel good for sharing.

I feel good for posting here too and I'm beyond grateful for everyone's response. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I might not reply to everyone but it really meant a lot to me. Cheers

Strikes001 · 2021-03-13T13:35:56+00:00

Call them all out

3_Bean_Mujahideen · 2021-03-13T14:53:15+00:00

Hey man, just a little advice based on what personally works for me:

Please try and take breaks from social media, news, Reddit, and men's rights based content periodically.

If you're anything like me you'll get burnt out on the fight for men's wellbeing, and feel bitter and dejected all the time from consuming a daily influx of bad news and misandry.

You matter, and your physical and mental health matters. Having a burning anger and resistance to injustice is a great thing, but carrying it 24/7 will grind you down.

Hope this doesn't come across as patronising or 'mothering'.

MR_System_ · 2021-03-13T16:20:53+00:00

It's fucking me up too, because on one hand it's "all men are responsible" and on the other it's "we know it's not all men, but it is all women, and even if you've never assaulted someone you need to do this and this and this and this when dealing with women in public."

Like ... fuck off? I don't speak to ANYONE in public. If I pass a person on a quiet street I blatantly look in the opposite direction so they don't say hello or nod in passing.

I'm very tempted to post something, somewhere, about how most physical abuse cases are against men while also noting that most sexual asault is against women. But I doubt that would go down well.

Both sides have evil and both sides have victims, but only one gets talked about.

revente · 2021-03-13T18:52:38+00:00

I simply cannot stand the narration that 'a good guy is more similar to a criminal only because they have same genitals than to a good girl'.

literally-in-pain · 2021-03-13T14:11:13+00:00

Im out of the loop what happened?

Final_Cause · 2021-03-14T20:22:21+00:00

It pissed me off like all you guys but my wife thought it was hilarious and in response to the idea that "all men are responsible" she texted me: "You're planting new tomatoes for the summer and walking the dogs and going to work but some how you're responsible XD". I text back saying "Damn, if only I had done more :'D".

It's the same logic as racism and discrimination but directed at a socially acceptable target but if you don't laugh you'll cry.

AdamChap · 2021-03-13T21:47:20+00:00

There's obviously something being pushed here. From day one this news was forced upon me and I kept wondering why it was everywhere and now I see articles like

Issue of violence against women ‘more important than Covid restrictions’

and tweets showing the messages being used at this vigils "MALE VIOLENCE IS A PANDEMIC"

Finally when realising the Green Party is suggesting 6pm curfews for men you really get the sense of where this is going.

Don't worry, hold your own. There are forces larger than us pulling the strings. Chin up, you are better than these obvious fascists.

jonny-p · 2021-03-13T17:35:00+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. I hope you’ve managed to fully remove yourself from that situation. Take some time to heal and take care of yourself.

RockmanXX · 2021-03-13T23:23:30+00:00

Time to reconsider who you call "Friends".

adam-l · 2021-03-13T18:12:33+00:00

It takes time to really swallow how things truly are, and find a way to exist and be content. But it's doable.

It's more difficult when you are Left-wing, because at the critical point we are standing the old left-wing certainties crumble as well. And I'm referring mainly to the idea that the sexes evolved to cooperate rather than antagonize. Again, it takes time to come to peace with it, and adjust your expectations and life choices accordingly.

At least, she's your ex, and not your current!

HeWhoIsBearded · 2021-03-13T21:44:10+00:00

Me too brother.

We aren't monsters.

ElegantDecline · 2021-03-13T17:19:06+00:00

Humans are extremely suggestible. They are easily manipulated by the media. Get some new friends.

justtolistentomusic1 · 2021-03-13T20:53:34+00:00

Lots of comments here supporting you and agree with them, but I know it’s hard to take a lot of advice all at once. Just wanted to say I stand with you. I’ve had your experience and I am out the other side of it (just) so feeling so much better, but it’s a hard place to be where you are

Equivalent_Parking_8 · 2021-03-14T15:54:30+00:00

I really know where you are coming from. Stay strong brother..

Tristan_D_C_Wintle · 2021-03-14T00:19:30+00:00

Hey if all people of a demographic are responsible for anything bad that someone in their demographic does, maybe the UK should take a look at its rape gang epidemic and consider which demographic is overwhelmingly responsible.

zoloftwithdrawals · 2021-03-17T02:15:20+00:00

Men have really fucked with my mental health

Title	The UK social media "all men are responsible" frenzy has really fucked with my mental health
Author	ancientaversion2
Upvotes	222
Comments	75
Date	March 13, 2021 1:04 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates
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