I joined again over the weekend, because while I am legitimately good alone its not my best case scenario. And covid is on so I figured, what the heck, I'll see what's out there. Can't be any worse than last time.

I. Was. Wrong.

The vast majority of profiles don't have descriptions, these are automatic nos.

Of the ones with descriptions, 1/60 doesn't have something objectionable right there in the description. By which I mean, openly saying they need someone for money or therapy reasons, weird sex demands, or demands for performance and dancing through hoops to get them to talk. I screenshot some of them but frankly I don't want to give it the air time!

So of the reasonable ones that match, a good 2/3 don't message or respond. Whatever, this isn't a huge problem.

Of the ones that talk, most of them disqualify themselves within 10 messages. If I'm lucky it's because they're boring and have nothing going for them, if I'm unlucky it's because they jump right to something sexual.

There's been 6 that I spoke to for any length of time and here's what happened with each;

  • School teacher, started dumping his life story on me. And throwing out his achievements and how good and caring he was every other message without really actually speaking. Got clingy after I said I wasn't interested and kept messaging for multiple days after blocked (my phone alerts me).

  • DnD player, seemed really cool and I was having a good time, until we got into a conversation about shape-shifting and his response to the hypothetical was lady dicks. And way too detailed at that.

  • Gamer, looked good and we were doing fine riiiight up until he started talking about dom/sub sex and went as far as to say he wanted to break me because of my iron will. 🙄

  • Artist, actually seems really cool and hasn't done anything wrong yet. Watching and waiting, basically.

  • Single Dad (I'm a single Mum), talks pleasantly enough and things are fine there, but he did let slip that he can't have a job due to his health conditions and that he quit to spend time with his kid rather than work and have no energy. Which I can respect as a person, buuuut it's not for me.

  • Fellow gamer, seemed cool and like we were hitting it off, stopped talking and hasn't resumed. 🤷‍♀️

Now I'm newish to FDS and probably giving each a little more time than they deserve (though that's shrinking!). But oh my God.

This is far worse than even the start of the year before my last relationship and I'm just gobsmacked. We all deserve so much better than this.