Men have destroyed my body image. Not women’s magazines.
When I was a kid, my dad told me men find any woman attractive unless she is bald. Lol.
But then men proved my dad was an anomaly.
Growing up, I discovered 4chan as a teenager. On 4chan, they roast and rip women apart. Any tiny amount of chub, they destroyed. Me being a teenager, I would post asking for diet advice on /fit/. Their advice?
Limit breakfast to a tomato and cucumber.
Then I discovered r/amiugly r/rateme and similar Reddit’s. They would roast women constantly on those pages. Who was it? Men.
Men would also mock and put down “body positive” models. No, not the morbidly obese ones. The ones who were kind of chubby. Not too fat. Men would rip them apart.
Whenever I would post what pregnancy does to a woman’s belly and how the skin gets stretched out, lose, and covered with stretch marks, MEN, not women, would call them ugly. They would say how the stretched out skin is a sign of failure and obesity.
But men argue that there’s porn for everything. Go on gone wild. I dare you. The top voted girls are skinny with zero flaws. The “normal” and “chubby” girls get like 3 upvotes.
Then there are men in the manosphere saying that if a woman has a BMI above 23 or 24 she is disgusting and deserves to be alone. Not just alone. Some argue abused.
Men never asked me out IRL. What do MEN online claim the reason is? I am fat or ugly.
Cosmo magazine never made me insecure. Men did.
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Men's hypocrisy with body standards is fucking ridiculous.
When I was married to my ex, I got up to my highest weight and was a size 18 at 5'6". I have always carried my weight pretty well as I have a natural hourglass shape. Even so, I've always had an issue with my weight and my ex knew all about my struggles with it since I was in middle school.
He always made little quips about how he couldn't wait until I lost weight and got hot, or how he loved me but really preferred skinny girls. MEANWHILE this asshole, at 5'9" got up to 240 pounds and it was literally all in his stomach. He looked 9 fucking months pregnant and was starting to get man tits.
I never once made a comment about his weight. I loved him and only wanted him. Even while he was walking around with a giant beer gut and needing a bra, he would continue to make comments about my weight and how he wished I was smaller.
Then the sex stopped. I had to drag the answer out of him, but he tells me It's because he's not attracted to me anymore because of my weight. Nevermind that he got so fat he couldn't see his dick anymore, but my weight (and remember, I still carried it well) was the issue.
My self esteem was destroyed after that. I just let myself go afterwards. Stopped even trying to look cute. I just stopped caring about myself.
Now that I am a single lady again, I've dropped about 60 pounds and 3 pant sizes! I'm almost smaller than I was when we first met. Not having him around criticizing my body and being a hypocrite to the max has given me the fuel I need. I truly feel beautiful again, and I know that I always have been.
Never again will I let any man destroy my self confidence or ever make me wonder if I'm good enough.
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YES!!!! I see this repeatedly.
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I believe in equal opportunity shaming. Start announcing to the men in your life and in public forums everything wrong with their body. Let’s make this a thing.
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