Think Like a Feminist: The Philosophy Behind the Revolution by Carol Hay (a book that got 4.3/5 on Goodreads and 5/5 on Amazon).

There are a few core things that we do agree about, though. First, feminists agree that women have been, and continue to be, disadvantaged relative to men. According to almost every metric that exists to measure people’s quality of life—health, wealth, political participation and representation, security and freedom, subjective reports of happiness, and so on—women don’t fare as well as men. Second, feminists agree that these disadvantages are bad things that can and should be changed. And third, we agree that these disadvantages are interrelated, that they’re the result of mutually supporting systems of privilege and deprivation that are structurally embedded in virtually every aspect of society and that systematically function to screw women over.

There are actually metrics that measure people's quality of life and aim at objectivity, usually about children or minorities. When these indicators are applied to the general- public, women usually fare better than men in western countries. Women are also more content with their lives and happier. So, that being the case, the whole foundation of the "definition" crumbles and she's left with nothing. In fact, she should be involved in men's rights activism!

She goes on:

Before we take a deep dive into feminism’s historical and theoretical underpinnings, it’s worth asking how, exactly, we got here in the first place. Why do we need feminism? At what point did the boys start taking all the good stuff for themselves?

Ah, so the history is but a story of men taking all the good stuff. She hasn't heard, apparently, about wars, slavery and so on. Throughout history, people's lot has been to suffer and fear of suffering (pain, violence, hell, death). But women and men have been able to make it a little better by living and working together. It's hostility to claim that the "real story" is about women suffering in the hands of men.

Ideologies truly can make people blind even to the most obvious facts.