One cruel reality is that women hate men that love them or have a crush on them.

Their lizard brain interprets it as desperation and a sign of low value.

This is anecdotal for me because I have never had any success with any woman I ever crushed on, even though the women I crush on are often less attractive than the women I end up with. Even after learning red pill I try to hide my feelings, but women can sense it from a mile away.

I can get attractive women but it's not that fulfilling because I really want to live the fantasy of passionately falling in love and the satisfaction of of that. But it turns women off even if I try to hide it.