Being Friends With Exes Could Mean Someone Is a Psychopath

mangounicorns · 2021-11-04T17:58:36+00:00

🗣Because they feel they can still get something out of the connection, even after the actual relationship has ended.

It’s all about take take take with these LVM. Remember that.

Sunshine_Daisies2525 · 2021-11-04T17:22:31+00:00

There’s always that partner who is called crazy/jealous for setting boundaries, and a selling point of how “HV” they are is how trusting they are- almost invariably they end up getting cheated on and are blamed for being gullible.

overit_af · 2021-11-04T19:12:26+00:00

In my experience this is true. My NVex loved to boast about how he was friends with his exes and “oh what a great guy I am” but he also has zero empathy and several seriously fucked up [hidden] addictions that harm both himself and others.

I also have a friend that’s more akin to a relative because of family ties and longevity and more casual holiday encounters than actual “friendship” and she insists on keeping all of her exes as friends (at least those who haven’t cut her out). In this past year as I’ve leveled up I thought she was just a pickme but have come to realize she’s a raging narcissist and uses people (used to be me) like it’s her job.

CarNo5059 · 2021-11-04T20:54:32+00:00

I used to be with a group of friends who were all LVM and pickmes. It really baffled me when couples would break up and everyone is still friends with each other. I stood with the pick me friend and chose to limit talking to the LVM. The pick me uses me as therapy and then one day tells me that everything is okay and they're friends now. What?

Another LVM claimed he was being abused and after he had all these attention and help from people, he says 'We're friends now'. ? Excuse me?

Listen to your gut. If you feel like these people don't make sense- they don't. They're all predators in one way or another. Your mental and physical health will significantly improve when you remove all these suckers from your life.

IndividualRoutine661 · 2021-11-04T20:01:21+00:00

My LVM ex was “friends” with all his exes on socials.

This article has really given me pause for thought, thanks for sharing

brylm92 · 2021-11-04T23:10:57+00:00

Yeahhhh. Last LVM I briefly gave a chance to had all his exes on Facebook. (Didn't tell me, but I superslouth.) Gave me a bad feeling, because I've always thought: why would you??? When I am done with a boyfriend I have always been DONE; friendship is either impossible or unwanted and there is no point in trying later to rekindle something that you know is doomed to fail. Plus, it's unhealthy, makes it harder to move on, and is kinda disrespectful to any potential new partner. My hunch was that loads of exes on Facebook = all women are interchangeable to him, he's either desperate or a player, he invests literally no emotion in relationships, and/or he's a deluded entitled narcissist.

I dumped this scrote for lying about porn when he'd spent the whole relationship telling me he was an honest gentleman and really respected my (very vocal) views (😂), and to be honest I'd been waiting for a reason as he was arrogant, stoned 24/7, thoughtless, selfish, negged constantly, and was SO SO BORING. Oh, and he kept asking if he could have my possessions(?!) and stole some of my shit at the end (what I was thinking).

After exactly one month of NC (incidentally this is the golden number LVM teach other LVM to get a girl back) he crawled out of the woodwork to say we should meetup and give it another chance as, according to him, we ONLY didn't work out because of the Covid situation. This failed so he pulled the "Oh no, I just mean that we should meetup to get closure and be friends, it's not the right time for us at the moment but you're amazing 🥰". Meanwhile I could see him (28) adding loads of random 22 year old girls from his area 🤡🤡🤡 Blocked, closure.

I'm now 100% certain my hunch was correct and will not question my gut when I see this behaviour again.

sassenachpants · 2021-11-06T07:20:22+00:00

I had an ex that said he wanted to be “best friends.” I told him we were never friends. Cue his surprised pikachu face.

It’s just a way for them to get gf services at acquaintances prices and I’m not here for it.

Platipus6 · 2021-11-04T23:16:23+00:00

Another bad sign is when he has no evidence of exes. They've all been deleted and scrubbed from facebook etc.

Just like I did when I had to go no contact and threaten a restraining order.

His next victim can't find me to get confirmation when he does the same shit to her :(

shaezamm · 2021-11-07T14:22:54+00:00

Thank you! I frickin LOVE these studies! If my ex ever contacts me I’m sending him this before blocking his sorry ass again

Title	Being Friends With Exes Could Mean Someone Is a Psychopath
Author	Love_Artemis
Upvotes	223
Comments	17
Date	November 4, 2021 5:07 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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